Yoko Oh No

Tommy: You say every girl that I date is going to break up the band.
Barry: Yeah, that's 'cause you only date band-breaker-uppers.
The Wedding Band

Basically Die for Our Ship, but aimed at a Real Life love interest of a celebrity or other public figure. She (and it almost always will be a woman) is hated by most of the fan base for "stealing him away from them", despite the painfully large probability that the fans have no hope of ever hooking up with him. The hate only intensifies if she happens to outlive him.

Seems to be most prevalent with musicians, but also happens with actors' and athletes' love interests. Whether or not they deserve the hate is another matter entirely. Here there be Fan Dumb, for you can rest assured that it will never, ever occur to any of the people who buy into this trope that the lives and relationships of celebrities are simply none of their business, or that celebrities are as entitled to pursue relationships with whomever they choose as anyone.

Characters like this pop up in fiction, of course, and not just with musicians - any group of friends is liable to complain that the hero's new girlfriend is trying to "break up the Five-Man Band". If she's a Temporary Love Interest introduced solely to use this plot, the girl in question may even be a direct parody of Yoko Ono herself. Whether this character is treated with cynicism, sympathy, or indifference varies from show to show.

Related to Dungeonmaster's Girlfriend, if the love interest and the rest of the band don't see eye-to-eye. Also see Love Makes You Uncreative if the love interest somehow manages to adversely affect the performance of the musician, actor, athlete, writer, or artist. See also Apple of Discord, Parent with New Paramour, Couple Bomb, and Friend Versus Lover. For the exact opposite, see Creator Couple and Contractual Purity. If you were thinking of another Yoko, see Last Kiss.

Real Life examples

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    The Trope Namer 
  • Yoko Ono, the Trope Namer and widow of Beatle John Lennon. She's frequently blamed for breaking up the Beatles, as per John's preference that she be by his side at all times despite the band's longstanding "no girlfriends in the studio" rule. Some claim Yoko upset the group dynamic by suggesting changes to the music or influencing John's opinions. While John was indeed inspired by Yoko and her work, arguably at the expense of his friendship with the others, the other Beatles themselves have acknowledged that the break-up was caused less by any scheming or maliciousness on her part (though they maintain that she wasn't the easiest person to get along with) and more by the fact that they'd simply been drifting apart musically and personally for some time, and she just happened to be there when it all imploded, leading to her becoming a scapegoat in the media.
    • During the Beatles' first appearance on The Ed Sullivan Show in 1964, the caption "SORRY GIRLS, HE'S MARRIED" was superimposed over John. This referred to John Lennon's first wife, Cynthia. He actually married her in 1962, just as the Beatles were taking off in Britain, but was convinced to keep his marriage secret by Brian Epstein precisely because Epstein was worried about the effect a married Beatle would have on the fans. In other words, this trope was kicking in for John Lennon before he'd even heard of Yoko Ono.
    • John Lennon to David Sheff in 1980: "When I met Yoko is when you meet your first woman and you leave the guys at the bar... The old gang of mine was over the moment I met her... but it so happened that the boys were well known and weren't just the local boys at the bar."

    Musicians' Love Interests 
  • Alicia Keys has been getting some of this, since she had an affair with Swizz Beats while he was married to Mashonda (though they were separated at the time).
  • Courtney Love, widow of Nirvana lead Kurt Cobain. Frequently accused by conspiracy theorists of having Kurt Cobain killed. The fact that she referred to Cobain as an "asshole" shortly after his death didn't help (although she called him an asshole for killing himself, and anger is a natural stage of grief.) Courtney's hostile relationship with the surviving members of Nirvana and Kurt's family didn't help. She also made a lot of enemies among fellow musicians. Suffice it to say that when Nirvana was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 2014, Courtney was booed when she stepped up to make a speech.
    • The more rational Cobain fans/Love haters will sometimes suggest that Love indirectly killed Cobain by introducing him to the infamous bad habits that did take his life. Even when Cobain was already on the road to addiction way before he met her.
    • The timing of Cobain's death right before the release of Hole's Live Through This makes one wonder. There's also the matter than Eldon Hoke, aka El Duce of The Mentors, claims Love once offered to pay him a large sum of money to off Cobain (though the fact that Hoke was a deranged sex offender who later ended up being killed by a train while drunk doesn't make him the most credible source in the world). Also, Cobain's suicide note didn't actually mention suicide; it read more like a rationalization for Cobain's merely wanting to quit the band.
      • The sheer logistics of somebody having somehow killed Cobain are absurd. But don't tell that to the Fandom. They'll go apeshit if you even DARE suggest Courtney Love isn't a horrible human being.
    • Nevermind (pun definitely intended) that Cobain exuded every conceivable sign of being suicidal and severely bipolar for his entire life (including trying to name an album "I Hate Myself and I Want to Die", but producers forced him to change the unsubtle title to "In Utero") and left a suicide note, and that Courtney Love was probably incapable of pulling off such a scheme without getting caught. In fact, Courtney and others staged an intervention shortly before Kurt's death. He went to rehab but then escaped back to Seattle, where he committed suicide.
    • Kurt Cobain overdosed quite a few times in his last years, and Love is blamed as trying to "poison" him. Except that she revived him each time. If she wanted to poison him, or wanted him to die, she would certainly wait for him to die before she phoned paramedics to say she "found him" dead.
    • Some Nirvana fans claim that Kurt Cobain wrote Hole's Live Through This. Everyone involved in making the record had said that it was Hole's work (although Kurt Cobain did sing backup on two songs, and you have to actually listen carefully to hear him.)
    • Primus and Tom Waits have their take on it too. Maybe.
  • One case where the hate actually turned out to be entirely deserved (though only seen years later by all involved except the other band members, his relatives, and an angry Vocal Minority of fans) was when ex-Idol Singer Kaori Moritani married Toshi of X Japan. Soon after the marriage around 1996, Kaori recruited Toshi into a religious group called Home of Heart led by her friend (and likely lover) Masaya/Tooru Kurabuchi, and as a result of joining the religious group, Toshi left X Japan and renounced rock music and Visual Kei entirely in 1997, denouncing it as evil, breaking up the band and destroying or straining his friendships with all of his bandmates for around ten to twelve years. It would take until late 2009 for him to realize that the religious group was a Scam Religion and he had been a victim of Financial Abuse, and to seek a divorce and bankruptcy protection as a result.
  • Heather Mills, ex-wife of Beatle Paul McCartney. Their very public breakup made matters worse, and Mills certainly didn't endear herself to the public after the divorce. The extremist and confrontational approach Mills took to animal rights, in contrast to Linda's and Paul's more moderate stance, didn't help matters. It got to the point where some commenters claimed she had beaten out Yoko as most hated Beatles love interest.
    • Before Heather Mills, there was Linda Eastman. She got far less hate, however (indeed, approximately half the shit that Mills received was based on the fact that Paul met and married her not very long after Linda died). Linda did get flak for not being ladylike and upper class like Paul's first girlfriend Jane Asher, but most of it was during the period she and Paul performed, with other musicians, as Wings. Her perceived lack of musical talent led to such cruel jokes as "What do you call a cow with wings?" This ended after Paul returned permanently to his solo career, and the fact that she was struggling with cancer made the public averse to heckling her.
      • There's an in-concert recording in circulation, the authenticity of which was never denied by the McCartneys, of Linda's singing isolated off the mixing board. Apparently, her microphone was always turned off, and she was just allowed to think that she was up there singing. Being a bad singer doesn't mean she was a horrible bitch like her haters used to say, though.
      • Besides, it was Paul's idea to put Linda in the band. Linda was a photographer, not a musician, and she had her own career before she met Paul. She always admitted that she was no virtuoso. The fact that she and Paul were Happily Married for 29 years helped diffuse the hate.
    • The other Beatle wives and girlfriends had to deal with this in spades, particularly during the initial rush of Beatlemania. Pattie Boyd and Maureen Cox, the first wives of George Harrison and Ringo Starr respectively, were subjected to beatings, scratchings, and death threats from fans who were upset that "their" boys had been stolen.
  • Nancy Spungen was often considered the "Yoko Ono" of seminal British punk band The Sex Pistols and has been the subject of considerable controversy. A troubled and possibly mentally ill teenage groupie who got involved with troubled Sex Pistols "bassist" Sid Vicious, Nancy has been blamed for Sid's heroin addiction and degeneration. She was hated by other Pistols members (being an American didn't help) and ridiculed by the press. While most agree that she did introduce Sid to heroin, he was well-known to have already been regularly abusing a number of other drugs (mostly speed) and her influence on his already dramatically self-destructive behaviour is very likely exaggerated. She was murdered shortly after the Sex Pistols broke up. Although Sid was arrested for the murder, many believe that her murder was committed by a drug dealer in a deal gone bad. Those crazy kids may just have been meant for each other. Keep in mind that Sid's own mother Anne was a heroin addict, who provided him with his fatal dose. For some, intentionally.
  • Brad Nowell of Sublime was married to his wife, Troy, for all of two weeks before dying of a heroin overdose on the very day the band finished recording the album that would make them famous. It didn't help that the name "Sublime" was copyrighted only under Brad's name, leaving full rights to all of the band's music and merchandising in the hands of his widow, and not his former bandmates, Eric Wilson and Bud Gaugh. This culminated in a fierce legal battle when Wilson and Gaugh attempted to reunite the band with a new singer. Although many fans opposed the use of the Sublime name themselves, the argument that the decision to use it should be in the hands of the surviving band members and not the singer's girlfriend has some merit.
  • When she was dating Ritchie Neville from the Boy Band Five, Billie Piper was subject to this. These days, Billie Piper is a household name and well-accepted actress in Britain and no one cares about Five any more.
  • Another Japanese victim: Ami Onuki from Puffy Ami Yumi, the wife of Teruhiko "Teru" Kobashi from GLAY. Western fangirls keep insisting they're "just about to get divorced", no matter what Ami does and says about that (like, you know, using both her engagement and wedding rings in almost any Puffy picture she's featured in).
  • The other half of Puffy, Yumi Yoshimura, was subject to a lot of fangirl ire when she married very popular singer Takanori Nishikawa, better known as T.M.Revolution. When Nishikawa divorced her four years later after evidence she had cheated on him surfaced, the hatred intensified, but was surely accompanied by plenty of schadenfreudic glee.
  • Megumi Oishi, media talent wife of the J-Rock star Hyde. For his part, Hyde never made a secret of his longtime crush on her, which dates to from before he even met her in person; consequently, there are just as many fans that were very happy at the news of their engagement and marriage.
  • Miyavi (first from Due Le Quartz, now in S.K.I.N) marries Idol Singer Miyuki "Melody" Ishikawa. Fangirl wankery ensues.
  • Rare male example: some fans of the Spice Girls went up in arms for this reason when David and Victoria Beckham first got engaged. These days feelings seem to be reversed, with Victoria getting flak from David Beckham fans, and even worse if said fangirls are into slashing Beckham with Michael Owen.
  • Iman, wife of David Bowie, gets some of this. (If you believe the Areaologists, it's because she's officially ended the age of Free ShArea.)
    • Not as much as Angie, despite the fact that she didn't really have to Die for Our Ship.
  • Tiffany Darwich was a popular Idol Singer during the mid and late 1980s. When she had the New Kids on the Block as back-up artists during her tour, their fame sky-rocketed and soon they were more famous than she was. When Tiffany briefly dated one of the New Kids, Jonathan "Jon" Knight... well, Hell broke loose, and Tiffany was hotly bashed by the same teenage girls who used to love her.
    • Made Hilarious in Hindsight by the fact that Jonathan later revealed he was Straight Gay, and that he and Tiffany actually were more like Platonic Life Partners: Tiffany was among the first ones who said so, which later Jon himself confirmed. She was rather worried because she was the one who (accidentally) outed Jon to the public, but he told her not to worry about it; he had came out to friends and family years before, and although he never made any real public announcement, it was never really a secret.
  • Gerard Way from My Chemical Romance and Lyn-Z from Mindless Self Indulgence. Somewhat unusual in that the bitching comes from both bands' fanbases.
    • Two words: Eliza Cuts. His marriage to the lovely and talented Lyn-Z is considered by some to be an upgrade by several miles, especially since reading the "I am not just Mrs. Gerard Way" article.
  • Many fans of the progressive metal band Queensr˙che feel that ever since lead singer Geoff Tate's wife, Susan, took over the band's management, things have gone downhill. This discussion elaborates further on the point, and Michael Wilton's testimony confirmed as much once the band fired both Geoff and Susan Tate in June 2012.
  • Marcello Cabuli. The husband of Tarja Turunen from Nightwish, who's earned a lot of the flak for Tarja's problems with the band, ending in a rather nasty Take That firing.
    • Also, you wouldn't even believe how crazy some of Tuomas Holopainen's fangirls can get if they even vaguely suspect someone is his girlfriend. Death threats have been involved.
  • Inversion: pretty much nobody doubts that Ozzy Osbourne's success and wealth since The '80s (not to mention his not having died yet from his drug and alcohol abuse) is almost entirely due to his wife and manager Sharon.
    • Somewhat inverted inversion: the involvement of Sharon Osbourne in Blizzard of Ozz caused significant discord between Ozzy and his bandmates, the bassist Bob Daisley and drummer Lee Kerslake, and they soon departed from Ozzy's band.
    • And don't let us get started on what she did to Iron Maiden in Ozzfest 2005...
  • Rock guitar hero and nice guy extraordinaire Brian May got some flak from the press in the late 80's when he left his wife and children for actress Anita Dobson, with whom he'd already been involved for a few years but hitherto strongly denied there'd been anything going on. Fans seemed not to mind, though, and they welcomed her. When it was later revealed Brian had cheated on Anita as well, for a while, with his secretary, both Brian and Anita got redemption and it was the other woman who received public humiliation. She's probably relieved there was no Twitter back then.
  • Some *NSYNC fans still blame their demise on Cameron Diaz, who Justin Timberlake began dating around the same time he started to seriously work on his solo career. Britney Spears also received a lot more hatred than was warranted back in the late 90's/early 2000's, when she was dating Timberlake. It was pretty much impossible to go on an *NSYNC message board/chat room where Spears wasn't being bashed (to the point of wishing her dead). Granted, all the Britney-hatred has eased up since then and people who dislike her nowadays will state reasons more valid than "OH MY GOD SHE STOLE MY MAN!".
  • Some of Trent Reznor's fangirls predictably started whining after his engagement about how his relationship distracts him from music (they're just jealous it's not them, clearly). What's weird is seeing a 46-year old fanboy whining about it. The guy who got sent his thoughts on Trent to assumed he was a disgruntled groupie at first (being named Irit doesn't help, though).
  • David Gilmour's then-girlfriend/now-wife, Polly Samson, wrote the lyrics for Pink Floyd's 1994 album, The Division Bell. Gilmour said this was because he's never felt like he was particularly good at writing lyrics (with the lone exception of "Sorrow") - Syd Barrett and Roger Waters always took care of that, and once he buggered off Gilmour had to pick up the slack.
  • A notable aversion is Rasa Davies, first wife of The Kinks' Ray Davies. She contributed some well-regarded backing vocals to several of the band's greatest songs (e.g. "Sunny Afternoon", "Waterloo Sunset", "Autumn Almanac") and acted as a peacemaker between Davies and the rest of the group. After she divorced him, the group recorded some of their worst albums.
  • Nick Jonas dated Miley Cyrus. Both of which received a lot of hate for doing that.
    • Cyrus' current boyfriend, actor Liam Hemsworth, who she met on the set of The Last Song, tends to get backlash from "Niley" supporters. It probably didn't help that Miley's move to a more mature image occurred around the same time as her romance with Liam.
    • And now, Nick and Delta Goodrem are both getting this since they got together in June 2011.
      • News that, ironically enough, Goodrem was/is a rabid Miley fangirl made some waves online.
      • Nick Jonas is almost due for a bunch of flak from Delta fans (And former Delta fans) for "Distracting her from her music".
    • Selena Gomez also got hate while dating Nick. Pretty much any girl dating a Jonas Brother has to go through this; even Kevin's wife has this problem sometimes.
  • Gorillaz's ex-guitarist Paula Cracker is not popular among the fans, even though she left before the band ever recorded an album and was replaced by Noodle. Admittedly they have some reason; she was 2D's girlfriend and cheated on him with Murdoc... but HE isn't blamed by the fangirls.
  • Adrienne Armstrong. Green Day has some pretty crazy fangirls who start online petitions calling for Billie Joe to divorce Adie (with a select few expressing desires to kill her). Creepy thing is, most of these girls are between the ages of 13 and 16.
  • Caron Bernstein, the now ex-wife of Rammstein guitarist Richard Z. Kruspe, got a lot of this treatment during their marriage. The significant others of the other band members have had this treatment, too, but not nearly to the same extent that Caron had.
  • Dorothea Hurley, the wife of Jon Bon Jovi, got fangirl hatred in spades in The '90s for being Jon's Victorious Childhood Friend. Since they're Happily Married even now, it looks like things have worn off. Hopefully.
    • One of those fangirls was, of all people, P!nk. She once went on record as saying that as a young girl, she burst out crying and ripped up all her Bon Jovi posters when she heard Jon was getting married...and in a Crowning Moment of Awesome, upon hearing about the interview, Jon actually sent her a pair of his pants, with a note that said "Now you can finally get in my pants!"
  • Arguably, could be applied to Chantal Kreviazuk, pop singer and wife to Our Lady Peace frontman Raine Maida. Then again, the Clumsy Congress was too busy fighting with itself to notice her influence.
  • Averted with The Fall. The band's numerous line-ups have often featured Mark E. Smith's current girlfriend or wife, who generally provides a stabilising influence. The years with then-wives Brix Smith (in the 1980s and early 1990) and Elena Poulou (in the 2000s) coincided with some of the band's most successful and critically acclaimed albums.
  • Averted with Tom Waits. His wife Kathleen Brennan is often referred to as "his muse" by both himself and by the media, and is responsible for introducing him to the music of Captain Beefheart, heavily influencing his musical direction and leading to his most critically-acclaimed albums.
  • A truly creepy amount of hatred, including death threats, is being aimed at Selena Gomez. Her crime? Being seen snuggling with Justin Bieber. Here's a report on that. Now that they're confirmed to be dating, she has received even more constant bashing on the internet.
    • There are also Demi/Selena shippers who despise Justin.
    • She's barely the first one: Kim Kardashian got similar threats too, after she posed with Justin for a Twitter photo which the latter jokingly captioned "my girlfriend", which some fans took very seriously.
  • Selena Gomez also got hate when she briefly dated Taylor Lautner of Twilight fame.
    • She also has issues because even when the fans aren't bashing her, she'll have more people show up at the backstage door to mob Justin leaving than came to her concerts.
  • Kim Kardashian also got hate on hip-hop sites and forums after she started dating (and then got pregnant by) Kanye West. This was not as much about fans wanting to be with Kanye, as much as an issue of how his fans felt about whatever effect she would have on his image and street credibility. There is also the public perception issue of Kim, and the (to some) irony of Kanye's biggest hit being "Gold Digger" only caught her further flak.
    • A lot of people on these same forums criticised Kanye (and Kim by extension) for mentioning her on GOOD Music's collaboration album Cruel Summer three times (in the three singles) - "Mercy", "Clique" and "Cold" (the last one of these three is a good Take That at Kim's ex Kris Humphries).
  • A really creepy example for Journey: in the mid-90s, there was a Yahoo group called "Steve Perry's Photo Palace" (now defunct). Said group had huge amounts of defaced pictures of Steve's former girlfriend, Sherrie, along with hateful, derogatory, and violent comments directed towards the poor woman. The horrible thing? At that point, Perry had been broken up with her for well over 10 years. Yeah. That.
  • Usher didn't have many problems while dating Rozanda Thomas/Chilli from TLC, as his fans loved to see them together. Hell broke loose when he dated and then married his stylist, a single mother named Tameka Foster. Fandom and Usher's own family saw Tameka as a Gold Digger and gave her the cold shoulder, even more after she and Usher got married (which Usher's dear mom refused to attend, and it'd take 'em a while to rekindle their bond). His first album after his marriage completely tanked, and everyone blamed Tameka for that, to the point that Usher had to defend his married life on live TV. Even after the birth of their second kid, the pressure on them didn't diminish, and soon they got divorced.
  • Ashlee Simpson, when she started dating and later married Fall Out Boy bassist Pete Wentz, got this a lot from the Fall Out Boy fanbase.
  • When Rihanna and Chris Brown were dating, this reaction wasn't any worse than usual. Then he got arrested for domestic abuse. Many fans proceeded to say some of the most nasty things they could, saying it was her fault because she gave him herpes/cheated on him/etc.
    • And now that they're back together, the roles have been reversed with Chris Brown getting the lump sum of criticism because of the previous Domestic Abuse.
  • Taylor Swift got this when she was dating Joe Jonas. Then Joe infamously dumped her via a phone call and the fans took her side. The fact Joe started dating Camilla Belle so soon after did not help matters.
  • Kylie Minogue got some of this from INXS fans when the late Michael Hutchence dated her. The flipside also happened - some people gave this treatment to Hutchence, as they felt he was "corrupting" Minogue.
  • Noting on how many boybands are marketed in Korea, some fangirls can create a huge Internet Backdraft when their bias is getting hitched on a girl. Same goes for girl groups, but it's more prominent with boy band fangirls.
    • SHINee's Kim Jonghyun, who's constantly shipped with fellow members (especially Key) and actress Shin Sekyung once briefly dated. Right after this was revealed, fans went wild and a fan theory even began that it was just a cover story for JongKey. Despite Sekyung's public image as a kindhearted young woman, fanfics rolled in with her portrayed as a villainous, awful and generally unpleasant person, and she's sometimes used as the main antagonist, killed, or simply disregarded entirely (though the latter generally occurs in fics specifically set in an alternate universe). Fans later accepted the relationship since it made SHINee's fanbase grow.
    • Just merely mentioning that one's a friend of a certain idol can get hate. Juniel was a case of this when she casually mentioned she's friends with some Exo members. Some are her school friends and she's also filmed a CF with them so it was natural, yet Exo-Ls interpreted this as Juniel dating one of them and being an attention whore.
    • What do you get when idols from two extremely popular groups, say Girls' Generation and Exo, date? The Taeyon/Baekhyun fiasco. Fans were outraged when the two were caught dating and having left couple subliminal messages to each other in 2014, angry they ruined their slash pairings or simply didn't stay single. Many try to justify their hate with "fan entitlement" excuses (e.g. their social media is "only for fans", fans have a right to their private lives because they buy their merchandise), but others with common sense know what their real deal is.
  • Sarah Orzechowski and Panic! at the Disco's Brendon Urie. There was a "joke" about them being engaged, which actually was real. Needless to say, fangirls began to freak out and get jealous (even using some of Panic's lyrics to basically call Sarah a whore).
  • According to the other members of Mötley Crüe, Pamela Anderson became this when she married drummer Tommy Lee. According to Nikki Sixx, Pamela Anderson convinced Tommy that he was the most talented and important member of the band and that he deserved to be in the spotlight more. This apparently caused tension between Tommy and the rest of his band when he began to demand more creative control on the albums. Sixx also blames Anderson for Tommy's eventual departure from the band.
  • Dave Lombardo of Slayer once quit the band because the other members would not allow him to bring his wife on tour with them.
  • When 32-year-old Xtra Factor Co-host, Caroline Flack started dating One Direction's youngest member, 17-year-old (at the time) Harry Styles, there were the to-be-expected cradle robbing jokes... and then there were the death threats. Some fans hated her because she "stole" Harry away from them, some because she got in the way of Larry Stylinson, and some because... well, they just didn't like her.
    • The other boy's girlfriends have all seen varying degrees of hate as well, with the exception being Louis' girlfriend from before he auditioned for X Factor, Hannah, who was friends with the other boys and seemed to be universally adored. Fans were crushed when they broke up, but chalked it up to Executive Meddling. That is until he started dating a model a few months later. Needless to say, the model was not popular with the fans initially. She has developed a bit of a fan-base herself since then because she is really pretty and apparently quite nice to fans she meets, (which is also what caused fans to eventually accept Liam's older girlfriend, Danielle, who was a background dancer on their series of X Factor.)
      • Whilst on tour in Australia, a secretary for a radio station struck up a rapport with Zayn Malik, who asked her out for drinks. It wasn't long before the fanbase caught wind of it, and they immediately flooded her Facebook with abusive messages and rang up the radio station to declare their outrage. The poor woman was so overwhelmed that she cancelled the date.
  • When Guy Sebastian first went public with his girlfriend in March 2004, many fangirls were upset over not getting the chance to be his ... erm ... first. (Sebastian was something of a sex symbol and a Teen Idol when he won Australian Idol some months before.) However, negative reactions to their relationship decreased dramatically once the public discovered that the couple had known each other for almost a decade and had been romantically involved for much of that time. Since Sebastian married her in 2008 and had his first child with her in 2012, there's actually been growing support for the couple.
  • When Taylor Swift and Harry Styles of One Direction dated in late 2012, there was hate spewing from both fandoms. Fans of One Direction flocked to the idea of Larry Stylinson (the ship of Styles and his fellow bandmate Louis Tomlinson), while Swifites supported Taylor Squared (Swift and Taylor Lautner), or any one of her and her other boyfriends. The backlash was notably a lot worse with the D Irectioners than the Swift fanbase: for example, when Swift supposedly mocked Styles during the 2012 Grammys and then went to the 2013 Brit Awards, many One Direction fans told her to 'get out of England'.
    • Harry Styles and Kendall Jenner. Like Swift who is infamous for writing Take That songs at her ex-boyfriends, Jenner has a notorious reputation as a member of the hated Kardashian family.
    • When Harry's One Direction bandmate Zayn Malik decided to quite the group in March 2015, Malik's fiancee, Little Mix singer Perrie Edwards was widely blamed by the fandom for his exit. This was not helped when former Boyzone and Westlife manager Louis Walsh weighed in by implying that girlfriends were often the causes of band break-ups.
  • When Kris Tait replaced the Amazing Stacia as Hawkwind's resident stage dancer, she very quickly extended her remit to cover choreography, stage direction, and even playlist choices. It helped that she had become Mrs Dave Brock, the distaff half of the band's legendarily autocratic leader. several band members were sidelined, or left in disgust, and both they and a sizeable minority of fans considered she had gained far too much influence over the Hawkwind Collective.
  • Anita Pallenberg, girlfriend of The Rolling Stones' Brian Jones, threw him over for bandmate Keith Richards (while Jones was being hospitalized for pneumonia) during a visit by the trio to Morocco. While Jones helped drive Pallenberg away with physical and emotional abuse (Although it was mutual), the betrayal worsened his already-deteriorating mental and emotional state, destroyed his already-shaky relationship with Richards, and increased his marginalization within the Stones' camp...ultimately resulting in his expulsion from the band and subsequent untimely death.
  • Former Supertramp member Roger Hodgson has cited Rick Davies' wife managing the band as one of the reasons for leaving and not participating in the reunions. Their mid-1970's producer Ken Scott mentioned in his memoirs that by Crisis? What Crisis?, the bandmembers' girlfriends and wives were constantly at odds with each other; he describes that the way many people are led to believe (falsely) that The Beatles' group tensions were precipitated by Yoko Ono and Linda McCartney was actually the atmosphere Supertramp were in at the time.
  • Even Gail Zappa, widow of Frank Zappa, gets a lot of hate nowadays. But this has more to do with how she handled Zappa's career after his death than during his life. Two things seem to irk fans the most: 1) Only releasing new albums with Zappa music in small quantities, despite the fact that there are literally four vaults with unreleased recordings by Zappa available in his archives. 2) Protecting Zappa's musical copyright to the point that even people who organize festivals to honor Frank's music are sued.
  • Both former members of t.A.T.u. have long since moved past their "lesbian" days, but fans still want them to be together. Yulia's ex- "husband"(they weren't legally married but she called him such), Parviz, wasn't seen as good enough or attractive as her.
  • Elyssa Jerret, ex-wife of Aerosmith guitarist Joe Perry. She has been described as someone who drove wedges between Perry and vocalist Steven Tyler, despite being childhood friends with the latter. And she had a penchant for getting into fights with band members and/or band wives, one of which led to Perry quitting the band from 1979 to 1985.

    Athletes' Love Interests 
  • The biggest sports equivalent of John and Yoko may be Wayne Gretzky and wife Janet. Many Edmonton Oiler fans still believe Janet's acting career was one of the main reasons Gretzky OK'd the 1988 trade to Los Angeles, beginning the breakup of an Oilers team that won the Stanley Cup five times in seven years.
  • Jessica Simpson caught a rather ridiculous amount of flak for dating Dallas Cowboys' QB Tony Romo. In this case, it was from other men because Romo had a few high-profile bad games shortly afterwards.
    • And as befits the trope, some of Simpson's detractors nicknamed her "Yoko Romo."
    • Obviously a parody, but Artie Lange referred to her as "the cunt who broke up 98°".
    • The Jessica Simpson example is probably the purest version of this trope due to some sports fans, particularly US football fans, being rather superstitious. If his game goes downhill around the same time that he starts dating or marries someone, that someone is to blame for upsetting the apple cart. If it wasn't her, it would have been something else that was going on at that time. Some Cowboys fans accused Jessica of ruining Romo's concentration simply by being in the stands during the games (which begs the question: if he couldn't concentrate on the game—and he actually DID concentrate perfectly fine as far as we can tell—wouldn't it be his fault and not hers?)
      • In hindsight, it seems unfair to hang Romo's failures on Jessica Simpson. As of 2013 Romo has well established himself as a "December Dud". Playing very poorly late in the season and often choking in clutch situations where the whole season is on the line. As of Summer 2013, in 9 seasons cowboys he has led them to the playoffs only 3 times and only won a single playoff game.
      • Need more proof? His infamous "botched snap" against Seattle, occurred nearly a year before they began dating.
  • Romo and Jessica was preceded by Jason Sehorn and Angie Harmon. The fact that Sehorn played for the New York Giants while Harmon was a Cowboys fan didn't help.
  • Supermodel Gisele Bundchen has become subject to the ire of many of New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady's fans for supposed negative influence on his postseason performances. Since the two began dating in 2007, Brady has failed to lead his team to a championship despite winning two MVP awards and twice taking them to the best regular season record in the league (including an undefeated 16-0 in 2007, which ended in one of the biggest upsets in sports history when the Patriots lost the Super Bowl to the New York Giants). Couple this with Bundchen's occasionally controversial public statements, especially when she was caught on camera criticizing the Patriots' receivers, after she endured being taunted and heckled by rowdy Giants fans, you can see why football fans would be wary of her.
    You've got to catch the ball when you're supposed to catch the ball. My husband cannot fucking throw the ball and catch the ball at the same time. I can't believe [the Patriots' receivers] dropped the ball so many times.Gisele Bundchen
    • Brady's Patriots did lose the next two Super Bowls, both of them against the Giants and Eli Manning, since he, in late 2006, dated and, in 2009, married Gisele. During a roundtable discussion at a fundraiser appearance in California, Brady regretted what Gisele said after learning of the news, and even told her, "Why did you say that?" It remains to be seen if all will be forgiven now that Brady and the Patriots won Super Bowl XLIX against the Seahawks.
  • When Formula One champion Ayrton Senna was killed, his girlfriend Adriane Galisteu managed to get media prominence, in a Paris Hilton kind of way. F1 fans regard her as a self-serving vulture.
    • Some people compared her unfavorably to Senna's former girlfriend, ex-porn actress turned children show's host Maria Gracia Meneghel aka Xuxa. Really not helped by Senna saying in two interviews that, after his first wife, Xuxa was the only woman he ever wanted to marry.
      • Even his family hated Adriane: they gave Xuxa the 'widow's' seat.
    • Going to present day F1, Nicole Scherzinger, one of the Pussycat Dolls and Lewis Hamilton's girlfriend, gets a lot of ire from fangirls, mainly for drawing attention to herself and showboating when the camera's on her. She's been blamed for the splitting of Lewis and his manager and father Anthony, nevermind that Anthony apparently was a Stage Dad. Yes, some number of people that hate her want to ship Hamilton with Adrian Sutil, but let's note that as of this edit, she's the only present day F1 WAG to get this much ire.
    • Ashley Judd is Indy Car's equivalent, getting as many accusations about showboating and drawing attention to herself as Scherzinger. It doesn't help that, since Indy Car is not as well known as F1 or NASCAR, she does get more attention than her husband Dario Franchitti in the press, even in his home country of the UK. They have since divorced. Wild Mass Guessing immediately ensued as to why. (Popular theories include that she was clingy, a view shared by fellow driver Tony Kanaan, chose her family over him, or because it'd be awkward to have who is technically an immigrant for a husband when she's trying to get a Senate seat, back when it was thought she would run for one.) No one was very shocked when they announced they were divorcing, but few were impressed when Ashley tried to use Dario's career ending crash as a reason to get back together with him and claimed they were back together, despite Dario having already found a new girlfriend.
    • Teresa Earnhardt is this in NASCAR. She took over Dale Earnhardt, Inc. after Dale Sr.'s death, and did such a good job of running it into the ground that she ended up driving both Michael Waltrip and Dale Earnhardt Jr. from the team (Waltrip moved his own race team to full-time status in response; Junior now drives for Hendrick Motorsports, which initially caused a row since this makes him a teammate to Dale Sr.'s one-time rival Jeff Gordon). After being forced to sell the team in early 2009 due to financial difficulties, she became an In-Name-Only partner at the merged Earnhardt Ganassi Racing, and all but stopped showing up at the racetrack (instead, fellow owners Chip Ganassi and Felix Sabates took public duites); the last of "her" drivers, Martin Truex, Jr., fled to Waltrip's team in 2010, and was replaced by a former/returning Ganassi driver, Jamie McMurray. Three years later, EGR abandoned the engine alliance that she had established with Dale Sr's former owner Richard Childress and became a client of the aforementioned Hendrick Motorsports, which foreshadowed her complete removal from the team's ownership group the next year.
      • It didn't help that she rejected Junior's offer to take over Dale Earnhardt, Inc. back in 2007, which ultimately led to his decision to leave for Hendrick. Junior would later prove that he's an excellent team owner, as seen by his Xfinity/Truck series team JR Motorsports, which regularly fields top-tier teams in each series and won the 2014 Xfinity championship with Chase Elliott behind the wheel. Note that Junior is her stepson, also making her a Wicked Stepmother of sorts.
  • While supporters of the Spanish football team didn't have anything against Sara Carbonero, the Hot Scoop girlfriend of goalkeeper Casillas (except maybe some jealous female fans), after Spain lost to Switzerland in the 2010 FIFA World Cup, some put the blame on Sara, accusing her of distracting Casillas (the foreign press in particular...). All was forgiven and forgotten after Spain won the tournament (specially after this).
  • R&B singer Toni Braxton is particularly despised by Dallas Mavericks fans: During the early 1990's, she allegedly was dating team stars Jason Kidd and Jim Jackson at the same time, sparking a rift between the two and eventually leading to the break up of a potentially powerful Mavericks team. Both Kidd and Jackson have denied ever dating Braxton. Braxton never confirmed or denied it, further stoking fan hate.
  • Actress Noureen Dewulf got this treatment from fans of the Buffalo Sabres. Having married the Vezina Trophy winning goaltender Ryan Miller not long before the start of the 2011-2012 NHL season, she was targeted by Sabres fans and the local media not long after Miller struggled during the first half of the season. The rumors of Miller requesting a trade to the Anaheim Ducks so he could be closer to his wife only made it worse.
  • Roger Federer's wife Mirka is a somewhat complicated case. His most dedicated and knowledgeable fans tend to think highly of her, knowing how much she's contributed to her husband's career. But her looks has been the target of very nasty comments from both fans and media, especially after they had started out with her being the prettier of the pair, he turned out to be Beautiful All Along and she lost her athletic build after her own tennis career ended and got fat. Meanwhile, the media has occasionally gone after her, particularly at the end of 2003/beginning of 2004, when she was blamed for his parting with his then-coach (shortly after that she stopped giving interviews). The yellower Swiss press has especially told stories about her dating an older member of the United Arab Emirates royal family before she got involved with Roger, and tried to portray her as controlling.
  • This happened to the fastest man in the world and Olympic gold medalist, Usain Bolt, who caved in to the pressure from his fans as well as his countrymen's disapproval of his dating a white woman and ended up dumping his girlfriend, stating that he need to focus on the 2012 Track & Field trials and the upcoming the Olympic games.
  • As a result of her boyfriend Kevin-Prince Boateng's poor start of the 2012-2013 season, Melissa Satta is getting this not just from AC Milan fans, but from the manager Massimiliano Allegri as well.
  • When Albert Pujols signed a 10-year, $254 million contract with the Los Angeles Angels of Anaheim in December 2011, his wife, Deidre, started appearing on St. Louis TV and radio news shows, making statements about why Albert made his decision and what would have made him stay, which led to St. Louis Cardinals fans viewing "Dee Dee" as a Yoko figure. Their ire has died down considerably since then, but some people still think he left because she wanted to move to California (but ultimately, she and Albert kept their family in St. Louis).
  • The saga of then Manchester United star David Beckham and love interest Victoria ("Posh Spice"). Many Manchester United fans despise her, blaming her negative influence for his move away from the club. Folklore has it that she was too snooty and London-biaised to want to slum it in a Third World city like Manchester, an impossible 200 miles away from London and therefore hideously remote. And besides, Manchester had no shops! No Selfridges, No Harrods, no Oxford Street... Reality is a lot more complicated than this, and involved famously autocratic boss Alex Ferguson screaming into Beckham's face from two inches away, when Beckham dared imply that (just sometimes) football was less important than, say, his wife's difficult pregnancy with their first child... the breakdown in trust and respect between Beckham and Ferguson was probably a far bigger factor than Victoria in his electing to leave the club. But try telling the fans this...
  • Yana Rudovskaya, the second wife of Russian skater Evgeni Plushenko, is apparently "too old and wringly and ugly" AND "too opinionated and bitchy" for him.
    • That person was in the minority. Most of the Plushenko fans adore her, especially since she had a hand into him coming out of retirement. Everyone agrees that his first wife (and mother of his first child) Maria Ermak was a bitch, though. (Not so surprisingly, she's been blamed for his retirement.)
    • The real people who have gone after Rudovskaya are those who objected to Plushenko's less than gracious behavior when he lost the gold in Vancouver, especially those that liked him in general; it was easier for them to believe she spurred him to it, rather than fully blame him alone.
  • Although Andre Agassi's marriage to Brooke Shields didn't seem to attract much criticism, it didn't escape notice that it was only after the divorce that he began to be seen as something more than unfulfilled promise. Fortunately, his marriage to his second wife (and eventual mother to his children) did not attract any notion of him possibly getting distracted from tennis, what with his second wife being 22-time Grand Slam winner Steffi Graf.

    Other Famous People's Love Interests 
  • Orlando Bloom's old girlfriend Kate Bosworth was despised by a large number of fans, and his ex wife (and the mother of his child) Miranda Kerr wasn't doing so well either. An example is here. It's apparently okay to yell "A dingo ate my baby" to Miranda because she's Australian, Unfortunate Implications (sexism and xenophobia) be damned.
  • Male example: Some Katie Holmes fans bash her ex-husband Tom Cruise, accusing him of casting a corrupting influence on her personal life (her conversion to Scientology, her not appearing in The Dark Knight, etc). It is notable that her promising rising career after Batman Begins took an immediate downturn into significantly smaller low-brow films during their marriage.
  • Ted Hughes endured a negative reputation among Sylvia Plath fans due to his infidelity and divorcing an emotionally fragile wife such as Sylvia Plath, driving her to suicide. Editing her poems and shuffling the sequence of her poetry collections did not help matters at all. The fact that his second wife Assia Wevill (the woman for whom he left Plath) killed herself and their daughter in the same way Sylvia did doesn't help...
    • Ted had been more successful than Sylvia before her death, making her widely resented. Her poorly treated mental problems and equally Mad Artist temperament made it relatively easy for Ted to find a Freudian Excuse to cheat on her.
  • Spice Girl Mel B was rather despised due to her dating and breaking up with Eddie Murphy, and being the mother of his baby. Eddie also got a lot of hate for this, mainly because they broke up after she became pregnant and then went on to claim that he wasn't the father (which, as it turned out, he was).
  • Sophia Myles, former girlfriend of Doctor Who star David Tennant. Some outraged fans insisted that Myles had only appeared on the show because Tennant demanded she be given a part, despite reports that they actually met on the set while she was filming her role.
    • Oddly, though, Tennant's now wife Georgia Moffett doesn't get much ire...likely because the rather amusing fact that she's also the daughter of Fifth Doctor Peter Davison outweighs any Die for Our Ship tendencies. (Yes, the Doctor married the daughter of the Doctor, and the Doctor's daughter later gave birth to the Doctor's daughter. Talk about Tennant being a Promoted Fanboy.)
  • After the release of The Lord of the Rings movies, a fanbase sprang up believing that Elijah Wood and Dominic Monaghan were a couple in real life. There was a great deal of Slash Fic and one of the first known examples of "wingfic". This led to quite a bit of vitriol being directed at both actors' respective girlfriends, but it seems to have died down now.
  • There was once a hatelisting for actress Téa Leoni. For her acting, her roles, or something else? No. Because she married David Duchovny and took him away from his "Twu Wuv", Gillian Anderson. The owner of the site went as far as swearing that Téa and David's kids were not his and Téa tricked him into marrying her, while on the other hand, she also swore Gillian's child was David's and that made them soulmates. One like-minded person even went so far as to claim that Duchovny and Leoni's oldest child was really Gillian's daughter. There was also once a website dedicated to supposedly proving that Leoni has had massive amounts of plastic surgery and was therefore evil. These folks are still around, albeit not as prominent as they used to be. They call themselves Snoggers and still pop up from time to time in the few remaining X-Files message boards. That said, Duchovny's relationship with Leoni supposedly did have a tangible effect on The X-Files: Duchovny, wanting to be near his wife and encourage her movie career, managed to get the shooting location of the show shifted to Los Angeles from Vancouver. That's why there were fewer episodes set in the woods, and more in the desert, in later seasons. Still no excuse for the bashing, though. Téa Leoni, however, was more than good-natured about all of it — she was practically shipping her husband with Anderson herself! It was supposedly Leoni's idea that Scully be naked when Mulder carries her out of the spacecraft in the first movie. She then claimed that when she watched the movie and got to the near-kiss scene, she was saying, "Do it! Do it!" Which makes this outtake even more hilarious.
  • Poor, poor Mamoru Miyano. This famous seiyuu hid the fact that he was getting married and his wife was pregnant (a big deal for him, due to some health issues that almost rendered Miyano infertile) . When he announced his marriage in an interview and a video was uploaded to Nico Nico Douga (the Japanese equivalent of Youtube), Miyano's most rabid Japanese fans started writing very nasty insults at him and his wife in the comments, even wishing for his career to go down or for the lady to miscarry. Info here.
  • A mix of this and The Other Darrin happened to another Voice Talent, Yukana Nogami. Once she got to replace Saeko Shimazu as Four Murasame in the Mobile Suit Zeta Gundam movies, it was rumored that she had slept with the cast director to get the role (they were, apparently, involved in the past, and it wasn't pretty for his marriage). Said rumors never were confirmed, but Japanese fans immediately accused her of being a homewrecker (the guy was divorced again and they blamed Yukana for it) and keep trolling her blog, calling her "slut", "whore" and "bitch"; it got so bad that Yukana had to close her blog temporarily to not get more online slutshaming. However, this didn't stop her popularity from regrowing immensely when she played C.C..
  • Supposedly, the reason Jackie Chan doesn't discuss his personal life in interviews anymore is that a Japanese fangirl jumped in front of a moving subway and killed herself after learning Chan had a girlfriend. Jackie relates that story in his autobiography, as well as an incident where a girl went into the lobby of his production studio's office and drank poison when news of his marriage came out.
  • Supernatural fandom has become very notorious for this, much to the ire of those fans who'd rather not get lumped in with the crazies. Up to Eleven now that Jared Padalecki announced his wife's pregnancy.
  • Deborra-Lee Furness, wife of heartthrob Hugh Jackman, seems to get a lot of this, intensified by the fact that she's a good ten years his senior. Never mind that they're actually happy together. Then there are those who insist he's gay and she's a beard, because in some minds, the only possible explanation for such an attractive man to be with an older, slightly plump woman is subterfuge.
  • Japanese voice talent Megumi Ogata gets married. To a man 13 years her junior. The fangirls flipped out because they want her to be a lesbian.
  • Some Harry Potter fans would like to see Daniel Radcliffe and Emma Watson, who play Harry and Hermione respectively in the film adaptations, become a couple offscreen. (This is partly connected to the Ship-to-Ship Combat over Harry/Hermione vs. Ron/Hermione.) Thus a small contingent of fans go up in arms whenever either actor is romantically linked in the press to someone else, although this has died down somewhat since the release of the last book (in which Ron gets the girl).
    • Also from Harry Potter, Jade Olivia. She gets a lot of hate from fans for dating Tom Felton. To add to this jealousy, she also is criticized for—-in their words—-looking too thin, having a fake tan and makeup, looking cheap, looking like a smoker, the list goes on. Ironically, Tom is a smoker; or so it's been said.
  • Some Farscape fans are desperate for Ben Browder and Claudia Black, who play John Crichton and Aeryn Sun respectively, to become a real-life couple. (Admittedly, they have astonishing on-screen chemistry, but Ben was married ten years before the show started; Claudia, meanwhile, postponed her honeymoon to shoot the Peacekeeper Wars miniseries.) As a result, some despise Ben Browder's wife, Francesca Buller (who has appeared in the show playing four different characters) for "getting in the way of Ben and Claudia". Not only that, but some fans have accused her of being a "bad actress", of only getting to be on the show in the first place because she's Ben's wife, and apparently, at a convention, someone even told her to her face that they hated her. Possibly as a result of this, Claudia's husband Jamie has kept a much lower public profile (though as he apparently isn't in show business, this is probably easier)—his last name isn't even known to fans.
  • Tetsuya Kakihara provoked many fans, especially of the yuri type, when he posted pics of him dating Mamiko Noto; voice talent romances are very fickle things, but when you date one of Hitomi Nabatame's "secret wives", it takes a lot of balls to admit that you are in love with her. Nabatame may be a good sport about her wives, but the fans are not.
    • Just for the benefit of the doubt, apparently Japanese otakus have no qualms with same-sex romances (especially the Les Yay type), but woe be on to you if you are romantically involved with the opposite sex, especially a voice talent. Since Shizuka Ito and Hitomi Nabatame are lesbians and in a relationship...or so people thought when Shizuka Ito herself married another man on her 32nd birthday...
  • Pick any interview with Kate Winslet and Leonardo DiCaprio on YouTube and there will be some comment on how they should ditch their current love interests for each other. After all, they had such great chemistry in Titanic! Who cares if Sam Mendes and Bar Rafaeli get upset? Who cares that they themselves have repeatedly said that they're Like Brother and Sister and now find kissing awkward? At least Kate and Leo will be together forever.
  • Male example: Some of Dita Von Teese's male fans aimed a lot of hate towards Marilyn Manson when he got together with her. For that matter, fans of both sexes aimed a lot of hate towards Von Teese for marrying Manson. Many female fans complained about her "stealing" him, while male & female fans both complained about her "tying him down" or "distracting him from his art".
    • When the fans began to accept the marriage, Von Teese divorced him and he began to date Evan Rachel Wood. They broke up in 2010.
    • Dita's latest relationship, with Louis-Marie de Castelbajac, is something of a subversion of this trope. Her fanbase is virtually unanimous in approving of this romance (which may have something to do with the fact that he's tall, gorgeously handsome, possessed of an elegant sartorial sense, a French aristocrat, and the son of a well-known couturier); in fact, the trope is occasionally inverted in that some people think he's too good for her.
  • It's common for fans of film director Fritz Lang to blame his wife, screenwriter Thea von Harbou for anything undesirable in one of his early films, in spite of the fact that they often co-wrote the screenplays together. (In the second half of his career the blame is placed on Executive Meddling.) It certainly doesn't help matters that von Harbou joined the Nazi party and wrote propaganda films during the war, while Lang fled to Hollywood and basically had to start his career over.
  • Several people think that marrying Madonna was bad for Guy Ritchie's career - his most critically panned and at the same time least successful movies, Swept Away (which was a vehicle for her) and Revolver, were made during their marriage. After they divorced, Ritchie bounced back with the Sherlock Holmes films which were by far his most commercially successful movies.
  • Go to YouTube. Type "Ryan Higa and Tarynn Nago" into the search engine. Click on any video about them dating. Chances are, there will be comments from jealous girls saying things like "Ryan's mine!" and insulting Tarynn. Although Ryan and Tarynn aren't dating anymore, this only shows that any girlfriend Ryan gets will inevitably have to put up with those kinds of fangirls.
  • And while you're on YouTube, you may come across Kalel Cullen aka Queen Beeuty/Cozplai. She is the girlfriend of Smosh member Anthony Padilla. Many hardcore Smoshers look for any reason to badmouth her, make her out to look like a pathological liar, or even say she is going to break up Smosh (this came about when many fans suspected she was moving in with Anthony). Ironically, other Smosh member Ian Hecox's longtime girlfriend Melanie Moat is beloved by even the most hardcore Smoshers, even though she is good friends with Kalel Cullen.
    • Thankfully, all of the hate (or most of it, at least) is gone, and a lot of fans say that they are very cute together. It could be possibly that this was assisted by her channel Wonderland Wardrobe and then Watch Us Live And Stuff with Anthony, where the fans got to know her and see her with Anthony better.
  • A politics example, more from a PR perspective than actually changing policy: former Canadian Prime Minister Pierre Trudeau's wife, Margaret, could count as a combination of this and The Load. In the leadup to his first election victory in 1968, Trudeau was embraced as a breath of fresh air in the eyes of Liberal Party supporters and Canadians in general: he was young, charismatic, attractive, bilingual and incredibly outspoken. Traditionally, unlike America's First Lady, Prime Ministers' wives don't play much of a role outside of moral support for their husbands, but Margaret Trudeau grabbed headlines for her wild lifestyle and a supposed affair with Mick Jagger. Most notoriously, when her husband lost the May 22 1979 election to Joe Clark's Conservative Party, she was off partying with The Rolling Stones in New York. Margaret fits this role because of the impact her actions had on Trudeau's image; his critics almost always brought up Margaret's lifestyle whenever they wanted to criticize the Prime Minister.
    • Of course, Margaret was 29 years Trudeau's junior; they married when he was 51 and she 22 (having been dating on and off for four years). In the end, she divorced him in 1984, just as his second stint as PM (Joe Clark lasted all of ten months) was ending.
  • Some fans of the House/Cuddy ship from House desperately wanted Hugh Laurie and Lisa Edelstein, who played House and Cuddy, respectively, to hook up in real life. When other fans pointed out that Laurie has been married to his wife, Jo, since 1989 and they have three children together, the shippers angrily responded that Jo and Hugh had no chemistry and that his on-screen chemistry with Edelstein was enough to "prove" that Laurie and Edelstein belonged together.
  • Ioan Gruffudd was once so receptive to his on-line fans that he even funded ioanonline.com, then the largest fansite dedicated to him, out of his own pocket and would interact with fans regularly on the board. That all changed when he got engaged to actress Alice Evans. The fans began to post disparaging comments about Evans, attacking her choice of past acting jobs and her character. Gruffudd responded by withdrawing his funding and support for ioanonline, which soon folded because the owner was unable to maintain the substantial monthly cost of running the site.
  • Angelina Jolie. She still gets flak for getting together with Brad Pitt right after his divorce from Jennifer Aniston. The couple insist that they fell in love on the set of Mr. & Mrs. Smith, but got together after his divorce, and EVEN Jennifer Aniston agreed with that, but jealous Angelina-haters will never let her off.
    • What's worse is that many of the haters seem to write for the tabloids, given the countless cover headlines claiming that Brangelina are about to break up (the couple were able to sue The News of the World for libel after such a story was published), that Brad hates every relationship Jennifer gets in, that Angelina has threatened Brad and their children with physical abuse, that Angelina is out to ruin Jennifer's life and that she's been secretly working to sabotage Jennifer's movies (somehow), that Brad has openly insulted Jennifer via dismissing their married years, that Brad and Jennifer are secretly sleeping with each other behind Angelina's back, that both Brad and Angelina are bad parents... (et cetera, et cetera...) It's as close to real-life Die for Our Ship as you can get.
    • On the flipside, Jennifer Aniston gets as much hate from some fans of Brangelina. Lots of tabloids and gossip magazines will not let the woman in peace and insist that Jennifer still can't let go of Brad Pitt, never mind that years have passed and she dated plenty of people since then. Also, expect fans of Angelina calling her an old maid, make fun of her appearance as well as many Take Thats about how it's all her fault for having rejected Brad's request of kids back then instead of fulfilling "her natural role as a mother" unlike Angie. It doesn't help that in 2016 when Angelina filed for divorce on Brad which made a lot of people speculate that "Jennifer is celebrating!" despite that Jennifer had already moved on with her life.
    • The tabloids... all one needs to do is look at a wardrobe review given by one gossip magazine for the Oscars. They gave Angelina's dress an incredibly low score solely because her being there with Brad must've caused Jennifer "stress and pain". Meanwhile, they gave Jennifer's dress a high score for being "brave enough to be at the Oscars and present an award knowing Brad and Angelina were there". And this was back in 2009!
    • In addition, when Angelina appeared in The Tourist with Johnny Depp, several people got into an uproar, instantly assuming, based solely on the fact that Brad, along with Angelina's ex-husbands and ex-girlfriend were co-stars in movies, that Angelina was going to cheat on Brad with Johnny.
    • And then Angelina got a double mastectomy in 2013. Cue several people making nasty, sexist comments amounting to little more than "lol Brad's gonna leave her now".
    • Then Angelina filed for divorce on Brad in 2016 which, as expected, got a lot of people going bonkers. Speculations and rumors rose about the reason of the divorce which ranged from Brad "allegedly being abusive to his kids" to "sleeping with his Allied co-star Marion Cotillard" despite that Marion is happy with the love of her life and had a son, to eagerly awaiting Jennier's thoughts on this while mess despite Jennifer understandably keeping mum about this (to the point of mistaking a parody post on the issue for a real interview.)
  • Russell Crowe's wife Danielle Spencer gets quite the hate from her husband's rabid fangirls. I.e, this one refers to Danielle as "The Wife and Womb Unit" for committing the horrendous sin of being married to him.
  • Even if their relationship is denied by those involved, the Nonsten fans have started to talk about the nasty things they will do to Kristen Stewart if she is indeed romantically involved with Edward Robert Pattinson from the Twilight movies. Most fans want Robsten to be true and root for the couple to make it.
    • And some Robsten fans really don't like Nikki Reed, the actress playing Rosalie Hale. In their words:
    "She (Kristen) and Rob started to get really close again, taking it slow, then MA visited. This was during the Juno weekend. Rob was really upset to say the least. He felt Kristen might be stringing him along or that MA's presence there would change her mind. Nikki apparently tried to comfort him that night by the way....offering Rob her support if he needed her. Fucking bitch."
    • And now it's all gone to hell with the revelation that Kristen cheated on Robert with the married director of Snow White and the Huntsman. Even when it takes TWO to tango and cheat, all of the heat has gone towards Stewart and not towards the other dude, paired up with the already existing fangirl sexism.
  • On Robert Pattinson's side, the above mentioned group viciously descended on singer/musician FKA twigs for daring to hamper the (already minuscule) chances of a Kristen Stewart reunion. And as twigs just so happens to be black, the abuse she was made to endure naturally manifested as disgustingly racist.
  • Director Mitsuo Fukuda has his wife Chiaki Morosawa serve as the story writer for many of his series. Fans tend to blame Morosawa for the dip in Mobile Suit Gundam SEED Destiny's plot quality... While it is true that Morosawa was often late with the series's scripts, rumors about her deliberately derailing Princess Cagalli's personality out of personal hatred towards her voice actress are simply ridiculous... but the Fan Dumb love to believe them and eat them like candy, even when there's no proof about it.
  • In Japan, female entertainment stars have a much less likely rate to get married than men. Get caught dating one person and you could be deemed a "slut" by some Otakus or fans. A few idols gotten caught in scandals that damaged their careers. However, as said earlier, being a lesbian on TV or drama CDs is perfectly acceptable since it is "pure".
    • Example: Rabid fans plan the death of Aya Hirano because she has an older boyfriend. Hirano was also found to have consensual sex with several male coworkers, the imminent revelation which was part of the reason she left her previous studio, Lantis. (The other reasons were that they were treating her like dirt — 3 other voice actresses have followed her lead and left in the past month alone.)
    • A stalker followed Aki Toyosaki to her home, which was so far away from the train station that she has to take a taxi just to get to it. He discovered she is living with her boyfriend. The fan response was hundreds of posts on 2ch showing destroyed merchandise, including several that had threatening imagery — weapons pointing at pictures of her and the like.
    • Similarly, a stalker followed Ayana Taketatsu to a shopping center, where they stole photographs she was taking in a photo booth with her boyfriend. Same reaction as the above — destroyed merch, threatening imagery, and a demand that she be fired for not remaining single and virginal.
    • The above 3 incidents have lead to what may possibly be the biggest Fan Dumb moment in Japanese history — Japanese Voice Actress stalkers are now demanding a national law be passed requiring female voice actresses to remain single, virginal, and prohibit them from any contact from men until they retire from the voice acting industry. Not making this up (although the link is to Sankaku Complex and thus NSFW).
    • While they don't have it as hard, male entertainers face similar difficulties. When the singer Ayaka and the actor Hiro Mizushima got married in secret and the news leaked, both of them had to leave their management agency; also, actor Yusuke Yamamoto got in trouble when he was caught going into his apartment with his girlfriend. And then there's Mamoru Miyano and Tetsuya Kakihara, who got threats and abuse from their fans as well.
    • The damage is minimized when their significant other works in the same industry as them. However, most didn't last. Yuu Asakawa and Showtaro Morikubo, Naomi Nagasawa and Ryotaro Okiayu, and Koichi Yamadera and Mika Kanai were married and divorced later on... ouch. Okiayu and Nagasawa even had children together. Let us hope that Okiayu's latest marriage with Ai Maeda, and Yamadera's to Rie Tanaka, will last.
    • There however is an exception to the rule. Being the fact that Show Hayami and Rei Igarashi themselves are married and still are in Real Life. Their known roles? Sosuke Aizen and Precia Testarossa.
    • Divorce rates are pretty high in Japan as a whole so its most likely have little to do with the fact that both parties are seiyuu. Also, Fans know a lot of seiyuu couples who have been married for a long time.
    • Also other famous exceptions include Megumi Hayashibara and Kikuko Inoue, as they have been mothers thus far. (Hayashibara was at least smart enough to not release the name of her husband to the public for a long while). Also, when Sayaka Ohara announced that she's going to be married, no flaks arrive for her, thank goodness. And of course, thankfully the recent marriage between Kenichi Suzumura and Maaya Sakamoto was rained with congratulations and blessings. Only time will tell if their marriage won't share the same fate as Morikubo-Asakawa and Okiayu-Nagasawa as above.
    • Mainly due to their age, since they should having kids sooner or later, younger seiyuus (20's) don't have the luxury of finding love without flak from fans.
      • And even age now turns out not to be a factor. When it was announced that Koichi Yamadera is going to be re-married, to Rie Tanaka (who's 18 years old younger), while there were those who congratulated them, some nutjob fans once again went batshit over the Rie Tanaka merchandises they got and started badmouthing her... when she's in her 30's! Even worse, someone solely caused a premiere screening of the anime spin-off for Hyperdimension Neptunia to be cancelled because he's openly trying to murder Rie because of the marriage. Probably the only reason they don't dare badmouth Yamadera is because he's Spike Siegel, which is by itself rather weird because Cowboy Bebop is mostly a case of Germans Love David Hasselhoff, it's just 'another anime' in the eyes of Japanese, and this whole shaming on people in Anime industry is mostly alien to the Western community.
    • At the start of 2014, Hikaru Midorikawa shut down his blog after his rabid fans threw malicious comments at him because some female fan wore the same accessory as him which she bought after he introduced it in his blog. And these fans concluded that he's cheating on his wife!
  • Professional Wrestling
    • Even though Jeff Hardy and his girlfriend Beth have been together over a decade now (and in fact refer to each other as husband and wife and not boyfriend and girlfriend) and live together, and that Beth has stayed with Jeff through plenty of insane personal turmoil, plenty of the nuttier fangirls are positive Beth is some money-grubbing come-lately bitch. Though in this case, most girls don't have another ship they want her to die for, they seem to think (however wrongly) that they themselves are Jeff's unrealized dream girl. Beth's Twitter account has plenty of examples she's listed of girls threatening or name-calling her over it. They also have a baby girl now, born 2010, and married (for real) in 2011.
    • Much worse in the case of the late Owen Hart and his widow Martha. To wrestling fans, Owen Hart was a talented, remarkable guy who spent thirteen years entertaining the fans and his peers and whose work should be shown to future generations. Martha Hart? The money-grubbing bitch that sues the WWE every couple of years to erase her husband's place from wrestling history to the point that the relationship between her and her extended family is mutual hate. Every time Martha's name comes up in the headlines, death threats are guaranteed.
    • There are fans who hate John Cena's girlfriend, Nikki Bella, who is labelled a gold digger based on her behavior on Total Divas.
    • On the other hand, fans are rather supportive of AJ Lee marrying CM Punk despite (or because of) the latter's almost volatile relationship with WWE.
    • Also averted with The Miz and Maryse. Fans seem affectionate in calling him a "lucky bastard", and didn't mind seeing them together at the Hall of Fame 2015.
    • Perhaps the most famous example would be Lita when she left Matt Hardy for Edge. The scandal forced Lita to retire because she couldn't shake off the X-Pac Heat.
  • When she first started on Wizards of Waverly Place, everybody loved Selena Gomez (she was seen as a better alternative to Miley Cyrus, who was at the peak of Hannah Montana overexposure). However, she made the fatal mistake of dating-and "taking away"-Taylor Lautner from Twilight crazies, and she's now referred to as "Slutena Homez."
    • Now she (apparently) gets a little too close to Justin Bieber and, ooooh boy...his more rabid fans were up in arms and send her death threats on her Twitter.
      • Anybody who gets close to Justin Bieber is going to fall victim to this. Same thing happened to Kim Kardashian after they did a photo shoot together.
  • While averted by the shipping community, the wives and girlfriends of the crew of That Guy with the Glasses get a scary amount of hate. Iron Liz is the butt of many "lol, she's really a man" jokes and people are unhappy with the amount of times she's appeared in Linkara's reviews, Scarlett was called a "ginger fat pig" by trolls and she gets rage from people she's banned on Spoony's forum, while Doug Walker's wife only has one picture floating around the Internet and people go crazy over the fact that he could be attracted to a large woman. The only one who doesn't seem to get any hate is Brad Jones' wife Jillian.
    • Even The Nostalgia Critic and The Nostalgia Chick get this from the other's fanbase when there's any sign of Ship Tease between the two. Her fanboys said they were going to kill him in his sleep for their fail date, and his fangirls like to talk about how they'd like to beat on her while at the same time squeeing over how "adorable" he is. It makes the people who fancy enjoy them both slightly confused. Of course, now the crazy fans have at least some cause to celebrate, as Spoony and Scarlett split up in early 2011.
    • In 2011 Linkara and Iron Liz broke up although she appeared in the 300th episode.
    • We can now add Brad and Jillian to the list of separated couples among TGWTG reviewers, although it hasn't affected their work a great deal. Brad later stated that the split was mutual and that he and Jillian would continue to work together, saying "she's always going to be one of my best friends". His first girlfriend after Jillian got a lot of flak simply because she wasn't Jillian. At least there was a good reason to dislike his second girlfriend because she ran off with Brad's now-former friend Jake. Perhaps because of that, people have warmed up to his most recent girlfriend, Violet, more than they had the other two. Time will tell if this will stay the same now that Violet broke up with him (when he was on the verge of proposing, no less).
    • Averted when two TGWTG reviewers hook up (Case One, Case Two, and Case Three). At times hidden and leading to an engagement.
    • Now Jacob has left Nash for fellow ANN writer Zac Bertschy, who has been receiving a lot of hate himself. He has not taken it well. (The post was written before Jacob came out as trans, hence the use of she/her pronouns and the word "girlfriend" instead of "boyfriend").
    • Beth Elderkin is not Doug's partner (him being married, her being engaged), but anti-clipless people have accused her of "forcing" him to do them because she's in a few episodes, even though he keeps saying he loves them a lot more than just when he's riffing on footage.
  • Lord Alfred "Bosie" Douglas, Oscar Wilde's boyfriend gets this a lot. Wilde's previous partner, Robbie Ross, is usually looked on much more favourably. The main reasoning of this is that Douglas' behaviour (e.g. hiring male prostitutes) was the main reason Wilde's homosexuality was discovered, ruining Wilde's career, getting him arrested and put in labour jail for two years (ruining what was left of Wilde's health), forcing his family to move to Europe under false names (to escape the shame that homosexuality carried at the time) and ruined (and possibly indirectly killed) altogether one of the greatest writers that ever lived.
    • There is also the fact that Douglas insisted Wilde sue Douglas's father for libel (Queensberry had accused Wilde in writing of "posing as a somdomite [sic]". Wilde sued and lost, which meant his own prosecution became inevitable); that Douglas neglected him when he was in prison (something Wilde complains of bitterly in "De Profundis") and spurned him in exile once Wilde's money had run out; that he engineered the final rift between Wilde and the legal guardians of Wilde's two sons, meaning they never saw each other again; and that Douglas spent the rest of a long life persecuting Wilde's old flames (including Ross) and any other homosexual men he could hear of.
  • When Law & Order: SVU actress Stephanie March got together with chef Bobby Flay, the fan reaction was overwhelmingly negative. Particularly among fans who shipped March's character Alex Cabot with Olivia Benson, and blamed Flay for March's departure from the show. (The fact that Flay was, at the time, widely known as Iron Chef Morimoto's Eagle Land Type 2 American rival didn't help.) Mariska Hargitay's real-life husband Peter Hermann wasn't too popular with fans either, but seemed to attract less outright vitriol than Flay.
  • In the Doctor Who fandom, many people bash Matt Smith (the 11th Doctor)'s girlfriend, Daisy Lowe, in favor of him hooking up with his on-screen former "love interest" Karen Gillan (Amy Pond). Or they want him for themselves.
  • Aaron Johnson's fiancee Sam Taylor Wood gets this for being 23 years older than him. She's often subject to vicious comments about how she is supposedly too old and ugly for him, and he is sure to dump her for a younger woman.
  • Tom Hiddleston aka Loki from Thor is seen with a (rather pretty) lady who seems to be either his girlfriend or his wife. Cue the screaming fangirl meltdown. Side note: Hiddleston's single as of mid-late 2012 - he ended things with his girlfriend Susannah Fielding because "It’s just I am very driven right now and there isn’t really any time to have a proper girlfriend." The majority of "Hiddlestoners" also tend to look down on those who do anything that might cause him problems (like insulting a romantic partner).
    • When paparazzi photos showed him and Taylor Swift being together, it led a lot of speculation whether they're really dating for that they're shooting for a music video. More news showed that Tom and Taylor visited her parents which somehow confirmed that "yup, they're dating". Then, the two broke up which made a lot of fangirls throw up and said, "I knew it! This relationship is just for show!" which doesn't help when paparazzi photos showed Taylor smiling after news of the breakup got out. It doesn't help that the "Hiddleswift" dating started just weeks after Taylor broke up with Calvin Harris.
  • Rumour has it that Viggo Mortensen is dating Ariadna Gil, his co-star from Alatriste. Fangirls everywhere pretty much broke down when that rumour started circulating around the 'net. To add to the fire, Ariadna is already married with two children, and would be cheating on her husband if the rumours are true.
  • Of course, on iCarly, you have your Seddie and Creddie fans, and fans who ship the actors who play those characters in real life (Jathan and Niranda, respectively). But when Nathan Kress's relationship with Madisen Hill got out in the open, things heated up on Twitter when incensed Jathan fans started sending hate tweets to Madisen for "getting in the way" of their ship, forcing Nathan to block many of them and thus sparking a heated controversy on whether or not he had done the right thing or had gone too far in blocking even those who hadn't directly bashed his girlfriend.
  • Many fans were actually happy that Zooey Deschanel got divorced because it meant that she would be 'free' to be with Joseph Gordon-Levitt. Cue his fans getting angry over their insensitivity.
  • Groucho Marx, in the last years of his life, had a caretaker/girlfriend named Erin Fleming. While she isn't blamed for breaking up the Marx Brothers (that happened a decade earlier with Chico's death), most Marx fans hold her in ire for the way she used Groucho. During the 1970s, as Groucho got increasingly ill and senile, Fleming was constantly shoving him in front of the camera and the public eye, all in the name of jumpstarting her own stillborn acting career. When Groucho died in 1977, the unspoken fan reaction was generally "Thank God he's finally free of her."
  • When actor Bradley James from Merlin began dating actress Georgia King (who guest-starred on the show) many who shipped Bradley with his co-star Colin Morgan (under the portmanteau "Brolin") responded by throwing a fandom-wide hissy fit. This included leaving nasty messages on Georgia's Twitter, carefully scrutinizing the body language of the couple in an attempt to scientifically disprove their attraction to each other, complaining that all their Brolin fan-fiction was now ruined, or simply refusing to believe it was true.
  • In Turkey and other neighboring countries, when a rumor said that local sex symbol Kıvanç Tatlıtuğ was getting married, many girls were so crushed that they were Driven to Suicide or at least attempted it.
  • In "Fangirls, mean girls – and that grand pastime of calling each other "ugly sluts", Russian blogger Natalia Antonova (wife of a Russian actor and film/theater director) tells her and other women's experiences as friends/significant others of men popular in Russian media.
  • Darren Criss' (of Glee fame) girlfriend Mia Swier gets a lot of hate from the fandom, as a worryingly large part of it thinks he is "meant to be" with co-star (and on-screen ex-boyfriend) Chris Colfer, in spite of Darren identifying as straight.
    • Chris's boyfriend Will Sherrod has also gotten a lot of this from people who ship Chris with Darren.
  • Poor Amanda Abbington. When it was announced she would be playing Mary Morstan on Sherlock, the Sherlock/John slash Fan Dumb viciously descended on her, sending her death threats for having the audacity to play the love interest of John Watson. The fact that John happens to be played by her real life partner Martin Freeman also played into some of this for anyone that actor ships Martin with Benedict Cumberbatch.
    • When Benedict Cumberbatch became engaged, married and announced his partner's pregnancy and the birth of his first child within the span of a few months, a number of his fans became skeptical about how his relationship with Sophie Hunter might have been a "showmance" to campaign for his Academy Award nomination and to create the image as a family man in Hollywood. Some have branched the narrative out to include a fake pregnancy, rumours of blackmail, and that she was using him to boost her own fame level. It has caused an all-out fandom war, with some over zealous anti-skeptics being hellbent on "protecting" the couple that they have gone so far as to threaten and "out" those who do not believe that Benedict and Sophie they are actually a genuine and happy couple on Tumblr, as what they like to call a "taste of their own medicine".
  • Henry Cavill's girlfriend Marisa Gonzalo gets lots of hate because she's a proud hunter who post her graphic pictures on twitter. It doesn't help that Cavill is a self proclaimed animal right activist.
  • Some fans of Tim Burton complain that when he began his relationship with Helena Bonham-Carter, his films took a sharp downturn in quality. They also didn't like the fact his most interesting female roles seemed to be always given to Bonham-Carter while other actresses had to make do with bland characters. On the other hand, some fans of Bonham-Carter think her hooking up with Burton resulted in her wasting the prime years of her acting career doing his "silly" movies.
  • While Neil Gaiman's first wife Mary McGrath stayed for the most part out of the media, his current wife Amanda Palmer (with whom he has an open marriage) does the complete opposite. He goes on as many music/discussion tours with her as he does for his own work, if not more, and often promotes whatever she's doing on his Facebook page. While some of their fans are more than happy to see them together, others feel that she is stifling him as an author and he is prioritizing her over his writing. One article listing the "least sexy men" included Neil Gaiman, for the sole reason that he is so obsessed with Amanda. As the article said, "You are no longer Neil Gaiman. You are Gaimanda."
  • Some fans of Internet animator/lets player Egoraptor/Arin Hanson have been known to direct quite a bit of hate towards his wife Suzy. Almost any Game Grumps video featuring Suzy gets a bunch of hate comments from people who claim she's "ruining the show" or that she's supposedly made her husband "less funny." When JonTron left Game Grumps in 2013 some even went so far as to blame Suzy for his departure, which was fueled by Jon's own girlfriend saying she didn't care much for Suzy during one of Jon's livestreams.
  • In one case where this trope caused a constitutional crisis and the abdication of a king, Wallis Simpson became this when she started seeing and eventually married Edward VIII of the United Kingdom. At the time she met Edward, then Prince of Wales, he was considered the most eligible bachelor in the world. Everyone would have rather Edward marry anyone else but her, as a) she had already been divorced once, and was married to her second husband when she started seeing him (and it should be noted that at the time the Church of England did not permit divorcees to remarry if their ex-spouse was still alive), b) they viewed her as ambitious and eager for the throne as Edward's consort, c) she was American, and d) they feared a woman who was twice divorced (and rumored to have had other lovers) might try to divorce the king. It didn't help that the general British public didn't find out about her until Edward became king. Prime Minister Stanley Baldwin threatened that the government would resign if the king married her, to which he responded that he was abdicating in order to marry her. Wallis had by this point fled to France, where she received tons of hate mail, and to rub in the hate, despite becoming the Duchess of Windsor by marriage, the royal family refused to grant her the style "Her Royal Highness", even to her grave. History shows that the abdication was honestly for the best (otherwise there might have been a Nazi sympathizer on the throne during World War II, and his brother and successor George VI was a very popular king), but to this day Wallis remains a controversial figure in history.
  • Not necessarily a Die for Our Ship example, but Black Cat creator Kentaro Yabuki was forced to end the original To Love-Ru manga due to the actions of his ex-wife. Yabuki based the Shrinking Violet character on his wife: at first, she was all right with it, but started making unreasonable demands about the character after some form of a breakdown. Following a drawn-out legal battle, Yabuki won the creative rights to the character only for the wife to kidnap their daughter and demand money for her return; Yabuki ultimately caved and surrendered a lot to get her back safely, culminating in a divorce and an abrupt end to the first series as a result a combined Creator Breakdown and Executive Meddling. Fans absolutely loathed the ex-wife and projected it on her fictional expy, such that the Shrinking Violet in the Spin-Off sequel To Love-Ru Darkness is Demoted to Extra (she was one of two heroines in the original manga) while the Ensemble Darkhorses turned into Ascended Extras and new heroines.
  • Chris Evans' girlfriend, fellow actress Jenny Slate, is too ugly for him, according to his fans.
  • Again, another example that isn't quite Die for Our Ship, but this trope is relevant anyway. Uber CEO Travis Kalanick gets a lot of negativity and criticism from fangirls over whoever he's dating, including his current girlfriend Gabi Holzwarth, who is not popular with the fans, to the point that they consider Travis "theirs". Uber already is Overshadowed by Controversy anyway due to its taxi service and Automated Automobiles, and this has added more controversy to the issue, but it is still relevant.
  • R. K. Milholland, creator of the webcomic Something*Positive, did his best for a long time to avoid mentioning his partner on his website. Apparently some of his fans took to harassing her online and, in one particularly creepy example, in person at her job, after meeting her at conventions Milholland was attending. Much of his fanbase was thus completely unaware that he was even in a relationship, let alone married, for a number of years.

Fictional Examples

  • A lot of Shoujo and Josei series involve the new girl catching the eye of the resident hottie, causing all the other girls to get enraged and gang up on her. Jesus, and people wonder why the resident hottie opted to stay single. Who'd want to go out with any of those crazy bitches?:
    • In Sensual Phrase, Aucifer songwriter and lead singer Sakuya's girlfriend Aine has to deal with overzealous, whiny and sometimes downright violent fangirls more than once. Once she befriended a girl named Sakura, only to be dumped by her new "friend" once she learnt that she was dating Sakuya. Sakura later gets to briefly date Sakuya... but then we learn it's a Batman Gambit from him, since he wants to "punish" Sakura for taking Aine's friendship and position for granted.
    • Miyako Sakuragawa from Private Prince got to meet up with Prince Wilfred in a high-class party that her friend Chiri smuggled her in. The next day, a bunch of bitchy girls were already on her case, and Wilfred's valet Robert had to bail her out.
    • In Peach Girl, Momo got attacked (and her locket with a picture of her crush smashed) by a bunch of Kairi fangirls. She had just had a very short, and antagonistic, conversation with the guy and they are warning her to "stay away from our man". So, if the fangirls had paid attention to what was said in that convo or actually looked at the locket before breaking it, they'd have realized Momo was not interested in Kairi at that point.
    • In Lovely Complex, Risa Koizumi is attacked by a girl named Mimi due to her closeness to the basketball captain Ootani, whom Mimi has her heart set on. Mimi goes as far as almost stabbing Risa in the hand with a pen out of jealousy. Fortunately, she later gives up on it.
    • In Akuma na Eros, Miu is attacked by Amamiya's fangirls after they spot them speaking in the school grounds.
  • The Gentlemen's Alliance has Haine be reprimanded and intimidated by Shizumasa's fangirls, after she becomes his girlfriend. Played for Laughs, as they were just fine with Shizumasa dating Maguri.
  • At the start of Haunted Junction, A female ghost attempts repeatedly to possess Kazumi to spend a whole night with her boyfriend... Turns out that said boyfriend was a rising rock singer and, the night she died, the poor girl was running away from three rabid fangirls who had been bullying her for dating him, getting accidentally hit by a car in the middle of her escape. They get their asses literally kicked by the Ghost Giant (who punishes meddlers like that among Saitou High students), and the girl is reunited with the BF without needing to possess Kazumi.
  • In the anime Love Love, Naoko got seduced by Natsumi due to the fact he was a scriptwriter, when it was time that she realized she actually loved him. Both got in trouble after they attempted to have sex at a love hotel
  • In The Legend of Black Heaven, Oji's wife Yoshiko (or "Yokko"), a groupie of the metal band Oji fronted in his glory days, is broadly hinted to have caused the breakup of the band by conceiving Oji's son Gen. Yoshiko is largely hostile and unsupportive when Oji takes up the guitar again to the point of moving out of their house and filing for divorce when Oji won't quit the band.
  • In Durarara!!, Izaya's younger sister Mairu has a brief Heroic B.S.O.D. when she reads in a tabloid that her favorite actor (Shizuo's brother Kasuka) might have a relationship with Idol Singer Ruri Hijiribe.
  • Basically the plot of NANA; Nana O is perceived as this due to her relationship with Ren, with far-reaching effects on her life and career.
  • In Mawaru-Penguindrum, three girls who were dumped by resident hottie Kanba Takakura (Asami, Yui and Chizuru) form a club named "Heart-Broken Victims of Takakura Kanba Assocation". As such, Yui and Chizuru corner Kanba at some point, asking him if he has a new girlfriend or a girl has taken their places in his heart. Then, Action Girl Masako then shows up and wipes their memories away... just like she did to an hospitalized Asami right beforehand.
    • Averted in the case of the in-story famous Takarazuka actress Yuri Tokikago, who is dating Kanba and Shoma's teacher Keiju Tabuki and hasn't had problems coming from fans as far as the story shows. This doesn't change when they get engaged, Yuri retires from acting and Tabuki moves into her Big Fancy House. The only one really objecting is Ringo... and well, this is Ringo we're talking about. And she later stops objecting anyway.
  • In The World God Only Knows, when popular idol Kanon publicly confesses to Keima, several of her fanboys are not pleased.
  • Zetsuai 1989: Koji's announcement that he's in love with Izumi doesn't go over very well with his fans. Especially the already unstable Eri.
    • Before that, when Kouji helped Izumi's sister Serika and people mistakenly thought they were dating, Izumi got massively pissed off not just because he didn't want his little sister on the spotlight and be subjected to this trope, but because he feared that this would bring the Dark and Troubled Past of the Izumis out in the open. And it did.
  • In Bakuman。, when it comes out that Miho Azuki, now a very popular voice actress, is dating the main character, Mashiro, there is a massive amount of fan rage and Internet Backdraft. And quite the consequences to Miho's career, as she must outperform everyone to voice the female lead in the anime version of Mashiro's manga because of her relationship with him.
  • In Kodomo no Omocha, Sana (already a child star in her own right) gets her leg broken by obsessed fangirls of another famous child star, Naozumi Kamura (who happens to be her friend), because of rumors running around that they'd hooked up on an extended film shoot. At first, they managed to convince these girls that it was pure gossip, but the rumors were too strong for them to think otherwise.
  • In Pokémon Special, a lot of Elesa's fanboys assume that Black is her boyfriend when they see him with her and get pissed, apparently forgetting that she's a Gym Leader along with being a model.
  • Les Yay example: in Kannazuki no Miko, when Chikane's fangirls learn that she has her eyes set on her best friend Himeko, they take to bullying poor Himeko out of jealousy. Chikane and Souma are very displeased by this.
  • Detective Conan:
    • A case featured an Idol Singer who hid her romantic relationship with a guy in the TV industry because of this trope. For worse, the Idol Singer died in very shady circumstances... and one year later, the boyfriend became the case's killer, trying both to have revenge and to find her body, hidden inside a Big Fancy House.
    • Both Kogoro and Ai Haibara invoke the trope when rumors leak about Kogoro's favorite Idol Singer Yoko Okino and Ai's favorite soccer player Ryuunosuke Higo are dating. i.e, Detective Kids notice that Ai, who normally likes Yoko's songs, has deleted them off her cellphone out of jealousy. Since Yoko and Higo were actually Mistaken For Dating and a highschool friend of the two was murdered so the cast focused on finding the culprit instead, the matter remains as a mere Running Gag; once everything's cleared up, a calmer Ai re-uploads her favorite Yoko songs to her 'phone.

    Comic Books 
  • In Cerebus the Aardvark, when Bear's obnoxious girlfriend Ziggy shows up and it's clear that he's going to be leaving the bar with her, almost everyone else there makes plans to leave for good the next day because it shatters the already-tenuous atmosphere in the bar.
  • An early issue of Grim Jack had him trying to protect a No Celebrities Were Harmed expy of John Lennon. In the end, he finds out too late that the stalker's target was the wife, not the musician as everybody had assumed. The killer had blamed her for 'ruining' her husband... but her death resulted in him quitting singing and music all together.

    Fan Works 
  • The Moaning Myrtles, a Wizard Rock band, plays Myrtle's crush on Harry for laughs and wrote a song about Cho called "Choko Ono"
  • Enoby Darkness Dementia Tara Raven Way in My Immortal hates Hilary Duff, probably because, at the time, she was dating Joel Madden, and she seems to have a major crush on any singer in a "goffic" band.

  • David St. Hubbins' girlfriend from This Is Spinal Tap, Jeanine Pettibone. She's intended as a parody of Yoko Ono, naturally.
  • Emily Wang in Clean gets blamed for the fall into obscurity and drug-related death of her boyfriend, a former rock star.
  • A smaller-scale example; in the British romantic comedy Confetti, one of the main characters is in a low-level rock band. He's getting married, and his best friend / bandmate has taken to writing songs which are thinly veiled rants about how much of a bitch he thinks the main character's fiancee is and how she's breaking up the band and splitting them apart. She is, however, a perfectly lovely and sweet woman, but is savvy enough to get the references to her in his music and does not appreciate them.
  • America's Sweethearts is one huge parody of this trope. When a Hollywood couple that have made several romantic comedies together break up prior to the release of their latest movie, interest in the film plummets, so the studio's promotion team tries to make it look like they're getting back together so the fans and press will care again.

  • In the Confessions of Georgia Nicolson series, Georgia considers this trope the reason why Robbie's bandmates dislike her.
  • In the Star Trek: Deep Space Nine book Legends of the Ferengi, one of the stories recounts how the popular Ferengi music group "Success" broke up after Grymi Success skipped the Isle of Grubs music festival to spend the evening in a tube grub sack with his wife, a Bolian performance artist named Pino.

    Live Action TV 
  • On 30 Rock, Jack almost married a manipulative, vampy Gold Digger. She defended her actions thus:
    • Later, Jenna—as part of a "sexual walkabout"—tries to do this with the singer from The Woggels, a color-themed Australian children's band who are totally not The Wiggles.
  • John's Yoko is the Trope Namer, but the exact words "Yoko Oh No" were spoken in the All That sketch "C.J. and the Cloudy Knights", where one of the Cloudy Knights has a girlfriend named Yoko who threatens to leave him if he doesn't become the lead singer.
    • This exact phrase was uttered by Bubble in "Absolutely Fabulous"
    • As well as Robert Wuhl in an HBO stand-up comedy routine.
    • It was also the title of a California Dreams episode.
  • In the episode of The Big Bang Theory "The Cooper-Nowitzki Theorem", Sheldon's graduate student Ramona Nowitzki seeks to isolate him from the group and curtail his leisure activities in a effort to improve his scientific work. The soundtrack lampshades this by covering a montage of this activity with "Be My Yoko Ono". Sheldon eventually cuts ties with Ramona in order to avoid sharing credit with a lowly graduate student.
    • A more direct version happens in Season 9. Raj and Howard start a "filk music" band. At first, they're in agreement about their music, then Raj plays the song for Emily and brings up new ideas. Howard accuses him of trying to break up the band, by going along with what Emily says.
  • A late fourth-season episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer is called "The Yoko Factor". The Yoko in this case is an actively malicious one — Spike, who can see a conflict brewing among the Scoobies, and pushes just the right buttons to set it off. Notably, Spike himself notes to Adam during the episode that Yoko, for all she got blamed, didn't break up the Beatles; it was internal strife, much as he wasn't so much the cause of the Scoobies' breakup, just the catalyst that (deliberately) brought their grievances into plain view. This example, however, is a subversion — while the Scoobies do have a vicious argument and falling out thanks largely to Spike's prodding, when tempers have cooled a bit they're savvy enough to realise that Spike's been manipulating them, approach either other more calmly about their recent tensions, and mend bridges.
    • In that same arc, Riley's friend Forrest views Buffy as the Yoko (with the Beatles represented by the Initiative).
      • Spike in turn, along with Riley Finn, served as examples to Angel/Buffy shippers who were furious that the relationship between the two characters was effectively ended due to Angel being spun off into his own series. Spike in particular gets blamed a lot, as the writers fleshed out Spike's character and made him more sympathetic to the audience. Some fans preferred the older characterization.
  • Anya sees Willow as Yoko for her relationship with Xander. Can't say she's wrong. A big plot point for the season 5 episode Triangle.
  • Coco from Flight of the Conchords: She's actually perfectly nice, but Jemaine insists that she'll break up the band, and comparing her to the trope namer.
    Bret: Why did you say that, ‘cause she’s nothing like Yoko.
    Jemaine: Ono, she isn’t.
    Murray: Jemaine, you’re putting "oh no" together to sound like "Ono".
    Jemaine: Ono I didn't.
    Murray: You did it again.
    Jemaine: Ono, did I?
    • Coincidently Jemaine worrying that she'll break up the band is what makes Bret quit.
  • Israeli sitcom The Foxes, revolving around a group of friends making a poor quality horror series on YouTube, made an ersatz-Yoko girlfriend for the group writer and director Schmuckler. Her skin had a rather dark complexion and her eyes were always covered by sunglasses, making her appear more Asian. She frequently meddled with the production, whispering ‘suggestions’ to Schmuckler (who took the habit of wearing round sunglasses) and never uttering a word besides that. The rest of the group hated her guts, but let her stay because Schmuckler was a virgin and they wanted to give him an opportunity to finally get lucky. This got so bad she made him declare their break up (and smiled in Schadenfreude as he obeyed), but was soon allowed to be in the group’s new short instead. The actor playing the murderer in the scene was extra-cruel to her and wound up legitimately hurting her, leading to her leaving the group for an acting gig (apparently, no-one could play a dead body as well as her), and it turned out Schmuckler never got to do anything with her.
  • Freaks and Geeks : After Lindsay criticizes the group for sucking, they break up, and Ken calls Lindsay "Yoko."
  • In an episode of Full House, Joey's latest girlfriend senses that he isn't happy with the way Jesse always takes the lead and makes decisions in their partnership/friendship and urges him to stand up for himself. Sure enough, this causes considerable friction and tension between the two, culminating in a huge fight in which Jesse outright refers to the woman as "Yoko" (a bit of Fridge Brilliance in this, given what a rabid music fan Jesse is).
  • In The Golden Girls season three episode 'Dorothy's New Friend', Dorothy becomes friends with author Barbara Thorndyke, who creates tension with Blanche and Rose because she looks down on them.
  • Nina from Just Shoot Me! forced her boyfriend of the week (Huey Lewis) to quit his air band (he came back). She also broke up The Jackson Six. Yes, there were six.
  • Mystery Science Theater 3000: In Gamera Vs Guiron, they reference Yoko Ono. During a closeup on young Tomoko, one of the SOL crew quips, "I'll show you! I'll grow up to break up the Beatles!"
  • Shawn Ryan created his own personal example plot device on The Shield in the form of Mara, Shane Vendrell's girlfriend and ultimately wife. Introduced at the start of the third season without bothering to show how she and Shane hooked up, Mara instantly shattered the loyalty of the members of the Strike Team with her existence, ultimately causing the group to break apart and to put Shane and Vic Mackey at bitter odds with each other. On the other hand, Mara is routinely written as being the only character who knows full well the true dark nature of the Strike Team and their crimes, and as such, reacts to their insane illegal/morally unethical schemes in a sensible fashion. Unfortunately, this in turn led to Shane Vendrell murdering his best friend, Detective Curtis "Lem" Lemanski, due to Mara lecturing Shane earlier in the season that he needed to put his family ahead of protecting Lem and his friends in the Strike Team, much to the horror of fans of the Lem/Shane slash pairings. Ultimately, Shane kills Mara and their child, starting the chain of events that brings the Downer Ending on.
  • Alluded to in That '70s Show. When Eric and Donna find out that Hyde and Jackie are dating behind Kelso's back (even though Kelso did run out on her for a while), Eric freaks out over the effect of the deal in their common friendship and tells Jackie "You'll be breaking up the band, Yoko!"
    • Earlier, in the episode "The Third Wheel", he also calls Hyde's Girl of the Week Yoko ("What? We're kind of the Beatles.")
  • In Whitechapel, a band groupie is asked about any jealousies or rivalries within the band, to which she replies: "I'm no Yoko."
  • On the Channel 4 show Youngers, Davina is almost an inversion of this. Despite being a member of the band, the Love Triangle that occurs between her, Yemi, and Jay essentially breaks up the band. In series 2, when they are Putting the Band Back Together, Yemi worries about this trope when they are trying to get Davina to join them again.
  • The Bold and the Beautiful. When younger brother Thorne Forrester marries Darla, she encourages him to take on a larger role in the family's fashion company and stand up to his bullying older brother Ridge. This eventually causes such tension that a huge blowup results in Thorne quitting to start his own company. A similar scenario played out several years earlier with brother Rick and his wife Amber.
  • Gilmore Girls discussed the Trope Namer.
    Rory: Yoko Ono? really?
    Lane: A very misunderstood artist and The Beatles would’ve broken up anyways.
    Rory: Have you shared this theory with anyone?
    Lane:I know it, Yoko knows it, Sean knows it. Julian’s still in denial - but what can you do?
  • In Daredevil, Wilson Fisk begins a romantic relationship with art curator Vanessa Marianna. Unfortunately, his associates Leland Owlsley and Madame Gao see Vanessa as distracting Fisk from the day to day needs of his criminal enterprise. Thus they try to have her killed at at a charity gala that Fisk is throwing by poisoning her wine. She barely survives due to Fisk immediately rushing her to an emergency room. When Fisk learns of Owlsley's role in the attempt, he throws him down an elevator shaft.

  • Barenaked Ladies has a song called "Be My Yoko Ono" that discusses this trope.

  • Inverted in Old Harry's Game, one of the characters violently hates celebrity gardener Alan Titchmarsh because he fancies Titchmarsh's wife

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  • In The Prince of Tennis Dating Sim Gakuensai no Oujisama, if the player gets the main girl (default name: Shizuka Hirose) to attend Hyoutei and she becomes close to Atobe, she will be threatened and physically attacked by his rabid fangirls. When Atobe finds out, he will lecture Shizuka harshly for not telling him about the incidents; later he'll protect her from his fans and, if the main girl manages to successfully woo him, in the end he announces that she will be his girlfriend in front of the whole school, much to the dismay of the attackers.
  • Parodied in the one of the loading screen messages for Guitar Hero: "When in doubt, blame the singer's girlfriend".
  • In The King of Fighters XIII, if the player defeats Benimaru Nikaido with Athena Asamiya, the latter (an Idol Singer in addition to being an Action Girl) will allude to the aforementioned "female entertainers in Japan can't have boyfriends EVER or the Fan Dumb will go berserk" deal:
    Athena: "As an idol, scandals are taboo, so I can't go on a date with you! ♪ "
    • In the Story mode, when the player uses the the Women's Team and they face the Psycho Soldiers, Yuri starts the talk via asking about the trope:
    Yuri: Hey Athena... isn't it too hard to be an idol? I mean, you can't hang out with friends in public or date and stuff, right...?
    Athena: Yeah, there are some restrictions in my personal life... but I'm happy to be an idol, so I can accept these inconveniences!
    • The trope is directly used in the Days of Memories Dating Sims, if Athena is the girl that the MC wants to romance. In Boku to Kanojo no Atsui Natsu, she's kidnapped by some Loony Fans and the main boy must save her; in Boku no Ichiban Taisetsu na Kimi e, there's the Running Gag of her fans interrupting the MC and Athena's dates but later it's played more seriously when her manager threatens to resign if her image is "tainted"; in Boku to Kanojo to Koto no Koi a scandal does take place when photos of the MC and Athena are taken and leaked to the Internet, but it's a misunderstanding and the fan who did so (Kaoru) apologizes for it.

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    Western Animation 
  • On Family Guy, Stewie threatens Brian with doing the same thing to him he did to John Lennon. The Cutaway Gag shows Stewie making the introductions.
  • On King of the Hill, Dale (acting as the manager of John Redcorn's band Big Mountain Fudgecake) calls Luanne "Yoko" and blames her relationship with Lucky for hurting their success; Luanne doesn't get the reference. The band does break up shortly thereafter, but due to Redcorn going "mainstream" (becoming a childrens' entertainer) and not Luanne's influence.
  • Metalocalypse references this one, in the episode "Girlfriendklok". Nathan Explosion's woman in that episode is, to say the least, a nuisance.
    • Not to mention there were mass suicides when news of him having a girlfriend broke out. (And open warfare between fangirls once they broke up.)
    • And the band nearly broke up after a love triangle between Nathan, Pickles, and their new band manager Abigail goes horribly wrong.
  • A Pinky and the Brain episode featured The Brain introducing a "singer" named Yoyo Nono (who can't sing at all) to the popular 60's band The Feebles. The result?
    Paul McCartney Lookalike: She's terrible!
    Ringo Starr Lookalike: She can't sing.
    John Lennon Lookalike: I love her!
    • Then the band breaks up so "Jim Lemon" can pursue a relationship with Nono, and The Feebles's fanbase immediately run Pinky and the Brain out of India for introducing them.
      • An out of universe example; many fans see Elmyra as a unanimous example of this for the entire series.
  • Moko Jono, Mojo Jojo's girlfriend in The Powerpuff Girls' Beatles spoof "Meet the Beat-Alls". She helps the girls split up the band. Here, she's a good gal who is sent in as a Reverse Mole of sorts. She was a nonsentient female ape of the same species, "cross"-dressed as a sentient being, brought in by the PPG to break up the four supervillains whose powers combined could beat all three of the girls.
  • The Simpsons
    • Barney's girlfriend from "Homer's Barbershop Quartet"; another Yoko parody.
      Moe: What'll it be?
      Barney: Gimme a beer.
      Barney's Japanese Girlfriend: I'll have a single plum, floating in perfume, served in a man's hat.
      (Upon which Moe immediately places the requested drinks on the bar.)
    • The band's manager in the same episode gives Homer this advice. "I would prefer if we kept your marriage a secret. You see, a lot of women are going to want to have sex with you, and, er, we want them to think they can."
    • In another episode, when someone mentions Yoko Ono, Homer says, in all sincerity, "Ew, she totally ruined the Plastic Ono Band!"
  • Batgirl in Batman: The Animated Series. There was already a growing rift between Batman and Robin, but Batman showing favoritism towards Batgirl, and keeping her identity and their partnership a secret from Dick Grayson is the catalyst for their falling-out.
  • In Chozen, after the title character reconnects with his prison boyfriend Jamal, Ricky and Crisco are less than thrilled. That Jamal starts pushing for Chozen to abandon rapping altogether doesn't help.
  • On Drawn Together, after finding out he was going to be forced into an arranged 'battle', Ling-Ling exclaims 'Yoko Ono'.
  • Daria: Some fans of the show feel this way about Tom Sloan. He starts dating Jane near the end of season 3, but his growing attraction to Daria causes a serious rift between the two girls, who, up until then, were inseparable for most of the show. This fact is not lost on Daria, and when she and Tom kiss each other it hurts her friendship with Jane for a while.
  • In the episode "Fallen Arches" of The Venture Bros., the trope is discussed when Dr. Venture attempts to have The Talk with his son Dean. The Time-Compression Montage inexplicably ends with him ranting that Tawny Kitaen broke up Whitesnake. (David Coverdale did replace most of the band around the time she appeared in their videos, and later they got married and divorced some time later.)