Wait, I-I'm confused, did you just say you...loved
What?! ARE YOU DEAF?!
; it's messy and a mathematical nightmare
where only a few can come out happy, never mind unscathed. One of its worst injuries is perhaps the plainest one... pining away at someone because All Love Is Unrequited
, and in the end never even holding them because I Want My Beloved to Be Happy
Then, there's times a deep-frozen love life is not because of Star-Crossed Lovers
, the pursued Love Interest
being the Master of the Mixed Message
or any such thing. It's because the rules of plot and characterization dictate that they not notice
the protagonist's overtures and Longing Looks
. Bob likes Alice
, and he makes several increasingly obvious hints that he's interested, he'd like to ask her out, and wants to be her boyfriend. Alice (though gender reversals are common) will usually be oblivious enough that his stuttering overtures
aren't heard or followed up on, and on top is usually blind to Bob as a love interest because she
Expect Alice to say things like "I wish there were someone out there for me" and Bob to respond with "He might be closer than you think." Of course, she'll think he's being vaguely hopeful rather than literal. In the worst cases, Alice may be actively looking for someone (in general or particular) and just be completely blind to other people's feelings for her
, or even already seeing someone (let's call him Charlie), Charlie may or may not be the right guy for her, but that's secondary to her being oblivious to Bob trying very hard to get her attention.
If Charlie is the wrong guy, Bob will win Alice's heart in the end. This is a common consequence of Old Flame Fizzle
. If he's the right
guy, then expect Bob to either hook up with
was ignoring or suddenly be revealed as a psycho slimeball
is particularly prone to this, being used to thinking of love as something she arranges for others, and often tries to hook up Bob with Danielle or Eglantine as just perfect for him.
If Alice really is attracted and doesn't realize it, Tsundere
behavior may result, or she may treat Bob
as her Protectorate
, or ensure that he's fed
, or blush furiously at the mention of him
, prior to the Love Epiphany
. Green-Eyed Epiphany
This is commonplace in the Love Dodecahedron
, and is a type 5 in Triang Relations
. It also overlaps with Everyone Can See It
. It is also prevalent in Boys Love
and (especially) Girls Love
works, where it is often mixed with confusion about one's feelings for someone of the same gender
. Compare It Meant Something to Me
, where Bob overtly says he loves Alice, but she denies having any feelings. See also Did You Think I Can't Feel?
If the problem escalates, then this can lead to a case of Clueless Chick Magnet
. Compare to Chaste Hero
, where the character in question is completely clueless to the concept of romance. This is one cause of the Ignored Enamored Underling
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Anime and Manga
- Peanuts: Charlie Brown and Marcie. He's understandably intimidated by Peppermint Patty's overtures, but has yet to notice Marcie.
- Let's not forget Charlie and the Little Red-Headed Girl, who probably doesn't even know he exists.
- Charlie Brown does figure out that Marcie likes him, but not until she (very bluntly) tells him so. His self-esteem is so low, he can't really believe that any girl can be interested in him, even Peppermint Patty.
- Rampant throughout the post-Zero Hour Legion of Super-Heroes comics, and probably at least some of the other versions as well. XS in particular is known for developing intense crushes on characters like M'Onel and Cosmic Boy, both of whom are entirely oblivious; meanwhile, XS herself spends a while being completely ignorant of the fact that Dyrk Magz has a crush on her. Eventually she catches on, but they get just about enough time for one date before Dyrk gets Demoted to Extra and then wiped from continuity completely.
- Calvin and Susie Derkins from Calvin and Hobbes. Word of God says that Calvin and Susie have a mutual crush on each other. Calvin, apparently, either doesn't know about it or doesn't know how to deal with it, so he does his best to gross out and anger Susie, who then always gets mad at him.
- Arguably, this may apply with Susie as well. Susie generally is contemptuous of Calvin, ignores him, and associates with him only when she has to, but at the same time, perhaps like Calvin, doesn't know how to handle her feelings towards him.
- Strangely enough, in the strip it's Hobbes (Calvin's alter ego?) who is attracted to Susie and is always convincing Calvin to go play with her.
"...So what happened to the mandibles of death, you sissy furball?!?"
"I was beguiled by her feminine charms. Yow. Go soak your head."
- Most likely Calvin just projects his feelings onto his imaginary friend as a way of dealing with them.
- Though Hobbes also sometimes teases Calvin by suggesting he and Susie like each other; assuming he is real, it's possible he's just acting infatuated to get under Calvin's skin.
- Spider-Girl: May Parker was for very long time completely unaware that one of her friends (or more likely, one of her friend's friends), Wes Collins has a crush on her. She was the only person in the entire school who didn't know about this. She got better, but it took a very long time.
- Despite being able to sense the emotions of others, Teen Titans' Raven seems quite oblivious to Beast Boy's feelings for her.
- The Soviet version of Superman is quite oblivious to Wonder Woman's feelings for him in Superman: Red Son, and it comes back to haunt him later on.
- It is an all female island of rape victims with a "no boys allowed" policy. It could be he doesn't think her kind would ever have affection for a man.
- In the newspaper comic strip Curtis, the titular character is too busy crushing on Michelle (who most definitely does not reciprocate) to realize that his good friend Chutney is head-over-heels in love with him. Once or twice he does wonder "Could it be that Michelle doesn't like me and that Chutney does?" but always writes the possibility off in the end.
- In spite - or maybe because - the fact that he's possibly the biggest Chick Magnet in the DCU, Nightwing is at times utterly unaware that the girl he's having friendly banter with would like their relationship to go past the Just Friends Will They or Won't They? stage. It might just be professionalism on his part, since practically every single superheroine (and a few of it's villainesses) in the DCU has expressed interest in him at some point. He normally seems at least embarrassed by the sometimes very blatant advances some have made towards him.
- Despite spending a year flirting with her, Nightwing was somehow oblivious to the sexual tension between him and Oracle until Huntress had to point it out. This happened right after Nightwing and Huntress slept together.
- In Alex + Ada, it is made very clear that Isabel likes Alex, but the guy is too busy complaining about his ex to notice when she tries to ask him out, and afterwards, he gets too busy to really care, and outright ignores her calls.
- In the My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic comic issue #9-10, "Zen and the Art of Gazebo Repair", Big Macintosh is too focused on his quest to obtain nails for said gazebo to notice that two girls (Fleetfoot and Tealove) have fallen head over hooves for him.
- The title character of Alexandra Quick has a serious complex about this that extends beyond romantic love. Essentially her sense of self worth is so poor that she has difficulty comprehending that other people care about her. She still hasn't cottoned on the fact that her school's headmistress cares about her more than she lets on, she thinks that her foster mother hates her and never wanted her, she generally assumes that anyone trying to make friends with her is trying to deceive or humiliate her (though paranoia factors into this as much as poor self-esteem). The only person she is generally willing to accept love from is her best friend Anna and she may be missing something there as well.
- In Fly A Little Faster Stiles is extremely oblivious to just who Derek is actually in love with. Until the evidence gets too much for him to ignore. Unfortunately at that moment Ennis attacks.
- Turned Up to Eleven in Kyon Big Damn Hero, with Kyon completely unaware of the affections of Haruhi, Mikuru, Nagato (sort of), Kanae, Tsuruya, and many of the girls in his school. Until his shoe locker is filled with notes from those girls, that is. He's also incapable of spotting the polyamorous relationship that several other characters share. Even Mikuru worked that one out.
- In the first episode of The One I Love Is Rei gives Shinji a chocolate heart, much to his surprise. Hikari then tells him Asuka is in love with him, much to his utter amazement and disbelief.
- The male lead of The Private Diary Of Elizabeth Quatermain manages to completely miss the fact that the woman he adores has it bad for him right back. Even when it's pointed out by another character.
- Peggy Sue Fix Fic The Second Try subverts the trope. Everyone think Shinji and Asuka are oblivious to each other's feelings... but in reality they not only are well-aware but also they got married before returning to the past. But since they don't want anybody finds out they are time-travellers, they pretend they are blind to each other's feelings.
- Frodo in The Very Secret Diaries is oblivious to the fact that every single member of the Fellowship wants in his pants, and tries to flee to Mordor when he figures it out.
Sam coming too. Good thing, as will enable me to have more of those platonic, brotherly foot massages he's so good at.
- Take any franchise where there are multiple love interests bet that there will be at least one character who is oblivious to the affections of another notable character. This is also applicable to original author made characters as well but this is harder to develop so it is rarely done well.
- In Hunting The Unicorn, Blaine's trust in people and his inability to gauge when people are interested combines this into Fridge Horror: If Blaine didn't get the picture when Kurt was all but throwing himself at him, nor when his old high school friend tried to invoke a Dance of Romance, it's only logical that he has no clue when someone is stalking him.
- Rainbow Dash in the My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic Shipping fanfic "In the Rain". Twilight Sparkle's "hints" grow progressively more elephantine, from rhapsodising about storms using terms that also apply to Dash, to straight-out telling her about lesbianism and how it's not too uncommon in Canterlot. In the ending with the Relationship Upgrade, we get this gem:
: Dash, has anypony ever had a crush on you? Dash
: I don't know. Maybe? Twilight
: Well, one does now... Dash
: Who is it? Twilight
: [Face Palm
- Twilight is more often on the receiving end of this trope; for instance, in the fic "Twilight Learns a Secret", she got several months into her relationship with Dash before she even realised she was in one. And that was only because RD kissed her, and then spent several pages explaining the situation. Possibly with diagrams.
- In Divine Jealousy And The Voice Of Reason, Twilight Sparkle in quick succession learns that Fluttershy and Bulk Biceps are lovers, that Rainbow Dash and Fluttershy are no longer lovers, and that Pinkie Pie has a crush on Cheese Sandwich. Twilight also sees all the clues but fails to realize that Rarity and Spike are falling in love, too. Twilight also imagines that nopony realizes that she is falling for Princess Luna, though she's in point of fact not fooling anyone.
- In The Shoebox project Sirius believes that Remus is oblivious to love.
Kissing Lily was being touched with purpose but even that was sort of a joke, and now he's thinking about kissing, and is that why Sirius has licked his lips twelve times in the past thirty seconds? "Oh," Remus says suddenly. "I get it. I'm rocks."
- Frustratingly played straight in Time and Again. Naruto grows up in a Bad Future, where Orochimaru successfully obtained Sasuke's body, to be a single 35 year old with Hinata as his best and closest friend. He STILL doesn't see she loves him. Not helped by Hinata due to Can't Spit It Out. Even when Naruto goes through Mental Time Travel, due to dying by Orochimaru's hands , he spends most of his time helping and hanging out with Hinata. Sakura and Sasuke even call him out on it. The kicker is HE DOES love her back... but he rationalizes his love for her as him trying to make up for not stopping her from entering a (very unhappy) Arranged Marriage and getting Neji and Hanabi killed even when she never blamed him in the Bad Future. GOD IS IT ANNOYING!!!
- In Game Theory, Tiida Lanster completely fails to notice Rizu's massive crush on him.
- Rika Nonaka in the Tamers Forever Series. In this case it's justified since Rika is unable to believe that anyone could possibly even like her, much less love her.
- In the Sherlock fanfic Baker School Blitz, Jim, despite picking up nonexistent hints that John may be in love with Sherlock, is frustratingly oblivious to the fact that his best friend Sebastian has been nursing a painful crush on him for years.
- In this Tomb Raider (2013) fanfiction, Lara is this trope (as opposed to her mostly asexual portrayal in canon.) Lara admits in her own narration that she 'needs' Sam, the two sleep in the same bed every night, she feels jealous when a boy pays attention to Sam, and yet it takes several weeks before she realizes that her feelings for Sam might be romantic. Sam's response to Lara's eventual Love Confession:
Sam: I told myself I wouldn’t say ‘finally.' But—god—finally!
- In the Hunger Games fanfic Some Semblance of Meaning, Vale could easily be accused of this. Her Love Interest, Obsidian, isn't quite as bad as she is, but even so, by the time he finally realizes his feelings for Vale, several others—Amber and the other Careers, Phlox, Vale's sister Laurel, and probably even Caesar Flickerman and others in the Capitol—had already picked up on it long ago.
- Naruto in Escape from the Hokage's Hat. In part due to No Social Skills and in part the people around him not giving him any relationship to learn from or anybody teaching him about it. Kakashi is a single man who reads smut in public. Anything Jiraiya says is written off as bullshit by Naruto. Sakura's failed attempts to get Sasuke's attention won't help Naruto any. Tsunade would only bring up her dead boyfriend. Shizune is single and tends to tease him relentlessly on the subject of relationships. Sasuke is a Celibate Hero who finds love annoying. Compound the fact that he's going through puberty and you get one very confused little boy. A confused little boy who thinks that finding someone attractive means you're a pervert.
- A defining plot point in Magician's Obsessions. Anypony who cares to look will notice that Twilight and Trixie are head over hooves in love with each other, but Trixie's egotistical stage persona keeps her from seeing Twilight as anything but a Worthy Opponent, while Twilight's lack of social skills makes her think that what she's feeling is only very intense friendship. Even though Twilight was suffering a severe depression due to longing for Trixie, while Trixie has an entire shrine with pictures and news clippings about Twilight.
Celestia: At this rate I may need to send her a book on the subject, or perhaps just write her a message telling her she is in love. For being my smartest student to date, Twilight is also sadly the most dense.
- Shining Armor in Stallionsof Harmony Verse doesn't register dozens if not more mares (and stallions) that like him, even if you tell him that directly in the face. He treats their confessions and love letters as 'pranks'.
- Spitfire doesn't realize that her best friend, Soarin, is in love with her for years. To be fair, he never told her outright, only gave hints which she missed.
- Bad as she is in the actual series (see below) Katniss' portrayal in When The Moon Fell In Love With The Sun is quite probably the Most Triumphant Example of this trope. Peeta treats her like a queen, he repeatedly states that the only thing he wants is for her to be happy, she knows there's a girl in District 12 he's in love with, Everyone Can See It... but she believes it's physically impossible for Peeta to have any feelings for her no matter how obvious it is. 11 chapters in, she's still at the stage of thinking that someday they might be friends (even when she's started having Erotic Dreams about him and that she clearly has strong feelings for him).
- A new world: Story of a lost Shinobi: Subverted. Naruto and Mirajane openly flirt and tend to indulge each others Covert Pervert. Due to this, Natsu goes to Naruto for advice on how to start dating Lucy and Gray is less dismissive of Juvia's feelings what with having Naruto's interactions with Mira giving them perspective.
- In a real heartbreaking scene from the A Certain Magical Index fic, Twist Of Fate, Touma tells Index that he's seen how happy his parents are with each other and would like to have a similar relationship with a girl, but he fears that no girl would ever want to be with a misfortune "loser" like him. Index walks away and cries, realizing that he hasn't picked up on her feelings or that of pretty much every female character in the fic. He remains so dense that he doesn't pick up on Misaki and Seria's feelings even after they all go out, get drunk, and spend the night together.
- In Naruto: the Secret Songs of the Ninja Naruto loans Hinata his forehead protector (she left hers behind when she ran away from home) as a sign of how much faith he has in her during a fight, something which gives her enough strength to win. When they get back to Konoha and she retrieves her own, she asks Naruto if she can keep his and let him have hers to replace it instead. After pondering why she'd want the forehead protector he received from Iruka-sensei rather than the one she earned herself, he has a Eureka Moment- because him having Iruka's old forehead protector is like having part of Iruka with him at all times, obviously Hinata is comforted by having part of Iruka with her as well. He even observes that him wearing Hinata's forehead protector means that it's like she's always with him now, but doesn't think anything of it other than "that's pretty neat".
- Lampshaded in the lemon fic Physical Exertion: eventually Pyrrha gives up and just asks Jaune- an eighteen-year-old boy- if he even knows what sex is. His answer is rather ambiguous, although given that she then jumps him, that's neither here nor there.
- History's Strongest Shinobi: Naruto and Kenichi. Kenichi only has eyes for Miu. Naruto has gone on record to state "I'm shit with girls." and of the girls who like him one sees him as Just a Kid, there is too much baggage associated to another and the third is a downplayed Tsundere who's not trying to rush revealing her feelings.
- Being the son of Artemis, the goddess whose existence revolves around the pure and innocent, Armani Dove is clueless about love.
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Films — Live-Action
- Ted, the gym manager in Burn After Reading, is in love with Linda, who looks everywhere for a man and wants several rounds of cosmetic surgery to improve her odds. In the end, he does something heroically stupid to try and help her.
- This is of course the basic plot of any number of romantic comedies out there.
- Joe Dirt is pretty good at picking up trashy redneck women, but when it comes to sweet girls, he thinks they're just being nice.
- Sky High: Will Stronghold is oblivious to Layla's crush on him, although he does have the excuse that Gwen Grayson got him to fall in love with her, then pretended not to notice herself in order to better string him along (Even though when it came time the reveal that 'it was mutual', he couldn't take the hint until she flat-out said it).
- Mark from The Room, to a ridiculous extent. He never gets the idea that he's helping Lisa, who is Mark's best friend's Johnny's fiancé, cheat on Johnny until about the fourth or fifth time that Lisa calls him over to have sex.
- X-Men: First Class: Charles Xavier doesn't notice that Raven Darkholme harbours some non-sisterly feelings towards him.
- Adelia is oblivious to O'Donnell's love in A Murderous Procession.
- Edgar Rice Burroughs generally had oblivious heroes. Special mention must be made of Tan Hadron, the hero of A Fighting Man of Mars, who actually managed to not realize he was in love with Tavia instead of Sonoma after 1) he had seen beautiful women and the first comparison that had popped to mind was to Tavia, 2) he had been betrayed, and when he realized it was Sonoma and not Tavia, his first words were that he was glad it was not Tavia, 3) After which he begs Tavia never to leave him as he cannot live without her, and 4) he had taunted Sonoma for her cowardice by saying he had fallen in love with someone else, a slave girl, and someone else had pointed out he had obviously been talking about Tavia. Indeed, he denies it then — although admitting a few days later.
- In Sandy Mitchell's Warhammer 40,000 novel Scourge the Heretic, Mordecai is oblivious to the attraction that Keira, another character in the Inquisitor's retinue, feels for him. Partly because it is expressed in a rather truculent manner (until another woman points out to him that it could be attraction), partly because Keira, who was raised in a Sex Is Evil cult, does not realize it herself until she accuses Danuld of wanting to sin with her, and he tells her that he can tell that he doesn't have a chance because of Mordecai.
- In Dorothy L Sayers' Gaudy Night, when Lord Peter Wimsey is being criticized for how he spends his life, Harriet Vane snaps back: perhaps he catches murderers for fun, but he does it, and he could be killed, and many innocent people have reason to thank him for it. She reflects afterward about what her reaction shows about her own attraction.
- In Graham McNeill's Warhammer 40,000 Horus Heresy novel Fulgrim, Serena d'Angelus realizes that her Bad Dreams stem from murders she committed and forgot. She seeks out Ostian, thinking he could save her. She finds him murdered, weeps that he loved her and she hadn't seen it, and that she loved him. Then she commits suicide.
- The Star Wars Expanded Universe reveals that Typho, Padme's eyepatched bodyguard, was in love with her. Naturally, she had no idea.
- In Warrior Cats, Firestar somehow never notices Cinderpelt's obvious crush on him.
- He wouldn't have noticed that Sandstorm was in love with him either if Cinderpelt hadn't pointed it out to him.
- Firestar is in fact so oblivious concerning the opposite sex that the Warriors fandom has their own name for this trope: "Firestar Syndrome"
- To quote the author: "Stooopid man-cat!"
- Bluefur in Bluestar's Prophecy also evokes Firestar Syndrome throughout the book. It takes three different cats to get her to admit that Thrushpelt has feelings for her, despite the fact that he was frequently staring at her, inviting her on patrols, and cracking jokes that only seem to irk her.
- Not to mention the fact that she didn't even realize her own not-so-subtle attraction to Oakheart until he confessed his love to her.
- One story in Mack Reynolds' Section G Spy Fiction IN SPACE! had Li Chang Chu abandon subtlety, pointing out to top agent Ronny Bronston that they were alone together in a stateroom with the door locked and no other demands on their time. Particularly funny in that he'd been hot for her about as long as she'd been for him, but didn't think he had a chance — despite being well aware that women found him very attractive. He just didn't realize this woman did, too.
- Robert A. Heinlein's Juvenile books often had young male protagonists that were oblivious to girls. They were otherwise intelligent, so either they were just blind to people or just not interested in females. However, one of his stories (The Menace From Earth) it's not the male who is oblivious but the girl. She is very upset when her best friend and future business partner develops a crush on a tourist she is guiding (the 'menace' of the title) but only because it will 'break up the firm' - yeah, sure. Also a case of Everyone Can See It; the girl's best friend, the 'menace' herself, etc.
- This was a case of Executive Meddling — Alice Dalgleish, children's book editor for Charles Scribners & Sons, had very firm opinions on how much "suggestive" content was "proper" for juvenile novels ('zero' being the highest permissible level), and ruthlessly quashed anything Heinlein wrote that even remotely hinted that teenaged males might possibly have a sex drive. Heinlein didn't even try to write romance into his stories until after he changed publishers and stopped writing juveniles. (The Menace From Earth was not first published by Scribners, note.) Also, even though Dalgliesh was an extreme case, virtually no editors in the 40s and 50s would approve anything but the most ultimately chaste romance material for young adult novels.
- It may have been Executive Meddling, but the girls in the stories were practically ripping their clothes off and the guy was just utterly clueless. "Gee, why did she take my side against her own uncle and risk everything for me and spends time with me and is always ready to help me with anything I need?" "I guess she just wants to be my very good friend". HELLO?!
- In Harry Potter, Ron is totally oblivious to Hermione's feelings for him until the sixth book or so. This is especially apparent in the fourth book, when Ron is desperately trying to find a girl to go to the ball with and suddenly remembers that Hermione "is a girl too". Hermione is upset that Ron didn't think about her immediately and she goes with Victor Krum from the Bulgarian school instead. Ron is angered by this but doesn't realize the ''real'' reason for his anger, even though Harry does.
- Also, in their childhood, Lily to Snape.
- And of course, Ginny Weasley fancies Harry since the very first book (it's more obvious in the second one, though) but Potter doesn't even acknowledge her before way later.
- Well, in book 2 he seems to realize she likes him, but by book 5 she's dating other people and he's bummed to be suffering from an Unrequited Love Switcheroo. It turns out she's still into him, though, and they eventually get together.
- In the Ravenloft novel Vampire of the Mists, young priest Sasha is oblivious to the huge crush the thief Liesl has on him. Partly because he was so in love with Katya (who's really The Mole), but after he realized that Katya is really a werewolf....
- In Child of the Hive Drew is oblivious to Rachel's crush on him for most of the first part of the book. This is mainly due to Rachel's nerves, meaning she struggles to approach him.
- The whole point of Swedish youth novel "Det är sĺ logiskt, alla fattar utom du." (Rough translation: "It's so logical, everyone gets it except you.") Nerdy boy and cute girl are best friends since always. The boy is in love with the girl, also since always, but the girl only dates sullen musicians and has no idea her best friend is in love with her.
- Despite the numerous things he does for her, Gone with the Wind's Scarlett is completely oblivious to Rhett's love and devotion, and she is similarly unaware and unappreciative of Melanie's friendly affection for her.
- One of the main points of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice is that Elizabeth thinks Mr. Darcy dislikes her (and she is angry at him, mostly due to misunderstanding) until he bluntly confesses that he is in love with her.
- Similarly, in Sense and Sensibility, Marianne Dashwood has no idea that Colonel Brandon has been quietly and deeply in love with her since almost the instant they met.
- In Josepha Sherman's The Shining Falcon, Ljuba intends to use Finist for her ambitions. She insists on this to herself whenever unpleasant thoughts, such as it hurts not to be trusted by him, occur.
- Percy Jackson and the Olympians: Percy is increasingly blind to Annabeth's feelings for him, even though they mutually crush on each other for years. His obliviousness is justified by the fact he's inexperienced with girls, insecure about her past feelings for Luke, dealing with other world-changing problems and yeah, is still a normal, slight-dense teenage boy.
- In L. Jagi Lamplighter's Prospero's Daughter trilogy, Miranda. Although the one in love with her did explicitly tell her that love between her, a human, and him, an elf, is as impossible as love between a falcon and a dove.
- Anne of L. M. Montgomery's Anne of Green Gables series initially spends quite a bit of time hating Gilbert Blythe for his extraordinarily bad first impression, but even after they finally become friends, she remains completely oblivious to the feelings he's been holding for her from day one. When he asks her to marry him, it blindsides her completely. Never mind the fact that the entire town of Avonlea knew of Gilbert's feelings and were waiting with bated breath for them to get married.
- Anne actually takes it one step further. Not only is she oblivious to Gilbert's feelings for her, she's also oblivious to her feelings for him. Not denial. She simply has no idea that she's fallen in love with him, thanks to the highly unrealistic ideas she has about what being in love is supposed to be like.
- Alec Lightwood from The Mortal Instruments is a rather... odd example. Despite the fact that he and Magnus were dating, he is caught completely by surprise by Magnus's Anguished Declaration of Love in City of Glass. In his defense, he was still hung up on Jace, and his relationship with Magnus was just supposed to be a casual thing. He gets over both Jace and his obliviousness by the end of City of Glass, though.
- Mutual obliviousness in Mort. Mort himself spends most of the book under the impression he's in love with Princess Keli, what with the Rescue Romance and everything. He's wrong. Ysabell spends most of it under the impression she wouldn't marry Mort if he was the last man on the Disc. She's wrong as well.
- Another Discworld example is Mr. Bent in Making Money who doesn't realize that the head clerk Miss Drapes is in love with him. At least not until she comes to get him after a nervous breakdown and he's let his clown side take over. At the end, they do get married in the Fools' Guild.
- In Elizabeth Peters' Amelia Peabody mysteries, Amelia spends a whole book completely oblivious to the fact that the 'master criminal' she is tracking down is in love with her. Her husband Emerson, however, is not so clueless and gets increasingly annoyed at both the criminal and his oblivious wife. Hilarity Ensues.
- It runs in the family, too. Their son, Ramses, spends a not inconsiderable amount of time pining after their adopted daughter, Nefret, who thinks they are Like Brother and Sister.
- As a perpetual child, Peter Pan is literally unable to understand the concept of romantic love, and regards all female characters either with indifference or as potential mother figures. This wouldn't be much of a problem...except that every female character, be it fairy, mermaid, girl or mother, is attracted to him in some way.
- In P. G. Wodehouse's Hot Water, Packy sees Jane after his engagement is broken and realizes he's been in love with her all along.
- In the tenth book of The Dresden Files, Harry fails to realize that Luccio is flirting with him when she bathes herself topless in front of him (he'd been asleep for hours, but she waited until he woke up), which leads to this immortal line:
- Molly is head-over-heels in love with Harry, and he's the only one who doesn't know, despite cutting her crush in him off at the knees when he took her on as his apprentice. In Ghost Story, he realizes the absolute depths of her affection for him, but he's dead.
Part of this may be explained by the fact that his own mentor used the sexual development of both of his apprentices for his own nefarious purposes. That, combined with Harry's own issues with protecting women (especially a woman he sees more like a daughter or niece), means it would be nearly impossible for him to "take advantage of" Molly, despite the tradition to do so among wizards.
- Deconstructed in Zadie Smith's White Teeth. Irie (and half the women in North London, it seems) desperately want to believe Millat is this. He isn't- he's just a jerk.
- Marius from Les Misérables is oblivious to Eponine's feelings for him, being blinded by his love for Cosette.
- Katniss Everdeen from The Hunger Games really takes this to a whole new level. Peeta Mellark confesses that he's in love with her on live television, risks his life to save hers on numerous occasions, tells her about when he first fell in love with her, craves her affection and attention, refuses to let her risk her life for him and later implores her to kill him so that she can win the Games. When she refuses he removes the tourniquet on his leg so he can bleed to death and thereby make her the winner. After they have taken a third option by threatening double suicide and both gotten out of the games alive Haymitch tells Katniss that she needs to make people believe she's in love with Peeta or else they will be punished for making the Capitol look foolish. Katniss responds by asking if Peeta has been informed and when Haymitch points out that "he's already there," Katniss thinks he means that Peeta knows they need to fool everyone. It's not until she breaks his heart on the train ride back home that she begins to realize that perhaps he's in love with her for real.
- Not to mention, the fact that her best friend, Gale Hawthorne, tells her in the second book he has loved her for a lot of time, and she was always oblivious to it.
- Her obliviousness might be because of her unwillingness to actually find love, after seeing her mother become a shell when Katniss' father died.
- Spencer from Pretty Little Liars takes a little while to realize that her academic rival Andrew Campbell has developed feelings for her.
- Kaala is this in Dorothy Hearst's The Wolf Chronicles. The reader initially thinks that it's because she's a wolf (and the trilogy depicts wolves very realistically) but then we see other romantic relationships form and it becomes clear she's just clueless.
- To clarify: Azzuen starts following her around after she saves him from starvation, and this continues even after they grow up. He becomes extremely loyal to her, even breaking pack laws to support her. He violently drives off another male wolf who expresses interest in Kaala, and later follows her into exile away from, oh, the only family he's ever known. When Kaala starts Taking A Level In Jerkass, he snaps her out of it with a speech that basically goes 'I'd like you to be my alpha, but not if you're going to be a bitch about it.' All of the above is narrated through Kaala's perspective, and yet she must literally read his thoughts to realize that he's been in love with her since puphood.
- It is justified, though, in that a female wolf, Marra, is similarly loyal to Kaala and does many of the same things. (An elder comments that Kaala is strong, a potential alpha, and it's natural for wolves to follow the strongest among them.)
- Corie in Summers at Castle Auburn, painfully so. She doesn't see when someone is in love with her, and she's very bad at figuring out who is in love with who.
- Since Idlewild is told from Halloween's perspective it's impossible to guess that Pandora is in love with him until her reveal.
- The Infernal Devices:
- Jem Carstairs probably can't tell that Sophie's sweet on him.
- Likewise, Sophie had no idea that Thomas was sweet on her.
- The short story Behind the Mask shows how Acatl, the protagonist of Aliette de Bodard's Obsidian And Blood trilogy, used to be completely oblivious to his childhood friend Huchimitl's advances. Instead, he went off to become a priest, who are expected to stay unmarried and celibate. Huchimitl, dissappointed, ended up marrying a wealthy warrior in an attempt to spite and mock the oblivious Acatl, but the marriage was not a happy one.
Live Action TV
- In the first episode of Sherlock, A Study in Pink, Molly Hooper is clearly interested in Sherlock and finally works up the courage to ask him if maybe he'd like to have some coffee. His response?
Sherlock: Black, two sugars, please. I'll be upstairs. (walks off)
- Subverted in the next episode when he uses Molly's feelings for him to manipulate her, revealing that he is well aware of her interest but just chooses not to respond to it unless it's useful for him to do so.
- Played straight again at the Christmas party where Sherlock deduces that Molly must be off to see a new boyfriend because she's dressed up and has very carefully wrapped one of her presents - completely failing to realise it's intended for him. Which even he apologizes for afterwards.
- Mr. Boynton is either shy or downright oblivious throughout the radio/television series Our Miss Brooks.
- Sonia and Astrov in Uncle Vanya.
- My So-Called Life: Angela is less oblivious to Brian as Brian never really tells her.
- Unless you count the time he took her to the dance, and suggested they might go off together. In a subversion of the Anguished Declaration of Love, she is completely disgusted by the idea.
- On the other hand, when she asked him to ride with her, he dumped Delia, then lied about it to Angela. When Angela saw Delia at the dance, the jig was up. In other words, he was just as oblivious to Delia's crush as she was to his. Maybe even more so.
- Seems to be the set up for Barney and Robin in How I Met Your Mother — Barney actually tells Robin that he loves her in "Benefits", but she thinks that he's commenting on Ted's neediness.
- In season seven, it's Barney's turn to be the oblivious one.
- Clark regarding Chloe's feelings for him in Smallville. But under the influence of Red Kryptonite or other forms of Phlebotinum, Kal repeatedly taunts her with the truth that Clark just doesn't feel that way for her.
- Not always though, Chloe got a nice long make out session with him in Rush, the second time he is affected by red kryptonite.
- Niles and Daphne started out this way on Frasier.
- Friends: Rachel to Ross in season 1, Ross to Rachel in the first half of season 2 and Rachel to Gunther except for the final episode.
- Rachel to Joey in season 8. This happens to Rachel a lot.
- It's hinted that Chandler has a mild crush on Monica in 'TOW the Beach' episode: He offers to be her boyfriend but she thinks he's joking and laughs. Ouch.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
- There are two examples of this in Season One. Xander develops a huge crush on Buffy, who is oblivious to his advances until he asks her to the dance in the season finale, while he himself is unaware of Willow's feelings.
- There are hints that Buffy is aware, just uninterested. Xander, on the other hand, is oblivious to Willow's feelings feelings for him.
- In Season 5 Buffy is unaware of Spike falling for her despite their past Foe Yay and his recent Stalker with a Crush behaviour — it's her little sister Dawn who points out the obvious. Even then Buffy can't quite believe it until Spike's Anguished Declaration of Love.
- In Season Eight, when Buffy's loneliness and need for stability compels her to go to Xander. Xander declines, having long since decided he and Buffy are Better as Friends.
- In the Season 5 Angel episode "Smile Time," Wesley is the one who informs Angel that Nina obviously has feelings for him, all while ignoring the hints that Fred loves him. It takes a direct kiss from Fred for Wesley to notice, but he reciprocates quickly.
- In Pushing Daisies, it was a while before Ned twigged that Olive had romantic feelings for him, despite some really blatant flirting on her part in the first episode.
- A psychiatrist on Bones tells Dr. Sweets that only one of the Booth/Brennan pairing is aware of their mutual feelings. Since Booth is normally the best with emotions and has shown more signs of being possessive and jealous, we're left to assume that Brennan is the oblivious one. Entirely in keeping with her nature, though.
- It is implied that this may partially be the cause of Mal and Inara's UST in Firefly, at least on Mal's side. The episode "Heart of Gold" very strongly indicates that while Mal is attracted to Inara, he is unaware she is attracted to him.
- It's very possible Mal is a rare male version of the Broken Bird variant of this trope, and despite his insults and Hypocritical Heartwarming doesn't think he's worthy of her. It's why her calling him a petty thief hurts his feelings so much.
- Simon is oblivious to Kaylee's feelings for him because of his preoccupation with his sister's recovery. In "Serenity" he makes his Anguished Declaration of Love right before a fight with the reavers, and he apologizes to Kaylee for not recognizing her advances, and confesses that his biggest regret is never being with her - which causes the quivering Kaylee to Take a Level in Badass so as to live to take him up on it.
- Maxwell is completely oblivious to CC's crush on The Nanny.
- Made even more hilarious by all the snide comments Niles makes, because literally Everyone Can See It, just not Max. (I do mean everyone. Even Gracie, although considering how precocious she was as a kid, that's not very surprising.)
- Star Trek: Voyager. Commander Chakotay has subtly hinted a number of times to Captain Janeway that he's attracted to her; she's either oblivious, prefers loneliness to the problems of becoming involved with a subordinate, or may just be remaining faithful to her fiance.
- This came to a head in a season two episode where Chakotay and Janeway both contracted a terribly infectious virus, and were left on a planet with an atmosphere that could keep the virus at bay while Voyager went on. Their UST was off the charts, but it culminated in Chakotay telling a 'story' that described how he cared for her and would be happy just staying by her side, whether her feelings were reciprocated or not. They never even got to kiss.
- Kira is oblivious to Odo in Star Trek: Deep Space Nine. It takes a while for Worf to realize Jadzia is into him.
- Of course, Kira's obliviousness is quite justified as Odo deliberately refuses to let his feelings show.
- Amusingly, in a DVD extra Nana Visitor remembered that at the time she thought it was ridiculous that Kira could work that close to someone and not realize he had feelings for her - until her co-star Alexander Siddig revealed his feelings for her (the two went on to marry).
- Word of God says that Garak fell for Bashir, but Executive Meddling means that Bashir never even had a chance to notice.
- Stargate Universe: Chloe at least acts like this for most of the first season, until the finale episode, where it's made clear she isn't quite oblivious as she appears.
- The Doctor to Martha in Doctor Who. Eventually, she gives him an Anguished Declaration of Love, which they subsequently agree to ignore in order to preserve their friendship. Later on, he describes to her a device that keeps them hidden from the hypnotised public to her as "It's like when you fancy someone, but they don't even know you exist." He rushes off, and Captain Jack reads her expression: "You too, huh?"
Amy: "I nearly died! I was alone, in the dark, and I nearly died. And it made me think."
Doctor: "Ah, yes... Natural. I think sometimes. Well... lots of times."
Amy: "About what I want. About who I want. You know what I mean?"
Doctor: "Yeah. ...... No."
Amy: "About who... I want."
Doctor: "Oh right, yeah. ...... No. Still not getting it." note
- It goes the other way in "The Lodger", when the Doctor is able to immediately recognise the UST between two other characters who are both afraid to admit it out loud. This and other cues in the series suggest that he is aware of his companions' feelings, but ignores them to avoid relationship issues (or possibly just because he has issues). Or perhaps he is only oblivious when it directly involves him. (In one of the Doctor Who New Adventures books he responds to a blatant come-on by saying "I'm well-known for failing to notice such things, or getting them slightly but distinctly wrong. It saves so much trouble.")
- He also deliberately suppresses romantic attraction, since any human he gets involved with will age and eventually die, in what would appear to him to be no time at all. Avoiding being reminded of this might even be why most of his companions are young. (Which the Dream Lord enjoyed pointing out to him.)
- Amy was oblivious to Rory for years, assuming he was gay when he never showed interest in any (other) girls. And Rory was oblivious to the fact that Amy really loved him; originally, he assumed she was in love with the Doctor.
- By contrast, Ten and Donna were decidedly not interested in each other, but it became a Running Gag that they were mistaken for a couple.
- The X-Files:
- At the end of "Triangle" Mulder flat-out says "I love you" to Scully. Her only response is to mutter an exasperated "Oh brother" and walk off. Admittedly Mulder had just been raving about how he and Scully had just saved the world from the Nazis back in 1939, so Scully clearly felt Mulder had hit his head too hard, not realising it was actually a matter of her hitting Mulder too hard. And it's not like he was really keeping it a secret before that. Several characters had mentioned it or assumed they were together.
- Mulder and Scully routinely ignore obvious signs that the other has feelings for them. In the first movie, they have an Almost Kiss but both ignore it. Then a writer who is known to get in people's heads literally says to them, "Agent Scully is already in love." Of course, they both ignore it.
- Even the actors found it ridiculous.
David Duchovny: (on what he would say to Mulder) For Christ’s sake, fuck that girl. Look at the way she’s looking at you. Are you blind? Why do you think her mouth is always open?
- Conversely, Doggett tends to be oblivious to Agent Reye's feelings for him.
- The entire sixth season episode "The Rain King" more or less revolves around this trope.
- In Robin Hood, Robin was more or less oblivious to Kate up until the time they got together - and then for most of the time after that as well.
- Parks and Recreation:
- Andy is oblivious to April's crush on him. As of Season 3, April and Andy are in a relationship, but now it's Leslie who doesn't seem to notice Ben's growing crush on her.
- In Season 3's "Soulmates", Leslie is the one who asks him out first, though to her dismay Ben turns her down due to Chris's anti-fraternization rules. He does initiate their first kiss, though.
- On Zoey 101, Zoey is oblivious to Chase's feelings for her. This gets painful when it drags on for three years, despite multiple attempts by Chase to tell her his feelings. She's oblivious even after she is told flat-out by her friends that Chase is in love with her, and had been since he met her. Lola even goes so far as to pull a random student from the hallway. And Zoey still doesn't believe it!
Lola: Ginny, could you come here a minute?
Ginny: What's up?
Lola: 'Blank' is in love with Zoey. Fill in the blank.
Ginny: (matter-of-factly) Chase.
Lola: Thanks for playing.
- On iCarly, one of Zoey 101's Spiritual Successors, it's inverted, with Carly completely aware of Freddie's love for her. It's mentioned in their first scene together with Carly asking Freddie to get over the crush he has, but it fails to fade away, and as they grow up, his crush blooms into a serious case of Just Friends love for Carly.
- This plays until the ending of iOMG, when Freddie is unaware of Sam's love for him, thinking that she has a crush on someone else.
- Lizzie is completely oblivious to Gordo's feelings for her, despite him dropping quite a few hints throughout the show's run. Lizzie didn't get it until the final season when Kate got fed up with this trope and flat out told Lizzie that everyone else in the school knew Gordo liked her.
- On Glee, Blaine had no clue that Kurt saw him as anything more than a friend. And Kurt's not exactly subtle when it comes to his crushes. It got to the point where (after helping Blaine serenade another guy on Valentine's Day), Kurt flat out told Blaine that he thought he was the one about to be swept off his feet. Blaine seemed plenty sympathetic... until the next episode, when he expected Kurt to be perfectly fine with him dating Rachel, and the one after that, where he tried to give Kurt sex advice and told him that his seductive faces looked like he had gas. Face Palm.
- On Castle, Beckett is guilty of this in the first season finale. Castle himself is guilty of this in the second season finale and again in the third season opener, when he can't understand why Beckett is so upset with him for not calling immediately when he got back into town. By season three's finale, neither one is oblivious anymore. It goes something like this:
Castle: (concerned) I'm your partner, Kate. I'm your friend.
Beckett: (angrily) Is that all we are?
Castle: (angrily) Yes. No. I don't know. We kiss and then we never talk about it, so no, I don't know what the Hell we are.
- In the last scenes of the third season finale after Kate is shot, Castle outright declares to her that he loves her. Whether she'll remember is another story.
- Leave it to a show like Castle to make the drama even cheesier. She remembers all right. She's just faking amnesia.
- Throughout season four they seem to go back and forth with the Oblivious Ball (most noticeable when Castle finds out that Beckett lied about not remembering what happened when she was shot and subsequently went back to his bimbo a day habit) until the finale. They sure as Hell aren't oblivious anymore.
- Sergeant Bruce Hornsby is completely oblivious to Corporal Angie Ogden's interest in Red Cap.
- In Scrubs Ted is so oblivious to Gooch's subtle (and not so subtle) hints she's attracted to him that she assumes he isn't interested and is just too nice to say. Though Ted musters up the courage to tell her it's because he thinks she so great he couldn't have imagined her actually feeling the same.
I'm an idiot. I've been dropping all these subtle hints that I like you. Sideways glances. The secret smiles. Telling you I wanna screw you
. You're clearly not interested.
- Josh on The West Wing. Donna is in love with him for years and he doesn't notice. Then when they kiss he apologizes and seems to worry that he's wronged her. She responds by trying to hand him her room key but the whole thing is inadvertently thwarted by a member of the Santos campaign and he seems to just forget about it. When they finally do sleep together (on her initiative) he still worries that she needs space and that she regrets it.
- He also seems completely oblivious to the fact that Amy is still in love with him at the start of season four.
- Isobel Crawley of Downton Abbey manages to give the "I Don't Want to Ruin Our Friendship" speech to Dr Clarkson without realising she's giving it. And literally has no idea that he's not only in love with her but openly courting her. Wow, Isobel. Wow. She is generally a clever woman, but that takes a special kind of obliviousness. Whether she wises up or not remains to be seen, but if she's not desperately in love with him (and oblivious to that, as well), somebody needs to tell Penelope Wilton, because she's sure as hell playing it like she is.
- In the majority of the first two seasons of House of Anubis Mara is painfully oblivious to Jerome's crush. (She is also somehow oblivious to the entire mystery but that's a different story.) It gets to where she fake dates him to make her long distance ex jealous, and this exchange occurs-
Mara: Look at these pictures, it looks like you're really in love.
Jerome: *Staring at her longingly and not listening* What?
Mara: I said, you're a really great actor.
- Get Smart: Depending on the episode, Max was either oblivious to 99's feelings for him, or aware (and felt the same) but was too socially awkward to show it. This actually continued right up until the point that he proposed to her.
- Salem: John Alden is unaware of Anne Hale's feelings for him, and he doesn't trust that Mary Sibley still cares for him no matter how many times she risks herself to protect him from the witches.
- In The Worst Year of My Life, Again, Alex has absolutely no idea that Maddy has a crush on him. It's suggested that it's because they've known each other since they were very young, so he just doesn't think of her like that.
- "Everybody Knows (Except You)" - The Divine Comedy
- "Shiver" - Coldplay ("it's you / I see / but you don't see me")
- "3 Libras" by A Perfect Circle implies this trope.
- "You Belong With Me" by Taylor Swift
- "That Girl" by The Noisettes
That girl’s in love with you//I know that you’re too blind to see//I know that it’s so plain to see
- "I'd Lie" by Taylor Swift
He looks around the room
Innocently overlooks the truth
Shouldn't a light go on?
Doesn't he know that I've had him memorized for so long?
- "Teardrops on My Guitar" has shades of this, too.
- Westlife's "Obvious"
- 98 Degrees' "Invisible Man," "You Should Be Mine," "You Don't Know," "Why Are We Still Friends?"
- Backstreet Boys' "All I Have to Give"
- NSYNC's "Crazy For You"
- Clay Aiken's "Invisible" (if you ignore the Stalker with a Crush subtext...)
- Anne in A Little Night Music is not only oblivious to her awkward stepson's feelings for her, but also to her own feelings about him, which she only realizes at the end.
- In Les Misérables, depending on the actor, Marius can sometimes come off as quite a bit thick in the head about this with Eponine.
- In The Sound of Music, Maria has absolutely no clue the Captain is in love with her until the Baroness (for her own ends, of course) points it out. This is possibly because Maria has spent too much time in a convent. A moral crisis immediately ensues, which the Reverend Mother very nicely clears up.
- Cyrano de Bergerac:
- Cyrano uses Selective Obliviousness to refuse to comprehend that he can be loved even with his enormous nose. At Act I Scene V, Le Bret has to remind him of the Smitten Teenage Girl Cyrano meet some moments ago. At Act IV Scene IX, Christian stubbornly tries to convince him that Roxane loves his “soul” – Cyrano – instead of his face. Cyrano will not believe it. Justified because Cyrano has serious Mommy Issues and his upbringing makes him more confortable being the Love Martyr.
Who offered you refreshment even now,
Her eyes did not abhor you—you saw well!
Cyrano (impressed): True!
- In Seussical, Horton is unaware of Gertrude's crush on him, even when she sings a song about it straight at him (he's too busy talking to Whos). This arguably changes after she reveals her Determinator tendencies in "All For You".
- In MARDEK RPG, Chapter 3, Elwyen is obviously head-over-heels for Mardek, but Mardek doesn't notice because he's a moron.
- In Metal Gear Solid 3, Naked Snake is very oblivious to Ocelot's infatuation with him. EVA teases Snake about how dense he is about it. Even Gene from Metal Gear Solid: Portable Ops remarks on how Snake "caught Ocelot's eye," prompting Snake to ask confusedly what Ocelot has to do with anything. Of course, Snake (and his later clones) isn't known for being the brightest when it comes to romance...
- Milanor from Yggdra Union has no idea that Kylier has feelings for him. He eventually does find out, but tragically, only after Kylier gives her life to save the party.
- Depending on your choices in Neverwinter Nights, Aribeth may lament at the end that she never noticed how the player character felt about her until it was too late.
- Fire Emblem loves this trope with its lords. Both Roy from Fuuin no Tsurugi and Ephraim from The Sacred Stones are fairly oblivious to the affection of their various possible love interests. Ike from Path of Radiance and Radiant Dawn, however, takes this obliviousness to entirely new levels and never quite gets it despite all the women who have expressed interest in him. There are, of course, other explanations.
- Played as a game mechanic in Pokémon; some Mons have the trait Oblivious, which prevents the "infatuated" status condition. It's mostly held by dim-witted Pokémon, like Slowpoke and Whiscash.
- Link in The Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time is completely unaware of the fact that Princess Ruto believes them to be engaged. Of course, he's completely unaware of the interest of just about every other female character in the game too.
- We don't really know that because Link is a silent protagonist.
- He does seem a bit creeped out by Saria though, since he is seem slowly backing away from her before taking off full-sprint when leaving Kokiri Forest for the first time.
- He's not much more observant in Twilight Princess, either, where both childhood pal Ilia and pint-sized Deadpan Snarker Midna have a thing for him. The closest he gets to catching on with anyone is when he shares a brief hand-holding scene with Princess Zelda...and she doesn't seem to have any real romantic feelings for him in this game. And after the final battle, Link drops the Master Sword, and sprints to Midna's side to make sure she's alright. Then when she leaves for the Twilight Realm, he all but weeps.And one could argue that Link not only knows about Ilia (and/or Midna's) feelings, but even reciprocates them. And after all, the guy lets a royally important trip get interrupted (and gives the plot time to start) because Illia is mad at him for scratching the horse's leg. Sounds pretty whipped, doesn't it?
- Wind Waker Link seems to be a bit less of an idiot, which may make sense, as he's the first Link (in that timeline) to have actually seen normal, functioning couples, and returns Tetra/Zelda's affection about as well as a Heroic Mime can.
- Not to mention, in Wind Waker, judging by the embarrassed look on his face, Link immediately picked up what the Fairy Queen meant when she said that he was "just her type."
- In the Backyard Sports series, Marky Dubois is in love with Billy Jean Blackwood. Billy Jean is oblivious to Marky because she believes he has cooties.
- Terranigma has Meilin, who eventually decides that she's in love with Ark. She then proceeds to make overtures to him, only to get (albeit amusingly) shot down because Ark is too busy worrying about Elle.
Meilin: You know, Ark...I have stories to tell, too.
Ark: Look! This is Elle's house!
- In the Tales Series it's fairly common to have The Hero be this trope (and if not them, than another party member).
- In Tales of Symphonia, Sheena practically confesses her feelings to Lloyd in one possible scene, and he doesn't realize it.
- Tales of the Abyss, Tear falls in love with Luke, and he's the only character in the party that doesn't pick up on it (which is saying something since one of the characters, Anise, actually appears to be dumber then Luke for the most part).
- Of course, Tear is not very good at voicing her emotions due to being raised as a soldier her entire life. The fact that Luke is a Replica with only 7 years of life experience (most of that sheltered) doesn't help things.
- A similar thing occurs in Tales of Legendia, with Chloe having a crush on Senel (which even the game's big idiot Norma notices). Senel at least picks up on Shirly's crush for him.
- While Senel is pretty dense, he's also a Chaste Hero due to his rather troubled past, and it's implied that he'll probably never get to the point where he's capable of being romantically interested in someone.
- In Tales of Phantasia, this is largely averted; none of the characters have too much difficulty recognizing each other's affections, but just about all of them refuse to assert themselves romantically before the last act of the game, probably because most of them are teenagers.
- Continued in Tales of Vesperia with Karol, towards Nan. Hammered home when she's his final foe in the 100-Man Melee - Nan explicitly says that she can't have the man she marries be weak. Karol, being too young and too stupid to know better, then asks why she's attacking him, then. Cue standard Tsundere reaction.
- Karol actually does like Nan; thats why hey was so eager to get her attention at the begining of the game.
- Pascal of Tales of Graces might be the biggest example in the whole series. When Hubert flat-out tells her that he likes her, she misinterprets it as him telling her that he's getting married. She cheerfully promises him that she'll be at the wedding, and will take a bath with soap as well. He slinks off, defeated.
- Hubert's brother Asbel fits this trope due to not noticing Cheria's feelings. Although their case is a deconstruction as Cheria ends up bitter and angry at Asbel for not noticing even after the Time Skip (7 years... She spent them alone) whereas Asbel had a lot on his plate. To elaborate he couldn't protect his friends and brother from a monster, one of said friends pulled a Heroic Sacrifice for them to live (Hello Survivor Guilt) and his brother is sent off to another COUNTRY. Factor in that Asbel was 11. He ends up leaving home (for 7 years) to get stronger. Then after the time-skip he finds out that his dad is dead... Yeeeaaaah. Love was the last thing on his mind.
- Asbel plays this trope straight in the "Future" arc that takes place 6 months after the main story. Having dealt with issues that plagued him in the main game, Asbel has finally gotten to the point where he's ready to think about such things; His mother has even started putting pressure on him to get married. And he's shown to be utterly clueless when it comes to romance. He apparently spent all his time at the Academy absorbed in his training, so it's safe to say he doesn't have a lot of dating experience.
Cheria: "So were there any girls at the (Knight) academy?"
Asbel: "Oh yeah sure. We even used to stay up and talk about what we'd do if we became knights."
Asbel: "Yeah. Me, a couple of the other guys and some of the girls."
Cheria: "Did you do anything else?"
Asbel: "Nah. We just talked."
Cheria: (visible relieved sigh) "Oh. Okay"
- For bonus points when his mom gives him the marriage proposals, Asbel compares the girls to Cheria.
- Oh dear oh dear Hamil in Tears To Tiara 2. Supreme tactician, strategist, and an incredibly charismatic leader who can't understand that the resident Goddess of War Tart is absolutely in love with him. After she 1) let him sleep on her lap 2) sing for him 3) hugs him tearily and emotionally 4) cheers him up and calms him down 5) states in no uncertain terms she'll follow him everywhere and do what he wants 6) become angry and jealous when he talks about other females. And he still doesn't get it.
- If Shepard woos Tali in Mass Effect 2, she'll confess that she's been in love with him since the first game. Since she ultimately wasn't intended to be a love interest, she obviously didn't drop any hints of her feelings during the first game. Then again, Shepard is the point of view character.
- In Tales of Monkey Island, Guybrush is oblivious to Morgan's feelings for him, especially noticeable in Chapter Three when they talk about how to calm the female manatee. Of course, this is due in large part to his unbreakable devotion to Elaine. (Even though he was more of a flirt in Escape From Monkey Island)
- Cloud in Final Fantasy VII is officially unaware either Aerith or Tifa have feelings for him while both are alive.
- Add in the fact that Cloud himself was unaware he had feelings for Tifa until the Lifestream event.
- Until the Lifestream event, he's a partial amnesiac with major identity issues, brought on by recovering (badly) from poisoning just in time to watch the guy who was protecting him get cruelly gunned down within sight of their destination, after both of them had been experimented on in an induced coma for four years. Oh, and the Big Bad mind controls him repeatedly for kicks until then too. The Big Bad he had already beaten. To say that Cloud's mind was not ready to even recognize romantic feelings is an understatement.
- Chrodechild from Suikoden Tierkreis remains oblivious to Asad's affection to her. Poor guy.
- In Castlevania: Dawn of Sorrow, Hammer makes hints about having feelings for Yoko, but she never picks up on them, mistakenly thinking that he's "glaring" at her when he looks her way.
- Akihiko Sanada of Persona 3 "seems to be completely incapable of recognizing female emotion," as the PSP version of the game states. He honestly has no idea why all those girls follow him around, and is similarly oblivious to the advances of the female protagonist if she pursues a relationship with him. He's not that great at understanding his own feelings, either; at the culmination of his Romance Sidequest, the protagonist herself must flat-out tell him that the feelings he just described having mean he's in love with her. This despite the fact that, if he is in the party during the July Full Moon event, he comes close to actually having sex with her under the Shadow's influence.
- Hilariously, it seems like Akihiko is just the Cool Loner type, until the inevitable Beach Episode, where you discover that he is completely and totally useless in romantic situations.
- Although really that's a component, albeit a large one, of the fact that he has the social skills of a brick; a result of having a grand total of one friend, himself a Cool Loner, for the first fifteen years of his life and having no time for anyone less dedicated than him.
- Mitsuru provides a female example, as while she is slightly more in tune to emotions than Akihiko she still seems rather oblivious to the sheer amount of people of both genders who have crushes on her. For an extra bonus, her and Akihiko definetly have some sort of romantic tension but are too oblivious to actually act on it.
- Hiroki in Canvas 2. Seven love interests and multiple students gunning for him and he's unaware of all of them.
- Aveline in Dragon Age II is completely oblivious to Hawke's advances during her romance quest chain, even though s/he flat out says it at one point. In fact, she only seems to pick up on it after hooking up with Donnic.
- Merrill of the same game is incapable of picking up on the advances of Hawke's brother, Carver. However "Mark of the Assassin" later implies that she was Obfuscating Stupidity to spare his feelings, since she's infatuated with Hawke instead.
- As the player, you can also chose to have Hawke be oblivious to Merrill's obvious infatuation with Hawke, you know, if you're a heartless bastard. Of course, it works both ways, since Hawke has to explicitly state they are interested in Merrill before she finally gets the hint.
- It could also be interpreted as sparing Merrill's feelings in a similar way to how she tries to spare Carver's. Telling her that she's like a sister to you before she manages to confess may cause her disappointment, but at least she isn't humiliated.
- In the Tokimeki Memorial series, the main protagonist suffering a terminal case of this trope is a tradition. Every single one of them (be they a boy or a girl) is affected by this, but the severity of it depends from game to game. One of the worst is the protagonist of Tokimeki Memorial 2: every single main heroine, and both of his male best friends lampshade his total obliviousness at one point or another in the saga, and even several minor characters do it as well.
- Raz during the first half of Psychonauts is a bit like this. Then again, he is ten years old.
- Heck, after Lili blatantly states that she wants to make out with him, he spends the rest of the cutscene trying to comprehend what she was saying.
- Played for laughs in the Smuggler questline on Tatooine in Star Wars: The Old Republic with a female Jedi who is completely oblivious to any flirting done by the smuggler, leading to this possible gem in the storyline climax:
Smuggler: (to Risha): Oh, I've got a Jedi and a Sith fighting over me, but I only have eyes for you.
Jedi: Nothing you say makes any sense.
Sith woman: Poor girl, she's never been kissed.
- Shirou in Fate/stay night remains comically (or tragically, depending on your point of view) oblivious to Sakura's advances and obvious interest in him for many years. While he does find her attractive, all he wonders is whether or not this makes him a failure as a sempai, combined with the fact that she is the sister of one of his friends.
- In Kanon, Yuuichi has been doing this regarding Nayuki's feelings for seven years straight. Probably the only reason that she hasn't given up or decided that he wasn't worth the trouble was because he'd already gone through too much at the time of the revelation. Indeed, in the end he realizes that his own amnesia is also caused by Selective Obliviousness— he wanted to forget the town where he "lost" Ayu.
- In Lux-Pain, Akira is oblivious to romance in general and just doesn't seem to catch on to who has a crush on who. Unless you tell him straight out that this person likes someone else, he's not going to catch it. The best example is the guy Inugaku who has a huge, obvious crush on his dad. [Yayoi has to tell him outright that he's gay in order for Akira to understand...and that sends him into a humorous state of shock that doesn't last long.
- A more serious example is when Sayuri calls him out on this trope technically and calls him a Jerk Jock that enjoys the women flocking to him and breaking their hearts. Naturally, Akira snaps only because Atsuki was standing right there when she said that.
- And of course, there's Akira's other friend Ryo who is also oblivious of affection from both the girls that constantly visit his store just to see him (and not buy books, which pisses him off) and his best friend Hibiki and like Akira above, it has to be spelled out to him in order for him to understand. Only difference is that the person who asks him if Hibiki and him are going out is a Yaoi Fangirl and Hibiki isn't going to say anything.
- In One Kagayaku Kisetsu E Kouhei can't understand why Nanase is disappointed when he takes her to cheap Ramen restaurant to try this new ramen, even though she is wearing an expensive dress and its Christmas Eve, in Japan, a Holiday for Couples.
- Masayuki looks this way in Miku's route in A Profile.
- This really doesn't help Tsukihime's Shiki out when you combine it with the Tohno Gland and penchant for attracting only people with superpowers or are dangerously crazy. By Kagetsu Tohya he seems to be at least a little aware, going out of his way to keep people like Ciel in his wanted harem focused on him. But still clueless to a baffling extent when you consider the six people in love with him in that story that he doesn't recognize at all.
Some of those are justified, though. Akiha is his sister (he thinks), Hisui has a crippling fear of men and acts quite cold, and he doesn't think Arcueid, being a vampire, is even capable of love like a human is. And to his credit, he does clear these up faster than most characters.
- Kyoko in Kara no Shoujo is completely unaware of Uozumi's affections for her. It seems at first like Reiji is similarly oblivious to Kyoko, but it turns out to be a subversion.
- Ace Attorney:
- Miles Edgeworth seems to be entirely unaware of the frothing masses of fangirls he has, let alone when females develop obvious crushes on him. Although he is all too aware of Oldbag's affection to him. Needless to say, it squicked him out. Lampshaded in Trials and Tribulations, when Gumshoe suggests that maybe the suspect (who Edgey vaguely recognised) was an ex who he forgot. His reaction? Genuine surprise, along with the genius line: "D-Do I really inspire this sort of frothing desire from the female masses?"
- Speaking of Gumshoe, it is very strongly hinted that he has a whopper of a crush on Maggey, though she seems to be almost unaware of his attraction to her.
- Apollo Justice is arguably worse: Juniper Woods tells him that she thinks he is wonderful while knitting hearts, and he still doesn't get a clue. Of course, everyone else can see it. It really doesn't help that Juniper speaks glowingly of Apollo, in a series where nobody in the rest of the series speaks glowingly of anyone else.
- Bobwhite. Ben is the last person to figure out that Cleo has a major crush on him.
- In Candi, the only member of the cast not aware of Jon's feelings towards Candi (up to and including his now ex-girlfriend) is Candi. Complicating things is the fact that Candi gets weirdly skittish when being pursued romantically, so Jon fears that if he confesses his feelings, it will wreck their friendship just as surely as a romance gone sour.
- Hank in Catena is absolutely clueless about the fact that Treiss has a crush on him. Bear also seems to be rather oblivious to Ivy's attraction to him.
- In Corner Alley 13, Noelle fails to realize that Tsac has feelings for her.
- Justin in El Goonish Shive has had a deep crush on Elliot for years, which at least one other character knows and several others may suspect, but Elliot himself has never picked up on it.
- Elliot himself pretended to be oblivious to Sarah's flirtations so she wouldn't feel 'rejected' when finding out he already had a girlfriend. It Makes Sense in Context ... or at least in his own mind. His girlfriend dumped him, came out as a lesbian, and started dating his twin sister / Opposite-Sex Clone, Ellen. He and Sarah then started dating, but broke up mutually when they realized they were incompatible. (She realized he was too laid back and didn't take romantic initiative enough to match her adventurous personality, and also didn't express physical attraction to her, to the point where she questioned whether he even did find her attractive. He realized that she was like a sister to him. They stayed friends.)
- Mr. Verres, knowing there's a lot of Human-Uryuom offspring, managed to miss why his Uryuom secretary constantly wears a very female human form and likes to sit on his table. Though he is pretty smart (otherwise Lavender wouldn't be attracted, for one).
- In an interesting variation, both Elliot and Susan are aware they're utterly enamored with each other, but aren't aware that it's mutual. It's just a matter of who does their Love Confession first. In the meantime, nearly everyone else is also aware of it and some actively ship them.
- Justin and a newly-introduced character, Luke, are clearly attracted to each other - both Sarah and Grace have noticed, and Grace has never been wrong about such a thing yet - but neither of them know if the other is gay. Justin assumed as first that Luke was straight mostly because he's never met another openly gay guy. (Justin: "Something like ninety percent of people are straight." Grace: " ... That cannot possibly be right." Justin: "Probability is on my side. Or, more like it's actively opposing me.") When we get some narration from Luke's perspective, he complains about meeting Justin and finding himself in 'yet another case of my finding an obviously straight guy hot'. Time will tell whether either one works up the nerve to talk to the other before the card-game tournament is over.
- Andrew Smith of Gunnerkrigg Court is an interesting case. He puts up with Parley because she's "hotter than hell", but manages to mistake her constant tsundere-style signs of affection for mockery. Then two strangers told him straight. Then she reacted on giving her a flower (a teacher set him up) by unconsciously teleporting them right into her bed. And starts to spontaneously teleport close to him several times per week. And he still was in the deep stunned surprise when she confessed.
- Vriska Serket from Homestuck had no honest idea that her moirail, Kanaya, was in love with her. In fact, she thought that Kanaya had a crush on Tavros, the object of Vriska's (hate-filled) affection. There's also another moment where Karkat opens a memo, invites John and Dave into it, and starts ripping into them about 'flirting' with Vriska and Terezi. Cue John being thoroughly confused.
- John is amazingly dense when it comes to this. Even after Karkat's lecture about avoiding sloppy interspecies makeouts, he still manages to interpret Vriska's invitation to go on a date as an offer to hang out and watch some movies as friends.
- Karkat himself appears to fall victim to this, as it shown several times that Nepeta has a serious crush on him, yet he never acknowledges it. This is bizarre considering his expertise and intuition regarding romance. One later panel finally brings this up when he admits to another character that he is aware of Nepeta's feelings, but he doesn't reciprocate and has been deliberately ignoring the situation because there's just too much else going on to deal with it.
- ZigZagged with Jake. At first he seems to be oblivious to his friends all having crushes on him, but soon proves that he's a lot more perceptive than people originally thought. However, when Jane tells him she doesn't have a crush on him, he accepts it immediately even despite her strange behaviour. However, while in a dreambubble later on Dirk, playing the role of his subconscious, suggests that he might have misinterpreted her, though Jake uneasily dismisses the idea. And through all this, he still appears oblivious to Roxy's genuine interest in him, unintentionally or otherwise.
- MegaTokyo: The whole school has known about it for years.
- The entirely one-way drama plays out in A Moment Of Peace. Crux, god of In-Between Places, is completely oblivious to the fact that the goddess of Stories has been crushing on him ever since they started talking at the base of Dawn Mountain.
- Elan, who is a Genre Savvy mix of The Ditz, Spoony Bard and Cloud Cuckoo Lander from The Order of the Stick, takes hundreds of strips, and dozens of hints, to finally reciprocate Haley's feelings.
- Out There: Sherry is so very much oblivious to Ari's attraction to her, she thinks that since Ari looks at her differently than she looks at Miriam, it means Ari's attracted to… Miriam.  Meanwhile, Miriam, who has decided she's attracted to Ari, can't get Ari to realize it; Ari thinks she has embarrassed Miriam by offering her menial work. 
- In Schlock Mercenary, Lt. Elf had a major crush on Captain Tagon, a crush that was obvious to every member of the crew except Tagon. (Pretty much every attempt by Elf to broach the subject was interpreted by the one-track minded - and occasionally stunningly dense - Tagon as referring to their current mercenary job). She eventually gives up on Tagon and hooks up with Second-In-Command and company Mad Scientist, Kevyn.
- In Shinigami Death Punch, Purple remains completely oblivious to White's feelings despite increasingly obvious signs. He's also oblivious to Blue's blatant come-ons, a source of eternal frustration for White.
- Squid Row Mouse.
- In Monsieur Charlatan, his compliment gives her a moment of hope before he unwittingly dashes it.
- Carson from Dork Tower. Especially in the arc starting here. Cluelessness, thy name is muskrat.
- Angels 2200: Unlike pretty much the entire rest of the ship's crew, Kid has no clue about Hammer's feelings towards her.
- Tripping Over You: "Why am I so slow?"
- Agent 300 spent the better part of a year completely blind to his partner's obvious attraction to him. It took said partner nearly being killed for 300 to realize that not only was 250 in love with him, but he felt the same way.
- Art and Kate from Sequential Art are both in such a denial about each other, that even a Cupid is powerless.
- In The Dementia Of Magic, Matt has no idea Phinn has a crush on him.
- The title character of Evon is in deep deep denial about her feeling towards Hero. Even going so far as denying it to herself when confronted by her clone, who shares her memories and outright states that they're both in love with him.
- Harry to Ginny in A Very Potter Musical to the point that he tests out a love song for another girl by singing it to Ginny; the result is a Crowning Moment of Funny.
- The relationship between Marik and Yami Bakura/Florence in Yu-Gi-Oh! The Abridged Series could be seen as this, in an entirely non-serious way (of course). Marik is implied to be gay but oblivious to it throughout the series, and completely fails to understand when Bakura hits on him, leading to many sarcastic comments on Bakura's end. Then, out of nowhere in a bonus video, when Marik is trying to get Bakura to sing Come Sail Away by Styx by offering him things like killing Yugi and giving him his Millenium Rod, he suddenly says "What if I told you I loved you?" Cue shock from Bakura. Then they sing together to the end of the episode. It's actually kind of adorable.
- Parodied in Girlchan In Paradise (along with everything else). Girlchan is in love with Yusuke and thinks that he is "incapable of love due to his dark and brooding past". Episode 3 implies that he is fully capable of love... he just despises Girlchan.
- Jaune Arc, of RWBY, is interested in dating, unlike most examples, and constantly flirts with girls...however, due to his self-acknowledged lack of skill at flirting, he can't quite understand it when Pyrrha actually reciprocates his feelings.
- On the Harry Potter Tumblr blog Ask-Jily, Lily for Severus.
- In the you could make a life universe, David is oblivious to his feelings for Jake (though it's more a case of willful denial, since Jake is the always-better-than-him rival he's "supposed" to hate). He also fails to realize that Jake is doing his best to date him in between their bouts of sex.
- From another story in the universe, Andy is painfully oblivious to the fact that his crush on Derek isn't unrequited to the point where the only reason it takes them seven whole chapters to get together is that Andy keeps running away from Derek whenever they end up in bed together which causes Derek to assume that he doesn't feel the same after all, etc, etc.
- Parodied in The Nostalgia Critic's fourth video about commercials, which has a Running Gag about a witch who wants to have a sexy time with someone. She attempts to tell her targets about it via all sorts of innuendos, and when that fails, she resorts to bluntly spelling it out to them. They remain utterly oblivious even then.
- Happened to an absurd amount in Clone High, with Abe completely oblivious to Joan's feelings until the final episode. When he realizes he loves her, he proceeds to ask Gandhi whether his feelings could be reciprocated. This causes 1. a flashback showing all the extremely obvious hints seen so far and 2. Gandhi slapping him in the face.
Abe: ...I see.
- In Thundarr the Barbarian, Ariel is clearly in love with the titular barbarian and he has no idea whatsoever. His reactions to her are strictly due to friendship (and chauvinism).
- This is how Peter and Gwen's relationship started out in The Spectacular Spider Man. They've wandered into Cannot Spit It Out territory now, though.
- In Hey Arnold!, Arnold completely fails to realize that Helga is deeply in love with him (although the fact that she can only express it through insults may have something to do with it). And this does not even begin to describe how utterly dense Arnold is. In the episode Girl Trouble, Arnold's grandpa literally spells it out for Arnold, explaining all of Helga's behavior perfectly and even adds in a story about how Arnold's grandma was the same way at that age. Granted, his grandparents are old and pretty kooky. Furthermore, it sounds ridiculous that someone would antagonize because they like you at face value. She finally confesses to him and the issue would have been resolved in the Jungle Movie.
- In the final episode of Braceface, Sharon is oblivious to Alden's feelings for her to the point where it's ridiculous.
- Road Rovers: Hunter, it is hinted at throughout the series, but in the last episode it is made quite obvious that Colleen has a crush on Hunter. She asks him if he would like to go for walk on beach to which he responds with an enthusiastic "You bet!" Cut to Hunter as a regular dog with Colleen holding his leash.
Colleen: "Not exactly what I had in mind."
- On Phineas and Ferb, Phineas manages to remain completely oblivious to Isabella's feelings for him. It's a particularly bad case, since Isabella is not particularly subtle about her crush.
- For example, she once does this◊. He still doesn't get it.
- Turned Up to Eleven in the "Summer Belongs to You" double-length episode, where Phineas can notice the obvious attraction of all the OTHER couples around him, but the notion of him going on a romantic date with Isabella, in Paris, shortly after she finishes singing an adorable song about her affections (In a show known for leaning on the fourth wall) is completely alien to him, causing Isabella to grow increasingly aggravated.
- However, The Movie showed he might not be so oblivious when Isabella kissed him at the end and he attempted to stop his memory from being erased.
- Gadget Hackwrench of Chip 'n Dale Rescue Rangers manages to be amazingly oblivious to the advances of both Chip and Dale.
- Danny Phantom remained completely oblivious to the affection of his best friend Sam until the final episode. This was to the point where everyone else, including Danny's Rogues Gallery, knew about it.
Danny: This is Clueless 1. Why am I Clueless 1?
Tucker: (To Sam) Tell him.
Sam: (To Tucker) Shut up.
- On Jimmy Two-Shoes, the main character doesn't realize that Heloise harbors a huge crush on him. And she's not exactly subtle about it either.
- AT one point, she wonders why she likes him. Word of God it's because he's a nice guy and that appeals to the last bit of humanity in her.
- Tommy on Robotboy, to Lola. Like most examples, Lola's not subtle about it...
- Scooby-Doo: In keeping with Freddy's usual personality traits (that is, when he's given personality traits at all), he's shown in Scooby-Doo! Mystery Incorporated to be just as dumb and naive about romance as he is about most everything else (except for traps). Daphne practically throws herself at him, and he's completely clueless.
- Also deconstructed. He was raised by a tough love dad (later revealed to not be his dad, but was taken from his birth parents. He did a better job than birth parents and all of this was due to the machinations of the Nibiru entity.) His dad raised to be a typical manly-man with little focus on feelings. It takes him a while to come to terms with her liking him and him liking her.
- Perhaps subverted in episode 24. They finally kiss and Fred apparently proposes to Daphne, although his phrasing is either a metaphor for marriage or a certification for van seating arrangements (Daphne and/or Velma are always riding shotgun).
- Kappa Mikey had this from Mikey to Suki.
- Although one episode ended with him giving her a Longing Look...
"Hey Gonard. I just realized something. Suki's a girl."
- In The Boondocks, it is hinted that Jazmine has a crush on Huey. However, Huey seems to be oblivious to her feelings due to him focusing on social and political issues.
- In Kim Possible, Ron apparently never realized that Tara or Yori liked him.
- The titular character herself counts, especially in Kim Possible Movie: So the Drama, where Ron's feelings for her became very blatant. Though one could easily argue it went both ways, since everyone seemed to be aware that they were meant to be except for them.
- In SWAT Kats, Jake/Razor doesn't seem to realize Callie's feelings towards him. (Doubly hilarious in that he and Chance/T-Bone have competed for her attention in the past.)
- Lampshaded in Justice League Unlimited, in the episode "Kid's Stuff" where Green Lantern, Superman, Wonder Woman and Batman are changed into kids. During the episode Wonder Woman is clearly showing her attraction to Batman, who seems to be too embarrassed to acknowledge it, where as Superman is completely oblivious to this
Kid Green Lantern: (to an oblivious Kid Superman) Man, for somebody with, like, fifty different kinds of vision, you are so blind.
Kid Superman: ... what?
- In the Earthworm Jim TV series, it's uncertain if Princess Whats-Her-Name is this due to her childhood as a self-taught rebel against her evil tyrant of a sister, or if she reacts with confusion (and a hint of irritation) whenever Jim goes on about their relationship because she isn't into him in that way, has never given him any sign that she was interested, and he keeps on insisting they are boyfriend and girlfriend because he's basically a Cloud Cuckoo Lander.
- The titular character of Yam Roll is oblivious to any gestures that aren't from Minamiko, who happens to only be oblivious to romantic gestures from him.
- In My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic, it's possible that Rarity knows Spike has a crush on her, considering he's not very subtle about it. If she does know, she's being nice about it and hasn't outright rejected him, even when she was pursuing a different guy entirely. If she doesn't know... well, let's just say at one point he wore an "I <3 Rarity" shirt.
- At the end of "Secret of My Excess", when Spike & Rarity are (seemingly) plummeting to their deaths, Spike starts to confess to her... only for Rarity to stop him and give a tearful smile, heavily implying that she already knows. Extended universe material does show she seems to underestimate his feelings for her though, as his love for her was what finally broke the Nightmare curse on her along with the friendship she had with her friends.
- For an actual example: in Simple Ways, Rarity has a huge crush on Trenderhoof, who doesn't notice her because he's too busy having a crush on Applejack, who doesn't notice him (or at least realize why he keeps following her around) because she's too busy trying to get her farm work done.
- Rarity tearfully asks Spike "How could you ever know what it's like to be totally obsessed with a pony only to find out they're obsessed with somepony else?" To clarify: she says this to the boy who has a crush on her while obsessing over the pony she has a crush on. Spike gives the audience a very aggravated Aside Glance to Lampshade this.
- In The Simpsons episode "Colonel Homer", Homer becomes the manager of an upcoming country singer, Lurleen Lumpkin. He fails to notice that Lurleen is in love with him, even when she invites him to her trailer, and sings the highly suggestive song "Bunk with me Tonight" for him:
Homer: Oh, that's hot. There isn't a man alive who wouldn't get turned on by that. (stands up) Well, goodbye!
- It seems to be a Running Gag in Young Justice
- When it comes to Kid Flash/Artemis, Everyone Can See It...except them. There's hints that Kid Flash is aware he's attracted to Artemis, but won't pursue her due to her replacing one of his friends. Artemis takes a while to realize her own feelings.
- Miss Martian doesn't really catch on to Superboy's affection for her until he kisses her.
- And there's Dick Grayson, who's oblivious to his Unlucky Childhood Friend Barbara Gordon.
- In a (possibly) platonic version, Blue Beetle seems oblivious to just how interested Impulse is in him. It's because Bart's whole purpose for being there is to stop Blue from making a Face-Heel Turn and destroying the Earth.
- If you don't think that it's possible for this to happen in real life, just look at these eight reddit threads:
- Very, very often the painful reason All Love Is Unrequited.