Not Afraid of You Anymore
"The pain is gone, I've succeeded. I feel strong too. I'm not afraid of you anymore! You won't kill me, I'll make you pay for everything you did to me!!!"
In fiction, it's common for a character who has been abused or mistreated by another to eventually confront that person in order to move on with their life, and they discover that the person really was never as powerful as they thought, and that the abuse they suffered was the result of that person's own issues and insecurities. The abused may even take pity on the person who hurt them and decide that they're Not Worth Killing
, and this is often the first step in a Humiliation Conga
An unpleasant subversion of this takes place when, after being confronted, the abuser turns out to be even more dangerous
than the abused realized.
Unfortunately, the above can and does happen in real life. Not all bullies back down when challenged, some are neither cowardly nor insecure, just vicious.
Compare Face Your Fears
. See also Calling the Old Man Out
for a specific variant of this. Not to be confused with I'm Not Afraid Of You
, when a threat loses its power (or disappears entirely
) once a character is no longer afraid of it.
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Anime and Manga
- Brutally done by Lucy in Elfen Lied to the cruel kids who tormented her for so long after they push her too far by killing her dog in front of her. She snaps and kills them.
- In the Revolutionary Girl Utena series, Anthy's walking out on her brother Akio is one of these.
- There is a supernatural variety of this in Mnemosyne: the protagonist Rin is an immortal, and immortals fall into uncontrollable sexual drive when a creature called "angel" is nearby. The villain, who is an angel himself, uses this many times throughout the series to humiliate Rin but in the very end, Rin evolves into an immortal angelic being herself and sends the villain himself into uncontrollable sexual lust for her in their final confrontation.
- In Higurashi No Naku Koro Ni Kai, Satoko, with support from Keiichi, Rika, and oh yeah the entire village, confronting her abusive uncle Teppei, screaming that she hates him and for him to "GET OUT!!", despite being beaten while doing so. Just when he goes to attack again, the police bust in and capture him.
- Fullmetal Alchemist: When Dr. Marcoh finally decides to go face to face with his tormentor Envy, a Homunculus full of Philosopher's Stones, and shows why it's a bad idea to screw with a guy who made those stones for a living.
- Sora of Sukisho does this to Aizawa in the last episode, the guy who was responsible for torturing him and Sunao throughout their childhood, after being terrified of him for so long.
- In Nurse Angel Ririka SOS, Dewey undergoes a Heel-Face Turn, but it takes him a little while to shake his fear and servility towards his Big Bad ex-boss. Once he confronts his fear, it's on.
- In Fruits Basket, when Yuki tells Akito that he forgives him. Although Akito still gets mad and injures Yuki, it's obvious that Yuki doesn't fear him anymore, and since Akito controls the Zodiac through fear, it becomes clear that his power is waning.
- In the comic book Excalibur, Wolfsbane verbally confronts Reverend Craig, the abusive pastor who raised her and later tried to kill her when she was revealed as a mutant. She reduces him to tears by revealing that she knows he was her biological father and that her mother was a prostitute (with the implication that she could ruin him by making that information public).
- Later, in more recent comic books, Craig does turn out to be more dangerous. Then, so does Wolfsbane. She while utterly brainwashed, mind you, kills and EATS HIM.
- In Fray (a spinoff of Buffy the Vampire Slayer), our eponymous heroine breaks down and is unable to fight the first time she is confronted by the vampire that killed her brother. The second time, she just tosses aside her weapon and gets ready. Subverted when her sister crushes him with a car. And Fray comments she was about to get her ass kicked.
- During the Final Battle of Inner Demons, Apple Bloom realizes that the Darkness is feeding off of Twilight Sparkle's fear of it in order to grow strong enough to possess her again. Apple Bloom, who has been afraid of her destiny to fight the Darkness because she's meant to die during the fight, fights it anyway to protect Twilight and all of Equestria. Overcoming her fear helps Twilight overcome her own fears, and together they defeat the Darkness.
- Getting Back on Your Hooves: During their final Battle in the Center of the Mind, Checker Monarch takes on the form of an Ursa Major, knowing that Trixie is terrified of Ursas. However, after gaining some encouragement from her friends, Trixie is able to confront Checker, stating that while she may be afraid of Ursas, she's no longer afraid of her. Trixie then proceeds to kick Checker's ass.
- The Stars Will Aid Their Escape: Twilight and company ultimately feel this way about Herald/Nyarlathotep, who they're facing in his true form, as by this point, he's pretty much done everything he could to them, so they have nothing more to fear from him that they haven't already faced. This is unfortunate for Herald, who was banking on them being too afraid of him killing them to blast him point blank with the Elements.
- Kethry in Mercedes Lackey's Vows and Honor series was forced into marriage as a child and raped by a rather unpleasant guy, who left her emotionally scarred, but years later winds up being captured again by him once she's gone and become an extremely powerful sorceress. When he comes to see her and torment her again she realizes just how pathetic he is and ends up scaring the bejeezus out of him so that he runs away from her.
- Lale goes through this in her Final Battle in The Assassins of Tamurin
Glinda: Don't be afraid, Elphie.
Elphaba: I'm not afraid... It's the Wizard who should be afraid of me.
- At the end of Hogfather, Susan Sto Helit unleashes a Not Afraid of You Anymore speech on Jonathan Teatime as only a badass governess can.
- Subverted in the same book for Teatime's wizard associate, who gets all fired up to invoke this trope on the vision of his childhood bully: after all, he's a grown man now, so can surely scare off some pesky kid. Too late, he realizes that he himself has become a little boy again...
- From Sourcery: "I did not throw you far enough!"
- Rincewind has a similar mental confrontation with the Great Spell inside his head in The Light Fantastic, lambasting it for ruining his life and then being too scared to help him against Trymon in the end.
- Also in The Truth, William De Worde has a brilliant moment of this with his father, after saying "Men like my father are bullies and they're the worst kind because they aren't cowards and if you stand up to them they only hit you harder." Granted William had a vampire for backup, but he didn't know that.
- In Dan Abnett's Gaunt's Ghosts novel Only In Death, Larkin is haunted by apparitions of the (dead) psychopathic killer Cuu. At the end, he defies him and declares he is joining the real Ghosts to die with them. The apparition vanishes.
- Invoked and then Subverted in the Everworld series. The witch Senna asks her half-sister if she's afraid of her. April, who the narrative makes clear is very much afraid, attempts to tell her the words of this trope. Senna's response is to use her powers to open the gateway between Everworld and the Old World, and then shove her sister's head through it.
Senna: "So much for 'maybe.' "
- In A Game of Thrones, Daenerys comes to realize that her unstable, abusive older brother Viserys is truly a weak coward who no longer has the power to hurt her.
He was a pitiful thing. He had always been a pitiful thing. Why had she never seen that before? There was a hollow place inside her where her fear had been.
- In WarCraft: Lord of the Clans, Thrall experiences this when he confronts Blackmore, his abusive foster father. He reflects on how he had been afraid of him and worshiped him, when in the end he was only a miserable wreck.
- In Uprising, Kerrigan confronts Rumm, the officer who had abused her for a decade. She escapes captivity and deep fries his brain with her powers giving him a long overdue Karmic Death
- For the early books of The Wheel of Time, Rand is haunted by and in mortal fear of his Evil Counterpart Ishamael. In the last book of the series, Rand confronts Moridin- Ishamael in a new body- once again, this time after an epiphany that set him on the right path to fulfilling his destiny. Rand realizes that he and Moridin both stared into the abyss, but Moridin fell into nihilism and madness where Rand managed to overcome it. Seeing his enemy at last for what he truly is- a hollow shell of a man who would destroy himself and take reality with him rather than face the prospect of existing any longer- Rand expresses his amazement that he ever feared him, and tells Moridin that he's nothing more than an obstacle between Rand and the Dark One.
- Ariel in Drowtales winds up confronting Syphile, the woman who (badly) raised her, and after Syphile tries to kill her Ariel turns on her, shouts the trope name, and uses Syphile's own weapon against her. But she still needs her butt saved in the end as Syphile decides to taint her.
- A silent variation occurs in El Goonish Shive during a dream sequence, when Grace sees her second alien side, which initially snarls at her, and Grace simply reaches out and hugs it, representing her acceptance of that part of herself.
- Attempted in Venus Envy by Zoe against the personification of her fears, but since she hasn't completely gotten over them yet it doesn't work.
- In a recent arc in T. Campbell's Fans!, Ally demonstrated that she no longer feared Keith Feddyg by saying the last three words that he wanted to hear from her; "I forgive you."
- In the final arc of Dominic Deegan, Dominic expresses amazement that he ever feared the Beast. It wasn't nearly as scary once he knew its true ultimately pathetic nature. In the author's own words, knowledge of the Beast diminished it.
- Subverted in Recess. Gus, the awkward new kid, after asking his Army veteran father for advice, attempts to invoke this trope by challenging the bully that has continually hounded him... only to be shocked when the bully nonchalantly accepts the challenge, and then gives him a severe beating off-screen.
- On the other hand Gus actually accepts the beating willingly, convinced there's nothing he can do after that. Touched by this, the rest of the playground stand up against the bully, upon which he slinks off in a huff.
- Ron Stoppable from the series Kim Possible really fits this trope. Being that he was afraid of things that were ridiculous things (or perhaps, not so ridiculous), throughout the series, he overcome many of them, such as when he decided to stop running from his mutant enemy Gill and fight back, and more notably he conquered his childhood fear of monkeys, even accepting their nature as the source of his mystical martial arts powers. Even before that, he no longer felt intimidated to face his personal Arch-Enemy Monkey Fist, just annoyed.
- Invoked by Kevin's stepfather in Ben 10: Ultimate Alien: He stands up to the mutated, out of his mind Kevin, declaring "I'm not afraid of you anymore, Kevin."
- A variation in Avatar The Last Airbender: this trope is not openly stated, but is certainly present when Zuko confronts his father, Firelord Ozai, and tells him what he thinks of him. While the main focus of the confrontation is Zuko's realisation that he has no reason to desire Ozai's love and respect, his refusal to back down when he is threatened fits this trope. Granted, the specific moment he chooses for the confrontation means he doesn't actually have anything to fear from him for a short time, but even when the moment passes, he keeps his courage.
- In the sequel series, Korra has a similar moment in the first season finale where she realizes that despite Big Bad Amon taking her bending away she is able to airbend for the first time in her life and proceeds to kick his ass after most of a season of being terrified of him.