Seduction-Proof Marriage

Sabrina: That was your wife I saw the other day, wasn't it?
Det. Danny Reagan: Yeah, why?
Sabrina: Let me ask you something. What does she got that I don't have?
Danny: Me.
Blue Bloods, "After Hours"

This trope is when a character who is married becomes immune to seduction because their marriage is a happy one and/or they have a strong sense of honor/propriety. It is often a sign of maturity as well as a show of being a good spouse. Many people are envious of their faithful and happy relationship. Sometimes paired with a lech to show the dichotomy. Count on this guy to be the one who keeps a cool head when the lech would fall apart.

Even the lowliest of Mooks can be shown to be honorable if they have a happy marriage. Often after the failed seduction, they will burn out the libido with their legal spouse.

Truth in Television: Even in this era of more relaxed sexual morals, a lot of people still take marriage vows seriously and will rebuff any attempts by third parties to seduce them.

Similar to Celibate Hero, as the character certainly recognizes the hints, but simply feels no urge to reciprocate due to being in a relationship. Sister Trope to Sorry, I'm Gay. Often overlaps with One True Love. Someone using a Wedding Ring Defense is trying to invoke this trope. Contrast I'm a Man; I Can't Help It, All Men Are Perverts, and Your Cheating Heart.


Examples:

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    Anime and Manga 
  • Futari Ecchi has Makoto and Yura, being the story of how they get married as 25 year old virgins and figure out sex together while growing as a couple. Yura is just so pure that she would never think of sleeping with anyone but Makoto. Makoto has strong perverted tendencies which include pornography and ogling other women, which sometimes extends to having an Imagine Spot where he sleeps with someone besides Yura... but at the same time he's Oblivious to Love regarding any woman besides Yura actually wanting to get with him in reality, and he would never willingly betray Yura because he loves her and wouldn't want to make her cry. He only gets into a couple of close calls because he's a bit of a pushover and sometimes gets roped into situations because he can't say no. He actually became such an unintentional Chick Magnet after getting married that various women try to seduce him, including his co-worker Makie, a girl at a beach resort, and the young new receptionist at his company who also fell for him, but he has preserved his virtue nonetheless. Word of God says that Makoto and Yura will never cheat on each other.
  • In Fushigi Yuugi, Miaka and Tamahome (or better said, his reincarnation Taka) get married later in the story and invoke the trope. It tuns out to be a problem since a later antagonist, Mayo Sakaki, is a girl with one hell' of a crush on him...

    Comedy 
  • Old joke: A man wakes up with a killer hangover. Fearing his wife's reaction, he crawls into the kitchen where he finds an enormous hand-made breakfast waiting on the table, with his wife gone to work and his son waiting for him. When he asks his son what this is for, the son replies "Well last night, you puked all over the doorstep, you crapped yourself and you tripped into Mom's favorite vase." "But why's she being so nice to me?" "Well, when she was trying to get you out of your dirty pants you shoved her away and screamed 'Fuck off, I'm married!'"

    Comic Books 
  • There's a Spider-Man where Spidey is kidnapped. He's being looked after by a sultry villainess that offers him "anything he wants." He request a solid cage thingy so she'll leave him alone as he was Happily Married to MJ at the time.
    • During J. Michael Straczynski's run on Amazing Spider-Man, Spider-Man was being flown to Las Vegas via the private jet of a crime boss, Mr. Forelli. When a scantily clad stewardess started making veiled offers to Spider-Man, he seals his seat away from the rest of the passenger compartment with curtain made out of his webbing, muttering, "Just slide the food through the webs and no one gets hurt."
    • When MJ was starring in a soap-opera, her male co-star attempted to seduce her. At one point she gave the impression of being interested but at the end of the story she spelled out in no uncertain terms that she had no intention of leaving Peter.
  • In the Luna brothers comic series Girls, a small town is overrun by aliens who happen to look like beautiful young women, and promptly seduce any man they can so they can give birth to a cosmic horror. When one wife realizes that her husband is alone in his house with one of the alien girls, she and some other women storm the house intending on preventing him from impregnating the alien. But the man's wife is relieved to see that he has absolutely no interest in a sexual encounter, and instead he has killed the alien and is dissecting her on the coffee table.
  • Dark Victory plays with this, regarding Two-Face. Harvey Dent still regards himself as married to Gilda, but his Two-Face identity isn't, so he invokes and ignores this trope whenever it's convenient. For example, he fights off Poison Ivy's pheromones by remembering his love for Gilda. He also has an affair with another woman, the new DA, Janice Porter, but when he decides he no longer needs her:
    Porter: Tell them, Harvey! Tell them that I love you and you love—
    [gunshot]
    Two-Face: Harvey Dent is a married man, Porter. Don't ever forget that.

    Fan Works 
  • In What About Witch Queen?, while not married to Kristoff yet, Anna doesn't even think about any men other than him, even when there's a naked sailor in a bathtub right next to her. Lampshaded when she notes that the inn-keeper who rent her and Ferdinand (said sailor) a room probably expected them to go intimate.
  • In Star Wars Legends Gladiatorial Jedi, Luke is a prisoner of his former girlfriend Callista in her Gladiator Games ring. She comes into his cell at one point to try and seduce him, but Luke won't have any of it and would rather die than cheat on Mara. Of course, Callista won't take it sitting down and tries to engineer the killing of Luke's son as revenge, but Papa Wolf and Mama Bear stop that from happening.

    Film 
  • Bull Durham has Ethical Slut Milly trying to pick up various members of the Durham Bulls at batting practice. One Deadpan Snarker responds to her flirty "Hi, I'm Milly," with "I'm married."
  • In Die Hard 2, the airport clerk who helps John early on suggests they could go out later on. John shows off his wedding ring, and says "Just the fax, ma'am". Her timing was just a little off as this is the only film in the franchise where John and Holly are happily married.
  • In The Red Baron, one of the pilots at a burlesque bar has one of the girls hanging off his shoulders and he protests, "I'm married, you know!"
  • In the 2007 version of Hairspray, Alpha Bitch Velma tries to seduce Wilbur simply so she can cause strife between Wilbur and his wife. Wilbur is so faithful to his wife that he seems completely oblivious to her advances, but Velma's plan works anyway because she just throws herself at Wilbur as his wife comes in the door to "catch" them in the "act".
  • Big Fish: When Edward came to the town of Spectre he befriended a young girl named Jenny who gained a Precocious Crush on him, despite him being ten years older than her. More than ten years later he met her again and she was still in love with him, but by then he was married to the love of his life and turned down her advances.
  • Slither: Grant and Starla's marriage seem to be based on her marrying him for money, him marrying her as a trophy, but when he's tempted by ex-girlfriend Brenda, he stands by his marriage.

    Literature 
  • Played straight with Jerin in A Brother's Price. As is the custom of his people he marries a group of sisters, to whom he is faithful ever after the engagement, even though a mysterious woman tries to seduce him. She turns out to be one of his wives.
  • In the World War novel Aftershocks, Johannes Drucker has been in space by himself for over a month, and is then caught by aliens. He is presented with a female human who has been raised by them (these are aliens who don't wear clothes), and when she asks if he would mate with her if given the chance, one of the reasons he gives for not wanting to is that he is married. Since the aliens also don't practice marriage, this doesn't really explain much to her, especially since she has already had sexual relations with a teenager who claimed he had a girlfriend back on Earth.
  • Invoked by John of Rhodes in the Belisarius Series when he says he is not really such a Casanova as rumored because he looks carefully to see who is seduceable and Antonia is completely unseducable, being Happily Married to Belisarius.
  • Played with in Against the Tide of Years, when Marian Alston and Swindapa, a married lesbian couple, visit a war chief and are offered a woman as part of the Sacred Hospitality. Alston, who takes marriage very seriously, has absolutely no interest in the girl, but Swindapa, who comes from a culture in which polygamy is the norm, is intrigued, even though she doesn't take advantage. This is somewhat par for the course in their relationship; throughout the book, Swindapa is rather shameless about her wandering eye, even though she never does anything more than look and occasionally enthuse.
    "I promised to be monogamous, not blind."
  • The Wheel of Time:
    • Mat Cauthon is a ladies man bordering on Pornomancer territory. Late in the series, he becomes married to the Seanchan empress Because Destiny Says So. Even though it's effectively an Arranged Marriage that looks like it will be completely sexless, he is scrupulous about honoring his vows, turning down several opportunities to get some on the side. (Fortunately for him, They Do eventually, though with hilarious Do You Want to Copulate? overtones on her part.)
    • Perrin is able to shrug off powerful mind control that should make him utterly loyal to a particular villainess, by remembering that he loves his wife.
  • In I, Jedi, crime boss Leonia Tavira tries to seduce Corran Horn, who's gone undercover in her Space Pirate gang to find his wife Mirax. He is massively tempted, briefly tries to rationalize it, then decides it's the Dark Side of the Force talking. But Tavira's made it clear she wants him as her boytoy and won't take "no" for an answer long-term (despite his cover story including a committed relationship), so Corran accelerates his plans to break up her pirate alliance.
  • In Twilight, the bond between vampire mates is totally permanent, so much so that even the Volturi's Mind Control powers can't break it apart.
  • A close variant in The Dresden Files: Blood Rites. A White Court vampire's power to induce lust won't work on anyone who is truly in love (e.g. Harry Dresden, who is in love with Susan Rodriguez), and attempting to press the issue physically actually burns them.
  • In Mikhail Akhmanov's Trevelyan's Mission series, the titular character loves the ladies, and his job as an Alien Among Us in primitive humanoid cultures typically requires him to use any means of achieving his goals, which, to his delight, often involves sex. Later in the series, however, he meets an Amazonian Beauty and proposes marriage by the end of the novel (after knowing her for a few days). Being from a conservative planet, she insists on an exclusive marriage, and he agrees, even promising to avoid sex when on a mission. In the following novel, a female from a race of beautiful Human Aliens with far more relaxed views on relationships and love tries to seduce him, not comprehending why he refuses her. He understands that she has no way of knowing about human marriages but still punishes her for her actions. Instead of stopping completely, she then shifts her focus to his wife, suggesting a polygynous relationship, pointing out that it's not uncommon on Earth only to receive a reply that, as a woman of T'har, she has old-fashioned views on marriage.
  • In Captain French, or the Quest for Paradise, the titular character has been married many times over his extremely long life (all of humanity is The Ageless). While no one expects "until death do us part" to still hold up, given that people no longer have a natural end to their lives, French still obeys the vows he gives in each marriage until it ends. At one point, a woman tries to seduce French at a party using an aphrodisiac perfume. He nearly succumbs to it and to the fact that her Buxom Is Better breasts literally pop out of her blouse, but manages to snap out in time and use his cigar to keep the woman at bay. He then take his wife to their hotel and "relieves the pressure" from the aphrodisiac to the point where she half-jokingly calls him an animal in the morning. He also teaches a man, who asks him for advice in seducing French's wife, while offering to introduce him to several local girls, by giving him the exact wrong advice and watching his wife angrily hit the guy. Sure, he understands that the guy didn't think he was doing anything wrong by the mores of this planet, but still...
  • Subverted in The Handmaid's Tale. The protagonist, Offred, was married before the dystopia started, but reasons that being a Handmaid isn't adultery, since it's necessary for survival. However, consensual sex with the family's attractive servant is definitely adultery, so she rejects him despite being extremely tempted. However, later she has to have sex with him for the chance of surviving...but winds up doing it many more times, anyway. (For what it's worth, she was "the other woman" while her husband was married to somebody else.)
  • Spenser is often propositioned, but he is committed to Susan (despite being "not exactly married").
  • Jamie Lannister in A Song of Ice and Fire is not married (because he legally cannot for various reasons), but has been committed to Cersei for his entire life despite being a Chick Magnet whose handsomeness is renowned through the Seven Kingdoms. He notes wryly that despite the 'immorality' of their relationship this makes him one of the only faithful men in Westeros. He gets rather disillusioned by learning that Cersei doesn't reciprocate.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Firefly: In "Our Mrs. Reynolds", Wash resists Saffron's advances due to this. Saffron just loses her temper and clocks him on the head. His wife is suitably impressed and pleased. (In the previous scene, the unmarried Mal didn't stand a chance, and Inara only avoided being ensnared because she has the same training as Saffron and recognized the approach.)
    Wash: Wuh duh ma huh tah duh fong kwong duh wai shung,trans.  do I wish I was somebody else right now. Somebody not... married, not madly in love with a beautiful woman who can kill me with her pinkie!
  • Hank Moody from Californication cites this at times to girls that come on to him/coworkers who set him up while he's trying to repair his relationship with his long-term domestic partner (his wife in everything but name).
  • Star Trek:
    • In an episode of Star Trek: The Original Series, Kirk is infected by alien tears that cause men to be madly in love with the woman who shed them. Doctor McCoy looks for a cure, but in the end notes that the Captain had his own cure; he was in essence already married to the Enterprise.
    • Star Trek: Deep Space Nine:
  • Frequently used by Marshall in How I Met Your Mother whenever the gang gets into strip clubs or gay bars. He is still flattered by the attention of gays, though.
  • One episode of Lois & Clark had a beautiful blonde Femme Fatale working with a bomber who's Happily Married. She makes several advances on him, but, despite being an unrepentant murderer, he declines them all. She doesn't take it very well, and when their plan unravels, she arranges for all the blame to fall on him.
  • Danny on CSI: NY at least once. His old partner ribs him about the pretty nurse in the hospital when Danny visits him and this is Danny's reply.
  • Early in The Mentalist Patrick Jane is faithful to his wife, declines all offers of seduction, and constantly wears his wedding ring - but he's technically not married, since his wife was murdered years before the series started. Later in the series he starts dating occasionally again, and even briefly takes a TV psychic for a girlfriend. He finally marries Lisbon in the series finale.
  • In The Golden Girls episode "Ladies of the Evening", the girls are arrested on charges of prostitution. Dorothy offers (sincerely) to explain things to the officer in private, but he takes it for a come on and says he's happily married.
  • M*A*S*H
    • Played straight by BJ Hunnicutt, who is (almost) completely faithful to his wife because of this. The one or two times he does get seduced he feels awful about it afterwards.
    • Played With with Frank Burns and Margaret Houlihan. The former is married but is having an ongoing relationship with Margaret. When Margaret gets engaged he thinks they can still fool around but she shoots him down.
  • The Friends episode "The One with Christmas in Tulsa" shows Chandler as completely untempted when a sexy co-worker attempts to seduce him.
  • Everybody Loves Raymond: This causes Ray Barone serious angst. first when he loses his wedding ring and a woman comes onto him at the airport; second when he (mistakenly) thinks Peggy the Cookie Nazi has made a pass at him. Both times he stays faithful to Debra. (Even though she always acts like he didn't)
  • The Blue Bloods episode "After Hours" has a key witness in Danny Reagan's Case of the Week, a hot nightclub owner named Sabrina, get the hots for Danny. He indulges her a little bit (one dance) to get her to open up, but firmly rejects her trying to take it further because he's Happily Married.
  • In Married... with Children, even though Al is very unhappy in his marriage and leers at every attractive woman, when he gets an actual chance to cheat on his wife, he always stays faithful.
    • The only time he's seriously tempted is when the woman is Peggy in disguise.
  • In the Russian remake of Married... with Children, Happy Together (Schastlivy vmeste), Al Bundy's expy Gena Bukin is just as faithful to his wife, but in one episode he comes close to cheating on her, resolving the situation by having his wife wear a blonde wig to make her look like the new crush.
  • In White Collar, Peter Burke and his wife Elizabeth are Happily Married, to the point that, when Peter has to go undercover and flirt with a mark, he worries that Elizabeth will be jealous—and she usually laughs merrily at the thought of him cheating. Yeah, they're that tight. She even gives him seduction pointers a few times, considering he's a bit rusty in that department.
  • On Malcolm in the Middle, for all of Hal and Lois's flaws, they're crazy in love and fiercely loyal to each other. Hal's deeply and genuinely offended at the suggested that he's even looked at another woman since he and Lois met.
  • In Billions Bobby Axelrod turns down a seduction by an attractive singer, saying that his marriage is "the real thing." Given that he is a billionaire hedge-fund manager who engages in various illegal practices and admits to having poor impulse control in other areas, it is particularly remarkable, especially compared to the extremely macho, hedonistic lifestyle of many of his colleagues.
  • Burt and Virginia on Raising Hope. Although Burt does flirt with his customers to get things like lemonade, he really only wants to be with Virginia. His Happy Place is even an island where he has a harem of the hottest women in the world...and they're all Virginia, and he states that if she were to die, he wouldn't remarry or even hook up with anyone else. And while he does spend time at a local gay bar, he just likes the atmosphere, and the one person he leaves with is Virginia in disguise. For her part, Virginia is always loyal and faithful to him as well.

    Professional Wrestling 
  • Eric Young and ODB, especially since the former used to be a poster girl for Anything That Moves, or anything that offers a smoke or drink.

    Religion and Mythology 
  • In Greek Mythology, all of the Trojan princes fell in love with Helen of Troy except for Hector, because he was already so in love with his own wife, Andromache.

    Tabletop Games 
  • Kindred of the East, an Old World of Darkness supplement covering Japan, featured animal spirit shapeshifters who like to seduce humans For the Evulz. It's specifically stated that their seduction powers don't work on anyone who is serious about being faithful to their spouse, or a vow of celibacy.
  • The Dark Eye: Priests of the goddess of home, hearthfire and matrimony/family get bonuses on resistance against magical seduction. So does everyone else who embraces the principles of that goddess and has stated such on their character sheet.
  • A Romulan-centric supplement for the Star Trek The Next Generation Role Playing Game states that upper-class Romulans often marry to achieve political aims rather than for love. They're expected to remain faithful to their spouses even if the marriage isn't happy, as Romulans consider adultery tantamount to treason.

    Theatre 
  • In Damn Yankees, Joe manages to resist Lola's best efforts at vamping him and stays as close as he can to the wife who no longer recognizes him after his transformation into a young baseball hero. His fidelity infuriates Applegate, to whom wives are "more trouble than the Methodist Church."

    Video Games 
  • In Wild ARMs 3, Clive give this as his reason for turning down the seduction attempts of one of the villains. She does not take it well, and in the ensuing boss fight, will only attack the other party members if Clive is dead
  • In Dragon Age: Origins, if you choose to arrange a political marriage between Alistair and Queen Anora, he will usually break off a romance with the Warden. Taking a particular dialogue option in his companion quest gives you the option to become his mistress, however.
  • Star Wars: The Old Republic: During the Sith Inquisitor mission on Voss, you meet researcher Athelis Kallis, who, if male Inquisitors choose the flirt option, states that she's married. Happily Married.
  • Crusader Kings II's "Way of Life" DLC sets a flag on a married character that rebuffed seduction attempts. This flag makes their spouse more attracted to them. AI characters with certain traits (such as Chaste) are much more likely to do this, as are characters who are in love with their spouse.
  • Like in Grand Theft Auto, there are prostitutes hanging around the towns you can visit in Red Dead Redemption. Unlike in Grand Theft Auto, player character John Marston won't make use of their services. If he passes by one and she propositions him, he'll politely turn her down with something along the lines of, "Sorry, ma'am, I'm married."

    Webcomics 
  • In The Order of the Stick, Elan tries to escape from prison by creating an illusion of a beautiful woman. Unfortunately, one of his guards is gay and the other one is married.

     Web Original 
  • In Receiver of Many Apollo tries to seduce Persephone when she visits Olympus. It doesnít work because Persephone loves her husband very much and has no intentions of cheating on him, even if theoretically they arenít supposed to see each other for six months each year.

    Western Animation 
  • Peter Griffin of Family Guy may be amoral and sociopathic, but he would never willingly cheat on his wife. Even when given permission. That said, both he and Lois have slept with Bill Clinton.
  • In the Hercules/Aladdin: The Series crossover, Phil begins flirting with Princess Jasmine. She cuts him off with a curt "I'm married", and he apologizes.
  • On King of the Hill, Dale is happily married to the point that, when another woman hits on him, he's not even aware it's happening. When he finally does notice it he's only confused, because after all, the other woman knew he was married. (This, of course, is in contrast to his wife Nancy, who cheated on him for years before eventually breaking the other relationship off.)
  • Homer and Marge of The Simpsons are, over the long, long course of the series, each given ample opportunities to cheat, and are sometimes even tempted (most notably Marge with Jacques in Season 1 and Homer with Mindy in Season 5), but by episode's end they are always back together, the temptation forgotten. D'awww.
  • On American Dad!, Jeff has been abducted by aliens, is pining for Hayley, and is going to be castrated the next day. A shapeshifting alien offers him one last night of sex, and even takes Hayley's form so he can pretend to spend it with her. Jeff almost goes through with it, but ultimately realizes that if it's not the Hayley he knew, it wouldn't be worth it.
    • Stan does sleep with another woman in an episode, but, at the time, he and Francine are divorced, and he married the woman specifically so he could sleep with someone other than Francine (it was Francine's idea, as Stan felt belittled by the fact that Francine has had sex with dozens of men before meeting him).

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