Official Couple Ordeal Syndrome
"It has been ten thousand years, Nada... yes, I still love you. But I have not forgiven you"
of the Endless takes this trope Up to Eleven
in The Sandman: Preludes and Nocturnes
Many stories have an Official Couple
. In some genres, their relationship will drive the plot. There will be lovers' tiffs and Unresolved Sexual Tension
. However, most official couples have a form of Hero Insurance
that stops things from getting too bad. In Friends
Ross and Rachael's friendship has recovered from their acrimonious breakup within a couple of episodes. In Harry Potter
, not even death, gets in the way of Harry and Ginny.
Sometimes, however, an Official Couple
gets put through Hell. Fights, breakups, infidelity and sometimes even people trying to kill them
will get in the way in an ordeal that can last anything from months to years. If they're lucky, their relationship will make it out intact but changed. Warning: in extreme cases this can lead to mental breakdowns and even death.
This trope exists because people tend to identify with an Official Couple
. Therefore a good way to keep up the suspense is to make their relationship dramatic (which is what drove Friends
for ten seasons). This trope is the Up to Eleven Darker and Edgier
version of that. The writer creates an Official Couple
knowing people will care for it. The entire point of creating this couple and making it official is to make the tragedy of its demise/near-demise all the more obvious/painful to the reader. With the exception of Ron and Hermione (who go through this Played for Laughs
before they're actually a couple) if the Official Couple
stays together despite being put through this trope it's usually a Bittersweet Ending
, but the readers are so relieved the couple made it through it's a while before the bitterness sinks in
Happens a lot
in Soap Opera
. When it's a very long arc, they are known as a "Supercouple
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Anime and Manga
- CLANNAD: The Official Couple of Tomoya and Nagisa has them eventually getting married and expecting a child. Of course Death By Child Birth separates the couple leaving their child Ushio with a broken father and no mother.
- Tuxedo Mask and Sailor Moon. After they're reincarnated, he almost dies, she has to fight against him when he's evil and brainwashed, he's taken away from her many times... But they are (were? will be?) always together.
- In Ten Yori Mo Hoshi Yori Mo, a good part of Mio and Rei/Shou's conflict of their relationship deals with this. They went through this twice in different centuries. In both centuries, it ended up badly for them.
- This seems to be a staple of Michiyo Akaishi's mangas. Jeudi and Lundi from Honoo No Alpen Rose got together very fast, and Natsuki and Masaki from Amakusa 1637 were already together when the story started. A good part of their ordeals is less about getting together and much more about staying together.
- Poor Miaka and Tamahome in Fushigi Yuugi get hit with this quite a bit, especially in the first series. Kidnapping, brainwashing, attempted rape, Poor Communication Kills resulting in a few breakups, obstructive stalkers and near-death experiences made these two earn their Happily Ever After.
- Kaoru and Aoi in Ai Yori Aoshi. They're both head over heels for each other, the problem is that Aoi's family doesn't approve (to the point of trying to physically force her to marry another man) and that several of their associates are beautiful young women who aren't aware of Kaoru's feelings for Aoi and are interested in Kaoru themselves.
- Guts and Casca from Berserk are very much that Darker and Edgier version. From their first meeting, the story was pretty much set on bringing these two together, and their beginning relationship was rough enough as it was. When they do admit their feelings to each other and become official, the universe made it its official mission to keep these two apart at any means necessary.
- In Hancock Hancock and his one true love are destined to be apart forever, because if they're together much their powers leave them and they eventually die. This has happened to their entire race; only Hancock & she are still alive.
- Percy Jackson and the Olympians initially subverts this in the ending and plays it straight into. At the end of The Last Olympian, the Official Couple Percy and Annabeth are together complete with an Underwater Kiss. In The Lost Hero the major plot point is the disappearance of Percy. Then, in Mark of Athena, they end up falling into Tartarus. When shippers said they'd ship the pairing to Tartarus and back, they didn't know it would literally happen!
- Nineteen Eighty-Four: Winston Smith and his love interest, Julia, take part in This and That, rebelling against the system. Then, with The Reveal, O'Brien is found to have turned them in and takes part in re-institutionalizing them into the system. They are reunited at the end, if briefly, but it turns out they have no feelings for each other anymore.
- Vicky Holmes, the Erin Hunter author who writes the storylines and makes the major decisions for the Warrior Cats series, often jokes that she likes doomed romance. And apparently this is true:
- Graystripe and Silverstream are from different Clans, and it's very difficult to meet and even see each other, since their relationship is forbidden by Clan law. They're thrilled when Silverstream's expecting kits, but then she suffers Death by Childbirth.
- Oakheart and Bluestar were also from different Clans. Bluestar became pregnant with his kits, and he offered to join ThunderClan to be with her. However, she stood a good chance of becoming deputy - she wouldn't be eligible for the position with kits - and she felt it was her duty to become deputy since she felt the only other cat being considered for the position would lead the Clan to disaster. Though she wished it could be otherwise, she ended the relationship, and after her kits were born, she gave them to Oakheart to raise in RiverClan.
- Perhaps part of the reason that so many of these Official Couples are doomed is because they're forbidden. Leafpool and Crowfeather's relationship was forbidden in two ways - they're in different Clans, and she's a medicine cat, forbidden to take any mate. They ran off together for a while, but when disaster struck her Clan she realized that they needed her more than he did. She secretly had his kits a short time later. He took a mate in his own Clan, though the authors have described that as a "marriage of convenience", and they seem to argue every time they see each other afterward - and he refuses to acknowledge Hollyleaf, Lionblaze, and Jayfeather as his kits. Despite this, they still have some feelings for each other deep down, even though they never get back together.
- In a rare non-forbidden example, Brambleclaw and Squirrelflight. They became best friends after going on a long journey together, even though initially they were always irritated by each other. Their relationship was tested when he began to follow his evil father, and associate with his half brother, who made no secret of his dream to rule all the Clans, and there was a bit of a Love Triangle when Ashfur showed interest in her as well. Their relationship was eventually mended, and StarClan sent a vision of the two as mates, walking into the sky with stars trailing behind their paws in a single path - their destiny intertwined. Everything seemed fine - they had kits. Then it was revealed that they weren't actually her kits; she'd been covering for her sister Leafpool, who, as a medicine cat, was forbidden to take a mate. They barely spoke to each other for at least two years, until Brambleclaw became leader and chose her as his deputy, admitting that she'd always done what she thought was right. The authors have said their relationship probably won't get back to where it was, but he's forgiven her to an extent.
- Dawn of the Clans starts out with an official couple of Clear Sky and Bright Stream, but then Bright Stream gets killed by an eagle. And just when you think that Clear Sky and Storm will work out, Storm leaves and dies, forgiving Clear Sky with her last breath. This ends up breaking Clear Sky pretty hard.
- Harry Potter does this to Ron and Hermione (usually played for laughs). Order of the Phoenix plays it straight with Harry and Cho.
- The Mortal Engines series is effectively the narrative of this happening over an eighteen-year period with Tom and Hester, culminating in his death from a heart attack and her suicide over his dead body.
- Each book's Beta Couple also tend to go through a lot of ordeals, especially Katherine and Bevis in the first book. they both die. The Beta Couple in the second book don't even get to be a couple until they've gone through an ordeal in the third book, sixteen years later.
- His Dark Materials makes Will and Lyra go through Hell (figuratively) individually, meet, go through Hell (literally and figuratively) together, and then have to leave each other in Alternate Universes because doing so is the only way to save the multiverse.
- This is a fundamental trait of the Sword of Truth series. Richard and Kahlan have been in love since early in the first book, but the increasing turmoil in the setting means they have to deal with separation, invasion, apparent betrayal, and ultimately save the world ten or twelve times before they can be together.
- Subverted with Luke and Noah of Soap Opera As the World Turns who were supposed to be a couple with problems, but Reid, the intended Romantic False Lead for Luke, became extremely popular with the fanbase. In an effort not to upset either ship, and being pressed for time, Luke didn't end up either of them. Reid was killed off near the end and a grieving Luke didn't get back together with Noah.
- Played straight with the most of the other couples, such as Holden/Lily and Carly/Jack who have gotten married multiple times (though not always to each other) and ended up together by the finale.
- Friends A thousand times Ross and Rachel. The writers admitted they planned to keep milking their issues until the end of the series, so by the end its hard to remember they ever had a relationship at all. Averted with Monica and Chandler who didn't break up once. After upgrading from Friends with Benefits to a serious relationship the pair stayed together, in-love and ended Happily Married. They also retained the fandoms patience.
- In CSI NY Danny and Lindsay have a mid-strength case of this syndrome. First, Lindsay pulls back because of what she's going through with the aftermath of a traumatic childhood incident she survived. Then,after a boy Danny's caring for is shot, Danny pulls away and even sleeps with the kid's mother once. After they get married and Lindsay has his baby, Danny is shot and temporarily paralyzed. Then barely a year later, they and their daughter are stalked by a deranged criminal who blamed Danny for losing his idyllic image of his brother. He battled Danny during the family's first vacation, and they only escaped because he was knocked over the railing of a lighthouse. Then, he shows up in their apartment, holds their daughter hostage and wants to kill all of them. Only Lindsay stops him. Then a year after that, there's Danny as a sergeant, getting grilled by IA because one of his rookies shot the wrong guy. The cop who did it accuses Danny of cheating because she's scared to tell the truth, and Lindsay has to pressure her to tell what really happened.
- Buffy and Angel on Buffy the Vampire Slayer. The fact that the first time they made love, Angel lost his soul, turned evil, and then tried to kill Buffy and end the world only later to have his soul brought back just in time for Buffy to have to send him to a hell dimension in order to save the world pretty much illustrates the point. Or perhaps Buffy's later quote when Angel was complaining of her current association with Spike does "What was the highlight of our relationship: when you broke up with me or when I killed you?"
- Also to a lesser extent Tara and Willow with Tara first being sent crazy by the Big Bad and Willow's later magic addiction. Didn't end well.
- The slowly developing and frequently sidetracked relationship between Chuck and Sarah is pretty much the meta-plot of Chuck. A later season episode implies that Sarah fell in love with Chuck on their very first meeting in the very first episode.
- Stefan and Elena from The Vampire Diaries. Their romance and relationship drives the plot of the entire series. Although Stefan and Elena have endured endless obstacles (varying from minor to major) trying to keep them apart, Stefan and Elena still manage after all the problems to come back together, surprisingly stronger then ever before. Some minor examples throughout the series include Stefan pulling away from Elena because of his secret blood issues in season one. Another minor example is Stefan and Elena breaking up because of Katherine threatening to harm everyone Elena loves in season two. One major example is in season three, Stefan sacrificing himself to Klaus in order to save Damon's life and protect Elena. During this time, Stefan left Elena and Mystic Falls, turned off his emotions (his humanity) and became a Ripper. With Stefan being a Ripper with no emotions, Stefan had almost tried to kill Elena by biting her under Klaus compulsion. Despite Stefan not feeling anything, Elena was determined to bring Stefan back and get him to turn on his humanity again so that he could feel. This was a huge obstacle and struggle that Stefan and Elena faced in the series. Regardless of how bad or awful things get, somehow, Stefan and Elena manage to overcome the problems, be together happily as if nothing ever happened and come back together as a couple stronger then ever before.
- Luke and Lorelai of Gilmore Girls. After four seasons of UST, they start going steady and even got engaged at the end of the season. The wedding gets called off when Lorelai realized that Luke found out about a secret love child of his and didn't tell her about it. Lorelai even somewhat lampshades the trope when she realizes that all of the wedding preparations were going by perfectly and was expecting something to go wrong along the way. By next season, showrunner Amy Sherman-Palladino and her husband weren't working on the show anymore, leading to nearly an entire season where Luke and Lorelai were broken up. Everyone knew they would get back together because advertisements for the show continued to show the couple together, it was just a question of when they would. It wasn't until the last few minutes of the series finale that they renewed the relationship.
- Up to Eleven on Spartacus: Blood and Sand. Granted it is a show about people who have been enslaved and stage a Gladiator Revolt. Naturally this makes their romantic lives complicated to put it mildly. But even the comparatively well-off Roman elite tend to have relationships of the Unholy Matrimony or Destructive Romance sort. Nobody has a drama-free relationship!
- Romeo and Juliet, the original Star-Crossed Lovers: Initially, both are greatly in love with each other. However, as the plot moves past the romance, kin and family are killed: Mercutio for Romeo and Tybalt for Juliet. As both are torn by grief, they are at risk of being separated by their Feuding Families. With both families ready to destroy each other by play's end, Romeo and Juliet both commit suicide in grief at having lost each other. Juliet was under the effect of a potion and appeared dead. Romeo proceeds to commit suicide and Juliet follows suit after him.
- This also occurs in Othello, climaxing in Othello murdering Desdemona and killing himself. Even worse, the entire plot was being carefully choreographed by Iago.
- School Days is likely the darkest and edgiest this trope will ever get. Though the Official Couple were Makoto and Kotonoha. Makoto and Sekai proceeded to sleep together. And then of course Makoto sleeps with just about everything that moves. In the end, depending on what rendition of School Days you are referencing, we have variations of Sekai murdering Kotonoha and Makoto to Kotonoha murdering Sekai.
- Fate/stay night in the Fate route/Anime. The Saber-focused Fate route has Shirou and Saber come to love each other. With the war at an end we get a Bittersweet Ending with the romance entering Star-Crossed Lovers territory. With the Big Bad and his Dragon defeated, the Holy Grail war ends, Saber returns to the past to finally allow her body to die and complete the myth of King Arthur. And if you play the PS2 port and complete EVERY single requirement, the Revised Ending allows Saber and Shirou to be together. Even if it's in death.
- Dad Egbert and Mom Lalonde from Homestuck. They may be an Official Couple, but that doesn't mean they're exempt from being killed off.