Not Like Other Girls

Tywin: Aren't most girls interested in the pretty maidens from the songs? Jonquil, flowers in her hair?
Arya: Most girls are idiots.

On the surface, it's nice to hear someone say you're special. It's flattering to the ego to hear that you're better than the competition. That might be why this line is almost only found in young adult and teen stories. Writers may not expect teens to take subtext or larger social implications into consideration.

However it's meant, this line can be interpreted as a backhanded compliment. By saying that your intelligence, sense of humor, or independence make you "different from other guys/girls," it's implied that the rest of your gender sucks (compare You Are a Credit to Your Race).

A more tactful person may ease the blow to feminism by saying she's different from other girls he knows or the kind of girls he usually dates. The inverse of this works as well.

This line is also commonly used with girls with superpowers or some other kind of secret for the irony factor.

Often said by the Ladykiller in Love. Compare and contrast I Can't Believe a Guy Like You Would Notice Me. Related but distinct tropes include Real Women Don't Wear Dresses, Madonna–Whore Complex, Makeup Is Evil, Beauty Is Bad, and Slut-Shaming. A Female Misogynist may describe herself this way. This trope is one of the most Common Mary Sue Traits, although a character described this way (or who describes herself this way) is not necessarily a Mary Sue.


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  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer: At the high school dance, James Dean Luke Perry's character delivers this line to Buffy, she denies it while clutching a wooden stake as they slow dance.
  • Ella Enchanted
    Prince Charmont: Ella of Frell, you're not like other girls.
    Ella: You have no idea.
  • In Operation Petticoat, the chief, who doesn't like the idea of women on boats, finally gets to see the good side of the Chief Nurse and says, "You're not like other women. You're an engineer."
  • Naveen's bungled attempt to propose to Tiana in The Princess and the Frog has him attempting to show her how much she means to him by saying that, rather than being like the "thousands" of women that he's gone out with, Tiana's different because she's "one of the guys".
  • King Kong (1933) doesn't even try to hide the misogyny in the above-quoted exchange. To be fair, it was the 30s.


  • Peaceable in The Sherwood Ring proposes to Barbara (after she's tricked him into drinking sleeping drops) specifically because she's the only woman he's met who didn't act stupid in front of him. In Peaceable's defense, acting ditsy was the fashion among young women at the time. "I refuse to marry until I meet a woman as intelligent as I am—and not before." Point proven, Barbara.
  • Subverted—in fact, run through with a sword, repeatedly and with prejudice—in all books of the Tortall Universe by Tamora Pierce. The books are Feminist Fantasy, but it's pointed out multiple times over the series that there are many kinds of girls in the world and that being one is nothing to be ashamed of, whether you're The Chick or an Action Girl.
  • Shay says this to Calla in the YA novel Wolfsbane. Though he's a bit more specific than the norm in that he only says she's not like other girls he's dated.
  • In A Grief Observed, C. S. Lewis's memoir of the aftermath of his wife's death, he mentions having told her once that his relationship with her felt more like his friendships with other men than any other relationship he'd ever had with a woman. She had to point out to him that it's a bit insulting if the highest compliment you can pay to a woman is that she's almost like a man and asked what he'd think if she started praising him for his "feminine virtues." He was convinced.

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  • Game of Thrones:
    Tywin: Aren't most girls interested in the pretty maidens from the songs? Jonquil, flowers in her hair?
    Arya: Most girls are idiots.
  • October Road episode "How to Kiss Hello":
    Eddie Latekka: You know what? You're not like the other girls I usually date. You're smart and funny and beautiful inside and out.
  • In the Star Trek: The Original Series pilot, "The Cage", Captain Pike says this about Number One.
    Number One: She's replacing your former yeoman, sir.
    Pike: She does a good job, all right. It's just that I can't get used to having a woman on the bridge. No offense, Lieutenant. You're different, of course.
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer - in the very early "Witch" episode, Buffy, all loopy under a spell, is acting affectionate toward Xander, to Willow's dismay. When she says "You're not like other boys at all." Xander smiles modestly; when she adds "You are like, completely, totally one of the girls! I'm that comfy with him!" his expression drops, and Willow smiles (he had said the same thing to her earlier).
  • The gender-flipped version made an appearance on 3rd Rock from the Sun, with the secret identity twist:
    August: Listen, I ran out because I was disappointed in you. I thought you were different than other guys.
    Tommy: Oh, I am different. You have no idea how different I am.
    • Also, with Harry:
    Vicki: You know, I like you, Harry. You're — you're not like the other guys.
    Harry: Ah! No, ma'am!

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  • In Baldur's Gate II: Throne of Bhaal, if Anomen and a female CHARNAME have continued their relationship, he will tell her that she's nothing like any other woman he's known (mostly referring to those who shared his former social position). CHARNAME can hang a lampshade: "I think there's a compliment in there somewhere." Not only is this the less problematic version of this trope, however, it's part of a conversation where he admits that his usual approach to romance is useless to express how much he loves her.

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  • Louise Belcher on Bob's Burgers cops this attitude, but often times it's hinted to be immaturity rather than superiority. She's only nine, and when she develops her first crush on a boy she seems legitimately terrified by her own feelings; she ends up being in awe of Tina's ability to crush on guys and not lose her shit.
    • Her brother Gene is a gender-inverted version of this. He's seen hanging with guys and doesn't hate other boys his age, but he's made a lot of comments about preferring the friendship of women and even considering himself "one of the girls".

Alternative Title(s): Not Like Other Guys