Quit Your Whining
"Hey, man what is this? Sounds like the wail of a wimp!The demons of Wangst have possessed Bob, sending him spiraling into a Heroic BSOD. He begins to spill out all of his sorrows to Alice, who promptly informs Bob that she does not give a shit. Bob has a job to do, and he had better not let his Wangst get in the way of performing his duty. This trope comes in many flavors. If the viewers/readers perceive Bob to be The Scrappy, this trope will make it seem as if Bob is getting what he deserves, and Alice is doing what she should be doing. If the viewers/reader perceive Bob to be The Woobie, this trope will make Alice seem like a Jerk Ass. Or, if Bob is entering a Wangst storm that seems uncharacteristic of him, and this trope manages to make him snap out of it, neither characters will be viewed negatively. Or, it could backfire spectacularly, causing Bob to remain in his Heroic BSOD and making Alice seem like an idiot. Bob does not need to explicitly tell Alice what it is he is Wangsting about—if Alice can infer, or has been informed of, what the subject of the Wangst is, she can perform this trope anyway. These can be delivered by any member of the Five-Man Band, though The Lancer to The Hero seems to be the most prevalent. Compare Get A Hold Of Yourself Man, in which it's physical. Can be a form of No Sympathy. A variation on I Shall Taunt You may also appear, intended to make the target angry enough to snap out of his funk.
Did you let loser side take command?"
Did you let loser side take command?"
—Lost Horizon - "Sworn in the Metal Wind"
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Anime and Manga
- In the early Saiyan Saga of Dragon Ball, when Piccolo starts training Gohan, the little boy is such a cry-baby that the then still evil Namekian threatens to snap his neck should he continue to cry.
- In Bleach, Rukia does the infer version of this trope to Ichigo after he enters a Heroic BSOD as a result of the first Arrancar Invasion, having lost a fight due to losing control of his inner hollow and witnessed some of his friends being badly hurt. It works rather spectacularly.
- Isshin to Ichigo in chapter 407.
- And Rukia gives it to him again in chapter 460, saying that even if Tsukishima has used his abilities to rewrite the pasts of all his friends and family, that should not be enough to bring him to despair..
- Happens in Code Geass. Kallen does this to Lelouch during his Heroic BSOD brought about by the reopening of the SAZ. Played with in that she is exactly as unsure as he is.
- Suzaku does this to Lelouch, with a mixture of Get A Hold Of Yourself Man, when Lelouch finds out that Nunnally is alive, and begins to despair. Suzaku tells him to suck it up and remember Zero Requiem.
- In Neon Genesis Evangelion, Misato tries one of these to snap Shinji back into action. It semi-works, in the sense that he tries to do something, and then fails since it turns out that EVA-01 is unable to move. Stupid Bakelite.
- In chapter 50 of Future Diary Kousaka does this to Yukiteru, mixing it with "The Reason You Suck" Speech:
"Yukiteru, do you know just why I hate you so much? It's because your crying face resembles my stupid dog at home! Even now...! *punches Yukiteru* That face you're making right now! Don't go crying when you made this choice yourself! You're just a damn lowlife who killed his friends for his own convenience! You don't have a right to cry!"
- In Hot Gimmick this is constantly Ryoki's response whenever his girlfriend Hatsumi wangsts or puts herself down.
- Usually in Sailor Moon it's Rei slapping Usagi, but in season one's finale the demure Ami gives a huge slap in the face to Usagi after she decides to give the villains whatever they want, because she just saw Sailor Jupiter die.
- Frau Bow tries to do this to Amuro in Mobile Suit Gundam. Doesn't work much except if Bright Noah is around.
- In One Piece during the Davy Back Arc, Zoro gives Chopper a speech on this, when he starts complaining about being forcibly recruited into Foxy's crew after the Straw Hats' team of Usopp, Robin and Nami loses the first round of the Davy Back Fight. This also doubles as a Crowning Moment of Awesome for Zoro, especially considering that with Chopper taken, he and Sanji are now facing a 2 on 3 match, but are still determined to win.
" Shut your mouth, Chopper! You are disgraceful! It was your choice to get a life on the sea. Dead or alive, the choice was yours alone. Don't blame it on others. We accepted the challenge. Usopp and the others tried their best. In the pirate's world, tears won't get you anything. If you are a man, then sit tight and quietly watch the game!"
- In Bakuman。, Takahama frequently complains about his editor, Miura, trying to get him to make his series have more humor, even at the expense of the story, and the main characters often view Miura similarly. He meets with the editor in chief to request a different editor, only to have his request denied, and told that if he can't write what he wants, it simply means he isn't good enough yet. Takahama leaves, chastened, and the main characters admit that they've been blaming Miura too much.
Nine-Tailed Fox: If you're going to sulk like a little schoolgirl, I may as well beat the living shit out of you and take control of your body now!
- Naruto delivers this to Inari in the Land of Waves arc, tired of hearing Inari constantly insist that they can never defeat Gato. After Inari runs off in tears, Kakashi follows him, and notes that Naruto had a hard childhood, but decided to do something about it rather than pity himself, which is why he said what he did. He also does this with the princess in the Land of Vegetables filler, telling her he doesn't like her viewing people as expendable even if she was used as a hostage in the past.
- After Naruto fails to bring Sasuke back in their first post-timeskip encounter, which also reveals that Sasuke is, at that point, considerably stronger than Naruto, he collapses in tears. Sakura tells him that crying won't bring Sasuke back, and that they will bring him back together.
- In Chapter 615, Hinata and the Nine-Tailed Fox do this to Naruto after Neji dies protecting him. Hinata says that she and Neji have come to adopt Naruto's principles of never giving up and protecting one's comrades. The Nine-Tailed Fox reminds Naruto that his parents and Neji gave their lives to protect him and tells him not to give up.
- In Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha StrikerS, Signum's reaction to Teana protesting and saying that Training from Hell is the only way to stand out compared to the rest of the forwards is to punch her, telling Nanoha that Teana will get spoiled if people listen to her whining.
- In Mai-Otome, Arika, having a Heroic BSOD after events during and after the Wham Episode, including her friend Erstin's death declares she quits being an Otome and runs off, only to get swallowed by a sand monster along with Mashiro. Arika complains about some of her troubles, prompting Mashiro to say that she's not the only one suffering, leading to a discussion that causes both of them to renew and refocus their resolve.
- In A Certain Scientific Railgun, Uiharu breaks down crying when Telestina's true identity is revealed and she takes the children that were experimented on. Kuroko's response to this is to ask how much longer Uiharu is going to keep crying and being useless, and when is she going to step up and do something to help? It works, and Uiharu is on board with the investigation from there.
- In the backstory of Fruits Basket, Tohru's mother, Kyouko, was killed in a car accident. The driver who hit her also died. Said driver's daughter, Komaki Nakao, happens to be the girlfriend of Kakeru Manabe. Kakeru told Tohru that she wasn't the only one who lost a parent and that she was disgusting for openly grieving. He did this at Kyouko's funeral. Komaki was furious when she found out and nearly broke up with him before forcing him to apologize.
- This was done with Captain America when Stan Lee and Jim Steranko realized that his moaning about the death of Bucky was getting really old. So, they had Rick Jones appeared in a copy of Bucky's costume and told Cap that other people have lost loved ones and it's past time he moved on like any soldier.
- Magneto does this to (adult) Cyclops in the early issues of All New X-Men after listening to him whine one time too many about how much his life (and life in general) sucks and listening to him subtextually blame his recent misfortunes on the Phoenix for possessing him in AVX. Magneto then proceeds to lecture Cyclops by reminding him that he is in the presence of a man who has done many terrible things in his life, things that Magneto himself admits haunt his dreams and will probably haunt him until the day he dies, and confesses that he used to just shrug it off as being temporary insanity, which he then admits was a cop out. To cap things off, Magneto tells Cyclops that he really has no one to blame but himself for his misfortunes and that blaming the Phoenix is just the ultimate cop out, and that if he's really serious about atoning for his recent mistakes he needs to just shut up and get on with it.
- A Crown Of Stars:
- In chapter 44 Shinji is starting to get angsty after Their First Time but Asuka stops him telling they are past the point of complaining and getting frightened.
- In chapter 50 Shinji and Asuka are arguing about their failure on reaching each other out. When Asuka asks him why he never told anything Shinji retorts asking why she never did say anything either and muttering he was nothing. Asuka cuts him off telling her lover is not "nothing" and she hates seeing him behaving like a self-pitying whiner.
- HERZ: In chapter 3 HERZ is performing a battery of tests on one of their Evas… and simultaneously placating Asuka who is he test pilot and is not happy about it, considering it a long, useless, big waste of her time. Finally Kensuke asks her stopping complaining:
Asuka(grumbling):"You all don't really need me to do this. After all, we have the mighty Shinji in the invincible Unit 01 and the A.I. Dummy Plugs for the Eva 05 series. Oh, we mustn't forget Wonder Girl. She doesn't contribute to anything and has an Eva all to herself so she can take it for walks after dinner! This is such a big fat waste of my time,"
Kensuke:"Oh Asuka, will you just keep it down for a while? We're trying to work here,"
- TD gets told this numerous times over the course of the various The Non-Bronyverse stories, though he usually has a justified reason to be upset at his predicament.
- The Second Try:
- Asuka preemptively snaps Shinji out of his breakdown in chapter 2, telling him to get a grip so they can focus on their survival.
- After the fight with the 16th Angel, when Misato tries to comfort a distraught Shinji who's blaming himself for being unable to prevent the death of Rei, she gets rudely interrupted by Asuka. At first she mistakes it for a display of No Sympathy she had been used to from the old Asuka, until she hears her berating him for writing Rei off so hastily. Asuka then argues that the new Rei may still be the same as the one they know. She's right.
- In The Incredibles, Edna does this to Elastigirl after the latter realizes that her husband has lied to her and is now on an island in the middle of nowhere. Obviously, she thinks that he's having an affair, and breaks down. Edna pretty much tells her to kick his ass. It ends well.
- Galadriel seems to do this to Gimli in the movie-version of The Lord of the Rings. While in the book she's overwhelmingly sympathetic, and even shuts down her bigoted husband in defense of the Dwarves (causing him to apologize profusely), in the movie she seems to say something more like "We've all got problems."
- Mother Mary gives Elwood one during Blues Brothers 2000 after he says "The orphanage is gone, Jake's gone, Curtis is gone! I've got no brother, I've got no roots, I've got no life, I've got nothing for the Christ's sake!".
- In Taking Chance, Lt. Colonel Strobl is guilt-stricken due to the fact that when the war in Iraq kicked off, he volunteered for a staff position stateside so he could spend more time with his family, while others (including the young Marine he volunteered to escort back home) are fighting and dying. An old war vet sets him straight after he starts verbalizing his angst.
Charlie Fitts: Want to be with your family every night... you think you have to justify that?
- Laura angrily shames Frank Galvin in The Verdict when he's panicking about the trial and regretting not taking a deal the hospital made his client. This despite her being The Mole.
- Arnold Schwarzenegger (whose character probably has a different name, but who cares) exhorts his young students to "stop whining!" in Kindergarten Cop. It works out better than you'd expect.
- Randal does this to Dante in Clerks after their fight in the Quick-Stop, following with a "The Reason You Suck" Speech
- Jake does this to Marco in Animorphs #35, helping him to recover from his Shapeshift Crisis. Marco also does this to Rachel in #37 (in what many people see as a Crowning Moment of Awesome) snapping her out of a Heroic BSOD.
- This happens to an aspiring soldier in Starship Troopers, after he's failed to obey orders. (He was supposed to freeze during a drill. He froze on top of an anthill, freaked out and punched his instructor in the face.) His commanding officer, recognizing the fact that the kid would make a good soldier, tries this trope on him and refuses to hear what really happened... until the recruit insists on telling the full story and being tried by the book, not realizing that proper procedure results in him being publicly whipped and kicked out of the army.
- Garion gets told this a lot in David Eddings' The Belgariad.
- Marcus snaps at Esca after being fed up with his moodiness in The Eagle of the Ninth.
- In Harry Potter And The Order Of The Phoenix, Harry gets told this several times. While he's Wangsting over his ill-treatment at the hands of the Daily Prophet and the student body, Hermione tells him to quit painting Ron and her with the same brush when they're actually trying to help him. Ron delivers one of these to Harry after Harry has been sulking and snapping at him and Hermione, telling Harry that while he does have a lot to be annoyed about, taking out his temper on his friends won't solve anything. Later, after Harry goes into full Heroic BSOD mode and tries to run away after hearing that he might be possessed by Voldemort, the portrait of Phineas Nigellus calls him an idiot and says he is too busy wallowing in self-pity to realize that the world does not revolve around him.
"And what use would that be to anyone? If you loved Lily Evans, if you truly loved her, then your way forward is clear."
- ...Followed quickly by Ginny telling him off for locking himself away and then complaining that no one talks to him and for forgetting that she's the only one who could determine whether or not he's being possessed by Voldemort.
- Dumbledore delivers one to Snape after the latter wishes he were dead in place of Lily Evans:
- Mogget in the Old Kingdom books is prone to responding to Wangst on the part of those around him by drowning them in sarcasm.
- In Warrior Cats, Graystripe is with his mate as she dies giving birth to his kits, and he wails his grief to the skies. Cue Tigerclaw coming along, cuffing him, and ordering him to "Stop that moaning".
- In A Wrinkle in Time, Mrs Whatsit gives Meg a (moderately) gentler version to Meg after reuniting with her, Calvin and her father. Meg is (understandably) distraught at the fact that she's stranded on a (friendly) planet Ixchel while her brother is suffering Demonic Possession by IT on the (notably less-friendly) planet Camazotz. (The little fact that The Black Thing also hit her hard with a high-caliber Emotion Bomb and she's Not Herself didn't help either). Meg begs them to save Charles Wallace instead. Breaking out of her usual character, Mrs Whatsit coldly reminds Meg that neither she nor her sisters have any power on Camazotz, and that it must be Meg who finishes the quest since (literally) no other entity can. This (finally) brings Meg back to her senses.
- In A Rising Thunder, Thomas Theisman, formerly her military opponent but now sharing her flag deck thanks to the Manticore-Haven alliance against the Solarian League (which is a thing of beauty and awesome in and of itself), delivers one of these to Honor when she begins wangsting about her part in the wholesale slaughter of the Solarian League's Eleventh Fleet, who fired against overwhelming force thanks to Mesan meddling. The full gloriousness is detailed on the series' CMOA page.
Live Action TV
- In Buffy the Vampire Slayer episode "The Weight of the World," Willow does this to Buffy.
Willow: For God's sake, shut your whimpering mouth.
- Played much darker in a later episode, when Willow briefly reverts to her darker persona while protecting an innocent bystander from a monster.
- In Dead Like Me, Rube has this attitude toward George. He's a Jerkass. Although he is supposed to be a Jerk with a Heart of Gold, sometimes you wonder.
You stupid, stupid son-of-a-bitch! Well, boo hoo. I am so sorry your feelings are hurt... princess! Are you under the impression that family's supposed to make you feel good? Make you an apple pie, maybe? They're supposed to make you miserable! That's why they're family.
- Bobby, to Sam & Dean, at various points.
- At the end of season 5, Castiel has been stripped of his angelic powers. When he starts to angst about the loss, Bobby basically shames him out of it—Castiel might be only human now, but hey, so are the rest of them, and Bobby, who's in a wheelchair, has a lot more reason to feel useless.'
- In late season 4, the high-ranking angel Zachariah gives Dean a lecture after putting him through a Secret Test of Character to see if he really was ready to fight the Apocalypse for them, the main gist of which is "stop your yammering, you're The Chosen One and your life consists of killing evil and hooking up with hot women! Enjoy it!" Given that Zachariah is later revealed to be quite evil himself, in hindsight this comes off more as Zachariah showing what an asshole he is by telling Dean to stop whining after losing most of his family, being tortured in Hell for decades, and inadvertently causing the end of the world.
- In The West Wing, when the President is raging against God the injustice of Mrs. Landingham's death and wondering what he did to deserve it, she appears as a figment of his imagination, telling him that it's unfair to blame God for her death and other disasters and telling him of problems he has yet to solve, concluding that she "(doesn't) want to know" him if he refuses to run for re-election out of fear.
Mrs. Landingham: Are you in a tough spot? Yes. Do I feel sorry for you? I do not. Why? Because there are people way worse off than you.
- The Dowager Countess on Downton Abbey says this to her granddaughter, Edith, when Edith is worrying about what to do with her life after being jilted on her wedding day
- Red Dwarf: Rimmer to himself.
"Stop your foul whining, ya filthy piece of distended rectum!"
- In an episode of My Name Is Earl, Dodge and Earl Jr. are whining about having to pick up toys and do homework. Joy tells them a (very silly) Scare 'Em Straight story that's actually called "Quit Yer Bitchin'!" about why she makes them clean up and do homework. Do your homework so you don't get one of those train problems wrong and then run over by an actual train, and keep things neat and tidy so you don't end up as a ball of dirt on God's desk and get crushed by His coffee mug.
- All of BioWare's games—from Baldur's Gate to Mass Effect—have conversation options similar to this when talking to your fellow NPC adventurers. The NPC will begin talking about their "main issue" (getting her wings cut off, being an unwilling test subject, being the king's bastard, killing Jedi, etc.), and the Player Character can either show his or her interest and help them resolve their issues or tell them to suck it up.
- Note that, in most examples, doing this is a bad thing. Though you actually have to snap at Aerie at one point during her romance.
- One of the Krogan Vanguard's comments while reviving a dying teammate is "Stop whining!"
- In Mass Effect 2, you can come across a badly wounded Krogan trapped in enemy territory. You can combine this with Dare to Be Badass to get him to pick himself up and get back to friendly territory.
- There comes a point in almost every route in Canvas 2 where the current heroine will tell Hiroki he really needs to get over his angst and start painting again.
- While hanging with Dwayne Forge, a friend from Grand Theft Auto IV, he has a bad habit of whining about his shitty life (freshly out of prison, broke, no longer respected in the drug game). While a normal person might feel bad for him, he happens to be talking to Niko Bellic, the practical definition of Iron Woobie. He manages to silence him during one conversation, with this.
Niko: Back where I was from, we didn't have electricity until I was twelve.
- In Final Fantasy IV, Rydia hits Edward with this when he's overwhelmed by the death of his beloved Anna, followed by a Get a Hold of Yourself, Man! moment from Cecil that only makes Edward more distraught.
- A similar case happens in Final Fantasy VII where Cloud is afraid to go after Aeris to the City of the Ancients, fearing that being near Sephiroth again will cause him go insane and he questions who he really is. Barret tells Cloud to suck it up and he also tells him how people go through life not knowing who they really are but they continue living their lives regardless. Cloud determines that Barret is right and he continues on his quest.
- Final Fantasy VIII villain Norg invokes this trope by name. "WHAT DID YOU SAY? YOU LOST TO THE SORCERESS! QUIT YOUR WHINING!"
- Sora gives this to Aladdin in Kingdom Hearts: Chain of Memories, when he's depressed after losing the lamp and Jasmine to Jafar. He then comes up with a plan to get both back.
- Sora does it again with Beast in Kingdom Hearts II telling him to man-up and get both his rose and Belle back.
- Asura's Wrath: It's less whining than it is mindless destructive raging and screaming, but Asura is on the receiving end of this when he's in Wrath Form from Yasha. Asura had previously watched a girl who was a dead ringer for his daughter get killed by the Seven Deities. with himself utterly unable to save her. This results in him going completely ballistic, and going on a rampage of destruction with really no meaning or purpose beyond breaking things. Yasha outlines all that he's sacrificed for the cause, and makes it QUITE clear that Asura's not the only one who's suffered.
Yasha: Saving the world is no easy task! I played my part as best I could! You have no idea, do you! YOU IMBECILE!
- The "quit-your-whining" rant is just one part of the colourful wheel of reactions the cast of Tales of the Abyss has to Luke destroying Akzeriuth. Eventually, once he's spent enough time dwelling on his sins and swearing to change, people tell him to stop banging on about it.
- On a more general scale, this is basically Jade Curtiss's role for the whole game. Any time someone gets upset, wangsty or vengeful, it's Jade's job to drag them back on track and remind them to focus on the task at hand.
Jade: *sigh*. I'm babysitting a group of children.
- On a more general scale, this is basically Jade Curtiss's role for the whole game. Any time someone gets upset, wangsty or vengeful, it's Jade's job to drag them back on track and remind them to focus on the task at hand.
- Dot Hack GU sees this happening to Atoli, after the raid on Moontree. She feels very guilty about all the people that were hurt while she was AIDA-possessed (though most everyone else blames Sakaki for the incident, viewing Atoli as a victim as well). Despite knowing how close to nonexistent Atoli's self-esteem is, Haseo's response is that if she feels so guilty, why doesn't she step up and do something about it rather than just fish for sympathy? This brings Atoli out of her angsting and she begins helping out.
- This happens in Kyo Kusanagi's victory quote in The King of Fighters '98:
Kyo: You just ain't got it. So stop whining and get lost.
- In Homestuck, Jack Noir shows a feeling besides omnidirectional rage when he tries to help Karkat deal with Sollux's death.
There, there, you blubbering goddamn pansy.
- Vriska is also guilty of this, largely to Tavros. Sure, she mind-controlled him to jump off a cliff... but the real problem is he is just too damn weak!
- Jade tries this with Jadesprite, but it doesn't work and Jadesprite just runs away and does nothing. Jade is enraged and disgusted to think that she has that kind of weakness inside her.
- In Jack the titular character does not wish to remember his past life, as the little he knows at that point has made him psychotically unstable. Reck, in a Moment of Awesome, promptly punches him in the face and yells at him to stop being pathetic. here and here. This is followed by a prompt Curb Stomp of the enemy who had, up until then, been beating them up, so it obviously worked.
- In The Order of the Stick, Roy takes the weighty setback of Durkon being turned into a vampire poorly and considers just giving up and hoping some other hero will rise up to fight Xykon. Belkar heads him off at the pass:
Roy: You were all better off when I was still dead.Belkar: Hey, uh, quick question: If I'm experiencing intense nausea right now, do you think that's due to the blood loss, or because your whining is making me want to puke?
- Family Guy: In the episode "Lethal Weapons", while the family is in the car, Meg complains about Chris putting his foot on her side.
Stewie: Meg stop your whining, Chris stay on your side, and Lois get up off your ass and do some parenting.
- Hey Arnold!: In the episode "Olga Gets Engaged" Olga collapses into tears upon learning at the last minute her fiance decided not to marry her. Helga's response is "Alright, that's enough! Suck it up, you big crybaby!"
- My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic: The Diamond Dogs try to do this to Rarity when she proves an unwilling slave. Her response:
Rarity: Whining? I am not whining, I am complaining. Do you want to hear whining? (dials up her voice several pitches) Thiiis is whiiiniiing. Oooh, this harness is too tiiiight, it's going to chafe. Can't you loosen it? Oooh, it hurts, and it's so rustyyy, oooh, why couldn't you clean it first, it's going to leave a staain. Oh and the waagon is getting heavy, why do I have to pull iiiiiit!?
Diamond Dog: Nnngh! Make it stop! Stop whining!
Rarity: BUT I THOUGHT YOU WANTED WHIIINIIING!