Her Boyfriend's Jacket

How's a TV show to demonstrate that Bob and Alice are a couple? How to do it quickly and without making a big deal about it? Simple, Alice wears Bob's jacket. If Bob's some kind of athlete, expect it to be his letterman jacket.

This is Truth in Television, and not limited to jackets. A little research indicates that the reason girls do this is fourfold. First, they're big and comfy. Second, it marks both of them as taken. Third, it's like a day-long hug. Finally, it smells like him.

This can be more than just an "I like this and I like you" gesture. It can be a symbol of commitment. Sometimes it's a class ring, or a necklace, or a favorite hat. The point is that one partner is wearing something that until then was always seen on the other, so that the world knows they're a couple.

It need not only be women wearing something of their men's collection. A man is less likely to wear his girlfriend's clothing, but a token is often passed in that direction, as in Chivalric Romance when a man receives The Lady's Favour, usually in the form of a scarf or other small piece.

See also to You Must Be Cold, which can be a one-time romantic gesture and serve as part of a Ship Tease. Her Boyfriend's Jacket is a long term appropriation of clothing to demonstrate a relationship. Also related to Sexy Shirt Switch, where she wears other articles of clothing after sex. Both are signs of intimacy. Sexy Shirt Switch is sexual intimacy, Her Boyfriends Jacket is emotional intimacy.


  • There's a style of clothing in fashion known as "boyfriend clothing". It's clothing that was designed for men and redesigned for women. It looks like typical men's fashion, but with a looser fit more comfortable for women. From the other wiki, "The origin of boyfriend fashion is literally borrowing and wearing a boyfriend's clothes—his distressed jeans, his band tees, his dress shirts, his blazers, his cardigan. The trend expanded in 2009 when actress Katie Holmes was spotted in public wearing Tom Cruise's slouchy jeans after a Broadway rehearsal; other celebrities such as Reese Witherspoon, Rachel Bilson, Sarah Jessica Parker, and others began to follow the trend. From there, many brands such as Gap, Forever 21 and H&M began to create boyfriend fashion products or men's-inspired fashion."
  • The 1980s "I was just thinking of you" Arrow shirt commercial combined this trope with Sex Sells by showing a young wife first sniffing then wearing one of her husband's Arrow shirts while he's away on a business trip.

  • In the final act of AKIRA, Kei is wearing Kaneda's red biker jacket.
  • In Last Exile, after Claus and Tatiana crash land in the desert, he offers her some spare coveralls as a change of clothes. When they get back to the Silvana, Claus' old friend Lavie sees Tatiana wearing his clothes and she begins to fear this is happening.
  • At the beginning of Episode 17 of Digimon Frontier, Koji offers his jacket to Zoe for her to wear when she's feeling cold, which leaves JP feeling rather jealous.
  • Yu-Gi-Oh!: During the Virtual World arc, Yugi lends Tea his jacket.
  • Irresponsible Captain Tylor. Empress Azalyn wears Tylor's UPSF coat with smiley face button while he's her captive and 'pet', in a sign that she's fallen for him.
  • While they aren't actually dating, the artist for the manga version of Durarara!! certainly likes to draw Namie Yagiri wearing her employer Izaya Orihara's jacket.

Comic Books
  • In the X-Wing Series, the first indication of a relationship starting between Corran and Mirax is her walking into the fighter bay wearing his flight jacket. She even pulls it closer around her when she notices one of the female pilots glaring at her. Said female pilot happened to be also interested in Corran.
  • A variation in Death Vigil: Issue 8 confirms that Sam and Bernie are in love after a Big Damn Kiss, and a reveal it's not their first. Immediately after Bernie goes out to confront the Thorn and buy time for the rest of the Vigil to put their plan to defeat it into motion, and alters her robes to display Sam's skull and crossbones logo while the Scythe takes on the appearance of his veilrippers.
    Sam: Copycat!

Fan Fiction
  • Why And Were, a Discworld fanfic, has a scene where Assassin Johanna dons Wizard Ponder Stibbons' wizarding robes. Partly because they're warm, comfortable, and smell slightly of Ponder (a big plus in the early stages of a relationship), but mainly because she'd otherwise have had to answer the door naked.
  • The magnificently funny Ranma ˝ fanfic Crossed Wires spoofs this trope when Ranma in girl mode has to borrow Ryouga's clothes, including his distinctive shirt, and everyone immediately assumes this trope is now in play. Hilarity Ensues.
  • Many Kim Possible fanfics depict Kim using one of Ron’s red hockey jerseys as sleepwear.
  • Two variations are used in the Facing The Future Series. The first was when Sam used one of Danny’s jumpsuits in her transformation into Sam Tasma. While she mostly did it because Danny was the same size as her, she did get a thrill out of wearing Danny’s clothes at the same time. The second was when Sam dressed like Danny for Halloween mostly to creep Tucker and Valerie out by making out with Danny while looking like him.
  • A rather infamous Hetalia doujinshii has Hungary completely naked in its cover, save for Prussia's blue and red military jacket.

  • Shelly in Sin City wears Dwight's shirt when Jackie Boy arrives at her apartment. He is not amused.
  • In Jarhead, the girlfriend of one of the marines keeps sending him sexy photos of her wearing his uniform jackets (and nothing else). One of the other marines eventually asks if she has any clothing of her own.
  • Cyberthriller The Net has Angela Bennett wrap herself with Jack Devlin's sport coat while aboard his boat. When she finds a gun with a silencer in one pocket, she begins to suspect that Jack intends to murder her.
  • Cherry in Planet Terror wears El Ray's leather jacket, much to his chagrin, since she left him and he was searching for it for months.

  • In The Dark Side of Nowhere, there's a gender reversal of this. Girls wearing their boyfriend's letter jacket to signify that they are together is a custom in their high-school, but when protagonist Jason gets together with his athletic tomboy love interest, he wears her letter jacket.
  • In his book Couplehood, Paul Reiser complains about this practice (Link!)...
    "And of course, later, it's freezing, and she's huddled in my jacket, and I, who knew to bring a jacket, am wearing no jacket. And the kicker is: It's not like my jacket looks so good on her anyway. It certainly looks worse than whatever jacket of her own she would have put on."
  • A major Ship Tease moment in A Song of Ice and Fire is when a distraught Sandor Clegane tears off his Kingsguard cloak and abandons it in Sansa Stark's room. She picks up the cloak and wraps herself in it (this has added Rule of Symbolism, as in a Westerosi wedding the husband wraps his wife in his cloak) and later hides the cloak in a chest. She could not say why she kept it.
  • Played for Laughs in War Junkie by Jon Steele. "Do you know how much this relationship has cost me in clothes alone?"

Live Action TV
  • Amy Pond from Doctor Who, disconsolate after the death of the Doctor in "The Wedding of River Song", is shown consoling herself by drinking wine on her patio, wearing the Letterman's jacket Rory was sporting in "Let's Kill Hitler".
    • An earlier and more lighthearted example was Romana deciding to "borrow" Four's scarf on occasion.
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
    • Angel gives Buffy his leather jacket in the fourth episode, "Teacher's Pet". She wears it for the rest of the first season, albeit with the sleeves rolled up. They're not a couple yet, but when, at the end of the episode, he says that "it looks better on [her]", she knows she's fallen for him.
    • Tara wears Willow's sweater in the fourth-season episode "New Moon Rising", which precipitates the episode's trouble.
    • In "Tabula Rasa" Xander lends Willow his jacket because it's cold, leading to comical misunderstandings when they have their memories wiped and assume this trope is in play.
  • Glee:
    • Discussed and subverted in the second season. Finn and Rachel think that Sam is dating Kurt after they see him wearing Kurt's jacket, specifically citing the common practice among girls of wearing their boyfriend's jackets. It turns out that Sam's dad lost his job, resulting in the Evans family becoming so poor that they're staying in a hotel room. The jacket in question was part of a handout package consisting of Kurt's old clothes given specifically with the intent of helping out Sam's family.
    • In the fourth season, a Betty and Veronica Love Triangle is established between Marley, Kitty, and Jake when Marley spends a few days wearing Jake's coat (from a You Must Be Cold moment) and Kitty demands it as this trope when she and Jake start dating (though he doesn't like labels).
  • An episode of My Family involves Janey being given her boyfriend's jacket and taking a liking to it so much she tries to avoid giving it back even after dumping him. Eventually he tricks her into giving it back, though she manages to coax it out of him by dating him again.
  • This becomes a plot device in an episode of Leave It to Beaver, in which Mary-Ellen Rogers wants to impress her friends and charms Wally into letting her wear his Letterman sweater.
  • In the episode "The Little Kicks" of Seinfeld, Anna returns to work at the J. Peterman Catalog at one point, wearing George's Yankees jacket, after Elaine warned her to stay away from him on the grounds that he's "a bad seed".
  • On General Hospital, varsity athlete Jason gives Karen his letter jacket as a means of making their relationship official. . . and she returns it when she breaks up with him.
  • On One Life to Live, Jason loans Marty his leather jacket. When his girlfriend Dorian sees Marty wearing the jacket, she flies into a jealous rage. This is not helped by Marty's taunting her (she's not interested in Jason, but she dislikes Dorian and thinks she's bad for him).

Video Games
  • Blue Mary in Fatal Fury. The boyfriend in question is deceased, though how was not elaborated on.

Web Original
  • In the fourth season of The Guild, after Codex and Fawkes sleep together and he accidentally leaves his jacket at her place, she assumes they're totally dating and wears said jacket on what she thinks is a date...and he sends someone else to pick it up.
  • This comic.

  • Gunnerkrigg Court: In Chapter 14, Kat can be seen wearing the T-shirt of her brief love interest, Alistair, who left her his personal belongings after he had to turn into a bird and leave.
  • In Questionable Content, Hannelore and Sven go on a fake date (because she never has), at the end of which she looks absolutely adorable wearing his hoodie against the cold.
  • In Girl Genius, Zeetha wears Higgs' striped shirt when we see them after they hooked up. Comic.

Western Animation
  • An episode of Pepper Ann had the title character start wearing Milo's ever-present hat so it would look like they were dating. To cope, Milo started wearing increasingly-ridiculous hats as the episode progressed.
  • During the brief time they were dating in As Told by Ginger, Ginger wore Darrin's jacket.
  • While two instances where Sam dressed up like Danny in Danny Phantom couldn’t be considered this, the time they both had a shared dream where they were dating with Sam wearing Danny’s football jacket (him being on the football team in the dream) could count as this. There’s also the instance in the Grand Finale where Danny gives Sam the class ring he got from Jack, making them officially boyfriend and girlfriend.
  • From Major Lazer, Ryland gives Penny his jacket at the end of "Vampire Weekend" as he lays dying.