: I guess I love you. Anne
: Why, Jack! You hate
Yeah, I know. But you aren't women.
On the surface, it's nice to hear someone say you're special. It's flattering to the ego to hear that you're better than the competition. That might be why this line is almost only found in young adult and teen stories. Writers may not expect teens to take subtext or larger social implications into consideration.
However it's meant, this line can be interpreted as a backhanded compliment. By saying that a your intelligence, sense of humor, or independence make you "different from other guys/girls," it's implied that the rest of your gender sucks (compare You Are a Credit to Your Race
A more tactful person may ease the blow to feminism by saying she's different from other girls he knows
or the kind of girls he usually dates
. The inverse of this works as well.
Often said by the Ladykiller in Love
. Compare and contrast I Can't Believe a Guy Like You Would Notice Me
- Peaceable in The Sherwood Ring proposes to Barbara (after she's tricked him into drinking sleeping drops) specifically because she's the only woman he's met who didn't act stupid in front of him. In Peaceable's defense, acting ditsy was the fashion among young women at the time. "I refuse to marry until I meet a woman as intelligent as I am—and not before." Point proven, Barbara.
- Subverted—in fact, run through with a sword, repeatedly and with prejudice—in all books of the Tortall Universe by Tamora Pierce. The books are Feminist Fantasy, but it's pointed out multiple times over the series that there are many kinds of girls in the world and that being one is nothing to be ashamed of, whether you're The Chick or an Action Girl.
Manga and Anime
- October Road episode "How to Kiss Hello":
Eddie Latekka: You know what? You're not like the other girls I usually date. You're smart and funny and beautiful inside and out.
- In the Star Trek: The Original Series pilot, "The Cage", Captain Pike says this about Number One.
Number One: She's replacing your former yeoman, sir.
Pike: She does a good job, all right. It's just that I can't get used to having a woman on the bridge. No offense, Lieutenant. You're different, of course.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer - in the very early "Witch" episode, Buffy, all loopy under a spell, is acting affectionate toward Xander, to Willow's dismay. When she says "You're not like other boys at all." Xander smiles modestly; when she adds "You are like, completely, totally one of the girls! I'm that comfy with him!" his expression drops, and Willow smiles (he had said the same thing to her earlier).
- In the music video for "Thriller", Michael Jackson asks a girl to go steady with him. He then tells her the gender flip of this trope "I'm not like other boys." She responds "I know! That's why I love you!" Then he turns into a werecat.
- Some girls say that they are Not Like Other Girls. They may also cite the reason as being that they're not catty, shallow, etc, like all those other girls. May be said to impress a guy. See Female Misogynist.