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Bonding Over Missing Parents
Frank: "I never like it when people tell me, Sorry about your mom."
Leo: "It never feels genuine."
Frank: "But I'm sorry about your mom."
Leo: "Thanks.''
The Heroes of Olympus, "The Mark of Athena"

Alice has just met Bob, and although the two of them come from very different backgrounds, they have one very important character trait in common: Both of them have missing parents. It doesn't matter what the circumstances (although the circumstances might be very similar if only for plot convenience); one might have a Missing Mom and the other a Disappeared Dad, or maybe both of them have parents who were killed due to war violence, or maybe one or both of them never even knew their parents. Whatever the circumstances, this link between them is key to their relationship together.

Often, the "bonding" part of this trope is done in a scene designed to stir up some emotion, with the two characters alone together, maybe sitting on a hillside or something, and something in the conversation leads them to talk about their parents.

Variations of this can cover any missing relative, or anyone who is sufficiently close enough to a character that they consider each other family. A relatively common twist on this trope is a revelation that the two characters are missing the same exact person. (e.g., Luke and Leia learning that they are brother and sister.)

A Sub-Trope of Commonality Connection.

As a Death Trope, all Spoilers will be unmarked ahead. Beware.


Examples:

Anime and Manga
  • In Mahou Sensei Negima!, Negi and Asuna smooth out some initial conflict by bonding over their mutual parentlessness.
  • In the Nanoha StrikerS supplementary manga, Teana starts showing much more understanding and care (in her own way) for Subaru after learning about the death of Subaru's mother in the line of duty, since she herself lost her surrogate-parent brother in a similar fashion, in addition to her parents, who died earlier.
  • A one-sided version in One Piece. In Usopp's introductory arc, Usopp, whose father had left his family to become a pirate and whose mother died of illness sometime afterward, befriends Kaya to help her get over the recent death of both of her parents, having first-hand experience of what she was going through. However, the usage of this trope isn't brought up until the arc is over and Usopp has left the island both of them were living on, and not by Usopp himself, but by Kaya's butler, who had learned Usopp's back story from the other villagers and figured it out.
  • In Dragon Ball Z, this is how Gohan and Videl get to know each other personally, as opposed to just being crime-fighting martial artists.
  • In the Bokurano manga, Kanji and Ushiro got to know each other after encountering each other while visiting their mothers' graves. Ushiro's biological mother, however, wasn't actually dead at the time.

Comic Books
  • Batman and the first two Robins bonded over their parents being violently killed in front of them.
    • He also bonded with Green Lantern Hal Jordan the same way; for all the different ways they're at odds with each other, they're still boys who lost their fathers early on.
  • Implied in one Star Wars comic starring Boba Fett. Boba's latest target tries to throw him off by pointing him in the direction of a possible Jedi in hiding. Boba tracks the man down and blows up his house, but discovers that the man is no Jedi. He is merely the son of a Jedi who died in the battle of Geneosis (the same battle in which Boba's father Jango lost his life) and was left with nothing but his father's lightsaber as a keepsake. The man starts to cry as he states that he had to grow up without a father, remarking that he doubts Boba would be able to understand. As Boba recalls the moment he held Jango's severed head as a child, the man's own son arrives on the scene. He asks Boba if he's going to kill them both. In the next scene Boba tracks down and finishes off his original target.

Fan Fic
  • In Fly Free, Robin helps a lot of the messed up kids in Konoha by sharing parts of her past or things she's encountered. In Sasuke's case, it was this paired with their over-arching standing of being the Sole Survivors of their respective homes (the Uchiha for Sasuke and Ohara for Robin).
  • In Perfection Is Overrated, Mai and Nao chance upon each other in the hospital, where Mai visited Takumi and Nao visited her comatose mother; Mai learns about Nao's comatose mother at this point. However, one thing that helps them come to an understanding with each other over time is the contrasts between them- Mai has taken care of Takumi since her parents' deaths while Nao has no one of the sort, and Nao's mother could one day awaken from her coma- realizing the difference in their circumstances helps them understand the other and see their own past decisions in a new light.
  • In The Ariana Black Series, Ariana and Neville first get together when she's depressed about her dead mother/absentee father and he tells her about his parents' mental health issues.
  • In Empath: The Luckiest Smurf, it's explained as the reason that Papa Smurf is the sole parent figure of a hundred Smurfs.
  • In the MLP:FiM fan fiction Our True Colors, this is what cements the bond between Applejack and Pinkie Pie.

Film

Literature
  • In one story of TKKG, two side characters do this.
  • In A Little Princess, Sarah calms the tantrum-throwing Lottie by bonding with her over their dead mothers.
  • The lead characters of Left Behind: The Kids bond together when their parents are either raptured or killed.
  • In The Lord of the Rings both Faramir and Éowyn lost their mothers as small children and their fathers (or father figures) in the Battle of the Pelennor Fields. They bond over it among over things in the Houses of Healing.
  • Jerin and Ren in A Brother's Price both have dead fathers and living mothers, and talk a little about it.
  • Galaxy of Fear: Army of Terror has the Arranda kids and Luke Skywalker bonding over all of them being recent orphans.
  • Leo and Frank in The Heroes of Olympus, spend most of the third book disliking each other, but eventually bond over the deaths of their mothers.
  • In Leviathan, Prince Alex and Deryn/Dylan became close when they shared the pain of losing their parent(s).
  • A variant in Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix: after the death of Harry's Parental Substitute Sirius, the only person who is really able to console him is Luna, who tells him about how her mother died. It marks the first time Harry feels sorry for Luna, since before she had come off as kooky at best and annoying at worst.

Live-Action TV
  • One of the (many, many) bonds Mulder and Scully share in The X-Files is that both lose their respective fathers early in the series.
  • On Bones one of the first times Brennan was shown sympathising with another human being was when she revealed to a Foster Kid (whose foster brother had been killed) that she had been in the foster system too.
  • Merlin and Gwaine do this over their deceased fathers.
  • On Leverage Parker and Hardison have this during "The Stork Job".
  • In Supernatural both Castiel and Dean have fathers who abandoned them at some point in their lives. However Castiel's dad is God.
  • In the first season of Glee, Kurt and Finn bond over Kurt's dead mom and Finn's dead dad, Kurt telling Finn that he sometimes lies down on the floor next to the dresser that still smells of his mom's perfume, and Finn showing Kurt some of his dad's things. Later, Kurt's dad and Finn's mom marry each other.
  • The George Lopez Show, George is about to send Max's troublemaking friend Ricky home to his mother, only to find that like him, the mother is an alcoholic and the father abandoned them. Rather than leave Ricky with his mother (who is obviously very drunk), he offers to let him stay over for a few days and winds up arranging Ernie to be his foster parent.
  • In House of Anubis it's surprising how long it took for two people to bond over their parental issues, as everyone seems to have them. In this case, it was Jerome and Joy.

Video Games
  • Ace Attorney Investigations: Miles Edgeworth and Kay Faraday. Both their fathers were lawyers who were killed in the courthouse when they were about ten years old. This parallel does not go unnoticed by Edgeworth.
  • The first Mega Man Star Force game has its fair share of this. Geo and Sonia bond over his missing dad and her dead mother. Geo and Pat have an almost-romance over Geo's missing dad and Pat being an orphan.
  • A Dummied Out conversation in Mother 3 has Kumatora and Duster muse about how none of the three human protagonists have mothers. Kumatora is genuinely an orphan, and Duster's mother seemingly died before the White Ship departed. Likewise Hinawa isn't even confirmed to be Lucas's genetic mother.

Web Comics

Western Animation
  • Avatar: The Last Airbender loves this trope, usually with regard to Katara and Sokka's mother (who was killed in a Fire Nation raid of their colony):
    • Katara and Haru, as Haru's father was taken away from his family by the Fire Nation due to laws against earthbending in his town. This leads Katara to help him and his dad, who is on the same prison rig as Haru is taken to, when he gets arrested for the same reason.
    • Jet attempts to use this to manipulate Katara and Sokka into destroying a town occupied by the Fire Nation.
    • Katara and Zuko, during their Locked in a Room scene in the season 2 finale; when Katara mentions that the Fire Nation took her mother away, Zuko says, "That's something we have in common," and tensions cool for a while, until Zuko's Friend or Idol Decision between siding with Azula or making a Heel-Face Turn leads him to completely ignore all that bonding and side with Azula.
      • As a result, when Zuko sides with the Gaang for good, Katara's the last person to trust him until he helped her find her mother's killer.
    • Mako and Asami continue the tradition in the Sequel Series The Legend of Korra.
  • In Young Justice, Zatanna's mother isn't in the picture, and she suddenly loses her father when he sacrifices himself to become the vessel of Doctor Fate, and prevent him from keeping hold of Zatanna. While Robin has been forbidden by Batman to reveal his secret identity (and, with it, the fact that his parents were murdered when he was nine), he's usually the one shown grieving with or comforting her. He had a crush on her already, but the show seems to imply that his empathy was what pushed them towards their kiss in the finale.
  • An odd example from the 2012 Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles: Karai is giving April a Curb-Stomp Battle as April, near the breaking point, begins recounting all the weirdness and trouble she's had, ending with her (previously unmentioned) Missing Mom. Something about this causes Karai (who also has no visible mother in her life) to hesitate for just a second, allowing April to knock her down a staircase and escape. But in a later episode, she still tries to kill her.
  • Kaijudo: Ray and Allie bond over Ray's Disappeared Dad and Allie's Missing Mom. That's how their friendship started.

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