- A black woman may be accused of "selling out" by dating white men. It is expected that black women will only be attracted to black men. If her lover is wealthy in addition to being white, she may receive accusations that she's a Gold Digger.
- A white man may also encounter derision. A black woman may not be accepted by his peers regardless of what she looks like or her economic status. So a white woman is a more socially acceptable option.
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- One story arc in Billy Bat revolves around a kindly taxi driver trying to reunite a black girl and her white fiancee who've been driven apart by racial strife between their families and civil rights protesters and counter-protesters on their wedding day.
- Inverted in White Man's Burden. In the race-flipped society, Thaddeus' wife shows obvious discomfort when her son brings home a white date.
- The 2005 remake of Guess Who's Coming to Dinner (titled Guess Who) reversed the roles with a young black woman surprising her family by marrying a white man.
- Also inverts aspects of the trope with the white man having a Disappeared Dad and being raised by a single mother while the black girl has two successful, loving parents.
- The woman also mentions that they've dealt with nasty comments, and towards the end of the film, the father realizes that the man quit his job after his boss himself said something rude.
- Something New starring Sanaa Lathan and Simon Baker also has this as a main plot point with the woman's family looking down on the relationship.
- Also a case of class distinctions with the wealthy black family looking down on the blue collar white man.
- In Monster's Ballnote , this is not only a source of conflict, but the main one at that. A white death row guard begins a relationship with a black woman after he walked her husband to the electric chair, which he keeps hidden from her. She finds out the truth by the end, but it's left open if they'll remain together.
- The movie Lakeview Terrace deals with an interracial couple of the combination described by this trope, who get terrorized by their black neighbor. It eventually comes to light that a good part of the neighbor's motivation comes from his wife (also black but now deceased) having had an affair with a white man.
- The Wedding, a 1998 Oprah Winfrey presented movie, also features a wealthy black (well, mixed) family on Martha's vineyard strongly objecting to their daughter marrying a white man, especially since he's a struggling musician.
- This is an important subplot of A Bronx Tale. Calogero, a teenager from an Italian neighborhood in the Bronx falls in love with Jane, a black girl from his high school. Their relationship remains a difficult topic; C keeps it a secret from his friends because they're all viciously racist, and he gets a bottle thrown at his head by a black teenager when he ventures too far into Jane's neighbourhood. C's father is a lot less racist than C's fiends, though he says he doesn't believe in interracial relationships. Interestingly, C's mentor Sonny (a mob boss) actively encourages C to pursue it. Jane later rejects him when she discovers C's friends beat up her brother, though he didn't join in. They reconcile by the end.
- A lesser known aspect of Jungle Fever. As a result of the main couple's Where Da White Women At? relationship, the white woman's former boyfriend is left single. He wants to date a black woman but is beaten up by a group of white men for it. He still goes on the date anyway, though. The trope is discussed at length after the black woman in question leaves a store full of white men and one of them says that she's attractive and he'd definitely have sex with her but he would NEVER be in a public relationship with a black woman.
- In Dark Blue, police officer Bobby Keough strikes up a relationship with Beth (unbeknownst to him, also a cop), which his racist partner Eldon Perry harasses him over.
- Played for Laughs in National Security, where Hank (Steve Zahn), a former cop, and Earl (Martin Lawrence), a security guard, team up (reluctantly in the former's case) to take down the bad guys. Their rivalry stems from the fact that, the first time they met, Hank thought that Earl was a car thief (Earl locked his keys in the car), which resulted in Hank being falsely accused of beating Earl (he was swatting a bumblebee, and Earl's swelling was due to his allergies). Earl agrees to help Hank get his ex-girlfriend back, who broke up with him because of this. However, when Earl finds out that Hank's ex is black, he immediately goes back on his deal. When Hank confronts him, Earl explains that he is strictly against interracial relationships. A little later, Hank witnesses Earl hitting on a white woman, causing Earl to amend his earlier statement to this trope (i.e. it's okay for a black man to date a white woman, but not the reverse). In the end, though, Hank ends up proving to his ex that he's innocent (well, Earl does by freaking out over a bumblebee in her presence) and gets back with her.
- In Belle, fear of this trope is what leads Dido's parents to dissuade her from marrying at all.
- Played straight in Dear White People between Sam and Gabe.
- Technically half alien, but still Caucasian from his mother's side; Spock and Uhura have a relationship in the rebooted Star Trek and its sequels. As racial differences are shown to be over in the future, the tension comes from the cultural difference between species. Probably one of the few sci-fi variants of this trope.
- The movie Loving which is based on the events leading up to the ''Loving V. Virginia'' trial, shows the hardship that Mr. and Mrs. Loving had to endure while being married during a time when interracial marriage was illegal in numerous U.S. states.
- To Kill a Mockingbird: Dolphus Raymond is a white man who has children with a black woman - although he has to pretend to be the town drunk so that the town can deal with it. Note that, as the trope description says, a white man fathering children with a black woman was unremarkable (although this was less the case as slavery shrank further into the past and near-total segregation of the races became the ideal scenario as far as genteel white society was concerned). What the other white residents couldn't forgive him for was actually acknowledging his children and living with his family in the black part of town.
- In one of the Roll Of Thunder, Hear My Cry novels, the protagonist (a young black girl) gets a little bit of Ship Tease with a white boy in town, culminating in the boy giving her a picture. The girl's father flips out and destroys the picture when he finds it, telling her it will put the whole family in danger if anyone finds out. Sadly this happened to be true, given that the novels were set in the South during Jim Crow.
- Detective Andrews ends up with this dynamic with Rosalie in White Lightning since he's successful at passing for white after years of practice at it. When her family learns he's half-Korean and he's built his reputation and friendships on a 'bedrock of lies', they go from telling her she shouldn't be with a white man to telling her she shouldn't be a liar of that caliber, which he himself admits is 'much sturdier ground to stand on' when they next voice their objections. Bearing in mind that it was the Roaring Twenties, Andrews encounters this from his colleagues when word gets around the precinct he's dating 'downwards'. Since they think he's white, he views their reactions as a way to gauge their possible reactions if they knew about his mixed ancestry.
- Referenced in beginning of the God Inc. series by Jack Chalker. The protagonists are a white man and black woman married couple, and discusses some of the problems they had finding anyone to socialize with. Quickly becomes a moot point in the stories, although not necessarily for the reasons you'd expect from a Jack Chalker story.
- Noughts & Crosses is set in an alternate universe where whites rather than blacks are treated as second class citizens. So when best friends Sephy (black) and Callum (white) fall in love, Sephy's wealthy black friends treat her with derision and Callum's poor, white family think he's selling out. Just to make things more difficult for them, there's also an Uptown Girl element as Sephy comes from an exceedingly rich, well-connected family whose Callum's mother initially worked for. Their relationship eventually results in Callum's death.
- In a Sweet Valley High book "Are We In Love?", the twins' older brother Steven begins dating a black girl. Sure enough, this results in several characters being revealed as racist jerks, given their negative reaction. Adding to the drama, despite genuinely liking each other, both Steve and the girl suffer from the nagging feeling that they have little in common and equally little chemistry and wonder if they're simply continuing to date to prove all the naysayers wrong. They amicably break up at the end of the book.
- The Jeffersons. The Willises get no end of derision from George, who calls their daughter a "zebra".
- Roxie Roker, who played Helen Willis, married a white man. Said marriage produced Lenny Kravitz.
- In House, an interracial couple faced opposition from the (white) male's father and they interpreted this as the dad being a racist jerk. He was, sort of; just not in the way they thought. He didn't want him to date this particular black girl. House deduces that they share a rare genetic illness, meaning that they're actually half-siblings, resulting from an affair the father had with the woman's mother. It's implied that the relationship doesn't survive this revelation.
- The MTV telefilm Love Song starring singer Monica combines this and the Uptown Girl trope.
- The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air: Will's aunt marries a "tall" man in a Very Special Episode. Most of the family is surprised, but don't know quite how to approach the issue; Will's mother is directly against it. This was the reason why Will's aunt didn't mention his skin color before. Although, the black cab driver whom the family first assumed was the fiancé didn't seem to care about it.
- In a Very Special Episode of Moesha titled "Reunion," Moesha meets up with an old white friend (played by Andrew Keegan) and they really hit it off. Her father has a problem with the potential relationship and Moesha is accused of being "too good for the hood." In the end, they decide not to get together.
- In Soap Danny begins dating Polly and both families accept the relationship but Danny becomes extremely paranoid that everybody is judging them when nobody is.
- Not exactly a "lust," but in an episode of WKRP in Cincinnati Venus is interviewed by a reporter from a black magazine, who it turns out is white (and played by Tim Reid's former comedy partner Tom Dreeson). They commiserate over being the only person of X color in an otherwise all-Y company, including wanting to ask out some female coworkers but being gunshy because of how the women might react due to their race.
- Liberty and Ray-Ray on My Name Is Earl. They seem to be expies of Joy and Darnell, which makes sense considering that Liberty is Joy's half-sister, due to their father's philandering with black women
- In one episode of the hidden camera show What Would You Do?, two actors pose as a white male/black female couple in a bar. A black couple, also actors, come up to them and criticize their relationship, accusing the black woman of being insecure for dating a white man. The onlookers are not amused.
- On an episode of The Golden Girls, Dorothy's son announced his surprise engagement to a black woman, who also happened to be much older. A lot of comedy was mined from Discriminate and Switch - it at first appeared Dorothy might take issue with the interracial aspect, but she was uspet at the age difference. Dorothy assumed the fiancee's family would have a similar problem with the age difference, but nope, they were more upset their daughter's fiance was white.
- Reenacted on I Married A Mobster, where despite no previous attraction to White men, Dion falls for Italian-American Angelo Nicosia, who's a mob hitman and married with the latter case obviously being the bigger issue before and after his divorce as they marry and initially live the good life with a daughter, Gia until he's caught, leaving them in debt, but they stay together and she still waits for him to come out of jail as a reformed man.
- In A Different World, Kim briefly dates Freddie's (white) cousin Matthew. Kim has no problem being with him, she just doesn't want to be judged by her classmates at her all-black school so she avoids being affectionate with him in public. Matthew points out that they're going to get looks regardless of where they are or what they do so they should just focus on being together and not worry about what other people think.
- The ENTIRE point of The Feast of All Saints, though in this case most of the women had white ancestry as well.
- On Glee, Mercedes and Sam date, and there is one episode with some drama. Mercedes isn't sure if she is ready to deal with the backlash of having a white boyfriend (especially since she's becoming more and more famous), and Sam doesn't understand the complexities of racial issues, which leads him to saying some midly offensive things entirely by accident (and it's mostly endearing because he's not too bright). They work through it in the end and decide they'll face any backlash together.
- Soap Opera Examples:
- During the '80s, General Hospital had Tom and Simone. Her mother disapproved.
- Ten years later, Keesha Ward and Jason Quartermaine. Their respective grandparents disapproved. His because of the frequent clashes that the two families had had over the years, hers because she feared that his family would eventually put their collective foot down and forbid Jason from seeing her. This never happened and both families warmed up to and accepted the relationship once they realized that each was a lovely person that anyone would want to be part of their family.
- And ten years after that, Nikolas Cassadine and Gia Campbell. His uncle Stefan disapproved, though he swore that it was not Gia's race that was the problem, but rather the fact that she was not a member of the aristocracy, an absolute must for a potential bride of Nikolas.
- All My Children's Tom and Livia dealt with this. While most of their problems were typical soap problems, they seemed to be exacerbated by the racial difference—when her son's father resurfaced, Tom feared she would end their relationship, not just to rekindle an old romance, but because she might prefer to be with a black man.
- As the World Turns's Jessica and Duncan. Shockingly, it was one of the town's most beloved citizens, Lisa, who had a problem with it. They eventually married and had a daughter, who herself played this out when she grew up.
- Passions's Julian and Eve, who could possibly be considered one of the show's super couples. Dialogue makes it quite clear that their racial difference is why his father forced them apart.
- One Life to Live's Kevin and Rachel. Her father pretty much hated Kevin and the idea of them dating and gave them grief the entire time (quite hypocritical considering that his ex-wife, Rachel's mother, was white).
- During the '80s, General Hospital had Tom and Simone. Her mother disapproved.
- Averted with Olivia and President Fitzgerald in Scandal. There are a million other reasons other than Olivia or Fitz's race for other people to frown upon them.
- On one episode of Everybody Loves Raymond, Robert starts dating his black coworker. When he brings her home to meet his parents, his mother Marie is speechless. Later on his family is annoyed because he starts acting Pretty Fly (For a White Guy).
- Actually, Robert and his police partner, Judy, were just hanging out, though it initially fit the trope when Marie assumed they were dating. And Robert's family weren't the only ones his new 'tude irritated; Judy had to break it to him gently that although she and her friends at first enjoyed his company, his new "ethnic" attitude was annoying. So it ended up a subversion, playing out as black gal (platonically) on white, wanna-be-black guy comedy.
- In the Heat of the Night: City Councilwoman Harriet DeLong (black) and Chief Bill Gillespie (white) date and eventually marry in season 6. Of course, this being small-town Mississippi less than thirty years after Jim Crow, their union brings a lot of disapproval, drama, and death threats.
- New Amsterdam: There's an episode where the immortal John Amsterdam had a relationship with a black woman in the 1940s and impregnates her with his latest child. Due to the racial segregation of the period, they try to keep it a secret until her father takes her back home, berating John for becoming involved with a woman he couldn't publicly provide for. After fighting in World War II, John returns to take care of her after she's delivered their child.
- Alma and Kit from American Horror Story: Asylum are forced to hide their relationship for fear of retribution from the neighbors. The show takes place in 1964, of course.
- A subplot in two separate episodes of Beverly Hills, 90210 where Brandon dated a black girl. The first was the daughter of a black family who had recently moved to the neighborhood, resulting in some snide comments from several people—even Kelly needled him about how "hip" he was being. The second was a girl he met during a road trip with buddy Steve, resulting in some very negative reactions from her ex and his friends, as well as some stereotypical rednecks.
- On Blackish, the episode "Andre from Marseille" has Zoey dating a white French guy (also named Andre) that Dre disapproves of. Until he breaks up with her, that is, at which point he assumes that Andre is racist and enlists Junior to find out information about him, only to find out that the "Becky" that he left Zoey for is in fact black.
- Contrary to accepted wisdom, the very first onscreen TV kiss between a black woman and a white man happened in British hospital soap opera Emergency Ward Ten in 1964, between Dr. Louise Mahler (Joan Dooley) and Giles Farmer (John White).note Dr. Mahler was, for the time, an extremely strong central role for a black actress. But British audience reactions to her having a relationship with a white co-star were hostile and she was written out of the show.
- The main plot of Brazilian soap opera Xica da Silva was the affair between the white Governor of the region and the titular slave girl. Even more scandalous because the guy broke up with his white fiancee to stay steady with Xica (the only thing he could do, as even when he could free her interracial marriage was forbidden at the time). All of this allegedly based in a true story.
- Nova and Calvin from Queen Sugar. She's a black journalist investigating bias in the local police department and he's a white married cop working for that very department. Their relationship is a secret due to the scandal it would cause. When they finally do go out together in public, they're assaulted by a white man who's angry about Nova's work and thinks Calvin is a traitor for dating her.
- Dear White People: Sam is secretly having sex with a white guy, Gabe, at the beginning of the series. After she's outed, this doesn't go down well with her friends, particularly since she wrote against "dating the oppressor". Gabe receives a less than warm welcome when she brings him to TV night with the black students.
- Cree Summer's song Curious White Boy examines how white men sometimes sexually objectify black women, giving historical instances of this.
- The 70's pop song ''Brother Louie'' sung by, among others, Stories, a song about a white guy bringing his black girlfriend home to much wailing and gnashing of teeth.
- Everclear's Heartspark Dollarsign.
- Fefe Dobson's Take Me Away is arguably about an interracial relationship between herself and a white man, and the negative attitudes that the couple receives from others.
- Elle Varner's I Don't Care music video depicts 3 couples likes this.
- The first verse of Public Enemy's "Pollywannacracka" from Fear of a Black Planet deals with the backlash that a black woman gets for dating a white man.
- Invoked by Patrick Stewart, who played Othello as a white man, with the rest of the cast being black.
- The whole storyline of the musical Memphis revolves around a white man falling in love with a black singer. Being set in a period racial segregation, this is played for drama.
- Show Boat. A white man is married to a mixed race woman who is considered black by the "one drop rule," so he pricks her with a pin and swallows a drop of her blood, making him black too by that standard.
- The Dion Boucicault play The Octoroon explores the challenges an interracial couple encounter in the pre-Civil War American south.
- Played for Laughs in episode 7 of The Misadventures Of Awkward Black Girl. When J and White Jay walk into a restaurant all of the customers stare at them with a look of disapproval, including a black man and white girl couple.
- In "The Friends", a random person at Jay's Class Reunion calls J a murderer...of black love that is.
- Whateley Universe: The Tigers, or at least N'Dizi, gives Chaka and Vox some drama as said in A Fistful of Chaka. Both girls are dating white boys:
[Chaka] needs a firm guiding hand. I mean, will you check out the silly-ass nigga-shit she is always pulling? She hangs with a white crew, she dates a white boy, and the only black folks she deals with are oreos and sellouts like Vox.”
- In the first level of BioShock Infinite, you witness a black woman and white man be led onto a stage to be publicly stoned. Their crime? Being romantically involved. Luckily, if you attempt to throw the baseball at Fink, and you defeat the guards around the stage once you are revealed to be the "False Shepard", they will be spared. They appear at a later level to thank the protagonist for his heroism. Attempting to throw the ball at the couple however will have Fink's assistant at the later level thank you instead, leaving the couple's fate unknown.
- Invoked in Wolfenstein II: The New Colossus: when you first reach the headquarters of the American Resistance in New York, Super Spesh, the only present white man, notes that only black people and "deviants" still fight the Nazi rule of America. Whilst the player is initially set up to believe that Super Spesh is gay, it is then revealed that his "deviancy" is loving Sassy Black Woman Grace Walker and fathering their mixed-race daughter, Abby.
- Lampshaded in The Cleveland Show when Rollo (during a black supremacist phase) asks his sister why she's going out with a white guy.
- In the X-Men episodes based on The Age of Apocalypse, Wolverine and Storm are a couple in the alternate timeline. When they travel back to the 50's, they face persecution over their relationship. Coming from a future where all discrimination is based on whether a person is human or mutant, they find discrimination based on simple race to be ridiculous.
- In Ralph Bakshi's film Heavy Traffic, Michael is dating Carole. His racist father is so enraged at this, he tries to get The Mafia to kill him. They refuse, due to it being for personal reasons, until the couple get involved in crime rackets. Thankfully, it's All Just a Dream, although the two really are dating.