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->'''Lucy:''' Schroeder, do you think love is the answer to everything?
->'''Schroeder:''' Boy, I hope not!
-->-- ''ComicStrip/{{Peanuts}}'' (see [[https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/e4/97/79/e497795e729b71e57d0fd90347e063f9.jpg here]])

LoveHurts; it's messy and [[TriangRelations a mathematical nightmare]] where only a few can come out happy, never mind unscathed. One of its worst injuries is perhaps the plainest one… pining away at someone because AllLoveIsUnrequited, and in the end never even holding them because IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy.

Then, there's times a deep-frozen love life is not because of StarCrossedLovers, the pursued {{Love Interest|s}} being the MasterOfTheMixedMessage or any such thing. It's because the rules of plot and characterization dictate [[PlotSensitiveSnoopingSkills that they not notice]] the protagonist's overtures and {{Longing Look}}s. [[AliceAndBob Bob likes Alice]], and he makes several increasingly obvious hints that he's interested, he'd like to ask her out, and wants to be her boyfriend. Alice (though gender reversals are common) will usually be oblivious enough that his [[CanNotSpitItOut stuttering overtures]] aren't heard or followed up on, and on top is usually blind to Bob as a love interest because she:
* [[LikeBrotherAndSister Sees him as a brother]], or [[JustFriends as a friend]].
* Believes she is [[BrokenBird unworthy of love]] and assumes she's misunderstanding his intentions,
* Believes she's an OldMaid incapable of attracting love,
* [[WhatIsThisThingYouCallLove Can not recognize love]] when it's not [[AllGirlsWantBadBoys edged with danger]] or [[ThinksLikeARomanceNovel occurring like a romance novel]],
* Isn't convinced that he's [[HasAType her type]],
* Doesn't pick up on the fact that he's interested in her,
* [[SelectiveObliviousness Is in deep denial]]

Expect Alice to say things like "I wish there were someone out there for me" and Bob to respond with "He might be closer than you think." Of course, she'll think he's being vaguely hopeful rather than literal. In the worst cases, Alice may be actively looking for someone (in general or particular) and just be completely blind to other people's feelings for ''her'', or even already seeing someone (let's call him Charlie), Charlie may or may not be the right guy for her, but that's secondary to her being oblivious to Bob trying very hard to get her attention.

If Charlie is the wrong guy, Bob will win Alice's heart in the end. This is a common consequence of OldFlameFizzle. If he's the ''right'' guy, then expect Bob to either [[CleaningUpRomanticLooseEnds hook up with]] whoever ''he'' was ignoring or [[DerailingLoveInterests suddenly be revealed as a psycho slimeball]].

TheMatchmaker is particularly prone to this, being used to thinking of love as something she arranges for others, and often tries to hook up Bob with Danielle or Eglantine as just perfect for him.

If Alice really is attracted and doesn't realize it, {{Tsundere}} behavior may result, or she may [[BerserkButton treat Bob]] as her {{Protectorate}}, or [[ThroughHisStomach ensure that he's fed]], or [[CrushBlush blush furiously at the mention of him]], prior to the LoveEpiphany. GreenEyedEpiphany is common.

This is commonplace in the LoveDodecahedron, and is a type 5 in TriangRelations. It also overlaps with EveryoneCanSeeIt. It is also prevalent in YaoiGenre and (especially) YuriGenre works, where it is often mixed with [[{{Gayngst}} confusion about one's feelings for someone of the same gender]]. Compare ItMeantSomethingToMe, where Bob overtly says he loves Alice, but she denies having any feelings. See also DidYouThinkICantFeel

If the problem escalates, then this can lead to a case of CluelessChickMagnet. Compare to ChasteHero, where the character in question is completely clueless about the concept of romance. This is one cause of the IgnoredEnamoredUnderling's problems.

The Japanese have a special term for this: ''Donkan'' (鈍感), which is basically the short-form word for this trope.
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!!Examples
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* ObliviousToLove/AnimeAndManga
* ObliviousToLove/ComicBooks
* ObliviousToLove/FanWorks
* ObliviousToLove/{{Literature}}
* ObliviousToLove/LiveActionTV
* ObliviousToLove/VideoGames
* ObliviousToLove/VisualNovels
* ObliviousToLove/WebComics
* ObliviousToLove/WebOriginal
* ObliviousToLove/WesternAnimation
* ObliviousToLove/RealLife
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[[folder:Films -- Animated]]
* In ''Disney/TheHunchbackOfNotreDame,'' [[HotGypsyWoman Esmeralda]] is oblivious to [[TheGrotesque Quasimodo]]'s love. Which, unfortunately for Quasi, means [[spoiler:[[DidNotGetTheGirl she hooks up with]] [[KnightInShiningArmor Phoebus]] [[DidNotGetTheGirl instead]]. Right in front of him, in fact]].
* ''WesternAnimation/TheNightmareBeforeChristmas'': Jack Skellington, thy name is clueless.
* In ''Disney/{{Frozen}}'', Anna doesn't realize that Kristoff had fallen in love with her until Olaf casually mentions it.
* ''WesternAnimation/StrangeMagic'': [[PrincessClassic Princess Dawn]] completely fails to notice her [[JustFriends best friend]] Sunny (who's an elf) is in love with her, despite his increasingly obvious hints. She's too busy flirting with every fairy boy that she fails to see his attempts to woo her. [[spoiler: This drives Sunny to make a LovePotion to make her love him.]]
* In ''WesternAnimation/TheSecretLifeOfPets'', Max is completely oblivious to Gidget's rather blatant crush on him. [[spoiler: Until he develops one on her in turn after seeing her go [[OneManArmy One Dog Army]] on [[KillerRabbit Snowball's]] minions at the climax.]]
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[[folder:Films -- Live-Action]]
* Ted, the gym manager in ''Film/BurnAfterReading'', is in love with Linda, who looks everywhere for a man and wants several rounds of cosmetic surgery to improve her odds. In the end, he does something heroically stupid to try and help her.
* This is of course the basic plot of any number of {{romantic comed|y}}ies out there.
* ''Film/JoeDirt'' is pretty good at picking up trashy redneck women, but when it comes to sweet girls, he thinks they're just being nice.
* ''Film/SkyHigh2005'': Will Stronghold is oblivious to Layla's crush on him, although he does have the excuse that Gwen Grayson [[spoiler: got him to fall in love with ''her'', then pretended not to notice herself in order to better string him along (even though when it came time the reveal that 'it was mutual', he couldn't take the hint until she flat-out said it)]].
* Mark from ''Film/TheRoom'', to a ridiculous extent. He never gets the idea that he's helping Lisa, who is Mark's best friend's Johnny's fiancé, cheat on Johnny until about the ''fourth or fifth'' time that Lisa calls him over to have sex.
* ''Film/XMenFirstClass'': Charles Xavier doesn't notice that Raven Darkholme harbours some non-sisterly feelings towards him.
* ''Film/TheHungerGames'': Katniss Everdeen cannot see that Gale and Peeta clearly love her until they outright state it to her. In Peeta's case, it takes some time for her to realize even ''after'' he blatantly says it.
* ''Film/ThePatsy'': Poor Tony has no clue that Pat is besotted with him. When she tells him "I'm in love with a man who hardly knows I exist," he cluelessly offers her advice on how to attract the mystery man.
* A RunningGag in the original ''Film/{{Ghostbusters1984}}'' was Janine's crush on Egon and how he was absolutely oblivious of it due to his cold scientific nature.
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[[folder:Music]]
* "[[ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin Everybody Knows (Except You)]]" by Music/TheDivineComedy
* "Shiver" - Music/{{Coldplay}} ("it's you / I see / but you don't see me")
* "3 Libras" by Music/APerfectCircle implies this trope.
* "That Girl" by The Noisettes
-->That girl’s in love with you//I know that you’re too blind to see//I know that it’s so plain to see
* Music/TaylorSwift:
** "You Belong With Me" is about a girl with an unrequited love towards a friend.
** "I'd Lie" by Music/TaylorSwift
-->He looks around the room
-->Innocently overlooks the truth
-->Shouldn't a light go on?
-->Doesn't he know that I've had him memorized for so long?
** "Teardrops on My Guitar" has shades of this, too.
* Westlife's "Obvious"
* 98 Degrees' "Invisible Man," "You Should Be Mine," "You Don't Know," "Why Are We Still Friends?"
* Music/BackstreetBoys' "All I Have to Give"
* Music/{{NSYNC}}'s "Crazy For You"
* Clay Aiken's "Invisible" (if you ignore the StalkerWithACrush subtext...)
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[[folder:Newspaper Comics]]
* ''ComicStrip/{{Peanuts}}'': Charlie Brown and Marcie. He's understandably intimidated by Peppermint Patty's overtures, but has yet to notice Marcie. Charlie Brown does figure out that Marcie likes him, but not until she (very bluntly) ''tells'' him so. His self-esteem is so low, he can't really believe that ''any'' girl can be interested in him, even Peppermint Patty. There's also Charlie and the Little Red-Headed Girl, who probably doesn't even know he exists.
* Calvin and Susie Derkins from ''ComicStrip/CalvinAndHobbes''. WordOfGod [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calvin_and_Hobbes#Susie_Derkins says]] that they have a mutual crush on each other. Calvin, apparently, either doesn't know about it or doesn't know how to deal with it, so he does his best to gross out and anger Susie, who then always gets mad at him.
** Arguably, this may apply with Susie as well. Susie generally is contemptuous of Calvin, ignores him, and associates with him only when she has to, but at the same time, perhaps like Calvin, doesn't know how to handle her feelings towards him.
** Strangely enough, in the strip it's Hobbes (Calvin's [[LovesMyAlterEgo alter ego]]?) who is attracted to Susie and is always convincing Calvin to go play with her.
--> "...So what happened to the mandibles of death, you sissy furball?!?"
--> "I was beguiled by her feminine charms. Yow. Go soak your head."
** Most likely Calvin just projects his feelings onto his imaginary friend as a way of dealing with them.
** Though Hobbes also sometimes teases Calvin by suggesting he and Susie like each other; [[NotSoImaginaryFriend assuming he is real]], it's possible he's just acting infatuated to get under Calvin's skin.
* In ''ComicStrip/{{Curtis}}'', the titular character is too busy crushing on Michelle (who most definitely does ''not'' reciprocate) to realize that his good friend Chutney is head-over-heels in love with him. Once or twice he does wonder "Could it be that Michelle doesn't like me and that Chutney does?" but [[StatusQuoIsGod always writes the possibility off in the end]].
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[[folder:Theatre]]
* Anne in ''Theatre/ALittleNightMusic'' is not only oblivious to her awkward stepson's feelings for her, but also to her own feelings about him, which [[spoiler: she only realizes at the end.]]
* In ''Theatre/LesMiserables'', depending on the actor, Marius can sometimes come off as quite a bit thick in the head about this with Eponine.
* In ''Theatre/TheSoundOfMusic'', Maria has absolutely no clue the Captain is in love with her until the Baroness (for her own ends, of course) points it out. This is possibly because Maria has spent too much time in a convent. A moral crisis immediately ensues, which the Reverend Mother very nicely clears up.
* Theatre/CyranoDeBergerac:
** Cyrano uses SelectiveObliviousness to refuse to comprehend that he can be loved even with his enormous nose. At Act I Scene V, Le Bret has to remind him of the SmittenTeenageGirl Cyrano meet some moments ago. At Act IV Scene IX, Christian stubbornly tries to convince him that Roxane loves his “soul” – Cyrano – instead of his face. Cyrano will not believe it. Justified because Cyrano has serious MommyIssues and [[MartyrdomCulture his upbringing]] makes him more comfortable being the LoveMartyr.
--> '''Le Bret:''' Your courage and your wit! — [[SmittenTeenageGirl The little maid]]
--> Who offered you refreshment even now,
--> Her eyes did not abhor you—you saw well!
--> '''Cyrano''' ''(impressed):'' True!
** Through Act II to Act V, Roxane uses SelectiveObliviousness to refuse to comprehend that Cyrano, the [[ChildhoodFriendRomance Unlucky Childhood Friend]] who always does everything she asks him and whom has been at her side every Saturday without fault for the last fifteen years could want to be more than be JustFriends. Justified again because she is [[FanDumb the Insane Avatar of a Romance Novel Heroine, who longs to be the Mad Bride]] of [[LovingAShadow a guy who was fair and witty]].
* In ''Theatre/{{Seussical}}'', Horton is unaware of Gertrude's crush on him, even when she sings a song about it straight at him (he's too busy talking to Whos). [[spoiler:This arguably changes after she reveals her {{Determinator}} tendencies in "All For You"]].
* In ''Cromwell'' by Victor Hugo, Rochester is one of the men plotting against Cromwell and convinced he's in a forbidden romance with the man's daughter, sharing looks and that this affair will protect him. He's found guilty with the rest and to be executed, at which point the audience learns that Cromwell's daughter had no idea who the man even was and the "affair" existed only in his mind.
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[[folder:Web Video]]
* Parodied in ''[[WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic The Nostalgia Critic's]]'' fourth video about commercials, which has a RunningGag about a witch who wants to have a sexy time with someone. She attempts to tell her targets about it via all sorts of innuendos, and when that fails, she resorts to bluntly spelling it out to them. They remain utterly oblivious even then - TheStinger shows [[spoiler: Mark, from ''Film/TheRoom'', being the final recipient of her advances, acting just as oblivious before until [[BrickJoke telling her that it's sexual harassment and he doesn't have to take it]].]]
* ''WebVideo/PokemonPals'': Ash has serious trouble catching on to Misty's advances. The fact that he doesn't know what sex is doesn't help.
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