Understanding Boyfriend

"Jeez, where do you freaks find these understanding guys, and where do I get one?!"
Shelly, Wapsi Square

So you are a freak of nature, a witch, a Super Hero, or a Chosen One. You are loaded with supernatural powers, and between going to work or school you have some world saving duties to attend to that need to be kept secret. And on top of that, you also need to balance it out with a love life!

But you can't tell your boyfriend about it! He'd freak out and leave you, or worse. But then, you can't keep it a secret forever, either. At some point, one of your supernatural incidents will inevitably happen exactly when you were having a romantic dinner. Or maybe your relationship has simply reached the next level, and you feel that you need to be completely honest with him.

So what now? How will he react? Well, it turns out he's perfectly okay with it (well, for the most part) and completely understands. That's right, as a reward for your sacrifices, the Powers That Be will make sure that you end up with a truly noble and loving soul who loves you for who you are and doesn't care what you are. So no worries!

Compare Freakiness Shame, when a disguise forms part of the powers. Compare to Violently Protective Girlfriend for the Action Girl variant. Compare and contrast Non-human Lover Reveal, for the guy/girl who is on the other end of this trope. See also The Masquerade Will Kill Your Dating Life, which is an aversion of this trope.

Examples:

Anime and Manga
  • The central premise of The Secrets of Haruka Nogizaka. The titular girl is an otaku.
  • Ditto with My Little Sister Can't Be This Cute. Except that the guy is not a boyfriend, but the big brother... yeah.
  • Austria from Axis Powers Hetalia, in regards to his Victorious Childhood Friend Hungary. While he's concerned for her well-being, in the end he knows that if she wants to fight, he better lets her... since she will go One Woman Army and destroy the enemy. Considering their childhood, he knows it beforehand!
  • Keiko Asakura from Shaman King had been dumped by every single boyfriend she had when they learned she was able to see spirits. Until the last Jerk Ass left her and a penniless musician with similar abilities comforted her. That guy was Mikihisa, and she would marry him.
  • Horribly deconstructed with Shiso and Ceres in Ayashi no Ceres. Shiso started like this, but being left helpless when he and Ceres got attacked made him very frustrated, so he asked Ceres to give him a part of her powers so he wouldn't be a burden on her. But then, said powers turned out to be too much to handle, and it went From Bad to Worse...
  • Shuuji in Saikano. His girlfriend is a WMD? That's OK, things will work out. Actually, they don't.
  • Kenta Usui from Karin, except for the boyfriend part. Until the end, that is. Comes with him doubling as Karin's crush and the Marker family's Secret Keeper.
  • In Awkward Silence Toono Satoru's boyfriend is the only one who can read his seemingly blank and expressionless face (other than an old childhood friend of his who doesn't show up until later volumes) and understand his emotions.
  • This is central to the plot of Kotoura-san. Haruka Kotoura was friendless, socially stigmatized and severely traumatized due to her telepathic powers, and by the time Manabe comes into her life, she would actually drive people away. Manabe successfully breaks her shell and becomes protective of her, which leads her to gradually become more like what she actually is—a conventional moe heroine. The only issue is, he is a pervert and still can't really control his sexual fantasies—except those fantasies are all directed to her, rather than others.
  • In Demashita! Powerpuff Girls Z, Souichirou eventually finds out in episode 45 that his girlfriend, Sakurako, transforms into Sedusa whenever she's jealous or has doubts about her relationship with Souichirou. In a rather d'aww-worthy moment, Souichirou's reaction is to shout at Sedusa that he doesn't care, he loves Sedusa and Sakurako...because Sedusa is Sakurako!
  • The majority of the Ashikabi in Sekirei are perfectly accepting of their Human Alien Magical Girlfriends. Minato in particular takes things in stride, and actively seeks any way he can help the girls out, whether it's providing emotional support, doing the laundry, or acting as the strategist.
  • Kagerou Project. Tsukihiko is this towards Azami; despite having snakes for hair, scaly skin, and threatening red eyes (and a multitude of dangerous powers, to boot), he treats her like a person instead of a monster, even knowing what she is, and that everyone else wants her dead.
  • Private Actress. Tomo'omi Hanamura is this to Shiho Kobayakawa. Half in regards to her work as a Private Actress (then again, he is one, too), and specially regarding her being the illegitimate daughter of two famous actors.

Comic Books
  • Kong is this to Kitty Pryde in Ultimate Spider-Man, even going so far as to yell "You're welcome!" at All of the Other Reindeer for not thanking her when she saves their lives.
  • Back in the Golden Age, Steve Trevor was this for Wonder Woman (a remarkably progressive move for the times), and not at all threatened by the idea of getting rescued by or mooning over a woman who was twenty times stronger than him. The Silver and Bronze Age characterizations of him were... unfortunately less so, which probably led to the relationship being deleted from continuity Post-Crisis.
  • In an old What If? comic, Jimmy Olsen marries Supergirl because of amnesia. Once she recovers and lets him know, he's totally fine with being married to Superman's cousin.

Fan Fic
  • Ultimate Spider-Woman: Change With The Light plays it straight to an extent. When Mary Jane Watson's boyfriend Randy Robertson finds out that she's secretly a web-slinging superheroine, he's not so much upset by the fact that she's a superhero as the fact that she originally wouldn't tell him the truth about it. What really pisses him off, though, is when he learns that her Arch-Enemy Jack O' Lantern knows her real identity.
  • In the Rise of the Guardians fic Guardian of Light, the main character Helen discovers that Pitch is her father. Jack isn't her boyfriend at this point, but he doesn't hold this against her despite everything, and is willing to protect her at all costs.
  • Lero Michaelides of Divided Rainbow.

Film

Literature
  • Elend in Brandon Sanderson's Mistborn. At least, until he gets superpowers of his own.
  • Seth in Wicked Lovely. When Aislinn tells him that she can see faeries, he has exactly one moment of "Is this a joke?" before accepting it and trying to help her with her faery situation.
  • In Discworld, Carrot is completely understanding about his werewolf girlfriend Angua, even the part about her not being human for one week out of four. She's actually upset that he's not upset about this at one point.
    That was almost...almost one of the annoying things about him. She suspected he wouldn't mind if she shaved her head, or grew a beard. It wasn't that he wouldn't notice, he just wouldn't mind, and for some reason that was very aggravating.
    ** They did get off to a rough start, but that was as much her fault as his; you should probably warn your partner in advance if there's a possibility you'll turn into a werewolf in your sleep.
  • In Parties and Potions by Sarah Mlynowski, Rachel is a witch and has to tell her human boyfriend Raf. It mainly escalates when she starts doing training for her witch "debutante ball" and ends up being gone whenever he wants to hangout with her. He is okay with it when he finds out, though.

Live-Action TV
  • Ghost Whisperer features Jim the Understanding Husband.
  • Both subverted and played straight in Bewitched. The original Darrin (Dick York) was less than understanding, to the point of being downright hostile to Samantha when she used her magic. The Other Darrin (Dick Sargeant), on the other hand, tried his hardest to be understanding, the point that it was more the fault of Endora and the rest of Samantha's family that The Other Darrin didn't get along with witches.
  • Played with in the Sabrina the Teenage Witch TV series. Harvey does leave Sabrina when he finds out she's a witch, not out of intolerance but because she'd been using magic to mess with his life for years. He eventually does come back to her, though, and says he never had a problem with her being a witch per se.
  • Zack was the "gay best friend" equivalent of this in Heroes, at least until Executive Meddling got in the way.
  • Unless she's dating one of the undead, Buffy never gets this on Buffy the Vampire Slayer (even Riley, who is, himself, a demon-fighting super-soldier, has an inferiority complex due to dating a genuine superhero). It's Willow who hits the boyfriend jackpot with Oz; upon being told the truth about the supernatural world she runs in, he replies, "Actually, it explains a lot," and just goes with the flow from there. Of course, Oz discovers he is a werewolf shortly after they begin dating, so he's more or less stuck in the supernatural world regardless, and Willow ends up having to play Understanding Girlfriend just as often.
  • Tyler Ford in The Middleman's unaired season finale (released as a comic)...at least, until MM pushes the Reset Button.
  • Allison's husband Joe on Medium believes in her powers and is understanding and accepting of them.
  • In Merlin, 2x09. Merlin discovers Freya turns into a bastet at night, but he isn't afraid and still takes care of her. He even pets her cat's head...
  • In the TV version of Wonder Woman, played by Lynda Carter, especially in the first season (set in WWII), Steve Trevor comes across as completely comfortable with the fact that Diana is more physically powerful than he is, and in fact manages to work with her and make himself actively useful while giving every impression of appreciating her for who and what she is... and doesn't come across as unbelievable or weak, either.
  • In the TV version of The Tick, Captain Liberty and another female superhero discuss the difficulties of finding a boyfriend while picking up their dry-cleaning. Seriously subverted in this episode.
  • Roswell has Isobel and Jesse; she tries to send him away after he discovers she's an alien, but in the novel 'season 4', they end up together anyway.
  • Played straight on Reaper with Andi. After she learns about Sam's masquerade, she is actually relieved to find out why he stood her up so often. She was planning on breaking up with him before he told her.
  • This is a recurring problem for the ladies on Charmed, whose human love interests either freak out at the idea of magic existing or end up six feet under very soon after learning and accepting the truth. Piper marries a Whitelighter, Leo (but after he eventually loses his powers, he becomes this). Phoebe marries a Cupid. Paige's husband Henry (a 100% normal cop) plays this straight, his only reaction to her confession being mild surprise.
    • This was also played straight by Grams's first husband before he died, but averted by every one after that. The girls' father, Victor, also seemed quite accepting (and is of the girls' magic in the present day), but it's implied Grams drove him away.
  • Forever. Abigail was an Understanding Wife. In a flashback, after Henry gets stabbed and she believes him dead, he sneaks into their apartment later that night to say goodbye to Abraham but gets caught by Abigail. He starts trying to explain the situation in some manner that won't simply lead to his return to the asylumóuntil Abigail embraces him, realizing and accepting his immortality and understanding how cursed he is and how isolated he must have been to hide his secret.
    "You poor man."

Video Games
  • In Final Fantasy XIII, Serah wanders into some ruins and is made a Pulse l'Cie. Public opinion of Pulse l'Cie being... rather low, she tries to break up with Snow so he won't be associated with her should she be found out. He refuses to accept this, demands an explanation, and upon being told the truth says he will do anything to help her and proposes a few days later.
  • In Dragon Age II a non-mage Hawke can be this if romancing Anders or Merrill. Particularly if the player character is on the friendship path.
  • Pandoras Tower Until I Return To Your Side. Aeron discovers his girlfriend Elena is cursed and will transform into a monster if not cured. Even with his his girlfriend in a half demonic state, he throws away his old life and start exploring dangerous towers, just to kill monsters and feed Elena with their flesh to reset the curse timer and try to cure her (and give her gifts when he can). You could say Elena is a really lucky girl.
  • A major part of several romances in the Mass Effect series, especially with the non-humans, is Shepard being this about their various issues. Aside from the inherent problems of romancing, say, a drell or a quarian, the strongest is probably Jack, who only really warms up to Shepard when she realizes he cares despite, not because of, her history and nature — that is to say, he truly loves her rather than pitying her. Of course, given the people Shepard is willing to let into the Ragtag Bunch of Misfits ("Asari? Krogan? TURIANS!?") it's only to be expected.
    • Also featured with the romance between Female Shepard and Garrus Vakarian, particularly in ME3. No matter what Shepard's done, such as bringing on the destruction of the quarian race or sabotaging the genophage cure, Garrus will still support and care for you. Heck, even when you break up with him he's totally understanding and remains warm to you when most people would "get in the skycar and leave".
  • In Lollipop Chainsaw, Juliet's boyfriend Nick seems less bothered about the fact that his girlfriend is a zombie hunter armed with a magic chainsaw, and more concerned with the fact that she chopped his head off to save him from being turned into a zombie.

Webcomics
  • Lampshaded in this Wapsi Square comic. Also the page quote.
  • Subverted (although this may be a retrospective way of seeing it) in Sluggy Freelance. Leo seems to be accepting of all the weird things ZoŽ tells about happening to her - but it turns out that was only because he thought she was lying. In the words of another jerk he hangs out with, "You've got to respect a girl who realizes romantic relationships are based on lies and goes to town with it!" As soon as Leo finds out it was all true, he feels betrayed, and they eventually break off.

Web Original
  • In Worm, Defiant (i.e. Armsmaster) becomes one of these to Dragon when she reveals that she is an artificial intelligence.

Western Animation