"For THIS, I'm missing a date?"What you do for a living is typically a big part of who you are, and when you start getting serious with a boyfriend or girlfriend, you probably like to talk about how your day went. But what if you spend your day saving the planet from alien invasions? Or hunting down vampire serial killers? What if what you do for a living is so fantastical telling them about your Secret Identity will convince them you are a liar (in which case they dump you), convince them you are insane (in which case they try to have you committed and/or dump you), or horrify them to the point where they (guess what) dump you? Of course, the people you work for in this fantastical world may insist that should you ever tell your significant other, you'd have to immediately kill them. Is it any surprise, then, that the Masquerade will (make you) kill your dating life? A lot of times, the pool of eligible bachelor(ette)s in on the Masquerade is rather small, and since Everybody Has Lots of Sex, it won't take long for you to work your way through them. But if you try to date outside of the masquerade, be prepared to stonewall every time your new beau asks "So how was your day?" or "When do I get to meet your friends at work?" or "Why do you always come home with blood-stained clothes and smelling of gunpowder?" Expect much angst about having to lie to the current most important person in your life that doesn't have a spot in the opening credits. That's if you can keep the many, many lies from collapsing in on themselves, that is. These relationships tend to end in one of three ways (don't they all?), with several subtypes:
— Terry McGinnis, on the opposite end of a beating, Batman Beyond
- The strain is too much, and you break up.
- A. Your Love Interest senses you're hiding something, and threatens to call it off if you don't come clean. You can't, so they do. Or maybe you try to come clean and either they don't believe you, or the proof you provide freaks them out.
- B. You can't stand lying all the time, and call things off yourself.
- Your Love Interest is introduced into the Masquerade
- A. Your Love Interest is kidnapped or otherwise put in danger, and you have to apply your Phlebotinum right in front of him or her.
- B. He or she walks in on you while in the middle of official Masquerade business, and won't leave until you explain why you just staked some goth guy through the chest.
- Your Love Interest is already part of the Masquerade
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- Lelouch Lamperouge of Code Geass suffered several problems with his love interests—particularly Shirley—because of his masquerade as Zero to which her death can be directly attributed.
- Initially with Suzaku and Euphemia, but having their respective masquerades broken allowed them both to genuinely get to know each other. But Euphemia didn't tell Suzaku about Lelouch being her brother and still trusted him, which got her killed.
- Tokyo Mew Mew has this be the main issue between Ichigo and her would-be boyfriend Aoyama. They vow to meet up, but Ichigo needs to fight off the aliens and ultimately arrives late at the meeting place, apologizing. And even when she isn't fighting, if she gets too excited, she grows cat features (or turns into a cat completely) and has to hide those from him, too. Aoyama eventually reveals that, while he didn't know-know, he figured Ichigo was doing something great that he couldn't be a part of and just took it in stride. Then he creates a split-personality of the Blue Knight, who fights alongside Ichigo. And then he turns out to be the Big Bad.
- This is a common theme of Codename: Sailor V, in which Minako's love life is forever ruined by her duty. In the very first issue, she crushes on a boy who suggests she wear a red ribbon in her hair (said ribbon being an iconic accessory of the character). He turns out to be an agent of the Dark Kingdom and she is forced to kill him. Throughout the series, various one-shot crushes come in and out of her life, forever chased off in some fashion by the consequences of her job. Finally, she seems to be getting somewhere when her Mysterious Protector, Kaitou Ace, finally gets close to her...only to be revealed to also be Danburite, the Big Bad of the series. Upon her killing him, he leaves her with an (accurate) prediction that she will never find love because she will always put her duty first.
- Gunslinger Girl:
- Something like this happened to one of the handlers. His girlfriend even pointed out about how he always smell like gunpowder despite supposedly working for "a social welfare agency".
- A literal version occurs with cyborg girl Rico, who finds herself attracted to a boy she meets while doing her recon. When she runs into the boy during the hit, the brainwashed girl obeys her handler's instructions and shoots him dead.
- In Weiß Kreuz, Ken Hidaka's entire love life can be summed up this way. He breaks up with his first girlfriend, Yuriko, because he simply can't handle lying to her and can't see any other way to keep her safe, then does it again when the first one doesn't quite take; the second, Reiko, turns out to be one of his targets, so that doesn't end at all well either. Unsurprisingly, by Gluhen he seems to have given up dating entirely.
- Puella Magi Madoka Magica: More social life than dating life, but that the Magical Girls have little spare time and few people they can bond with is a major theme.
- If this trope had an Anthropomorphic Personification, Peter Parker would punch it so hard the blue highlights would fly out of its hair.
- Gwen Stacy got murdered for dating Pete.
- Mary Jane and he did marry, but the number of times his crime fighting got in the way of dates, it's an exception.
- Not to mention Betty Brant, his first love, who left him in a straight-up type A
- Happens to Billy Batson as Captain Marvel in Justice Society of America. Turns out having the alter-ego of a 30 year old man will destroy your chances with the 16 year old.
- To clarify: Stargirl knew that Billy was 16, and that Billy was Captain Marvel, and that it was still Billy's basic personality when he was in Captain Marvel mode. But the rest of the Justice Society, mostly made up of elder statesmen of the superhero crowd, did not know about Captain Marvel's secret teenaged identity, which made the relationship look highly improper. Jay Garrick, the Flash, flatly told Captain Marvel to break it off, and he did so rather than reveal his identity to the older members of the team.
- Bruce Wayne, of all people, admits this to Vicki Vale when he realizes this is why she's deduced his secret identity, thus why Ra's al Ghul wants her dead.
- Tim Drake, the 3rd Robin, has a fondness of dating civilians (Arianna, Zoanne, Tam) in comparison to the other Robins. These relationships always end up going south, unsurprisingly. With Arianna and Zoanne, they have no clue of his secret identity, and with Tam, she managed to keep his secret AND dodge all death threats at her for being associated with him fairly well, but broke up anyways. Even with his longest relationship, Stephanie Brown (Spoiler), they were dating as superheroes and not civilians because he couldn't give away his real identity. They had problems due to Robin's secretiveness and only patched things up when Batman, who was the one who had forbidden Tim from telling her in the first place, forcefully revealed Robin's real name to her without discussing it with Tim.
- Pre-Crisis Clark Kent avoided romantic relationships because he feared that his enemies would target his love interest.
- Strangely, he didn't seem to realize that she was often targeted, anyway, both due to her occupation and the fact that everyone knew they were close despite not being an Official Couple.
- In Krypton No More he is having lunch with Lois when he realizes he has to help his cousin fight an alien army, and he shoves Lois out of his apartment.
- Pre-Crisis Clark Kent avoided romantic relationships because he feared that his enemies would target his love interest.
- It happened to Pre-Crisis Supergirl the whole time. The. Whole. Time. She never could keep a steady boyfriend for long because she was prone to unexplained absences or ditch the guy abruptly because her Super Senses picked up on something.
- In the MAD parody of the Adam West Batman series, Robin does a Face–Heel Turn because he's upset with being a victim of this trope time and again.
- Inverted in Precocious Crush, Mindy and Dave's secret life as heroes seems to be Mindy's only hope of attracting Dave's attention. Though, granted, this is exclusively because the only guy Mindy is interested in is Dave. Boys her own age are certainly interested though.
- Inverted in No Chance For Fate, Ami had no social life prior to becoming a Sailor Scout. After a becoming a Sailor Scout, she gains a boyfriend in the boy she tutors, Ranma. Who perfectly understands about fights causing one to miss dates and would lend a hand in battle.
- In Im Giving You A Night Call, Ed ended up dumping Roy when the latter shot him and was put in charge of arresting him. Even before that, Ed had to leave in the middle of dates for Fullmetal business.
- This trope comes into play in the 2011 version of Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy when Peter Guillam is forced to break up with his boyfriend in case the Circus starts investigating him. He is unable to explain his true reasons for wanting the break-up - his boyfriend says "If there's someone else, you can tell me," to which Guillam just shakes his head - and he is left sobbing as a man he clearly loved walks out.
- The Sorcerer's Apprentice has this as well, with the main character having to hide his newfound magical powers.
- In True Lies Schwarzenegger's character, a secret agent, pretends to his wife that he is an exceptionally dull computer salesman. This nearly kills his marriage. The irony is that she nearly cheats on him with a car salesman pretending to be a spy to get her in bed. At the end, the couple is Happily Married again, working together on assignments.
- In Batman Forever Bruce Wayne hides the fact that he's Batman from Dr. Chase Meridian...even as she demands to see Batman. She gets her wish, and Bruce still almost would've kept his Masquerade in force...until Two-Face and The Riddler kidnap her.
- In Men in Black there's a third type: inductees are to sever all ties with their old life - including loved ones. One scene shows Agent Kay pining over a lost love (and is later reunited with her, but only after he leaves MIB and has his memory wiped).
- Come the sequel, she's left him, in a pseudo-Type 1a situation.
- Played for laughs in Mr. & Mrs. Smith (2005). Both are Elite Spies of different (and competing) agencies who both live an elaborate lie (similar to Schwarzenegger's in True Lies. It all goes south when they are on the same job. Classical Type 3 situation...
- A large element of the "indie short film" Eagles Are Turning People Into Horses. In fact, the point is for the "broken masquerade" to scare his girlfriend away.
- In Point of No Return (an American remake of La Femme Nikita), the lead is incredibly happy with her newfound boyfriend but can't take all the lying on top of being forced to kill people. Since she can't just drop out of the secret agency that recruited her, she runs away.
- In My Super Ex-Girlfriend, it's a central theme. Jenny gets called to destroy a missile while on a date, and over the course of the film you learn how messed up a super hero's love life can be.
Hannah: Why did G-Girl throw a shark at us?
- The Masquerade killed Harry Dresden's dating life:
- The only girlfriend he's ever had (as an adult, that is) got herself turned into a half-vampire while attempting to interview a bunch of vampires out for Harry's head. And eventually, Harry was forced to kill her in Changes.
- Or the time a demon interrupted one of their dates.
- Wizards live longer than muggles. Some of the more venerable wizards know their great-great-great-great-grandkids, and sometimes further.
- Elaine, his teenage girlfriend. Harry killed their adoptive father Justin DuMorne in self defense, and Elaine disappeared in the property damage. Note - they were both adopted and fairly late in life at that, so there shouldn't be any Squick involved in their relationship.
- Karrin Murphy, a vanilla mortal, has deep feelings for Harry and he has them back, but as she knows he can live for centuries and she will only live for one at most, she and he never get together, not even casually because Harry wouldn't do things by halves. As of Skin Game the two are making significant progress towards a relationship.
- The Scarlet Pimpernel: Percy Blakeney had his marriage (nearly) killed by The Masquerade. He probably would have told his wife the truth had he not been led to believe she was a sympathizer for the other side just a few hours after the wedding. The lies and miscommunications that followed drive the plot of the book.
- Comes up in the first three books of Marie Brennan's Onyx Court series.
- In the first book, Lune and Deven fall in love while Lune is posing as a mortal to uncover secrets in Queen Elizabeth's court. Lune spends much time angsting about how he can never know what she truly is. Initially ends in a type 1B, but becomes a type 2B once Deven gets into terrible trouble trying to find her again.
- In the second book, Antony refuses to tell his wife, Kate, about the Onyx Court, and she calls him on keeping secrets more than once. Unusually, nothing ends up changing. Kate just eventually accepts that there are certain things that her husband can't/won't tell her.
- The third book also plays with this trope: while The Masquerade has clearly not limited Galen's dating life, society dictates that he must marry outside it. Galen agonizes for months about whether and how to tell his fiancee, Delphia. Subverted when he does decide to tell her and her reaction, after a brief initial shock, is pretty much, "Faeries living under London? Cool!"
- The stress of the masquerade getting in the way is part of the reason Thrix is the Christmas Cake in Lonely Werewolf Girl (the other part of the reason is she is a chronic workaholic). In the sequel her only love interest turned out to be a case of Dating Catwoman.
- Spike and Cindy from the Thursday Next series are a subversion as they're happy together and Spike manages to fail to understand when Cindy subtly tells him.
- Referenced in The Laundry Series. People in the Laundry are both legally and magically compelled not to speak of their work with anyone not cleared to know about magic and the occult, so Bob reflects on the difficulties this situation creates for one's social life when you're not permitted to explain a single thing about one's work. Bob and others in the Laundry are basically forced to only date within the agency, which for Bob meant a very restricted dating pool of one delusional narcissist his age until Mo joined up. Everyone is almost entirely cut off from their families for the same reasons - all Bob's parents know is that he's a civil servant.
- Discussed in How to Be a Superhero as an inevitable side effect of having a Secret Keeper; no matter how well-meaning your significant other is, she's not going to understand superheroic issues like cleaning alien hell-slime off your costume.
- In Beautiful Creatures, the Caster community keeps to itself. This makes dating nearly impossible for Lena, once she starts becoming interested in the mortal Ethan.
- In Shaman Blues' backstory, the Masquerade managed to kill Witkacy's dating life even when he didn't know about it - his shamanic heritage pushed him to try stronger and stronger drugs, while Konstancja's watered-down supernatural sense had her see something around him, driving her away.
- Sort-of in Super Powereds. Heroes are on-call 24/7 with no set days off, so it's not very easy to settle down. However, a number of Heroes have managed to start families, provided they find a spouse willing to accept this life. Families typically know the Hero's secret identity, so the secrecy isn't an issue, although they do have to keep it a secret from everyone else. In his heyday, Titan was known as a family man and always spoke of how much they meant to him. Then he got caught having sex with another man and fled the resulting scandal instead of confronting it. Him abandoning his family killed his family life more than being forced out of the closet, and his sons have never forgiven him.
- One of Reluctant Sidekick Mark's biggest issues with Ace Lightning is losing girlfriends who think he's an insensitive jerk whenever he stands them up to go help Ace save the world. Two series on one of them is still bitter.
- Starts with Sydney's fiancé in the pilot of Alias and goes downhill from there. After the Time Skip between seasons 2 and 3, she barely interacts with anyone who's not in on the conspiracy or a target of her mission.
- Wesley and Cordelia discuss this several times on Angel, usually coming to the conclusion that they're doomed to be alone forever. Given the lousy luck they both had with romance throughout both series, it seems they were right.
- Wesley's girlfriend was introduced as the daughter of a client; the father intended to use her as a Virgin Sacrifice. She eventually breaks up with Wes after he gets shot, as she realizes how dangerous his job is.
- Cordelia went on dates a lot in the first season, but stopped when the work became more time-consuming. Her three main love interests were all part of the masquerade, as were the major love interests of the rest of the main characters.
- Arrow is full of this for Oliver Queen at the end of season one. Although there's a healthy dose of guilt added to the mix.
- George from Being Human deals with this twice: with Sam, his rebound girlfriend, whom he nearly transforms in front of because she won't let him get out of going to a parent-teacher conference for her daughter on the night of a full moon; and, most notably, with Nina, who starts out quite angry and annoyed about being constantly left out of the loop when it comes to George's secrets and then gets introduced to the masquerade when George accidentally scratches her partway through a transformation and turns her into a werewolf. Her inability to cope with her introduction to the masquerade leads them to break up for a while.
- In Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Buffy's social life was constantly being derailed by this. An early boyfriend, Owen, followed her one night, and nearly got killed by a vampire, without ever realizing that's what happened to him, but he got off on the excitement and wanted to do it again, so she dumped him. Scott Hope dumped her because she seemed "distant." Then with Riley in season 4, it turns out that they are both in on the masquerade, and have been hiding it from each other, until they run into each other in the middle of a fight. They get over it after learning about each other though. Something similar happens with Principal Wood in season 7, though in his case he had full knowledge of who Buffy was. Xander and Willow's major love interests were part of the masquerade or, in Oz's case, introduced.
- Happens all the time in Charmed. Most of the main characters end up married to men who were already part of the masquerade to avoid this.
- In Chuck, Chuck's few attempts to date someone who wasn't Sarah ended up going sour pretty much for this reason.
- One episode revealed the case where he was on the other side of the equation. His college girlfriend was actually recruited into Fulcrum probably even before they started dating. After he was expelled, her handler forced her to end the relationship. When they meet again, they're on opposite sides (he's CIA/NSA, she's Fulcrum). The irony is that he was expelled to keep him from being recruited by the government in the first place.
- Daredevil: When Matt Murdock and Karen Page initially start dating partway through season 2, him being the Devil of Hell's Kitchen puts a serious strain on their relationship, since Karen has sensed for a while that Matt is hiding something (due to Matt and Foggy not being good at inventing convincing cover stories for the injuries Matt receives as Daredevil), although she's given him room by not pressing him to tell her what is up with him. And Matt, for his own end, is reluctant to tell Karen his secret because he thinks that will keep her safe and he fears that she'll react as badly as Foggy did when he found out. For an example of this, he turns down her inviting him up to her apartment for sex after their first date because he doesn't want to have to explain the source of his scars to her. Their brief dating period is ended in "Guilty as Sin" as a result of Matt being more focused on running around with Elektra instead of contributing to Frank Castle's trial, and Karen stumbling upon a wounded Elektra in Matt's bed and thinking Matt is cheating on her. It isn't until the season 2 finale that Matt finally snaps out of this mentality and decides to tell Karen his secret in hopes of rekindling the flame.
- Just ask Cally Stone of Dark Oracle about this one. Every potential relationship she has (and most of her friendships) get torpedoed by her attempts at dealing with the comic book that has taken over her life. Conversely, her brother Lance, and his best friend Dizzy, probably wouldn't have dating lives if the comic had forced them together with their respective girlfriends.
- This trope's pretty much in full force in Dexter. Invoked in the 4th season finale quite literally, when the serial killer Dexter was trying to kill murders Dexter's wife.
- Doctor Who:
- In Series 8, Clara Oswald begins a relationship with fellow teacher Danny Pink and initially keeps her adventuring with the Doctor a secret from him, despite his being puzzled by her occasional odd behaviour, such as showing up for a date covered in seaweed or for some reason wearing a space helmet. Finally, the masquerade is lifted in "The Caretaker", which causes Danny to issue a "don't lie to me again" ultimatum. The masquerade is reestablished a few episodes later when Clara lies to Danny about continuing to travel with the Doctor, while he's under the impression she's given it up. He eventually finds out the truth and tells them they need some time apart for her to figure out what she really wants. She finally calls him to try to make peace, and he gets hit by a car and dies. Then he becomes a Cyberman and gives his life to save Earth, afterwards sacrificing his one chance to come back to her from the afterlife by sending the Afghan kid he accidentally shot while in the Army.
- In "Extremis", Bill has brought home her date, Penny, and they're drinking tea, when they hear the TARDIS materializing in Bill's bedroom. A few minutes later, the Pope bursts into the room, ranting in Italian, and then leaves abruptly. When Bill and Penny go to her bedroom, they see the TARDIS — and several priests, who shrug. All this causes Penny to freak out and flee the scene.
- Played straight in The Flash (2014), which isn't helped by the fact that Barry is still pining for Iris. When he finally meets a girl, their dates go sour, since he keeps getting called away by Cisco telling him about crimes in the area (although, the first time, he's able to return without the girl noticing anything). She eventually ends the relationship, since she assumes he's still not over Iris. After Eddie finds out the truth about Barry, this also starts affecting his relationship with Iris, since she can tell he's hiding something from her. Joe strictly forbids Eddie telling her the truth, and Iris goes back to her dad's home for a while. Barry seems to convince her that Eddie is protecting her from all the bad stuff he sees as a cop, and Iris appears to understand, but then she tells Eddie that this won't work in a relationship. After Iris finally figures out the truth, Eddie breaks off their relationship, as Eobard Thawne has shown him an article from the future written by "Iris West-Allen", showing that Eddie doesn't get the girl in the end. He ends up changing his mind and tries to rekindle the relationship, only to commit a Heroic Suicide to stop his descendant from killing Barry and everyone else. In seasons 2 and 3, Barry finally starts a relationship with Iris. At first, they try to separate their personal life from their life on Team Flash, but they quickly realize it's not possible and accept it.
- Grimm: Nick's duty as a Grimm puts a strain on his relationship with Juliette; his aunt anticipated this, so she told him he should break up with her, though he didn't listen. She's used to him being out late, since he's a cop, but she turns down his proposal because she feels as though he has grown distant and is hiding something. When he tries to tell her the truth about TheMasquerade, she doesn't believe him and tells him he "needs help."
- Later, at the end of the second season, after collapsing from a gambit by one of Nick's enemies that caused Juliette to forget all about Nick, and only him, she eventually regains her memories and learns about the whole affair by pressuring his Wesen friends to be honest with her. When she sees Bud, Rosalie, and Monroe change, she leaves the spice shop only to return a minute later and reveals she will learn to handle it and wants them to tell her everything.
- After that, they appear to grow closer again, and she even finds out that one of her best friends is a Wesen. However, even then she realizes that Nick is still hiding some things from her, such as the fact that his mother is still alive. This nearly comes to a head when Juliette finds out that Adalind pulled a Bed Trick on Nick and tells him that she's not sure she can handle it anymore. After Adalind's spell causes Nick to lose his powers, they appear to grow closer again, now that they have a chance to be normal again. When their friends are threatened, she agrees that they need to undergo a ritual to restore Nick's Grimm abilities. This appears to work, but then Juliette turns into a Hexenbiest. This appears to be a final nail in the coffin of their relationship, as she ends up leaving him and even sleeps with Renard. Later, she finds out that Adalind is pregnant with Nick's child, and Nick's unwillingness to let her kill other other Hexenbiest causes her to turn against him in the worst way possible. She nearly kills Monroe, refuses any attempts to make her normal, and sets up Nick's mother to be killed by the Royals. At the end of the season, when Nick refuses to kill her, she tries to kill him, only to be killed by Trubel, who knew that Nick wouldn't be able to do it. It's later revealed that Juliette survived, sort of, and becomes an emotionless Hexenbiest assassin working for Hadrian's Wall, a secret government agency dedicated to stopping Black Claw. Meanwhile, Nick starts a relationship with Adalind, who has mellowed out significantly after losing her powers and bearing Nick's child.
- H2O: Just Add Water zigs and zags around on this trope with the four different mermaids (and one secret keeper) over the seasons:
- Cleo and Lewis' troubles have little to do with the masquerade, and are more mundane in nature. He's a little too involved in helping that it makes him a poor boyfriend.
- Emma's boyfriends become pushy over the secret and Emma pushes them away over it (or it causes a huge fight). She only reveals her secret to her second love interest in the last episode.
- Rikki starts out with the problem of being a mermaid in love with a guy (Zane) whose made it his only mission to prove Mermaids exist. Later he feels that mermaid stuff is coming before him in in their relationship. Incidentally Rikki's closeness to her mermaid sisters is strained when she lets Zane know she is, but doesn't tell them, and forbids him from telling them he knows. So we have a Masquerade in a Masquerade. Bella's initial problems with Will are much along these lines, as he's sure weird stuff is going on and wants the truth (which Rikki, Cleo, Bella, and Lewis don't want him to know).
- Lewis as secret keeper ends up straining his relationship with Charlotte since he must keep running to Cleo (his ex) and her friends when they are in trouble since he's the only one they trust with their secret. Once that's sorted the only issue in their relationship is Charlotte is a super possessive controlling girlfriend on a mad power trip from having the combined powers of the other mermaids. Nothing can go wrong with that relationship!
- A staple of Hannah Montana. It's particularly amusing when Miley's date is somewhere in the vicinity of a Hannah event and she chooses (poorly) to attend both engagements simultaneously.
- Deconstructed on iZombie: Liv breaks up with Major so he won't find out she's a zombie, and the show ultimately portrays this as an extremely selfish decision that ruins his life and puts him in danger.
- When Lois and Clark start dating, him being Superman puts a serious strain on their relationship, since she doesn't understand why he keeps suddenly running off with terrible excuses. He tries to propose to her several times, only for this super-hearing to pick up someone calling for help or a crime reported on the police band. Things get better after she (finally) figures out his secret identity and they end up getting married.
- Happens (twice) on Nikita.
- Three times. This is probably going to be a recurring theme for this series.
- In Power Rangers Zeo Tommy tries to go out on a date with someone outside the masquerade only to be called away by preparations for the next monster attack. Later he actually gets to the date, only to be called away by an actual monster attack.
- In Reaper, Andi finds out Sam's secret (him working for The Devil) and stays with Sam.
- In The Sarah Jane Adventures, Sarah Jane gets a package containing an alien being while her boyfriend is visiting. Fortunately, Clyde and Rani are there to cover for her.
- Parodied in Saturday Night Live where Danny Devito played a mobster who kept telling his wife that he can't tell her what he does for a living. Not only does she clearly know, but she's advising him on what to wear not to be seen, which gun to use for his hit and where to dump the body.
- Has happened to both Clark and Oliver in Smallville.
- Chloe, whose whole relationship with Jimmy, from beginning to end, was strained by her keeping first Clark's secrets and later, Davis'.
- In Stargate SG-1: Samantha Carter has difficulty forming lasting romantic relationships for many reasons, including the fact that she secretly travels the galaxy and fights aliens for a living. (Being somewhat Married to the Job and having feelings for her commanding officer probably also have something to do with it, not to mention the fact that we don't call her "Black Widow Carter" for nothing.) The first time she manages to have a stable relationship with anyone outside the masquerade (romantic or not) is with her boyfriend Pete. He finds himself a little put out by her constant secrecy, but being a cop, decides to do some digging rather than forcing a confrontation. He ends up stumbling into the crossfire of a fight with a Goa'uld and getting shot, which leads Sam to give him the whole story while he's in the hospital. He actually accepts it extremely well, but their relationship eventually fails for other reasons.
- One of their interactions does bring about this great bit of dialogue:
Pete: I realize this must be weird for you, worrying about place settings when we can be destroyed by aliens at any minute.
Sam: A little.
Pete: ... We're not about to be destroyed by aliens, are we?
- Of course, they are right about to be destroyed by aliens, them and the rest of the galaxy.
- One of their interactions does bring about this great bit of dialogue:
- Suits has obvious attraction between Mike and Rachel, but Mike realizes he can't continue the relationship while hiding the fact he doesn't have a law degree. Harvey orders Mike to end the relationship, and he reluctantly obeys. They later get together and Mike tells her the truth because he decides that he loves her too much to lie to her. She decides to keep his secret.
- Harvey's relationship with Scotty gets strained because he cannot tell to her why he is taking some very unorthodox legal actions. Telling her that that his associate does not have a law degree and his actions are necessary to maintain that fraud is out of a question since it would put her in a horrible legal and ethical position. It does not help that the last time they dated, she broke off the relationship because Harvey would not open up to her.
- This happens in Teen Wolf. A Type Three for Scott and Allison. Scott loved to whine and moan about it and pass his masquerade duties on to someone else (mainly Stiles) so that he could try to avert the trope.
- This happens in Torchwood too. When Gwen's boyfriend Rhys finds out, however, their relationship improves considerably after a bit of awkwardness with the rest of the team.
Ianto: Well, this is unprecedented, the fiancé finding out.
Tosh: Mainly because we're all sad and single.
- Straker's marriage in UFO was destroyed by keeping SHADO secret from his wife. It didn't help when she caught him meeting with one of the Bridge Bunnies and he was unable to tell her why.
- This happens in The Vampire Diaries with Stefan and Elena. This is because Stefan kept his identity as a vampire a secret from Elena.
- On Warehouse 13, Pete's love interest fled the town after being possessed by an artifact that caused her to try and kill him. Thankfully, she stopped him before he used up his one chance to tell someone the truth about his job.
- The entire 'subplot' mechanic in Spycraft is this trope, with about half the standard subplots being about the difficulties caused in your personal life by your spy antics and the other half being about your personal life popping up and messing up missions. It's a lot more entertaining than it sounds.
- Similarly, the "story hooks" in superhero game Truth & Justice are designed to enable this. Your Qualities (skills and traits) are also your health, so taking damage decreases them - and the first Quality you assign damage to in a fight is your vote for where your plot goes next. Mind that you can have relationships as Qualities. This lead to the joke that you could punch Spider-Man in the Girlfriend and that's why there was always trouble with Mary Jane.
- Present in all World of Darkness splats, and enforced for vampires (who have to include mundanes in their social circle to stay alive) and werewolves (who can only breed with mundanes and have mechanically strong basic drives). Tends to be especially bad for werewolves in the New World of Darkness, since their significant other being upset with them over disappearing every night for a quarter of each month and yelling at them about it can sometimes provoke a death rage, which is pretty much what it sounds like.
- Averted in the Persona 3 and Persona 4 games from the Shin Megami Tensei franchise. Later into the games, you will actually find your life much much easier if you date/socialize/karaoke/have coffee on a regular basis and cram only for the exams. The dates in Persona 3 are even designed such that you are only required to max out your Knowledge stat by the last quarter of the game.
- A major reason why Solas in Dragon Age: Inquisition breaks up with the Inquisitor following the conclusion of their romance arc is because he is actually the Dread Wolf of the elven pantheon, The Trickster god supposedly responsible for the fall of the elven empire of Arlathan, and he refuses to get more serious under false pretenses. His plan to collapse the Veil and restore Arlathan at the expense of modern Thedas and everyone in it tends to put a damper on things as well.
- In Hatoful Boyfriend Yuuya is by far the flirtiest of the potential boyfriends, one of the friendliest and the one who shows the most interest in Hiyoko. He's also got a reputation as an "infamous studmuffin". Even the Guys Want Him! But it's quickly evident that he is The Tease - his reputation gives him a good excuse to be absent as much as he is. If pursued he fears for Hiyoko drawing the ire of his enemies and tries vaguely to dissuade her. If she insists and keeps insisting, he inducts her into the world of espionage.
- This trope is why so many superheroes from the Global Guardians PBEM Universe are divorced (in some cases, divorced multiple times). It also explains why so many of them are "girl/guy in every port" types.
- In Spinnerette, on top of the usual schedule priority issues, Heather has to wear a fat suit to hide her extra arms.
- Terry McGinnis of Batman Beyond: His steady girlfriend Dana got really sick of being perpetually Stood Up, and his foray into other prospects got him into a Dating Catwoman mess. Luckily for him, Dana eventually comes around, as seen in the Distant Finale the show got in Justice League. She knows his secret identity by then, so at some point she either figured it out or Terry wised up and just told her.
- Danny Phantom: Danny and Valerie are type 3. Valerie breaks up with Danny because, ironically, It's Not You, It's My Enemies. (They're a Dating Catwoman pair; Danny knew her other identity, but Valerie was in the dark.)
- American Dragon: Jake Long: Zig zagged via type 3B. Jake meets Rose at the start of his Masquerade, dates her, finds out she's on the other side of it and breaks up with her, gets her back via Heel–Face Turn, she breaks up with him (due to his grandfather warning that the relationship was a distraction), she starts considering getting back together with him, then she gets rewritten in history and Jake is left a wreck. His next two dating prospects at least have the decency to be a disaster right out of the gate.
- Although, Rose eventually gets her memories back during the Grand Finale, so the door is left often for them to have a happy ending.
- In Sym-Bionic Titan, Kimmy is fed up with Octus (with Lance and Ilana) "going to the bathroom" all the time, especially when he leaves right before the prom.
- Jem and Jerrica Benton are the same person. Unfortunately, Jerrica's boyfriend Rio doesn't know this, and he falls in love with Jem. If she only told Rio the truth everything wouldn't be so complicated and she wouldn't have to be her own boyfriend's mistress.
- In W.I.T.C.H., when Matt and Will started dating, he got more than a little suspicious of why she kept running off. Once he found out the reason why, he was more supportive... though, it didn't stop him from wanting to help. By the end of the second season, they evolved into a Battle Couple.
- Peter from The Spectacular Spiderman is a Type 1 with Liz. He had to keep missing dates with her to fight crime, and he eventually broke up with her so she'd be free to seek out someone else.
- Men in Black: The Animated Series has a pre-MiB girlfriend run into J while he and K are on stakeout. After they kiss a bit, K (who was distracted) neuralizes the girl and tells her to go home.
- More like the Masquerade Will Ruin Your Friendship, but the same general concept applies to Peter's and Harry's friendship in Ultimate Spider-Man. Peter's inability to tell Harry the truth along with the constant ditching puts a considerable strain on their friendship.
- In his autobiography, Have a Nice Day!, Mick Foley recounts having a conversation with a woman he was dating shortly before he was to lose a Loser Leaves Town match in his independent days. Mick tries his best to uphold Kayfabe, dancing around the fact that he would have to leave her, when the girl revealed that A) she already knew wrestling was fake, and B) she'd deduced he was going to lose, and leave town, because he'd already packed his things in his car.
- Such is the life of intelligence agents and certain special forces. However in the case of the CIA, at least, agents are permitted one contact on the "outside" to know who they really work for in the event something unfortunate does happen.
- Indeed, CIA agents are generally permitted to tell whoever it is they're in a long-term relationship with at the time, as well as certain other people if the circumstances require it. This is a lot easier (for most agents, at least) than you might think; being a CIA agent isn't usually so much about having a fake identity and running around chasing people as it is a lot of making contacts and so on while using your own name and lying about your job to everyone on the outside. As far as your parents (for instance) or any short-term flings you might have are concerned, you probably work for the Department of State or Defense or Agriculture, or perhaps even a private company.
- This is what happened to Carlos Hathcock. Only in his case, he was already married when his wife found out that he was a Marine sniper, after which she freaked out and left him.