The male lead is about to go off to fight and there is a very real possibility that he'll be coming back in pieces. Knowing this, his female love interest decides it would be a good idea to hand him an object — some piece of jewelry, a trinket, a piece of clothing, a token of some sort — that she claims is of great personal importance to her. She makes him promise that he will give it back to her, thereby creating a small bit of assurance that he will return from the battle alive. He invariably will, if for no other reason than he promised he would return her "most prized possession." There are plenty of variations to this scenario. The guy could be facing off against the Big Bad, the Monster of the Week or just in The Tourney, perhaps even with her watching. The token could be something the lady made herself, a family heirloom, something worth a good deal of money, etc. Also, how important it really is is arguable. It may simply be an excuse to make her guy promise to come back. If the couple is still in Will They or Won't They? limbo, this is a sure sign that the scales are leaning more toward Official Couple. This is also a frequent possession of someone under The Dulcinea Effect. Tales taking place during Medieval times, particularly those involving Courtly Love contain a literal favour from the lady. It's generally an article of clothing made specifically for that purpose. Sub-Trope of It Was a Gift. Compare Memento MacGuffin, Her Boyfriend's Jacket and Favors for the Sexy.
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Anime and Manga
- In Rurouni Kenshin, Kaoru gives Kenshin her favorite hair ribbon before he sets off to find Jin'e. Then, when he goes to return it, she gets angry at him because he got blood on it. The fact that it's his blood doesn't seem to bother her in the slightest.
This story was still early enough in the series that Kenshin had a strong tendency toward mild snarking; it also codified the Kaoru-lambasting-Kenshin thing. Although the 'chase of rage' scenario seemed to be about 2/5ths Kaoru being nutty and 3/5ths their attempting to make it clear that everything was still normal between them after he went into a killing rage on her behalf, she nearly died because of her connection to him and she cared enough about him to break a powerful hypnosis...
- In Kanshaku-dama no Yuu'utsu, Kajika gives Yuga Kureha, just before he leaves to duel Fujisaki. She still thinks the duel is about Fujisaki's sister, not her.
- In Simoun, Amuria gives Neviril one of her hair clips when the two become a pair.
- Slayers Played with this in the third season's "Where Are They Now?" Epilogue. During Zelgadis' montage, it's shown that he keeps one of Amelia's bracelets around a canteen he owns. Earlier in the episode, Amelia asks him to return to her kingdom with her, and he probably refused, so there's a lot of speculation about what happened in between.
- Genderflipped in Blood+, where Okamura leaves his camera with Mao while he, David, Kai, and Lewis go out on a dangerous mission to stop the Big Bad's Evil Plan. She, in return, asks if she can sell it if he dies (then remarks that she probably couldn't, since it's a useless piece of junk).
- In Bastard, Dark Schneider borrows 500 yen from Yoko. Even though he gets himself killed, he comes back from the dead, because Lucien always returns borrowed money.
- In Fullmetal Alchemist, Winry gives Ed some earrings to look after. It's actually for a practical reason (she's going to a place where metal in her ears would be a health hazzard), but it's clearly intended to hint at this trope.
- Princess Charlotte gives Griffith a token with explicitly romantic symbolism. He articulates his acceptance with the kind of courtly romance that makes a gentle princess' heart flutter.
- Symbolically invoked by Casca, who cuts a strip of cloth from her shirt sleeve to bandage Guts' left arm exactly where a knight would traditionally display his lady's colors. Unfortunately he cuts that arm off during the Eclipse in a failed last ditch attempt to stop Casca being raped by a demon.
- Invoked twice by Sheryl Nome in Macross Frontier. The first time in episode 6 where she lends him one of her earrings for good luck (unfortunately, he loses it during the ensuing battle). The second time happens before the desperate Final Battle against the ultimate Big Bad, where she gives him her remaining earring, going so far as to puts it in his ear herself.
- In the Non-Serial Movie version, Alto notably doesn't lose the first earring, but this time Sheryl lets him keep it for good as reward for saving everyone and as a symbol of their emotional connection (the romance between Sheryl and Alto got played up a good lot in The False Diva).
- In Ranma Ĺ, there's a flashback where Happosai remembers Cologne giving him her bracelet to remember her by when he leaves to train. The way Cologne tells it, he stole it from her. The reader is more inclined to believe Cologne.
- The original Mobile Suit Gundam novel by Yoshiyuki Tomino has a very...messed up version of this. Kai tells Amuro that it's an old military tradition for a soldier to get a "talisman", a good-luck charm from the woman he loves, to ensure his survival. The talisman contains some of her pubic hair. When Amuro asks Sayla, she initially refuses, but relents just before he launches for the final battle. It doesn't work.
- The novel provides subtle hints that Kai's being an asshole and making the whole thing up so he can trick Amuro into saying "Hey Sayla, can I have some of your pubes as a good luck charm?" then laugh at the inevitable response.
- Windaria: Marie gives Alan a precious heirloom she inherited from her father before he leaves. It's a dagger, and meant for practical use but the sentiment is definitely there.
- Mobile Suit Gundam ZZ has a villainous example with Mashmyre Cello, who treats a rose given to him by Haman Karn this way. However, it's decidedly one-sided since she sees him as just another expendable underling whereas he's totally obsessed with Haman (to the point where he had the rose coated so it'd last forever). After he's Brainwashed and Cyber-Enhanced, the fact that he doesn't seem to care about the rose anymore is the first sure sign that he's not the same person anymore.
- The anime of Kantai Collection has an example seemingly similar to the Mobile Suit Gundam example above: in one episode, Atago gives Fubuki an omamori (protective charm) for luck. Her sister Takao whispers "It contains some of her...", only for a flustered Atago to quickly interrupt.
- Played with in The Seer when Doumeki requests a token before he duels on Watanuki's, his employer's, behalf (which is a tradition in his own country, and not considered a romantic gesture). Watanuki gives him his hair tie to his great embarrassment (since where he's from the gesture would be considered romantic). That the story is yaoi only reinforces the trope.
- Played straight and gender flipped in the same moment in the Elemental Chess Trilogy. It's revealed in the second story that Roy and Riza each wear their own two dog tags, but also one belonging to the other; they exchanged them after the war. The official explanation is a practical one - they are each other's next of kin - but the real reason is this trope.
Film - Animated
- In Princess Mononoke, Ashitaka's sister Kaya gives him her crystal dagger when he is banished, so he won't forget her. This is slightly different, as it was his sister and it was made explicit that he could never come home.
- Princess Fiona tries to do this in Shrek, but he uses it as a handkerchief to wipe the ash off his face and hands it back to her.
Film - Live Action
- 300: Leonidas is given a trinket before he goes off to battle. He dies before he can return. Dilios brings the trinket in question back to Gorgo at the end.
- Gender-switched in X-Men. Wolverine gives his dog tags to Rogue as he's leaving to learn about his past, promising that he'll come back for them. It's not intended to be romantic, since his feelings for her were more like a big brother.
- In Stargate, the old lady, Catherine, gives Daniel a trinket she found at the dig site, getting from him the promise that he'll bring it back to her. We all know this means he's not gonna die... but there's a slight twist at the end when he stays behind, but gives the trinket to O'Neil to return - and since O'Neil pretended that Daniel had died, it's sorta like this trope was averted, at least from the point of view of the characters on Earth.
- In Stargate SG-1, Daniel gets the trinket back when Catherine dies at the end of season 8.
- At one point in A Knight's Tale, William's beloved sends her maidservant to give him a handkerchief to wear in the games as a token along with a message that her name, that he so desperately wanted to know, is Jocelyn. He loses that particular round to the Big Bad, who picks up the favour and returns it to Jocelyn.
- In El Cid, Jimena gives her favour, a black scarf, to the Champion of Aragon to encourage him to kill Rodrigo Diaz, her love and the killer of her father. It is an understatement to say this girl is seriously conflicted.
- Anakin gives Padme a necklace he carved in The Phantom Menace as a kind of inversion.
- Arwen gives Aragorn her necklace in Lord of the Rings.
- In Grease, before the Thunder Road race, Cha-Cha gives Leo a trinket extracted from her cleavage.
- Gender flipped in the film adaptation of Sense and Sensibility; Edward, when he finds Elinor weeping as her sister plays their late father's favorite song, gives her a monogrammed handkerchief to wipe her eyes and tells her to keep it. It shows up later after she finds out he's engaged to someone else.
- Aliens: another gender-flipped example when Hicks gives Ripley a communicator. After both exchange looks equal parts sardonic and bashful, he quickly quips "It doesn't mean we're engaged," and she puts it on herself.
- The Goodbye Girl, gender-flipped, with the man leaving something behind. Elliot is leaving the apartment to go off to the West Coast and make a movie, and Paula is terrified that he'll never come back, like Tony left her for a movie and never came back at the start of the film. But when she sees that he left his cherished guitar in the apartment, she knows for sure that he'll come back to her.
- L. M. Montgomery's Rilla of Ingleside (a sequel to Anne of Green Gables) has some form of this. The title character's old childhood friend is about to go fight in World War I, so he asks her to marry him. She's in love with somebody else, so she can't. Then he asks her to give him one last kiss, at least. Sorry, she promised her lips to the other guy as well. Bummer...
- In one of the earlier books, a girl gives her new hair ribbon to a boy who's about to fight another boy for insulting her.
- In the fantasy novel The Spirit Stone by Katharine Kerr, Lord Gerran refuses to propose marriage to Lady Solla despite their being in love because if they're formally betrothed and he then dies in the war he's about to ride out to, by the customs of their homeland she'd for all intents and purposes be considered a widow, which means she'd be stuck living with her family (as Gerran has none) for the rest of her life. Accepting this, she asks him if he'd carry 'just a token' into war for her, and he accepts... and they both know without saying that this is their real marriage promise, and they're simply delaying the public announcement of it until the war is over.
- A Song of Ice and Fire
- In the Back Story, Ser Jorah Mormont once won a tournament while wearing a lady's favour. And then he went broke supporting his new wife's extravagant tastes and losing armour and horses in every tourney he entered afterwards, he later resorted to selling poachers to slavers which leads to his exile.
- Another example from the Back Story. Petyr "Littlefinger" Baelish begged Catelyn Tully for her favour (a scarf with the sigil of her house embroidered onto it) before setting off to duel for her hand in marriage, but she gave it to his opponent, Brandon Stark, instead because she regarded it as her duty to support the man she was promised to. Naturally Littlefinger lost...
- Tales of Dunk and Egg. In "The Sworn Sword", Lady Rohanne Webber is a Fiery Redhead who wears her hair in a single long plait which she plays with coquettishly while flirting with Dunk. At the end of the story after much Belligerent Sexual Tension, Dunk refuses her offer of a fine steed, but cuts off her braid so he'll have something to remember her.
- Miriamel gives Simon her shawl in Memory, Sorrow and Thorn. He is going on a mission and though he doesn't know it, she is planning to run away.
- In James Thurber's The 13 Clocks, Princess Saralinda throws Prince Zorn a rose as he is about to go on a quest for a thousand jewels.
- Elf princess Alhana Starbreeze gives Sturm Brightblade a jeweled token in Dragons of Winter Night. The book later reveals that the token is a Starjewel, pairs of which are traditionally exchanged by elven lovers upon parting, creating something of a psychic bond between them. Sturm, however, remains ignorant of its significance.
- Done with Leigh and Dennis in Stephen King's novel, Christine.
- Mything Persons: Skeeve asks Luanna for a scarf to remember her by. He uses the scarf to pass her scent on to a werewolf/tracker, so they can follow her later and apprehend her con-artist accomplices.
- In Robert E. Howard's Conan the Barbarian story "Black Colossus", all the knights carry them to war.
Each knight wore a lady's token, a glove, scarf or rose, bound to his helmet or fastened to his sword-belt.
- In Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's historical novel The White Company Sir Nigel wears his lady wife's leather glove on his hat as a favor. Lady Loring is several inches taller than her husband, much heftier and harsh featured but as far as her loving hubby is concerned she is the most delicate and delectable creature on Earth. Joke about the size of her glove at your peril.
- In the second book of the Chronicles of Prydain, Adaon, son of the chief bard Taliesin, wears a magic brooch that was given to him by his betrothed, Arianllyn, before he set out to accompany the companions on their quest. He bequeaths it to Taran when he dies about halfway through the book.
- In the third book, Princess Eilonwy finds a slightly battered horn on the beach, which had once belonged to her family (of which she is the last surviving member). As she is about to spend a lengthy period of time being fostered in a foreign court, she gives the horn to Taran as a symbol of their mutual promise not to forget each other.
- Older Than Print: This goes back to medieval Chivalric Romance stories, in which a lady would give a favored knight a token (such as a scarf) to tie around his lance as a pennon when he jousted.
- In Gene Stratton Potter's Freckles, a bit of blue ribbon from Angel.
He had gone to the tree ahead of the gang to remove the blue ribbon. Carefully folded, it now lay over his heart. He was promising himself much comfort with that ribbon, when he would leave for the city next month to begin his studies and dream the summer over again. It would help to make things tangible. When he was dressed as other men, and at his work, he knew where he meant to home that precious bit of blue. It should be his good-luck token, and he would wear it always to keep bright in memory the day on which the Angel had called him her knight.
- Don Quixote: Even when all itís only part of a Massive Multiplayer Scam, maid Altisidora gave Don Quixote three kerchiefs that later are stolen by bandits:
Roque on coming up asked Sancho if his men had returned and restored to him the treasures and jewels they had stripped off Dapple. Sancho said they had, but that three kerchiefs that were worth three cities were missing."What are you talking about, man?" said one of the bystanders; "I have got them, and they are not worth three reals.""That is true," said Don Quixote; "but my squire values them at the rate he says, as having been given me by the person who gave them."
- In The Stone Prince, Demnor carries a strip of cloth from the tunic of his gay lover — while on his way to an event where his future bride will be present. Suffice to say he is very stubborn.
- In Alethea Kontis's Enchanted, the prince asks for a ribbon that Sunday had let fall, as this trope.
- Invoked in The Unexpected Enlightenment of Rachel Griffin: Sigfried, who has extensively read Arthurian legends, asks Valerie to give him her handkerchief, but she doesn't have one. Later, Valerie formally gives him a Bowie knife instead.
- In the old 1950's novel The Queens Cross by William Schoonover (a fictionai biography of Queen Isabella of Spain), a Castilian queen who is having an affair with a nobleman takes the garter off her own leg and slips it onto her lover's arm before he enters the list, causing a minor uproar.
- "The Devils of Langenhagen," a short story by Australian sci-fi author Sean McMullen. In the last days of the Third Reich, an Me262 interceptor squadron is visited by some strange and elegant guests — a couple of high-ranking pilots, and their wives, with unusually clean clothes and flying advanced fighter aircraft. One of the women sleeps with the protagonist, a teenaged fighter pilot, and when he shamefacedly admits to never having had sex before, she leaves the "virgin killer" her hankerchief in an evocation of this trope. Years later having kept the hankerchief (he's a bit embarrassed about this, as he's now a priest) an analysis of the hankerchief reveals embedded future technology that proves the strangers were time travelers.
- Journey to Chaos: It's tradition for jousters of either gender to recieve something like this from their lovers/spouses etc. During A Mage's Power, the fact that Culmus is given one by Kasile is a Chekhov's Gun that enables a Rescue Arc later on. It ultimately ends up in Eric's possession, but he's solidly in a Like Brother and Sister relationship with the princess.
Live Action TV
- Game of Thrones:
- It initially appears to be a gender inversion of this trope when Ser Loras Tyrell gives Sansa Stark a red rose before his joust, but it turns out to be an empty gesture. Lord Renly Baratheon is his true sweetheart, but Loras obviously cannot offer his favour to another man in a homophobic society, so he simply hands the rose to the young lady who happens to be seated the closest to Renly in the stands.
- Gender-flipped when Samwell Tarly gives Gilly his mother's thimble, his sole keepsake from his former life before he joined the Night's Watch.
- Subverted in an episode of Hercules: The Legendary Journeys. A woman is seen giving a handkerchief to a man who must go slay some mythological beast. It turns out the beast is being controlled by the lady's lover and she is deliberately sending these men to their deaths. This is revealed by a shot of the cave littered with identical handkerchiefs, all given by the same woman to the slain men.
- In Power Rangers Mystic Force, this happens when Nick leaves to go introduce his biological parents to his adopted ones. It's Nick who gives his baby blanket to Madison, asking her to keep it safe until he returns. She's less worried that he won't be coming back in one piece than she is that his season-starting "go where the wind takes me" tendencies means he won't come back at all. Some portions of the fandom prefer to believe this never happened.
- Gender-flipped in an episode of Thirtysomething where a man going away on a business trip leaves his wristwatch with his wife, who wears it the whole time he's gone.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer: In one episode, Riley's about to be taken away by the Initiative, and he has Buffy's scarf (given more as a bandage than a favour). He romantically, or deliriously, tells her "It's like I have part of you with me." "It's just the scarf part of me. Really."
- Gender-flipped when Xander proposes to Anya to convince her that they are not going to die.
- In the Merlin episode "The Once And Future Queen", Gwen (Guinevere, for those who haven't seen the programme), gives Prince Arthur a handkerchief before he goes off to fight in a jousting tournament.
- Also appeared earlier in the first series episode "Excalibur", when one of the knights, Owain, is about to face the Black Knight in a fight to the death. Morgana gives him a token for luck. Owain ends up losing the fight.
- Arthur wore a sash around his arm in the melee in "The Shadow of the Sorcerer". A deleted scene revealed it was not from Gwen, as you'd assume, but Morgana.
- An episode of The Muppet Show had Floyd and Gonzo re-enact the jousting scene from Camelot, with different music and other changes. (Pearl Bailey was Guenivere.) Floyd got a scarf from Janice and Gonzo got a scarf from Camilla.
- In the Star Trek: Deep Space Nine episode "Rivals", a friendly racquetball rivalry between Chief O'Brien and Dr. Bashir results in a charity match between the two, with Bashir as the heavy favorite. As O'Brien prepares for the match, his wife Keiko, who had previously been mildly amused by her husband's obsessing over beating Bashir, stands behind him, assuming the attitude of a samurai's wife preparing her husband for battle. She then presents him with a silk scarf scented with her perfume, wraps the scarf around his head, kisses him and whispers, "Kick his butt."
- In The Tudors, Charles Brandon seeks the favor of the Duke of Buckingham's beautiful daughter before taking part in a joust.
- An ambiguous example in Downton Abbey when Mary gives Matthew her toy dog and 'good luck charm' as he leaves to fight in World War I...despite the fact he is engaged to Lavinia at the time. A later scene shows him laying out a photo of Lavinia in the trenches but pocketing the charm to take wherever he goes. Later, after he gets paralyzed, his mother finds the toy and offers to give it to charity, but he insists it would be bad luck to give it away. His fiancee is listening.
- Mentioned in the Pendragon Tabletop RPG.
- The Warhammer jousting mini-game had a table that could be rolled on to determine what favor a knight was granted, the more intimate the garment the luckier it was.
- It also noted that modest young ladies attending jousts would often come prepared with several spare veils to pass out as favors without having to risk their modesty (or catching a cold).
- One item Bretonnian knights can take with them is a token from a Damsel. The game notes that numerous knights carry one of these, which says more about the Damsel than the knights.
- In the GURPS Fantasy setting of Yrth, the kingdom of Caithness allows women to become knights. As a result, there is an evolving custom for female knights to carry a favor from the Significant Male in their lives.
- One Neverwinter Nights Japanese-themed module has this with your Love Interest, though the gifts are actually quite useful (Midori's is a sword that is more powerful than any other magic weapon found in the module).
- Morrigan's ring in Dragon Age: Origins, though she insists it is merely practical as it permits her to find the Warden if they are separated.
- Gender flipped with the rose Alistair gives to the female Warden he romances, and also Zevran's earring (which can be presented to a lover of either gender). Unlike Morrigan's gift, neither has a practical purpose of any sort; they're just tokens of affection.
- In Dragon Age II, if Fenris or Isabela is Hawke's love interest, s/he begins wearing a red band on his/her wrist which Word of God has explained is Hawke's favor.
- In the first Kingdom Hearts game, Kairi gives Sora her "lucky charm" before he goes off to fight Ansem, with the promise that he'll bring it back one day. Implying, of course, a promise to live through the final battle. Thanks to the way Keyblades work, it also gives him a pretty decent weapon. He does finally return it at the end of the second game.
- In the secret ending of Birth by Sleep, Kairi gives her lucky charm to Sora AGAIN when he decided to leave Destiny Island after reading Mickey's letter.
- Appears in, of all things, the Rambo game for the NES, in which Co, Rambo's female companion, gives him a pendant to which she ascribes great personal value.
- Played with in Final Fantasy XII. Balthier the sky pirate demands payment from Ashe, and takes her engagement ring - the one she received from her now-dead husband. He tells her he'll give it back to her when he finds something more valuable. At the end of the game, Balthier is believed dead in the wreck of the Bahamut, but Vaan and Penelo discover his airship gone and an envelope containing the ring and a letter which explains he's found something more valuable (an allusion to the sequel, Revenant Wings). The ring was important to an entirely different person, and was never meant to act as The Lady's Favour, but ends up doing so anyway.
- He also inverts the trope near the beginning of the game, giving Penelo his handkerchief as a promise to bring Vaan back. (This leads directly to Penelo getting kidnapped by bounty hunters who are after Balthier's head, so... way to go there, leading man.)
- Invoked in Castlevania: Dawn of Sorrow, where Arikado gives Soma a talisman from Mina. Not wearing it at a certain point in the game will result in a Bad End - it actually helps slow the dark flow of Dracula's power long enough for Arikado to intervene (considering Soma is Dracula's reincarnation and is trying to avoid becoming him).
- Cassima's ribbon in King's Quest VI: Heir Today, Gone Tomorrow. The game explicitly says as much if you try to give it back to her later.
- In a rare moment of displaying a sense of humor, Anomen from Baldur's Gate II asks Edwina for a lady's favour so he can 'champion her'. The subject responds in a predictable manner.
- After rescuing Princess Gwaelin (Lora in the GBC version) from the dragon in Dragon Quest I, she gives the Hero a token of her love, which tells you how far you are from Tantegel Castle and how much experience you need for the next level.
- The Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess: Subverted. Ilia personally made the Horse Call and had intended to give it to Link, before he set off to deliver the Ordon Sword and Shield to Hyrule Castle, to ensure his safe return. But King Bulbin and his army attacked the village and abducted her before she had the chance.
- Emerald City Confidential: Nimee Amee gives her locket to Nick Chopper. Due to their rocky past history and recent breakup, Nick refuses it and tells the messenger to give this message to Nimee: Stick it "where the sun don't shine."
- In The King of Fighters supplementary materials, Kyo Kusanagi carries a good-luck charm given to him by his girlfriend Yuki.
- In Tsukihime, a white ribbon is given to a young Shiki in a flashback by one of the girls. This is a throwaway line with Shiki rambling about his memories in three of the game's five routes - and critically important in the other two.
- The Cult of Personality series has a platonic example. After surviving the robot invasion in FYI I am a Robot, the RED Turbine Fem!Scout gave the Turbine BLU Medic a thorny rose as a sign of truce despite them being on opposite teams. After he's fired, he leaves the rose behind, making it a Tragic Keepsake to remember her long lost friend.
- That little crown that Sozin gave to Roku in Avatar: The Last Airbender, right before Roku had to leave to start his Avatar training. Roku wore it for the rest of his life, even though he and Sozin stopped being friends long before that.
- In the finale of Danny Phantom "Phantom Planet", Sam gives Danny a ring that was used in an earlier episode "Flirting With Disaster".
- In one episode of Fox's Peter Pan & the Pirates, Peter, Wendy, and the boys have been reading the Arthurian legends and are pretending to be Arthur, Guinivere, and the Knights of the Round Table. Wendy, studying the book, ties a strip of cloth around Peter's arm and explains that since she's his queen, the fabric is her favor, and he must wear it in her honor when going into battle.
- In the Animated Adaptation of Redwall, Cornflower gives Matthias her favorite headband - a yellow one with the flowers she's named after - to wear as an armband.