"Let no tears add to their hardships As the soldiers pass along, And although your heart is breaking, Make it sing this cheery song: Keep the Home Fires Burning, While your hearts are yearning. Though your lads are far away They dream of home. There's a silver lining Through the dark clouds shining, Turn the dark cloud inside out 'Til the boys come home."
— Ivor Novello & Lena Ford
, "Keep the Home-Fires Burning
Lots of stories are about The Hero
and comrades as They Fight Crime
. This story focuses on The Hero
's lovers, family, and friends back home
, often in a Lower Deck Episode
, as they try keep normal life together and not go crazy from loneliness and worry. British examples will exhibit lots of Stiff Upper Lip
. Romantic partners will find renewed determination that I Will Wait for You
or succumb to Absence Makes the Heart Go Yonder
The usual portrayal involves families of the military
and other warriors: soldiers are subject to long, distant deployments with little contact back home, and combat situations always involve the fear of injury and death. Families of police officers, sailors, and superheroes can also feel like this.
- Police Officers & Firefighters: They get regular time off, and they're (usually) home for dinner, but the daily risk of death is still present.
- Sailors (non-military): Long deployments in a dangerous profession, but with fewer enemies actively gunning for your sailor's blood. But there's always the suspicion he's got a girl in every port.
- Superheroes: Arguably the most stressful for families of all. Regular combat deployment with little warning or time off, since The Hero is always "on call"; enemies out for blood; and if The Hero's identity is secret, there are few people their loved ones can turn to for support.
Can lead to Unfortunate Implications
when the act of waiting is portrayed as passive, the spouse left to endure is Always Female
, or the waiting person is put in a negative light if not a perfect, patient Proper Lady
— happy to stay home while The Hero
wanders afield having adventures. Can also deconstruct the facade of a proud military family by realistically depicting the Stepford Smiler
-levels of emotional stress and isolation that My Girl Back Home
shoulders with Heroic Resolve
, as well as the accepted but implicit pain caused when The Hero
chooses Loved I Not Honor More
The Determined Homesteader's Wife
can be this, if she doesn't wind up the Determined Widow
. See also Home Sweet Home
- You Know When The Men Are Gone by Siobhan Fallon is a collection of short stories focused mainly on the inner lives of U.S. military families waiting in Fort Hood. Fallon is herself a military wife.
- "Penelope", a short and searing poem by Dorothy Parker, from the perspective of Odysseus's wife.
- The poem "An Ancient Gesture" by Edna St. Vincent Millay, also about Penelope.
Your arms get tired, and the back of your neck gets tight;
And along towards morning, when you think it will never be light,
And your husband has been gone, and you don't know where, for years.
Suddenly you burst into tears;
There is simply nothing else to do.
- In a non-romantic version of this, in The Dresden Files novel Cold Days, when Harry goes back to visit Chicago, he finds, to his shock his Godmother, Leanansidhe has been keeping his obligations current during his absence. Due to the nature of the benefactor, he is more than a bit concerned.
- The Lord of the Rings: Éowyn was ordered by Théoden and Aragon to stay behind in Edoras, she does not take it well.
- Another non-romantic version: Hestia in Percy Jackson and the Olympians, who stands watch over Olympus while the other gods are off fighting. She even says the trope name in a discussion with Percy and Nico.
Truth in Television
- Army Wives
- The Highlander: The Series episode "They Also Serve..." focused on the Watchers, the mysterious organization who observed and recorded the constant warfare between the immortals but (theoretically) never interfered in the ongoing fights.
- Bomb Girls
- The family plotlines on Rescue Me exhibit this trope.
- Ask any career military family.
- Or any police officer's family.
- Any nation with compulsary military service for a large majority of citizens, especially if there is a powerful and hostile neighbour. The stress and anxiety of those left behind after a major deployment is intense.