Beru: Owen, he can't stay here forever; most of his friends have gone. It means so much to him.Widow Alice has gotten herself a nice home, and is raising her son Bob there, happy except for the loss of his father—but it has been years, and she has her son. Except one day, Bob comes running home burbling about someone telling him that his father killed the dragon and demands to know more. And Widow Alice feels like she's been stabbed to the heart, envisioning her son lying before her, pale and bleeding, like his dying father had. A character has charge of a child (usually her son) and is desperate to keep this child from imitating another relative (usually his father). This is a fear of history's repeating itself for his fate, which may be turning evil and usually ends with being dead. Making this relative a secret is one technique; which usually makes the forbidden relative Forbidden Fruit. Another, as popular, is extracting a promise, which the child will usually try to keep until the pressure gets too high. Trying to keep him from evil has a fairly good success rate. Trying to keep him from his father's profession has a considerably poorer one, particularly when the reaction to the father's violent life is to try to make an Actual Pacifist; though the child may turn out less violent, there is usually something he must defend against. When the mother's motive is to keep him from being killed by the precise character who killed the father, generally a prequel to You Killed My Father. Keeping the Ancestral Weapon out of the child's hand is often an element of it, and when he finally gets it, a sign that the struggle is over, and the child will be like his father—Take Up My Sword metaphorically as well as literally. When the hero wants the child away from him, it's Give Him a Normal Life. When the villain wants to raise the kid to act differently, it's Evil Parents Want Good Kids. When the character hates his "condition" and doesn't want to pass it on, it's What If the Baby Is Like Me?. See also In the Blood, Generation Xerox, Follow in My Footsteps. Contrast Loser Son of Loser Dad, Raise Him Right This Time.
Owen: I'll make it up to him next year; I promise.
Beru: Luke's just not a farmer, Owen. He has too much of his father in him.
Owen: That's what I'm afraid of.
Owen: I'll make it up to him next year; I promise.
Beru: Luke's just not a farmer, Owen. He has too much of his father in him.
Owen: That's what I'm afraid of.
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- Gon of Hunter ◊ Hunter was left in the care of his aunt when his father decided following his dreams as a Hunter were more important than raising Gon. It is constantly pointed out how like Ging Gon is and at Gon later in life sets out to follow in his father's footsteps and become a Hunter and find out just why it is worth abandoning your only child for.
- A Cruel God Reigns's Ian fears this when he begins to fall in love with Jeremy, but cannot always make sense of it, especially when he loses his temper at Jeremy's failed drug and prostitution rehabilitations.
- Kaze to Ki no Uta: Arguably, Gilbert and Auguste could both fall under this trope. Gilbert, because Auguste molested, raped, and emotionally abused him as a young child and Auguste because he was raped by his step-brother. Especially true when it is revealed that Luke, I Am Your Father
- In Part II of JoJo's Bizarre Adventure, Erina is very worried about her grandson Joseph getting wrapped up in the stone mask business, as that's what killed her his grandfather (and, as revealed later, her son), and men in the Joestar family have a history of dying rather young in general. Unfortunately, the call knew Joseph was vacationing in New York. A bit ironically, Joseph ends up being the only JoJo to die of old age.
- Neon Genesis Evangelion has its own unique spin on the trope—Gendo sent Shinji away because he was afraid of bringing him to harm. But the psychological harm that Gendo caused by abandoning Shinji backfires horribly, and by the end of the series, the horribly broken Shinji is not very different from his father after all.
- Both tried to—or did—destroy the world because they could not have the woman that they loved. Yui in the case of Gendo, Asuka in the of Shinji.
- In One Piece, Monkey D. Garp tries so very hard to make his grandson, Luffy, a Marine like himself. However, he fails and Luffy becomes a highly-wanted pirate, much like his own father, who is the leader of a revolutionary army and the most wanted man in the world. Ironically, in the Water Seven Arc, Luffy and his crew proclaim war against the world government, much like his father did. This is ultimately averted, however, in that Garp loves both his son and his grandson and is in fact quite proud of them. He just didn't want Luffy to be a pirate because it meant, as a Marine, he'd have to oppose his own grandson.
- In Free!, Rin Matsuoka swims competitively because he wants to live out his father's missed-out dream of being an Olympic swimmer when he quit to raise him, and he died in a typhoon while he was working as a fisherman.
- Villain The Penguin uses umbrellas because his father died of pneumonia, and his mother feared the same for him.
- Batman often voices—in his head via narration, as he would almost never voice such a thing out loud—how proud he is that the various Robins generally didn't end up like him, as his obsessive, miserable life is one he would wish on nobody, least of all his "sons." He particularly voices this in regards to Nightwing, whom he is extremely proud of due to Dick finding his own identity as a hero and a man—no matter how rocky the split was.
- Jackie Estacado, a.k.a. The Darkness, is a hitman like his father, but unlike his father he's not an out-of-control psycho. This is because the Brotherhood of Darkness arranged for him to be adopted by mafia boss Frankie Franchetti, who, knowing how messed up Jackie's father had been, could be counted on to raise him on the right side of the line between viciously ruthless badassery and self-destructive Ax Craziness.
- Wanted reveals that Wesley's mother raised him to be a pacifistic loser because she realized that he had the potential to be like his father was. It doesn't help.
- Green Lantern Hal Jordan's father died on the job as a fighter pilot (in front of Hal's eyes). His mother made him swear to never join the Air Force, but he did so anyway.
- Fun Home is based around Alison Bechdel, a lesbian, looking back at her childhood with a new perspective after she finds out her dad was gay, and wondering about similarities between the two of them.
- Matt Murdock, a.k.a. Daredevil, was raised not to become a fighter like his Dad because his Dad wanted something better for him. This backfires spectacularly when his secret identity is outed: Matt goes into incredible painful sacrifices to maintain his identity as a lawyer, just because that was his fatherís dream for him.
- Wolverine is trying very hard to defy this trope for his Opposite-Sex Clone/daughter, X-23. Unfortunately, events keep conspiring against him, and although Laura herself doesn't want to be a killer, she's also not one to sit back and let others fight in her place.
- In Bone, Gran'ma Ben shelters her granddaughter Thorn, hoping that the two of them could live an average life as an alternative to ruling the Valley after the rest of the royal family is betrayed and killed.
- The Child of Love: Inverted during a Dream Sequence where a frightened and despaired Shinji cries out that he will turn out like his father because they are just too alike, and his mother reassures him that he will not be like Gendo when he grows up.
- The Second Try: Shinji was frightened of becoming a father, among other reasons, because he was afraid of him turning out to be like his father and hurting his child like Gendo had hurt him.
- Star Wars is probably the best-known example, and the efforts to keep Luke from being like his father (who, as we all know, went evil) occupy three separate characters: Owennote , Ben Kenobi, and Yoda. In Return of the Jedi, Luke realizes that he's dangerously close to invoking this trope after he cuts off Vader's cybernetic right hand and looks down at his own cybernetic right hand. This prompts him to deactivate and discard his lightsaber so that he won't be tempted any further.
- Sadly Vader's legacy has poisoned the mind of his grandson Ben Solo a.k.a. Kylo Ren. And he wants to follow in his grandpappy's footsteps in the worst way possible.
- Back to the Future. Mr. Strickland, an administrator at Marty's school, has already written Marty off as a slacker like his father.
- In Scanners, both the hero and his brother the villain develop a shared disdain for their father and wish to avoid becoming like him.
- In The Waterboy, Mama Boucher has kept Bobby sheltered and at home well into his thirties because she fears him abandoning her just like her husband did.
- The Heavenly Kid: A greaser is killed when his car goes over a cliff in a game of "Chicken". He comes back to Earth years later to become guardian angel to his nerdy teenage son. Neither of them know that they are father and son. The son starts acting like the greaser and says his catchphrase "I got it covered." This freaks out his mom, who is afraid he's going to die just like his father.
- In some King Arthur tales, Percival was raised in The Lost Woods by his mother to keep him from hearing of knights. His first glimpse of a Knight in Shining Armor makes him long to be one.
- Unseen Academicals. Trev promised his mother not to play football, like his father did.
- Making Money. In Mr Bent's Back Story, his father was one of the greatest clowns in history, but his mother—apparently in reaction to the circus moving on, taking his father with it—developed a disapproval of clowning and raised him very soberly,
- Raising Steam has Dick Simnel, whose dad Ned died in a cloud of superheated vapor trying to build a steam engine. His mother begged him not to play with steam, but he's determined to conquer where his father failed, through his knowing of the sine and the cosine, and the sliding rule.
- In Patricia C. Wrede and Caroline Stevermer's Sorcery & Cecelia, Cecelia's great-aunt lost her fiancé to his magical studies, and is horrified at the thought of Cecelia learning from the same wizard. (Fortunately, it was a misunderstanding. Though she is not entirely pleased about any form of study, she accepts it.)
- Achebe's Things Fall Apart features the character Okonkwo, who dedicates his life to proving that he is not his lazy father. It ends up being his fatal flaw.
- The Dursleys do not want Harry Potter to turn out magical like his mother. So, they don't tell him about her nor his father, and do their best to keep him from Hogwarts. This notably isn't because his parents were evil or even because the Dursleys care about him; they just don't like magic and hate the idea of there being a wizard in their "normal" family.
- In the YA book, Banner In The Sky by James Ramsey Ullman, the widow of a famed mountain guide tries to keep her son from following in his his father's footsteps as a guide.
- The Star Wars Expanded Universe expands on the similarities between Luke and his father at his age. In Dark Empire, Palpatine, Back from the Dead via Cloning Gambit, corrupted Luke, dressed him in Vaderesque clothes, gave him the same kind of mechno-hand, and lost him to the Light Side when Leia came to save him. Luke is a pilot, a very good one, but not quite as reckless nor as skilled as Anakin. He is fairly resourceful with machinery, doing things like opening up his artificial hand to use its battery for something and rewiring some power packs to make them explode, but he doesn't have anything like Anakin's ridiculous skill with machines.
- It's underlined by both of them and their fascination with Jedi Master Jorus/Joruus C'baoth. True, the Jorus C'baoth Anakin knew was not yet insane (but he would be soon), whereas his clone Joruus really was, and Anakin was fourteen whereas Luke was in his late twenties. Still, Anakin liked C'baoth's philosophy that the non-Jedi were sheep at best and should be handled without asking, whereas Luke, despite being on a quest to find surviving Jedi and thus presumably more interested, instantly felt uneasy about these teachings even though he thought they made sense.
- Leia's got a little of her father, too, though this is usually much more understated, particularly by writers who put her in the damsel-in-distress role. Mostly it manifests through her temper, her very strong will—Luke's determined, but Leia has more passion and staying power—and her sense of self-importance. She's not as arrogant as Anakin, but she's less quiet about her confidence and accomplishment than her brother is, and the impression she leaves on people has much more authority. Luke is an idealist, and a bit of a mystic. Leia takes charge. A politician who knows her heritage once insinuates that it means she'll betray them all. In The Thrawn Trilogy, the Noghri call Luke "Firstson of the Lord Vader". They call Leia the Mal'ary'ush, the heir to Vader's authority and powers, and address her as "Lady Vader." It's pointed out in the Hand of Thrawn duology that she's worried about putting her need to keep her spouse safe over her duty to the rest of the galaxy and second-guesses some of her decisions as a result.
She was magnificent, her style so different from her brother's. She was hard-edged where he made his demands with a deceptive softness. There was nothing soft in the President's [Leia's] manner. Cole would never had argued with her as he had argued with her brother.
- With the direction the Fate of the Jedi book series is going, many fans predict a relationship between Ben Skywalker and Vestara Khai, mirroring the one between Luke and Mara. Vestara asks to be a Jedi, but things are still uncertain before the series's finale. Though, Ben is consistently trying to do just what Luke did, and get his father to accept it.
- Drina's grandparents in the Drina books by Jean Estoril don't want her to become a ballerina, because her secret famous ballerina mother died because of it.
- Averted in Prince Roger series, albeit in a convoluted way. Roger resembles his unknown-to-him father, whom everyone else knows is a condemned and unrepentant traitor, which makes him The Unfavourite. He responds by becoming a Royal Brat because it ticks his mother off, not knowing it makes him resemble his father even more, and makes his mother think he is emulating his father on purpose. After Roger learns what was really going on... well, the first time he meets his father he decides to behead him for torturing, raping, and mind-raping his mother—would have done it, if not for a timely intervention of Nimashet Despreaux.
- In Warrior Cats, Firestar is awkward around Bramblepaw because he looks exactly like his father, Firestar's nemesis Tigerstar. Later on, when Bramblepaw (renamed Brambleclaw) starts receiving training from Tigerstar, he and his half-brother Hawkfrost are pushed towards being just as ambitious as their father was. Though Brambleclaw does manage to stop himself, Hawkfrost cannot, and does end up like Tigerstar.
- In Jane of Lantern Hill by L. M. Montgomery, Jane's grandmother disapproves of her chin because it comes from her Disappeared Dad, and Jane herself wishes it away.
- In the Popol Vuh of the Kiche Maya, the mother and grandmother of Hunter and Jaguar Deer hide their father's ball gear from them, as well as the truth that their father was a ball player. A rat reveals the truth and helps the two to find said ball gear.
- In Seanan McGuire's October Daye novel Ashes of Honor, despite her mother's frantic efforts to protect her, Chelsea in the end concludes that she is like her father.
- Gender Inverted in Harry Turtledove's Timeline-191 books. When Canadian bomber Arthur MacGregor dies after losing at Grenade Hot Potato with George Custer, his wife Maude tries in vain to keep their younger daughter Mary from taking up his deadly work.
- In ÷verenskommelser by Simona Ahrnstedt, it rather is "turn out like her grandmother". Beatrice reminds her uncle Wilhelm too much of his mother, who had left her family to study abroad. His treatment of his niece goes downhill from there.
- Bobby Singer in Supernatural has a whole series of flashbacks in the episode where he dies where it eventually is revealed that he was never willing to have kids because he was sure he'd turn out just like his father. Whom he shot. In the same place in the head where Dick Roman tagged Bobby. According to the Reaper, "you have the only genetic case of bullet-to-the-brain I've ever seen."
- Turned Up to Eleven in an episode of Criminal Minds, where the father is a Serial Killer and rapist. His wife found out and made sure he wouldn't hurt anyone ever again... Unfortunately, the son eventually discovers his parentage by himself and is fascinated by it, becoming his father's Jack The Rip Off. In an interesting twist, the father's original victim escaped and also had his child. He also finds out, but keeps it to himself out of respect for his mother and does not appear to display any homicidal tendencies.
- JAG: This is Annie Pendry's biggest fear concerning her son Josh, after his father is killed in a plane crash in "Pilot Error." She points out that Harm became a fighter pilot after his own father went missing in Vietnam, further reinforcing her concern.
- "Coward of the County"—where Tommy's father (who's dying in prison) is the one telling him not to be like his old man.
Promise me son not to do the things I've done
Walk away from trouble if you can.
Now please don't think I'm weak,
- And then subverted at the end, when Tommy beats the crap out of three men who assaulted his girlfriend.
I couldn't turn the other cheek
And papa I sure hope you understand
Sometimes you have to fight when you're a man
- Cat Stevens has this in "Father and Son".
I was once like you are now, and I know that it's not easy.
- This is the twist of "Cat's in the Cradle" by Harry Chapin. In the first verses, the father is too busy for his son, who still loves him and swears "I'm gonna be like you, dad!" In the last verse, the son is too busy for his aged father, and the father observes that the son did turn out like him.
- "Seein' My Father In Me" by Paul Overstreet. Exactly What It Says on the Tin.
- The Flemish/Dutch singer Stef Bos had the song "Papa" ("Dad") which is about a man reminiscing how much he looks and acts like his father.
- Drake has mentioned similarities between himself and his father several times in his music. Although, in his song "Look What You've Done" he mentions that his mother, who got divorced from his father when he was five, sometimes makes negative comparisons between Drake and his father when she's upset with him.
"And you tell me I'm just like my father—my one button, you push it"
- Pulp's "A Little Soul" is about a deadbeat father offering his abandoned son the one useful piece of advice he can give him:
Everybody's telling me you look like me, but please don't turn into me,
You look like me, but you're not like me, I hope.
- In Street Scene, just before the police take Mr. Maurrant away, he tells his daughter Rose to take good care of her younger brother for this reason:
"Keep your eye on Willie, Rose. Don't let Willie grow up to be a murderer, like his Pop."
- Gorion in Baldur's Gate must have had this worry, though it's never quite stated outright. Being the Lawful Good foster father of the protagonist, whose real father was Bhaal, a God of Evil, he can't have wanted them to follow in his footsteps in any sense, even though the prophecies made it likely they'd either do that or just die.
- Played with in Knights of the Old Republic, where the Jedi Council is trying to stop Revan from going down the same path he took last time around. It isn't the character's father, but the scene is played in the exact same manner down to the Council's reluctance to tell the player about Revan.
- Dante in Dante's Inferno was raised almost entirely by his father due to his mother committing suicide to escape his father's cruelty and, in his backstory before his Heel Realization when the freaking Grim Reaper told him his sins were not forgiven and that he was damned, it shows. When he confronts his monstrously deformed father in Hell Dante admits that, rather than being a better man than his father, he has turned out to be far too much like him.
- Something along the lines of this probably happened with Percival Tachyon in Ratchet & Clank, though it substitutes "father" for "entire race". Of course, it didn't succeed.
- In Fire Emblem Jugdral, Alvis has twin children, Julius and Julia. One of them has full Lopotuso Blood (from both parents) and the other has full Narga blood (from their mother, Deirdre). So guess who Manfroy tries to remove to keep from emulating their other ancestor. That's right... Julia.
- Averted by Soren and (possibly) Ike in Fire Emblem Tellius. Soren and Ashnard both believe that Tellius is a Crapsack World, but Soren's loyalty to Ike makes him more of a Knight in Sour Armor than an Omnicidal Maniac. Also, though Ike and Gawain are both exceptional swordsmen, it is implied that Gawain taught the Black Knight to be a Jerkass.
- Positive examples of this trope show up in King's Quest. Alexander and Rosella turn out to be just as capable as their father when it comes to adventuring. Alexander is a case of playing it straight, or even an exaggeration, as Mannanan went as far as to call Alex a different name and raise him in a faraway land. (Justified because Mannanan was a wicked wizard and the last thing he needed was a pissed-off Graham showing up) Rosella is an inversion—with her brother gone, she was raised to follow in Graham's footsteps, though she's a bit too much like her father for Valanice's comfort sometimes.
- The Tekken series has this in spades with the Mishima clan.
- In Red Dead Redemption, after John Marston is killed by Ross, his son Jack becomes a wandering outlaw seeking revenge; exactly the opposite of the idealistic young man he was before his father died and precisely what John hoped he wouldn't become.
- Final Fantasy X: Wakka and Lulu tried to convince Yuna to not become a Summoner like her father, because she would die whether she defeated Sin or not. Auron plays this straight with Tidus and Yuna; he doesn't want them to become their fathers—he wants them to surpass them and break the cycle.
- Defying this trope ultimately becomes Jake Muller's motivation towards the end of Resident Evil 6, when he finds out just how batshit insane his Omnicidal Maniac father Albert Wesker was.
- Mass Effect: The attempt to defy this trope is a big part of Miranda Lawson's character. When she realizes how close her desire to implant a control chip into Shepard's brain brought her to becoming like her father, she's horrified and ashamed, and practically begs Shepard for forgiveness.
- Welkin from the first Valkyria Chronicles is given control of a whole squad early on largely because he inherited his father's strategic genius.
- The third film in The Laser Collection series features a police detective, Randall, growing metal limbs upon discovering that his father is Dr. Octogonapus.
- In at least one episode of Goof Troop, Max is angsting over this. The problem is not his father being evil though, but rather him being... just Goofy.
- There's also Max's nightmare at the beginning of A Goofy Movie in which he transforms into his father and scares off the girl he has a crush on.
- One episode of Young Justice has the Justice League deciding whether to let Shazam remain a member after they find out he's really a 10-year-old. Batman defends him, and Diana calls Batman out for training Robin at the age of nine:
Batman: Robin needed to help bring the men who murdered his parents to justice.
Wonder Woman: So he could turn out like you?
Batman: So that he wouldn't.
- Let's face it, every divorced woman raising a son—and every divorced man raising a daughter—probably feels like this every once in a while.
- Ada Lovelace was taught mathematics to suppress the "fanciful poetic instinct" of her father, Lord Byron. It didn't quite work. She still had enough imagination to come up with what was likely the first computer programming language (for Babbage's mechanical computer).
- Defied with the early Christian theologian Origen. His father was martyred, and the teenage Origen wanted to follow him to glorious death, but his clever mother hid all his clothing. When Origen eventually died, it was late in life from broken health after a long period of imprisonment and torture.