Nobody owns meOne common romantic desire is the wish to be owned by one's lover, to be his or her property. Mutual ownership only goes so far, because at the core it is a kind of power dynamic where the "owner" stands for safety and responsibility, while the owned can relax and feel small in a good way. This trope often includes Freedom from Choice. A Property of Love dynamic is often justified in one of several ways:
I don't wanna be anybody's fool
No one can make me do
What I don't want to do
No, no, nobody owns me
Nobody but you
I don't wanna be anybody's fool
No one can make me do
What I don't want to do
No, no, nobody owns me
Nobody but you
— Belinda Carlisle, "Nobody Owns Me"
- Simply Romantic: No real explanation is given. The writer hopes that its cuteness will avert any Hatedom.
- Supernatural: The reason Alice keeps pointing out that she belongs to Bob is that she is his human, not that she is his woman. See also Double Standard: Rape, Divine on Mortal.
- BDSM between Consenting Adults: It's not about gender or race or class or anything like that, it's about who happens to be dominant and who happens to be submissive. note
- Cultural Relativism: The dominance is based on gender or race or similar. However, the story takes place in another time or on another world, and this is emphasized in a way that hints that the Values Dissonance is intended — the reader may be troubled, but the characters themselves are fine with it.
- A variation on the standard I Will Wait for You, where the person being waited for hasn't even met the person who's waiting, and might not even exist. (For example, Alice is keeping herself "pure" for a hypothetical future husband, or being told that she must do that, with the belief that anything less would be "cheating" on him before she's even met him.)
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- In The Ancient Magus' Bride, Chise consensually puts herself up for auction in the hopes of getting a better life, and is bought by Elias for the purpose of having both a student, experiment, and a bride.
- The Boys Love Genre Ai no Kusabi features Elite Blondy Iason Mink who forcibly makes defiant gangster Riki his Pet and falls in love with him. Iason wants himself and Riki to be more than Master and Pet but realizes it is the only way they could be together in their Dystopian society. So he wishes and waits for the day Riki, of his own volition, will become this trope and find Happiness in Slavery.
- In Guilty Crown, Shu and Inori have a fair bit of this dynamic going on in their romance arc, but it doesn't go as far as Inori being willing to leave her Organization and its leader (who liberated her from the lab she was created in) when he asked her to. At first, it isn't clear how much of this was an act she was instructed to put up to keep Shu and his powers available to her boss, but it becomes a genuine sentiment as the show progresses. Note that for Inori, being "his" also means always staying on his side and continuing to support him - which he needs quite badly.
- Mysterious Girlfriend X: Urabe labels herself as Tsubaki's 'property' in one chapter/episode.
- Rosario + Vampire: An anime-exclusive character called Ijuuin Kotaro has the ability to magically charm any female. He successfully charms Moka, Kurumu, Yukari and Mizore, and for a whole episode they become his obedient slaves, completely in love with him. Moka and Mizore even affectionately call him 'Master' while under the spell.
- Parodied in Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid when Tohru declared herself to be Kobayashi's loyal sex slave at Comiket (to Kobayashi's exasperation). She doesn't actually qualify since Kobayashi's feelings for her are (occasional Les Yay aside) platonic.
- Beautifully parodied in Wonder Woman #600, where Diana and Power Girl have a seemingly very uncharacteristic conversation about how Karen needs to understand and accept that "you belong to him", before The Reveal that they're talking about her cat.
- In Runaways, Karolina gives herself willingly to Xavin because she just faced a painful rejection from her longtime crush and Xavin promises to love her no matter what. She becomes less sanguine about this arrangement later on, as Xavin takes increasing liberties with their relationship (like impersonating Nico to make Karolina more sexually receptive), and nearly breaks the whole thing off after Xavin lets slip that Skrulls consider wives to be property.
- Averted in Hobbit-Fanfic The Toymaker and the Widow, as Bofur makes it perfectly clear that his love interest is nobody's property. Also played straight with Dwarven marriage custom, according to which a widow is still considered the property of her deceased husband, and, thus, cannot remarry.
- Maleficent fics are full of this; Diaval's relationship with Maleficent is something like indentured servitude, and as the both of them are the most frequently shipped pair, this trope ensues. Your Servant Mistress is an example that uses the BDSM justification.note Some other fics intentionally avert it by having his servitude to her end at some point during the plot of the movie where he saves her life, and then there are those where he chooses to switch his status from servant to Property of Love when Maleficent offers to set him free.
- In Nukume Dori, Subaru now takes great pride on the inverse pentagram marks on his hands; the symbols that marks him as the Sakurazukamori's prey now are a brand that ties him to Seishirou forever. And as much as Seishirou says he owns Subaru, Subaru agrees in a way that implies he himself owns Seishirou as well.
- In Beautiful Disaster, Rin and Haru mutually feel this way. In this case, it's less about the perceived toxicity of their relationship than the familial circumstances outside it that threaten to separate them.
"Gods, we are so fucked up," she whispered, watching him nod reluctantly with agreement, unable to find the gentle words he needed to soothe and reassure.
- In the ElfQuest fic Name Quest, Nightfall considers Recognition:
Then...there's Recognition...where the knowledge is taken from you — not taken away, just given to some other person without your consent...and, at the same time, you learn — the same way what his soul-name is.
That's...that's a little scary!...Unless...
Unless...yeah...I wouldn't mind...unless it were Redmark...I guess I wouldn't mind Redmark...finding out my soul-name...if I could know his in return.
If he can find it out. ...I won't tell him...that would ruin it...that would be just a...just a phony shadow...of the Real Thing. Recognition...yeah...Recognition wouldn't be all that scary...if it's with Redmark.
- Inverted in the film version of Breakfast at Tiffany's: When Paul tries to talk Holly Golightly out of going to South America because she belongs to him and he to her because they love each other, and she insists that she doesn't, and won't, belong to anyone, and that's part of the reason why she has to leave.
Holly: People don't belong to people.
- In Captain Blood, the trope gets inverted for both genders. Blood gets sold as a slave and bought by his eventual love interest. Later she gets taken prisoner and is sold to him in a similar fashion. They both find the experience to be humiliating in a bad way, and a total turnoff to the point of stopping them from admitting their feelings for each other. It is only later, when they are both free, that their love for each other can bloom.
- Exit to Eden ends happily with Elliot submitting to Mistress Lisa.
- The Penalty: When Rose decides on Defecting for Love and going through a Face–Heel Turn, she doesn't simply tell Blizzard the criminal mastermind that she loves him. Nope. She calls him "Master!"
- Secretary is a mixture between drama and Romantic Comedy, revolving around the BDSM version of this trope. The main storyline is about the main character wanting to be truly owned by her boss.
- In The Sound of Music film version, the recap of the song "Seventeen Going on Eighteen" has the clause, "and you belong to him." At least one stage version performed during The '90s changes the clause to "and you belong with him."
- Defied in Vanilla Sky: In her heart Juliana truly belongs to David, and they both know it. Yet they pretend to simply be friends who have fun together, and it works just fine... Until it doesn't.
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- I Dream of Jeannie: Major Nelson is Jeannie's master, and thus Jeannie is happily "his" property. It's justified as she's a genie and at the start Nelson tries to free her. Although she stays as Major Nelson's genie, she very much has the freedom to do as she pleases. Many of Jeannie's actions are in pursuit of her Series Goal; as she is in love with Major Nelson, her goal is to be Nelson's wife.
- True Blood has this as one of its basic premises. Sookie has given herself to Bill out of love, without being hypnotized like so many other fangbangers. Also, being his makes her off-limits to other vampires.
- The same pattern of vampire owning human is consistent in the series, and it's often a female vampire owning a male or female human. However, these relationships are rarely as happy as the one between Sookie and Bill. In the second season, one guy belonging to a female vampire is so desperate for her love and blood that he'd do anything for it... including betray her.
- In Doctor Who, it's revealed that the TARDIS views the Doctor as this. She points out it's mutual, as she's his sentient starship/time machine (which he boosted from a Gallifreyan museum), but he hadn't thought about it in quite that way before:
The TARDIS: Then you stole me. And I stole you.The Doctor: I borrowed you.The TARDIS: 'Borrowing' implies the eventual intention to return the thing that was taken. What makes you think I would ever give you back?
- In the Buffy the Vampire Slayer episode "Who Are You?", Willow (awkwardly) explains to Tara why she hasn't told the former's True Companions about their relationship:
Willow:...I-I just kinda like having something that's just, you know, mine. (...)
Tara: I am, you know.
- On Gameof Thrones, many Wildlings/Free Folk take this view. Sex without marriage is often completely unstigmatised, and causal sex is often accepted, but romantic commitment means you are that person's and that person is yours. Southerner Jon Snow didn't completely embrace this mindset, and despite having sincere feelings for Ygritte, he lead her on instead of making it clear he wasn't fully hers and wouldn't truly accept her being his. On another side of things, Gilly decided she was Sam's after he rescued her and her baby, and due to him seeing her as her own person from the beginning, this caused conflict, especially after they started to fall in love with one another. Mainly, he wanted her and the baby to go somewhere safe, and she was hurt and confused, leading to frustration and anger, by his perceived tossing aside of her.
- In A Brother's Price, men are technically the property of their birth family, and later the property of their wives. While this doesn't come up much in the narrative — men are never treated like property — it is played for drama, as Jerin is aware that if his sisters committed a crime and were punished for it, he would be part of the property that would be taken away from them. Also, Jerin's grandmothers abducted his grandfather, who was a prince, from a castle under siege, and were able to legally marry him and have his ancestry handwaved as he was considered war loot. The marriage, apparently, was a very happy one, so this is a straight example.
- In Gor, this kind of love is based on a very violent and misogynistic culture where males are supposed to have power over females. The author relies heavily on justification D, constantly pointing out that the stories are taking place on the planet Gor and not the planet Earth. After a while, the descriptions of how the sheep of Gor graze on the fields of Gor to create the wool of Gor gets more annoying than the actual storyline.
- Jean-Claude from the Anita Blake tends to form these sorts of relationships with his humans and were-creatures, including Anita, later in the series. Even when the master/servant relationship isn't sexualised (for example, between Jean-Claude and Jason), it tends to involve high levels of devotion ( and possibly also Stockholm Syndrome).
- Played with a lot in The Red Vixen Adventures, Alinadar wants this kind of relationship in large part because she spent most of her life as a slave, and she developed a serious crush on her second mistress The Red Vixen, who unfortunately was straight, but who thought she could set her up with Sallivera. However Salli didn't like the idea and avoided getting serious with Ali until she got her head together and could handle a slightly more equal relationship.
- The romance series Lords of the Underworld has a mutual example in Gwen and Sabin. The former proudly describes herself as "his favorite weapon", and later implies note that he has her name tattooed on him in several places.
- The Princess Diaries mentions this trope several times, such as in the fifth book, when Mia explains why she's so excited about prom:
I want everyone to look at us dancing and know once and for all that I am the property of Michael Moscovitz. Even though I know that's sexist and no one can ever be the property of another human being. Except. . . except I so want to be Michael's property!
- Journey to Chaos: During the third book, Mana Mutation Menace, to mitigate the effects of a supernatural Slave Collar while researching a permanent solution, Ataidar's Royal Ordercraft Security and Compliance team invokes this trope. Annala would much rather be Eric's (her boyfriend) slave than Nulso's (a creepy older man who happens to be her mother's archenemy). Because Order's respect for free will extends to choosing whom to surrender it to, the ROSCT perform a ritual that switches her ownership from Nulso to Eric. Order allows it because Nulso forced the collar on her. Following this, they say that the "owner" in this couple still not does legally "own" the other and so Power Perversion Potential is still illegal.
- In The Irregular at Magic High School, Miyuki happily admits that every part of her, body and soul, belong to Tatsuya note . Her family's fixation on hierarchy and Arranged Marriages may have something to do with this perspective; in her world, few spouses can treat each other as equals, even if they want to.
- Belinda Carlisle's song "Nobody Owns Me".
- "Sweet Surrender" by Sarah McLachlan.
- For an example from the days when it was considered simply romantic, there's the 1930s jazz standard "Body and Soul": "I'd gladly surrender myself to you, body and soul". While the "owning" thing was unproblematic in those days, there still was a bit of trouble about the song when it first came out. Not because of the "owning" thing, but because some people thought it was a bit risque for a woman to sing about surrendering her body to a man.
- Romantic ownership is pervasive in pop music. The phrase "I Belong to You" is the exact title of many different songs by popular artists like Lenny Kravitz, Anastacia, Brian McKnight, Toni Braxton, and Whitney Houston, most of which also mention "you belong to me."
- "You Belong To Me" is a song in its own right.
- Oingo Boingo's song "Not My Slave" plays with this trope and the meaning of the phrase 'you're mine'.
- "It Won't Be Long" by The Beatles ("...till I belong to you!")
- "Las de Las Intuicion (Pure Intuition)" by Shakira.
- "All For You" by Little Boots.
- In the sense of religious love, the Rend Collective song "More Than Conquerors" describes Jesus as 'our conqueror'.
- Solarstone's "Slave" and "The Last Defeat(Part 2)".
- In Romeo and Juliet, Paris, Juliet's fiance, regards Juliet this way; when she cries, he says, "Thy face is mine, and thou hast slandered it." Note, however, that this kind of language was commonly considered romantic and sweet at the time, a reference to the unity of husband and wife, and doesn't necessarily justify playing Paris as a Jerkass.
- If you take The Taming of the Shrew at face value rather than trying to read subtext into it, this is where Kate ends up. She gives an earnest and unequivocal speech at the end in which she says that wives should obey their husbands and submit to their will.
- Star Wars: The Old Republic:
- Darth Malgus obtained a Twi'lek slave named Eleena Daru. She had no more status in the Empire than as a Sex Slave, and the favored property of Malgus, and Malgus would beat her up if he got angry (being a Sith - he was frequently angry), but came to love him and he loved her as much as a Sith is capable of, even to the point of considering each other husband and wife, and fighting side by side during the attack on Courscant's Jedi Temple. However, when Eleena was injured, and another Sith pointed out that she could be used as a weakness against him, Malgus murdered his "wife" in her sickbed without much consideration.
- The Male Sith Warrior can directly parallel this with their companion Vette, who is his female Twi'lek slave. In the beginning, you could keep Vette's shock collar attached and still "romance" her, but critics pointed out the luggage rack of problems involved in raping a slave that breaks the game's Teen rating. A patch was pushed to make it so you have to remove her slave collar before playing the romance arc, but it still does not change the fact Vette has no legal standing in the empire other than being the Male Sith Warrior's prized property.
- The trope influences the Arc Words of Rule of Rose: "Eternal/True love/I am yours". They're the promise that Jennifer and Wendy made as children. Unfortunately, Wendy took the promise literally where Jennifer did not, so... Though terrified by Wendy's brutality, Jennifer eventually realizes that it was not the promise that was poisonous, but Wendy's interpretation of it. Jennifer's character arc consequently ends with her regaining faith in the concept of love.
- Flavor D in Oddworld: Abe's Exoddus. Some of the mudokon slaves working in Soulstorm Brewery are addicted to Soulstorm Brew. The glukkons deliberately got them addicted to it and feed their habit in exchange for enslaving them.
- This trope, played for romance, is basically the point behind Kissed by the Baddest Bidder, which begins with the protagonist finding herself auctioned off to the highest bidder at a secret Black Market auction. Exactly how the result plays out depends on which of the guys ends up taking charge of her, but it's always ultimately depicted as romantic when she decides that she's okay with the man she's in love with calling her his property.
- Under the Moon: The good endings of the love/hate paths see the heroine accept the controlling behavior of her Bastard Boyfriend (whoever he may be) and find Happiness in Slavery. The bad endings in the love/hate paths often involve somebody dying.
- Charby the Vampirate. Zerlocke spends a human lifetime locked into an extremely abusive relationship because of this.
- In the BDSM themed webcomic Sunstone there are aspects of this to Lisa and Ally's relationship. Lisa gets a tattoo reading "Property of Allison" and her wedding ring has the inscription "Forever Mine" on it's interior. Lisa also likes to wear her collar in public under a scarf to remind her that the previous night she "was hers".
- Marion, on the other hand, serves as a Deconstruction; After her first serious taste of "The Game", she was keen to enter a situation where she was submissive to Alan 24/7, always wore her collar and referred to Alan as "Master" at all times. Alan had not agreed to any of this, and was visibly disturbed by the very notion. The obsession with being "owned" started causing Marion problems with other aspects of her life; She loses her job, and after attempting a big, showy display to "prove her obedience", she nearly loses her hands and her life to poor ropework and the resulting blood clots, while the police consider Alan a suspect of attempted kidnapping.
- Quite literal in Fairy Dust, where orc patriarchs buy their wives from allied clans. While they are considered his property, female orcs are just as combattive as the males and they outnumber him twenty to one: earning their love is the wisest option.
- Eerie Cuties: In chapter 16, Ace has a dream of past, in which he finds a past incarnation of Brooke along with Queen Lamia. When he asks what she's doing there, Lamia tells him it's because Brooke belongs to her, just as he does; implying a deeper connection between the three of them.
- Mackenzie, the protagonist of Tales of MU, is DEEPLY submissive, and gives herself to Amaranth (a nymph) in this way as a Type A. The ogres in said work also have a strict chain of people-ownership, romantic and otherwise, which leads to Mackenzie being treated like a simple object because she's too far down the chain of sexual dominance.
- This short manhwa plays around with this trope. A presumably goblin-like mafia boss buys an elf slave girl and treats her with kindness. She eventually feels very comfortable living with him.
- In The Nostalgia Critic's "Princess Diaries II", when Hyper has him as a Captive Date, she swaps out her usual orange shirt with a "HE'S MINE" (with arrow underneath) blue one.
- Pearl of Steven Universe was Born into Slavery with the rest of her caste, who are all made to be personal servants to elite Gems. While she largely appreciates her freedom post-rebellion, it's implied she had a lot of trouble breaking the mindset around Rose Quartz specifically, and for some time was very self-sacrificial and reverent to the Crystal Gem leader while simultaneously head-over-heels in love with her. The narrative presents this as unhealthy, and it's suggested that Rose found it awkward as well. But it also makes sense that it would be a hard habit to break, since Rose did own Pearl before the rebellion.