"Bros before hoes. I cannot stress this enough. Always remember, girlfriends come and go, but your boys are always there. Breaking this rule is to commit the cardinal sin against Team Testosterone."
Your friend's pissed, lost and scared and just asked you for a lift but your girlfriend's telling you to blow him off. What do you do? Ditch her of course.
This trope refers to the concept of putting friends before a romantic interest, with the idea that love is fleeting
, but True Companions
A sub-trope of The Bro Code
"Chicks before dicks" is picking up steam as the feminine version
. "Sisters before misters" or "Bows before bros" works too. "Pals before gals" is the G rated version.
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, Friend Versus Lover
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- In "Jimmy Olsen's Wedding", Jimmy dreams about being married to Lucy Lane, only for her to keep harassing him about his bond with Superman at every turn. When Jimmy awakens, he essentially tells her that if it comes down to a choice between her and his pal, she can expect to lose.
- A French comic adaptation of The Epic of Gilgamesh has Enkidu have a worrying dream, and goes to Gilgamesh's room to talk about it. On seeing him busy with two women, he hesitates, but Gilgamesh immediately kicks the girls out, even asking them what the hell they're still doing them when his blood-brother wants to speak with him.
- A Boy and his Dog: When Blood is dying from thirst and starvation, Quilla tries to convince Vic to abandon him. Instead Vic kills and cooks Quilla for Blood's lunch; it doesn't get any more bros before hoes than that.
- In Transformers: Sam's friend protests ("Bros before hoes!") to no avail as he is ejected from the car to make room for Mikeala.
- In Open Season it is phrased as the PG-friendly "bros before does."
- Con Air: While Cyrus's gang refuel the plane, one of them is sent to hide the transponder on another plane. In the hangar he meets a female mechanic and is so busy talking to her that he misses the take and is shot while trying to catch up, explicitly dying because he chose to stay with the woman instead of returning to the bros.
- Saw 3D has two men in a trap with a woman who's been bedding them both and having them steal to get her what she wanted. One of the three will be killed by the trap, while the other two will survive. The woman ends up being the unfortunate one. Bros Before Hoes, graphically portrayed.
- A rather extreme version from Clint Eastwood's Bronco Billy:
Antoinette Lilly: Have you ever been married?
Bronco Billy: Sure. A long time ago.
Antoinette Lilly: Did you love her?
Bronco Billy: With all my heart. Sometimes that just isn't enough.
Antoinette Lilly: What happened?
Bronco Billy: I caught her in bed with my best friend.
Antoinette Lilly: What did you do to him?
Bronco Billy: I shot her.
Antoinette Lilly: What! What about him?
Bronco Billy: He was my best friend.
- Duncan and Charlie do all but cite this in Mystery Team.
- In How to Stop Being a Loser Ampersand shouts the phrase to James at the airport, but it's the cheese sandwich that saves the day.
- In New Jack City, drug king Nino Brown makes with his friend Gee Money's mistress when she offers herself to him. When Gee Money later voices his anger at Nino for taking everything for himself, Nino dismisses the girl as a skank and says that Gee means infinitely more to him.
- Angry Video Game Nerd The Movie: "Nerds Before Birds" is a mantra the titular Nerd lives by.
- In White Christmas, the song "Sisters" subverts this:
Those who've seen us
Know that not a thing can come between us
Many men have tried to split us up
Pity the mister
Who comes between me and my sister
And pity the sister
Who comes between me and my man!
- Jeremy references this trope by name in Duumvirate when realizing his servant is far more valuable to him than his girlfriend.
- Inverted in Gathering the Enchanted. Bannor's best friend Daniel ditches him so he can date Bannor's ex, Becca. And this is all going on while Bannor is being ostracized by those around him because of the event where he saved Daniel and Becca's lives from a movie theater shooting. Ouch.
- Invoked/referenced in Romance of the Three Kingdoms where Liu Bei stops Zhang Fei from committing suicide over a failure with "[b]rothers are as hands and feet; wives and children are as clothing. You may mend your torn dress, but who can reattach a lost limb?". Though this could also be credited with how he 'justified' tossing the rescued Liu Shan to the ground just because it endangers Zhao Yun...
Live Action Television
- House: "There is a code; bros before hoes man"
- On Parks and Recreation, Leslie invents some feminine versions when Ann asks her if she can go out with Leslie's crush Mark:
Leslie: Oh Ann, I am so fine. As long as you and me are cool. You know my code. Hos before bros. Uteruses before duderuses.
Ann: Got it.
Leslie. Ovaries before brovaries.
- On The Office... just watch it.
- The Big Bang Theory: Sheldon, of course, gives us the Expo Speak version.
Sheldon: Howard has informed me that my allegiance be to male comrades before women who sell their bodies for money.
Leonard: Are you sure he didn't say 'bros before hos'?
Sheldon: Well, I changed the phrasing so as not to offend the hos.
- In another instance Sheldon's World of Warcraft account was hacked and they managed to trace the perpetrator. At the time Leonard was dating Raj's sister, Priya, and while everyone was set to track down their foe, Leonard was hesitant about stiffing Priya two nights in a row over this thing. This leads to Raj saying "Come on, Bros before ... my sister!"
- There's also the episode in which Sheldon tries to shove Amy out of his life (fearing a Relationship Upgrade) by simply ignoring her... because he's Sheldon, he even takes down one of the street numbers of their building so she can't forward him any letters, and when Leonard asks him what they would do about the mailman, he tells him that he explained the whole situation to the mailman and...
Sheldon: He was actually quite sympathetic. His exact words were: "I got your back, Jack. Bitches be crazy."
- On 30 Rock when Jack wants to put his girlfriend's needs ahead of company's he mentions he can't because the company has a strict "B's before H's" code.
- Ted pulls a non-gendered version in How I Met Your Mother, dumping his girlfriend Karen after she told him he couldn't be friends with Lily anymore — this is even after he got into a huge fight with Lily because she tried to underhandedly break him and Karen up.
- This version is also present in Barney's Bro Code as well. For instance, a bro must always, whenever possible, provide another bro with protection.
- "Bros Before Hoes" is, in fact, the very first commandment of the Bro Code, as passed down by Broses.
- Inverted in the Seinfeld episode "The Stranded". Jerry explains the Male Code as not only putting women over your friends, but that your friends must accept it without question and are obligated to do whatever it takes to help you hook up with the woman, no matter how much it screws them over. In the episode, Jerry allows George to take a woman home from a house party in the car, leaving him and Elaine stranded there for hours. When Elaine complains, Jerry says there was nothing he could do. "It's part of the Code."
Jerry: All plans between men are tentative. If one man should suddenly have an opportunity to pursue a woman, it's like these two guys never met each other ever in life. This is the Male Code. And it doesn't matter how important the arrangements are, I mean, most of the time when they scrub a space shuttle mission it's because one of the astronauts met someone on his way to the launch pad. They hold that countdown. He's leaning against the rocket talking to her, "So listen, when I get back what do you say we get together for some Tang?"
- In Dollhouse in "The Hollow Men", Topher tells Boyd something and this ensues:
Boyd: Thank you for confiding in me Topher.
Topher: Of course. Bros before others who are... not bros.
- Happy Endings has "Bros before bros", invoked when Max falls in love with the son of Dave's food truck rival. Later Max tries to make things better by getting the son to talk to his dad about ending the feud, but it backfires because the father invokes "Dads before lads".
- Referenced in Glee. Finn's football teammates give him an ultimatum at one point: "Bros before hi-ho's!" (a reference to singing and Glee Club.)
- At the end of Season 3 of Game of Thrones, Jon Snow deserts his wildling Love Interest Ygritte to warn his brothers in the Nights Watch (called 'Crows' by the wildlings for their black uniforms) about the impending attack. She responded by putting three arrows in Jon as he rode off. Fans promptly dubbed this a case of Crows Before Hoes With Bows.
- Done repeatedly in shows about criminal gangs.
- On The Sopranos, Adrianna reveals to Christopher that she is an informant for the FBI, and asks him to run away with her. Christopher instead chooses to reveal this to Tony and cover up her murder.
- Sons of Anarchy, Both Opie and Jax have women in their lives trying to pull them out of the life. Both choose the gang over their women, and both of said women end up dead as a result. In the backstory, John Teller choosing his Irish lover over the Sons is what gets him killed.
- Gender-flipped on The Wire, Det. Kima Griggs chooses to hang out with her male police officer colleagues over her girlfriend, ultimately costing her that relationship.
- MTV's NEXT has some males ditch the girl in favor of the money specifically because they had a great time with the other guys in the bus.
- Big Wolf on Campus - Tommy learns that Corey Haim is an actual vampire, has buried his best friend Merton alive, and is about to make his girlfriend a vampire. Merton attempts to invoke this over a radio:
"Although saving Lori first may seem like the best idea, you should note that while girls come and go, friends last forever. Unless they're RUNNING OUT OF OXYGEN!"
- "Sisters before misters" is used in Bad Machinery.
- Cyanide and Happiness has three guys doing this... as an excuse to take a lifeboat without any women from the sinking Titanic.
- The kid-friendly "pals before gals" is used on The Amazing World of Gumball.
- Subverted in the Disney film The Three Caballeros where the theme song is all about "bros" until this verse: "Through fair and stormy weather / We stand close together / Like books on a shelf / And pals though we may be / When some Latin baby / Says yes, no, or maybe / Each man is for himself!"
- Stan Smith gives this bit of knowledge to son Steve on American Dad!
- There's a song by fictional rapper Gangstalicious on The Boondocks called "Homies Over Hos", which masquerades as this trope but is actually very much in favor of "ho" as in "Ho Yay", making it something of an inversion (as it prioritizes romantic / sexual prospects over friends, just with a different gender component). A Pimp Named Slickback inverts it more directly, saying that there are many, many things he will put before a ho, but a bro is not one of them. In fact, a bro is pretty much the only thing he won't put before a ho.
- Transformers Prime - A G-rated version in the episode "Plus One". Jack is concerned about his mother and Agent Fowler getting closer, and gets more distressed when Miko suggests Arcee (his robot Cool Big Sis) might hook up with Wheeljack. By the end of the episode, one of those fears has been put to rest.
Jack: (watching Wheeljack and Bulkhead shake hands) Bromance trumps romance.
Miko: Glad to be your bro, bro.
- In Gravity Falls, it's "bros before dinos", spoken by Soos as he saves the others from dinosaurs.