"Are we like those poor couplesAlice and Bob went through the whole Romance Arc. They started out as Just Friends. They developed some Unresolved Sexual Tension. Then the two shared their First Kiss and it was magical. Alice and Bob were on the road to Happily Ever After (or at least Happily Married). But that was all a long time ago. Now they're the couple who sit silently across from each other at the restaurant, eating perfunctory dinners. The sex is rote (assuming they even have sex anymore). Alice finds herself noticing that Chris is looking especially good lately and wonders what it would be like to kiss him. All the little quirks Bob found endearing about Alice now drive him up the wall. Maybe there was passion here once, but now there's nothing but Dead Sparks. Unfortunately Truth in Television. Compare No Accounting for Taste, No Sparks, Awful Wedded Life.
you feel sorry for in restaurants?
Are we the dining dead?"
you feel sorry for in restaurants?
Are we the dining dead?"
- In Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, we first meet Joel and Clem when they are at the Dead Sparks stage of the relationship. The rest of the movie is about how they ignited those sparks in the first place and ends with the hope that they could be reignited.
- In Unbreakable, the Dunns' marriage is like this.
- In Ordinary People (both the book and the film), the death of their oldest son pushes Beth and Calvin to this point. It doesn't end well — she walks out at the end.
- Six Degrees of Separation: John and Louisa Kittredge's relationship is Dead Sparks throughout.
- In The Sixth Sense, we're led to believe that Malcolm and his wife have this problem. Subverted with The Reveal that he's dead, and she's in mourning.
- One of the oldest and most concise examples can be found in Citizen Kane, where one scene tracks the progression of Kane's relationship with his wife by looking at their breakfast discourse over the years.
- The Power and the Glory (1933): Tom and Sally were once deeply in love but later, after they've become rich and Tom has become a great businessman, their marriage has descended into sniping. Sally begs Tom to take her on a trip to Europe so they can re-connect, but it's too late; Tom has fallen in love with Eve. Tragedy ensues.
- In Mr. & Mrs. Smith (2005) the eponymous characters' marriage has hit this stage. But it seems that trying to kill each other creates enough sparks to revitalize the relationship.
- In Date Night Steve Carrell and Tina Fey play a married couple who have lost the spark. But not to worry! Nothing a few spy-related adventures can't fix!
- Blue Valentine: The present day Dead Sparks scenes are made much more painful by being intercut with scenes of the couple falling in love.
- Hope Springs
- This ends up being the whole arc of Like Crazy.
- In the beginning of the film, Vacation from Marriage, Cathy and Robert (played by Deborah Kerr and Robert Donat) are just together because they’re used to each other; sadly, there's no passionate love between them.
- Margaret Peterson Haddix's Just Ella: The premise is that this is experienced by Cinderella sometime following her marriage to Prince Charming.
- In Peep Show, this is what happens after Mark finally gets together with Sophie. It doesn't stop him from marrying her (or, at least, from calling off the ceremony).
- This theme is covered in a lot of Country Music songs:
- Johnny Cash and June Carter's "Jackson"
- Tanya Tucker's "Love Me Like You Used To"
- George Strait's "I Know She Still Loves Me"
- Reba McEntire's "Somebody Should Leave"
- Tracy Byrd's "I Wanna Feel That Way Again" is right there in the title.
- As is the Carrie Underwood duet "Remind Me".
- Lorrie Morgan's "Five Minutes" and "Maybe Not Tonight", a duet with Sammy Kershaw
- Luke Bryan's "Do I"
- Jill King's "98.6 Degrees and Falling"
- Andy Griggs' "Tonight I Want to Be Your Man," about a husband who realizes his relationship with his wife has hit the stage and wants to fix it.
- Clay Walker's "This Woman and This Man"
- Faith Hill's "It Matters to Me"
- Garth Brooks' "Somewhere Other than the Night"
- Clay Davidson's "Sometimes" is a variant. In the first verse, the female fears that this trope is setting in; she wants to be assured that he still loves her, and not just sometimes. He asserts his position in the second verse.
- Rupert Holmes' "Escape (The Piña Colada Song)" starts out this way:
I was tired of my lady
We'd been together too long
Like a worn-out recording
Of a favorite song
- Carly Simon's "That's the Way I've Always Heard It Should Be" describes every marriage the narrator has ever seen as having turned out like this.
- Simon & Garfunkel's "The Dangling Conversation" and "Overs".
- Gordon Lightfoot's "If You Could Read My Mind".
- Carole King's "It's Too Late".
- Amanda Palmer's "The Bed Song".
- Neil Diamond's duet with Barbra Streisand, "You Don't Bring Me Flowers".
- Tracy Chapman's "Smoke and Ashes".
- Israeli singer Arik Einstein's song "Tsa'ar Lakh" ("You are Woeful"), about a couple that's been reduced to this having a casual conversation over lunch.
- "For No One" by The Beatles. "And yet you don't believe her when she says her love is dead, you think she needs you."
- In The Barber of Seville, Figaro helps the Official Couple get together. By the time of The Marriage of Figaro, that same couple is now pretty dysfunctional, and the plot of the latter revolves around Figaro trying to bring those Dead Sparks back to life before the Count decides to bed Figaro's wife instead.
- In the first episode of Family Guy after its UnCancellation, Lois starts calling out male celebrities' names during sex instead of Peter's. He fears that it's the first step towards a life where all they do is sit at the table across from each other talking about Special K cereal.
- Psychologists assume that the powerful initial infatuation and powerful sexual drive will last (at maximum) for four years. Unless the partners have anything deeper (hobbies, interests, likes) in common, the prognosis of the relationship is poor after four years.
- This phenomenon appears to be so common amongst Lesbian couples that it has a specific name: Lesbian Bed Death.