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Basic Trope: Apologizing to someone in the most insulting way possible.

  • Straight: Bob apologizes to Alice that she has no life and is a useless waste of space.
  • Exaggerated:
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  • Downplayed: Bob apologizes to Alice that she has bad breath.
  • Justified:
    • Alice demanded an apology for a minor slight.
    • Alice demanded an apology for something that wasn't Bob's fault in the first place.
    • Bob is just a plain jerk who is never sorry for anything.
    • Bob has a personality disorder and is either completely incapable of recognizing fault or is predisposed to see himself as the victim, so his apologies come from the place of someone who either doesn't think they did anything wrong or feels like they're being forced to apologize when the other person should be apologizing.
  • Inverted:
  • Subverted: Bob apologizes to Alice in an extraordinarily rude way, and Alice accepts it as a genuine apology due to the warrior culture of their homeland.
  • Double Subverted: Alice appears to accept Bob's apology as genuine, only to then give him a taste of his own medicine.
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  • Parodied: Bob and Alice live in a civilization of Proud Warrior Race guys who apologize by beating up the one they wronged to show how strong they think their victim is.
  • Zig Zagged: ???
  • Averted: Bob gives a heartfelt apology to Alice.
  • Enforced: "I don't want my Bob to feel weak when he apologizes. No wait. I'll have him apologize in a way that will piss the other characters off!"
  • Lampshaded: "Is that what you call an sincere apology?!"
  • Implied: We don't hear Bob's attempt at an apology, but it's pretty obvious from the fact everybody is even more outraged than they were a moment ago that it wasn't.
  • Invoked: Alice knows Bob could never apologize to her sincerely, and has him do this to her when her friends are watching so that they all take her side
  • Exploited: Alice knows that this is the best she'll get out of Bob, so she decides to either win his respect or drive him off by giving as good as she gets.
  • Defied:
    • Bob is about to insult Alice like this, then visibly calms down and offers a genuine apology.
    • "I demand an apology, and I expect from you to at least try to fake being sincere. If you even think of trying to insult me one more time and add "I'm sorry" as a preface so "I won't see it coming", I swear I will fucking kill you."
  • Discussed: "Geez, Bob, could you be a little less sarcastic with your "sorry" next time?"
  • Conversed: "Do you wonder why some characters never ask for an apology? I can hardly imagine a more likely time for some caustic rejoinder."
  • Deconstructed: Bob's decision to be cheeky in a moment when regret (even faked) would have gotten some heat off his back makes him lose his Last-Second Chance. Alice reaches her Rage Breaking Point and either storms off swearing she will never see him again as anything but an enemy or she does something in response that she (and Bob, although it's a big "maybe" on his end) will regret for a long time.

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