Not Like Other Girls

Jack: I guess I love you.
Anne: Why, Jack! You hate women!
Jack: Yeah, I know. But you aren't women.

On the surface, it's nice to hear someone say you're special. It's flattering to the ego to hear that you're better than the competition. That might be why this line is almost only found in young adult and teen stories. Writers may not expect teens to take subtext or larger social implications into consideration.

However it's meant, this line can be interpreted as a backhanded compliment. By saying that your intelligence, sense of humor, or independence make you "different from other guys/girls," it's implied that the rest of your gender sucks (compare You Are a Credit to Your Race).

A more tactful person may ease the blow to feminism by saying she's different from other girls he knows or the kind of girls he usually dates. The inverse of this works as well.

This line is also commonly used with girls with superpowers or some other kind of secret for the irony factor.

Often said by the Ladykiller in Love. Compare and contrast I Can't Believe a Guy Like You Would Notice Me. Related but distinct tropes include Real Women Never Wear Dresses and Slut-Shaming. A Female Misogynist may describe herself this way.

Examples:

Fanfic
  • Mary Sues commonly say this, usually to establish their superiority over whatever the author considers 'other girls'. Sub-examples include:
    • The gothic Sue who is superior to those other simpering, pink-loving fashionistas.
    • The bookworm Sue who is superior to those ditzy bimbos.
    • The humble, true Relationship Sue who, of all women in the world, is the only one who could be possibly worthy of the chosen Love Interest.
    • The Sue who does not wear any makeup, has never had plastic surgery, or care about how she looks is superior to those ditzy bimbos who wear makeup and care about how they look.
    • The Christian Sue who is superior to non-Christians. (Or, conversely, the Hollywood Atheist Sue who is superior to all those who "still believe in magical sky-fairies.")
    • The virgin Sue who is superior to all those "whores" out there.
    • The introvert Sue who spends her Friday nights knitting sweaters at home who is superior to those extroverted girls who spend their Friday nights going out and/or partying.
    • The mama-Sue who gave birth vaginally (and with no drugs or episiotomy) who is superior to other moms who gave birth via C-section and/or used drugs of any kind or had an episiotomy during the delivery, or whose children are not biologically hers.
    • The Granola Girl Sue who uses only herbs and crystals to heal her (and/or her family's) aches and pains who is superior to those "weak" enough to rely on modern medicine even though it's available.
    • The Tomboy, One of the Boys Sue who is superior to girls who like "girly" things and/or have more female friends than male.

Film
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer: At the high school dance, James Dean Luke Perry's character delivers this line to Buffy, she denies it while clutching a wooden stake as they slow dance.
  • Ella Enchanted
    Prince Charmont: Ella of Frell, you're not like other girls.
    Ella: You have no idea.
  • In Operation Petticoat, the chief, who doesn't like the idea of women on boats, finally gets to see the good side of the Chief Nurse and says, "You're not like other women. You're an engineer."
  • Naveen's bungled attempt to propose to Tiana in The Princess and the Frog has him attempting to show her how much she means to him by saying that, rather than being like the "thousands" of women that he's gone out with, Tiana's different because she's "one of the guys".
  • King Kong (1933) doesn't even try to hide the misogyny in the above-quoted exchange. To be fair, it was the 30s.

Literature
  • Peaceable in The Sherwood Ring proposes to Barbara (after she's tricked him into drinking sleeping drops) specifically because she's the only woman he's met who didn't act stupid in front of him. In Peaceable's defense, acting ditsy was the fashion among young women at the time. "I refuse to marry until I meet a woman as intelligent as I am—and not before." Point proven, Barbara.
  • Subverted—in fact, run through with a sword, repeatedly and with prejudice—in all books of the Tortall Universe by Tamora Pierce. The books are Feminist Fantasy, but it's pointed out multiple times over the series that there are many kinds of girls in the world and that being one is nothing to be ashamed of, whether you're The Chick or an Action Girl.
  • Shay says this to Calla in the YA novel Wolfsbane. Though he's a bit more specific than the norm in that he only says she's not like other girls he's dated.

Live-Action TV
  • October Road episode "How to Kiss Hello":
    Eddie Latekka: You know what? You're not like the other girls I usually date. You're smart and funny and beautiful inside and out.
  • In the Star Trek: The Original Series pilot, "The Cage", Captain Pike says this about Number One.
    Number One: She's replacing your former yeoman, sir.
    Pike: She does a good job, all right. It's just that I can't get used to having a woman on the bridge. No offense, Lieutenant. You're different, of course.
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer - in the very early "Witch" episode, Buffy, all loopy under a spell, is acting affectionate toward Xander, to Willow's dismay. When she says "You're not like other boys at all." Xander smiles modestly; when she adds "You are like, completely, totally one of the girls! I'm that comfy with him!" his expression drops, and Willow smiles (he had said the same thing to her earlier).

Manga and Anime

Music
  • In the music video for "Thriller", Michael Jackson asks a girl to go steady with him. He then tells her the gender flip of this trope "I'm not like other boys." She responds "I know! That's why I love you!" And then Michael was a werecat.

Web Original

Western Animation
  • Louise Belcher on Bob's Burgers cops this attitude, but often times it's hinted to be immaturity rather than superiority. She's only nine, and when she develops her first crush on a boy she seems legitimately terrified by her own feelings; she ends up being in awe of Tina's ability to crush on guys and not lose her shit.
    • Her brother Gene is a gender-inverted version of this. He's seen hanging with guys and doesn't hate other boys his age, but he's made a lot of comments about preferring the friendship of women and even considering himself "one of the girls".

Real Life
  • Some girls say that they are Not Like Other Girls. They may also cite the reason as being that they're not catty, shallow, etc, like all those other girls. May be said to impress a guy. See Female Misogynist.


Alternative Title(s): Not Like Other Guys