Nerds Are Virgins
Hardison: Looks like an ordinary cell phone, right? It's not, man. It's a metal detector. See, it uses pulse-induction technology that sends out a current that generates a magnetic field, and then ... are you even listening?
Hardison: Well, what'd I say?
Eliot: You were explaining how you're still a virgin?If you are a nerd, then as far as fictional media are concerned, you have never gotten laid, very likely haven't gotten to first base, may have never ever stepped up to bat — and quite possibly have never so much as wandered within a mile of the ballpark. Now, this does have some real life basis, in that some nerds and geeks do lack some social skills, and take up unusual interests as a way to fill the gap in their lives (or, more unfortunately, fail to develop social skills because of said interests). Some might just be asexual. This trope can apply to female nerds as easily as male nerds, but thanks to the Double Standard, the males are far more likely to find unwholesome outlets for their unexpressed sexuality, virginity notwithstanding. Also, because males are expected to make the first move, female nerds are not at a disadvantage due to shyness or social ineptness. In fact, male nerds have just as much chance of being the Casanova Wannabe as any other type of male character. Some males (and a rare female or two) may try to deny their virginity, out of fear of losing face, but thanks to their nerdy exteriors, they are unlikely to be believed by other characters, if they even have the social graces to spin a convincing lie in the first place. Another possible reason that female nerds are less likely to be virgins is because All Men Are Perverts and A Man Is Always Eager in Fiction Land, and couldn't care less about what a woman's hobbies are as long as she's letting him have sex with her. note Women on the other hand are often depicted as far more discriminating and will reject a partner whose hobbies aren't "cool" enough. Hence the use of terms like "girl repellent" (or the less G-Rated version "pussy repellent") to describe nerdy things. There is also a general perception that a nerd's level of nerdiness is inversely proportionate to their chances of losing their virginity, which is a big reason that Even Nerds Have Standards. It also means that some nerds will deny at least some aspects of their nerdiness. The reverse belief also exists. Instead of believing that nerdy hobbies prevent you from having sex, some people believe that the only reason people take up nerdy hobbies in the first place is because they can't get sex and seek a form of escapism from that fact, carrying Unfortunate Implications that only people who have never had sex could possibly care about something other than sex. note In non-mainstream works, this trope shows up less frequently, although some cases are deliberate aversions and some are just Author Appeal. If the nerds are the main characters, there is a high chance they won't be virgins by the end of the movie/book/first season of the show, because virginity is a tragic flaw and heroes always overcome their flaws. Make that a very, very high chance if said heroes are male. Note this doesn't prevent a Nerdgasm. Compare You Need to Get Laid. Contrast Nerds Are Sexy, Geeky Turn-On.
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- Averted in the manga Black Lagoon, Benny the ship's tech is the only one shown to have a sex life and he got the girl he got because of his hacking skills. The other characters probably aren't virgins, though.
- In Steins;Gate, Okabe and Kurisu spend a great deal of time mocking each other for being scrawny, nerdy virgins - naturally ignoring their own scrawny, nerdy virgin-hood.
- No Matter How I Look at It, It's You Guys' Fault I'm Not Popular: Several stories revolve around Tomoko's inability to talk to boys and her sexual frustration.
- An issue of the Marvel Comics' Captain Mar-Vell used this trope when an evil sorcerer needed to sacrifice virgins to summon a demon and tried to use a comic book store's customers for that purpose.
- Revenge of the Nerds plays with this in varying degrees. Clearly some of the nerds are out of their depth sexually, but Gilbert seems fine at attracting nerdy girls, Lewis comes off as a sexual maestro, and Booger clearly has enough experience to take seriously an illegitimate child scare in the fourth movie.
- The 40-Year-Old Virgin: The virgin protagonist collects fantasy (comic book style) toys, and has a good understanding of technology; this doesn't necessarily imply 'geek' therefore 'virgin' but it is consistent with that view. But the film is also a deconstruction of Sex as Rite-of-Passage, so it's probably a subversion. Also, the protagonist is conventionally attractive and has good social skills, further subverting the mainsteam nerd stereotype.
- In The Breakfast Club, Brian Johnson, the "brain" is a virgin... but so are Claire (the princess) and Alison (the basket case). However, Alison and Claire both get together with Bender and Andy at the end, while Brian is left alone and single.
- Implied in Dead Poets Society:
Meeks: I'll try anything once!Charlie: Except sex!
- Inverted in American Pie: the biggest nerds (band geeks) are also the sluttiest.
- Averted in Mean Girls. There, the school has the sexually active band geeks.
- Played with / implied in Back to the Future:
[In the past, Marty observes his dad's incompetence]Marty: Jesus, George, it was a wonder I was even born.
[Marty and Doc observe George's incompetence in 1955]Dr. Emmett Brown: Which one's your pop?Marty: [points him out] That's him.[They see him getting kicked around by other school bullies]Dr. Emmett Brown: Maybe you were adopted.
- There's also this:
- Referenced in Transformers when Glenn is being held for interrogation by the FBI.
I have done NOTHING bad my entire life! Hey man, I'm still a virgin.
- In The Core, the resident Hollywood Hacker delivers the following line when confronted by the Government Conspiracy:
Rat: Wait a second...you guys aren't here to whack me are you? Cause I was kinda hoping to have sex before that happens...
- Played absolutely straight in The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao.
- The Big Bang Theory averts this. Aside from Sheldon justifying it with his Asexuality, no one else in the group is a virgin, even if Raj has trouble with women (as a result of a personality issue completely unrelated to being a nerd, and it didn't stop him from sleeping with at least two girls in the series). Played straighter with Amy.
- Similarly, 30 Rock's Liz Lemon is not a virgin, but merely has a terrible sex life, partly due to her bad social skills and partly due to the fact that, aside from Floyd, all the men (and one woman) she has dated turned out to be either insane or wildly unsuitable in some way.
- Supernatural: Sam has been body-swapped with a teenage boy and is looking through the kid's stuff.
Sam: (checking out his new face) "Who are you?" (finds Advanced Physics and Chemistry textbooks) "Smart kid." (finds Darth Vader T-shirt) "Virgin."
- Averted with Charlie, a semi-reccuring character who LAR Ps and loves Harry Potter, and is implied in her introduction to get some rather regularly. Also both brothers are both a little bit nerdy, Dean constantly dropping references and Sam being a former law student, and seem to have no trouble getting laid.
- In one episode, Sam and Bobby both act more than a little condescending towards Dean when he says that he has never heard of HP Lovecraft or any of his works. Dean replies in an even more condescending tone, "Sorry, I guess I was too busy having sex with women."
- On The O.C., Hollywood Nerd Seth is stated to be a virgin at the beginning of the series, but it doesn't stay that way.
- Of course, so are Summer and Marissa.
- Averted in Bones, where the show's extensive and exotic galery of nerds and geeks all do have sex, most of the times satisfacory and often perverse (and do they brag about it!).
- Played with in the case of Zach Addy, whom everyone initially assumes is a virgin. He tells them quite frankly that he has, and does, in fact, have sex. At one point, he asks the psychologist Sweets why everyone thinks/assumes he is a virgin.
- Also averted in Covert Affairs. Auggie is a genius with an affinity for anything technological. He's also quite the ladies man.
- Toby Isaacs, one of the few people in Degrassi Community School history to graduate as a virgin. This trope was averted with Liberty, however.
- Seinfeld inverts the trope and implies Virgins are Nerds. When men don't have sex, or stop having sex for a significant amount of time, the 99% of their brains that are always thinking about sex will start to function normally and boost their intelligence and thirst for knowledge significantly (George, for example, becomes an Omnidisciplinary Scientist and learns Portugese in a matter of days). Women however, can get sex so easily they take it for granted to the point where they require it to function normally, and during a dry spell start to act like someone who hasn't had their morning coffee.
- Averted in CSI, when the Hollywood Homely assistant coroner displays some particularly nerdy knowledge and Nick quips "you need a girlfriend, man." The coroner replies "I'm engaged".
- Subverted in Clueless: the main characters are doing a school assignment with a nerdy girl who keeps running off to throw up. At first they assume she had an eating disorder; instead, it turns out that she's likely pregnant, which a test confirms. (Note that all three of the popular protagonists are virgins up until about the last episode.) The father, though unseen, is implied to be as much of a dork as the girl is.
- Late Night With Conan O'Brien made this joke a lot. It went so far that, one year, at Comic Con Triumph The Insult Comic Dog went around interviewing the attendees and seeing how much they really knew about sex, including Triumph holding a picture of a vagina and asking the men in attendance to identify it. No one did.
- Invoked on Friends when Joey doesn't know why Chandler and Ross' college friend is nicknamed Gandalf.
Chandler: Didn't you read Lord of the Rings in high school?
Joey: No, I had sex in high school.
- Quantum Leap: When Sam's teenage leap-host was being mocked by some high school scifi geeks, one of them remarks that if he'd been as lame as host/Sam, he'd still be a virgin too. Al, looking invisibly over their shoulders, consults Ziggy and then remarks that the mocker still is a virgin at present, and will remain one for quite a few more years. (Talk about an Omniscient Database...)
- Used in Veep regarding Jonah's stats team:
Statistician 1: You're like Neo.Dan: Wow.Selina: What's a Neo?Statistician 1: He's from The Matrix. Everything he does is awesome.Statistician 2: The first movie. The sequels sucked.Jonah: Guys, we agreed to let The Matrix debate lie.Dan: Jesus, I can feel my virginity growing back in here.
- In Weird Al's song, "All About the Pentiums," one line goes "They call me the king of the spreadsheets. Got 'em all printed out on my bedsheets." Doesn't leave too much room, apparently, for doing anything else under the bedsheets.
- And again in "White and Nerdy": "Spend my nights with a roll of bubble wrap. Pop, pop, hope no one sees me gettin' freaky."
- The Stephen Lynch song "D&D" ends with the line "Virgins 'till the day we die!"
- Scribblenauts: "Virgin" gives the same result as "Gamer".
- Changed in the sequel to give you a bride. Which is the original meaning.
- Subverted in The Last Story. Adventurer Archaeologist, Weekend Inventor, and all-around bookish and meek shopkeeper, Horace, is married... and when hero Zael discovers this, he seems rather shocked. Horace tells him he doesn't have to act so surpised that a fellow like him actually managed to find a wife.
- A rather subtle and possibly accidental instance of this trope occurs in Mass Effect if you decide to romance Liara, a shy, socially awkward scientist. At one point she states she has never done the "mind meld" asari equivalent of sex before, to which Shepard can ask incredulously, "Wait, you're a virgin?"
- In the Halloween page (#150) of Blaster Nation, that's how vampire!Ash deduces Matt is a valid source of virgin blood.
- Averted with Rayne from Least I Could Do. He is a huge nerd who also routinely sleeps with women. This strip is a very deliberate aversion.
- Gary from Ménage à 3, for quite a long time. Then the plot moved on. His nerdiness still gets in the way of his sex life, but not hopelessly.
- The heroine of The Non-Adventures of Wonderella will of course state this.
- Marigold in Questionable Content is a World of Warcraft-playing Yaoi Fangirl with zero boyfriends to her name, who admits that she has "never seen a dick". She later manages to find a sort-of boyfriend or two ... at least one of whom, Dale, is himself a rather nerdy WoW-playing virgin. The trope is averted as of this strip, where Marigold and Dale hook up.
- In the Whimsy arc of Skin Horse, the group needs a "total, inexperienced, never-been-kissed virgin" to play the role of a princess, and they turn to Nick. In fairness to Nick, he is a cyborg with the body of a helicopter. Actually, even Nick can make jokes about nerd virginity: "Is this the reality filter kicking in, or are you that desperate?"
- Ruby in Sticky Dilly Buns is something of a nerd and clearly a virgin. Admittedly, she has significant issues in addition to her relatively subtle nerdiness.
- Openly subverted in The Word Weary. The main characters play Dungeons and Dragons and are open nerds, but have active sex lives.
- Girls with Slingshots has Joshua, who although has good social skills and has confessed having experienced sex (with man despite being straight, and hookers), he admits never being in a relationship before.
- Chester A. Bum noted this in his review of the new Star Trek.
- Averted with most of the TGWTG crew though. Doug Walker is married, his brother is married, and Linkara, Spoony, & Lindsay have all been in long term relationships.
- Ask That Guy with the Glasses had this answer to the Star Wars special editions and the famous The Dog Shot First scene.
Q: Who shot first? Han or Greedo?A: Sleep with somebody.
- There are several copypasta stories (which probably aren't true, but you never know for sure) that involve the poster bringing a girl who is very much into him back to his place only for her to see his nerdy interests and walk out.
- In one of these stories, the girl worked at the comic shop the poster frequented, where she sold him most of the nerdy stuff. Somehow things didn't click for her until she got back to his place.
- In another, the girl was perfectly fine with the guy having a model of a race car on his shelf, thinking he was into NASCAR or whatever, but as soon as he mentioned it was actually a Transformer, "Ha ha, what a loser! I'm outta here!"
- Yahtzee alludes to this in his review of Catherine:
(Increasingly amused) "... there's a moral choice aspect where you answer questions based on your own substantial experience with relationships *stifled laughter* "
- And the accompanying visual is of a fat glasses-wearing guy sitting next to a blow-up doll.
- The Involuntary Abstinence meme.
- In a podcast, writer David S. Goyer asked, "How many people in the audience have heard of Martian Manhunter?" After some reaction from the audience, he asked, "How many people that raised their hands have ever been laid?" (That one of the architects of the DC Cinematic Universe expressed this view of the franchise's core audience did not go over well.)
- The Cleveland Show: Cleveland takes Jnr to a sci-fi convention, to show him what happens to guys that fail to lose their virginity. They ended up coming home with heaps of stuff from it.
- Another example from this show involves a cutaway gag about finding a rapist at a Star Trek convention. The police ask the crowd to raise their hands if they are not a virgin. The only person who does so is told he is under arrest.
- The Star Trek episode of Futurama mentions that in Earth's past, Trekkies, after the show became a worldwide religion, were executed by being thrown into a volcano because it was "the manner best befitting virgins." Considering how many of the show's staff are themselves Trekkies, nerds or holders of advanced degrees there was a definite Take That, Us vibe to the scene.
- There is a Cutaway Gag on Family Guy where a terrorist goes to heaven to get his "72 virgins", only to find a group of (male) nerds playing Magic: The Gathering.
- The Comic Book Guy in The Simpsons lost his virginity to Agnes Skinner when he was in his forties. Principal Skinner, who is pretty square himself, apparently lost his to Mrs. Krabappel when he was in his early 40s.
- One bit on Robot Chicken has the Devil wondering what happened when everything in the underworld suddenly turns frigid as he's torturing victims. Cut to a bedroom with a hot blonde lying in bed and a nerd dancing around the room singing "I got laid! I got laid!"
- Charles Darwin in The Pirates! In an Adventure with Scientists laments that he may never get a girlfriend.
- Like its Seth MacFarlane companions, American Dad! has this in effect with Steve, Barry, Snots, and Toshi. Many episodes have a subplot involving either Steve or Steve and his friends trying to overcome their nerdiness and get some.