Underdressed for the Occasion
What to wear, what to wear? Choosing the right outfit can be tricky, particularly when you're headed off to an important party, a Fancy Dinner
, or a hot date. Sometimes, making the wrong decision can lead to public humiliation... especially if you failed to realize just how formal the event was going to be.
Showing up underdressed for a formal event can simply be played for comedy: it's frequently invoked in romantic comedies as part of a disastrous date. As such, it functions as a minor obstacle on the path to romance. However, being underdressed can also be used dramatically. Arriving underdressed to a party or other social event often signals that the underdressed character is in some way an outsider. Frequently, the underdressed character is of lower class status than the rest of the guests. A poverty-stricken character may be underdressed due to an inability to afford formal wear. Alternatively, failure to adhere to dress codes indicates ignorance of the social code. Especially when this is part of an In with the In Crowd
situation, some of the humiliation stems from the way the character is displaying that he or she is not yet able to navigate these social waters. It's not uncommon for a more savvy (or simply wealthier) friend or Love Interest
to provide some assistance, because I Want My Beloved to Be Fashionable
Sometimes invoked intentionally in implicit symbolic rejection of whatever group is being intruded upon. The James Dean effect is popular for this. Much
easier for men to pull off,
especially if they are accompanied by a woman who does
belong in the setting and is dressed like it.
Contrast with It's a Costume Party, I Swear
, where someone else deliberately tricks a party-goer into over
dressing (by arriving in costume when everyone else will be in normal party attire). See also Dress Code
, which tends to apply to work or school, but can also apply to restaurants or bars. Not
to be confused with Birthday Suit Surprise Party
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Anime And Manga
- In one episode of Hana Yori Dango, Tsukushi shows up under-dressed for a party at the Domyoji estate. In this case, her wearing an inappropriately informal dress is a reminder of the class difference between her family and the Domyoji family.
- In an episode of Monster, Eva refuses to allow her bodyguard to come into a hotel with her because he doesn't meet the hotel's dress code. She subsequently takes him shopping for a suit and tie, which she forces him to wear when he accompanies her.
- In My Daddy Long Legs, this trope shows up in a nightmare Judy has in which she goes to New York to see Jervis Pendleton, only to be laughed at by his date, who tells her that she needs to change her clothes for the party. When Judy looks down, she's wearing her old orphan clothes from the first episode. It's a pretty good indicator of her anxieties about her socioeconomic class.
- In As Good As It Gets, Melvin Udall shows up inappropriately dressed for a restaurant with a dress code. It's not a matter of money here—he could afford a suit and tie—but his failure to realize that the restaurant had a dress code might serve as a reminder that he doesn't go out on dates all that often.
- The Sting. Henry Gondorff (going under the name "Shaw") shows up to join a poker game on a train.
Lonnegan: Mr. Shaw, we usually require a tie at this table. If you don't have one, we can get ya one.
- Top Secret!. Nick Rivers arrives at a fancy restaurant for dinner.
Nick: A table for two, please. The name is Rivers.
Maitre d': Ah, yes. Mr Rivers. I have it right here, but we require a jacket and tie for the dining room. We will be very happy to provide you with one.
- Averted in Titanic, as Jack plans to shows up to an upper class dinner in his grungy clothes but a kind-hearted friend lends him some formal wear.
- What a Girl Wants: Daphne Reynolds is convinced by her almost step-sister Clarissa Payne that the fashion show they are going to is informal, while its just the opposite. Much to Clarissa's dismay, everyone thinks that Daphne's one of the models, and she steals the show.
- Pulp Fiction. Vincent and Jules wear some very casual clothing to a meeting with their boss Marcellus, because they had to change out of what they were wearing due to the old clothes having Marvin's brain matter splattered all over them.
- Real Genius: Chris shows up to his job interview wearing deelyboppers and an "I Heart Toxic Waste" T-shirt. In this case, it's meant to establish the character as a Bunny-Ears Lawyer.
- In I ♥ Huckabees, one of the weird coincidences that kick off the plot involves Albert finding a business card in the pocket of a jacket loaned to him by the restaurant where he tries to dine without one.
- In First Kid , Sinbad's character Sam Simms is refused entry to a black tie event.
Sam: I know, sir, and I've got it covered: I'm black and I'm wearing a tie.
- In 2012, the Chiwetel Ejiofor character arrives at a formal White House event in casual clothes (having rushed back from the other side of the world, discovering the world is going to end). He needs to speak to powerful government people there. At first he's not allowed in, but then he is, after someone finds a suit jacket for him to wear.
- Subverted in Little Women. Meg makes a better impression at a gathering of wealthy socialites when she's wearing her own simple and rather worn out party dress than she does when she borrows a more expensive gown.
- In EF Benson's Queen Lucia, Lucia gives a party and raises the dress code to "Hitum," the highest possible level, at the last minute when she realizes that visiting opera singer Olga Bracely is going to be there. Olga herself, though, shows up in a simple blue dress that is barely "Scrub" (informal)—but she still comes off as more naturally sophisticated than Lucia and the other residents of Riseholme.
- The parable of the Wedding guest in Matthew 22:1-14 makes this trope Older Than Feudalism. The punishment for failing to come to the wedding feast in proper attire was unexpectedly harsh, too. Weeping and gnashing of teeth, indeed!
- In the later Discworld City Watch novels Vimes deliberately tries to be under-dressed for social occasions. He feels the official dress uniform of his rank is both impractical and insulting to watchmen everywhere. Plus he likes to intimidate and upset the nobs by wearing a nice set of battered armour to remind them they aren't above the law (anymore).
- The Red Dwarf novel, Last Human states that at some point before the accident, Lister was somehow invited to the officers' summer ball. The invitation told him to dress informally, so he turns up wearing football shorts. He is turned away by a suited officer. He laments that if they wanted him to dress like Noël Coward, they should have said so.
- Inverted in The Chronicles of Narnia—when Aslan magically summons soon-to-be-Queen Helen (a London cabbie's wife until that moment) to Narnia she is described as looking beautiful in her simple attire. The narrator informs us that if she had known this was going to happen and had put on her best outfit, she would have looked tacky.
- Harry Dresden once went to a White Council meeting wearing a bathrobe because his cat decided to use his proper robe as a litter box. Given that the White Council was meeting to discuss the war Harry started with the Red Court of vampires most of the assembled wizards believe he is deliberately insulting them.
Live Action TV
- How I Met Your Mother: The gang goes to a funeral, and Barney, who at all other times advocates wearing suits, shows up in sweats because he believes that a suit is only for happy occasions.
Barney: A suit is the sartorial equivalent of a baby's smile.
- On Frasier, Martin is humiliated when Frasier and Niles take him to a fancy restaurant and is rejected for not wearing a tie. He gets even by taking the boys to one of his favorite eateries, where the host cuts off Frasier's tie to enforce their casual dress code.
- Jennifer does this in Exes And Ohs, ending up staying through her ex's wedding wearing a sweat top. (In her defence, she hadn't meant to be there - the boat the wedding was on cast off before she could leave.)
- On It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia the gang shows up at a funeral in their everyday casual wear because Frank told them they were going to a barbecue.
- An episode of the revamped Doctor Who has the Doctor and Rose landing in 1879 at a house Queen Victoria will be staying at. Rose is wearing a denim miniskirt and a tight-fitting, low-cut shirt. Throughout the episode, she is described by the others as being naked.
- For reference, they were aiming to 1979, when an outfit like that would be acceptable. The Doctor is infamous for rarely arriving where (and when) he means to.
- Played in reverse in an episode of The Wizard: the central characters are invited to an afternoon garden party, and Tilly (a working-class woman in her sixties) embarrasses herself by coming tricked out in full evening wear.
- In Sherlock, the title character shows up at Buckingham Palace clad only in a Modesty Bedsheet. Admittedly he was brought there in a hurry, but he declines to change into more appropriate clothes when they're offered. (Though that's at least partly to twit his brother.)
You are at Buckingham Palace - the very heart of the British nation. Sherlock Holmes: PUT YOUR TROUSERS ON!
- Interestingly, the men in suits refused to tell him where he's being taken. Naturally, after a quick Sherlock Scan, he figures it out, but still refuses to dress for the occasion.
- Played with in Downton Abbey, where the distinctions between black tie, white tie, and merely "wearing a tie", are terribly important to the characters, but can seem opaque to the viewers. Tom can show up to dinner very well-dressed by 21st century standards, but is treated like he's in a t-shirt.
- In the pilot of Bewitched, the snobby Rich Bitch Sheila Summers pulled this on Samantha Stephens, telling her to dress casually for a formal party. This was subverted in another episode four years later when Sheila invited the Stephenses to another party, telling them again it was casual. Samantha dressed formally only to find out that it actually was casual.
Samantha: Oh, that — that little double-crosser!
Darrin: She said casual.
Samantha: Well, she knew darn well I'd expect her to lie!
- In the Firefly episode "Shindig", the local ladies treat Kaylee's store-bought dress like this, though it seems to be more a matter of latching onto an excuse to act bitchy than any fault in the garment.
- Inverted in an episode of Sabrina the Teenage Witch where Harvey is going out with Sabrina and her father. He shows up wearing a suit and tie with his hair slicked into a short-back-and-sides. Sabrina and her father are dressed casually.
- In the Goosebumps episode "A Night In Terror Tower", Eddie and Sue aren't allowed to wait in the hotel restaurant because Eddie isn't wearing a dinner jacket, which is the dress code. The waiter does actually fetch one for him, though Sue is also wearing casual clothes but they don't have a problem with hers.
- Used very seriously in this Casting Crowns video, around the 2:30 mark.
- Casting Crowns made a similar reference to being under-dressed in church in their song "If We are the Body."
- Garth Brooks's "Friends in Low Places": "Blame it all on my roots/I showed up in boots/And ruined your black tie affair/The last one to know/The last one to show/I was the last one you thought you'd see there..."
- In Freefall, when Winston goes on his first date with Florence, he's wearing a T-shirt with "Cyber-Rap and the Philharmonic Orchestra" on the back. Florence has booked them in on a fancy, French restaurant. When she sees the T-shirt, she (rather insistently) offers to buy him a new shirt, since she had to borrow one of his on their first meeting. Winston readily agrees, mentally commenting "I don't know much about fashion, but when a dog is embarrassed to be seen with you, it's time to change clothes."
- In Misadventures Of Awkward Black Girl, J wears a t-shirt and sweatpants on her first date with White Jay, because Cece told her that white people are very casual and they're probably going to go outdoors. Unfortunately, White Jay is wearing a button down shirt and khakis. He calls her out on her outfit at the end of the episode.
- A Barbie: Life in the Dreamhouse short has Barbie's rival, Raquelle, trick Barbie and Nikki into wearing casual outfits to a formal dress party. Barbie and Nikki then reveal that their outfits can transform into ballgowns, so Raquelle has all the other guests put on bikinis to make those two seem overdressed.
- The opening of Daria features the family attending a wedding. Jake is in a tuxedo, Helen and Quinn are wearing fancy dresses, and Daria is in her normal outfit.
- In the Animaniacs episode "The Party", Robert Patrick shows up to the titular event in a cop uniform. When Ralph points out this is a "black tie affair", Patrick silently morphs T-1000 style into a tuxedo.
- When Harpo Marx and his future wife had their first date they went to a restaurant which required men to wear ties. Harpo wasn't wearing one, so he took off one of his socks and tied it around his neck as a tie. Every year on their anniversary he came down to breakfast wearing a sock-tie.
- Also a potential problem for service members due to the wide variety of uniforms one has to choose from. Showing up in the wrong uniform (say, camouflage fatigues for a formation requiring service dress uniform) at best shows that your chain of command is poor at communicating, and at worst that you didn't care to find out what uniform you should have been wearing.
- According to legend, Edgar Allan Poe was once invited to march in parade. The dress code simply stated "White cuffs and boots, under arms" - and he showed up naked except for white cuffs and boots. He was kicked out.
- Australian comedian Charlie Pickering tells the story of how his father wound up in Hawaiian dress at a black tie event — no, not merely "Hawaiian dress", but the most truly dreadful Hawaiian shirt, shorts, and hat imaginable. (In his book, Impractical Jokes he includes a picture, and Pickering's descriptions do not do justice to how mind-bendingly awful it is.) His unfortunate decision was the result of a prank.
- Soviet Premier Nikita Khrushchev, invited to a "white tie" White House dinner, deliberately wore the black business suit he was wearing when he arrived in the US, to send a message that he wasn't elitist.