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I just had a dumb idea.

Does anyone ever decide to seriously use "he/her" or "she/him" pronouns just to mess with people.

Edited by Keybreak on Jan 15th 2020 at 6:33:08 AM

I've seen "she/him" in profiles, but near as I can tell, it always meant "she/her or he/him".

... Never seen it phrased as "he/her" though, for whatever reason.

Edited by wingedcatgirl on Jan 15th 2020 at 4:25:06 AM

I have friends who use both she/her and they/them pronouns, which they list in bios and the like as she/they.

never seen anyone use both binary sets of problems to mess with people

most lgbt folks i've met frown on listing humourous pronouns for the lulz because it muddies how serious we want people to take them.

Plus, a lot of Trans and Non-Binary people would want to avoid misgendering themselves. You'd likely only see people with both of those pronouns being acceptable use those in combination.

Yeah, I use he/him or they/them, and generally list it as he/they. There may be some niche grammar joke in there somewhere.

I have seen people who use both "binary" pronouns and not gender neutral ones, but never to fuck w people, no.

Also I think I'm done with relationships for a while.

Edited by trashconverters on Jan 18th 2020 at 10:37:27 PM

I wonder if there's a queer equivalent for romance works like Twilight and 50 Shades of Grey— something popular due to how very self-inserty it is.

Not as far as I know, but I'd kill for tacky gay self insert vampires. I do have an idea for a vampire romance.

Edited by trashconverters on Jan 20th 2020 at 8:29:00 PM

I read a M/M retelling of Snow White...it's oh so gay and oh so sexy.

OMG do you have a link!!!!

Forever Moore

So... I believe I'm transgender now. Figured it out about a month ago and after hashing out my feelings to myself a bit more, I found that I was basically putting my life on hold since the end of High School because I had trouble seeing myself doing the things I wanted to in life as a male, even though I was a relatively cheerful and content person otherwise. I found that because I don't really get depressed, my dysphoria manifested as increasing indecision and lack of ambition.

So then I got super excited to be a girl so I could get on with my life. And then I got not very excited because it seemed like so much expense and stuff to go through that I thought maybe there was some other need I wasn't fulling. The feeling didn't go away, however, so after making an impassioned appeal to myself about why I needed to transition, I was left staring the inevitability in the face.

And then I got super excited again.

So now I know I need to become a girl, I'm happy about it, and it feels like the next logical step for my life. I have a family and friends who I know will support me and I'll need their support, though I still haven't come out to them yet.

It just still seems so crazy to me that not being female was the thing that was holding me back from caring about stuff.

At least now I know why I used to watch Madeline so much as a kid...

Congrats, girlfren!

Transition can be so hard but it's so worth it. I'm almost 6 years after coming out and 4 years on HRT now, it gets easier and it's so worth it.

Have you thought about names and stuff?

Yeah, actually. I toyed around with one a bit before I knew, even. Tbh I'm still having periodic doubts about the whole thing and if I even need it to move my life forward, but hopefully these will resolve themselves over time.

I'm not really the kind of person who'd be into makeup or girly clothes, so having all the procedures done to look and feel the part is a little more important to me than it would be to some.

Edited by lewattoo on Jan 21st 2020 at 6:49:45 AM

Hey most of the girls I know aren't that girly at all. You do you. And I get you on the procedures thing, that's how I feel about myself.

Problem is, a lot of transfeminine people are held to a higher standard of femininity than cis people.

Especially when we don't pass.

I feel like getting the voice thing down would help a lot for me, whether through training, surgery or both. There's this one person I'm good friends with on Discord who managed to get it down perfectly with just the training, which is encouraging to me.

Edited by lewattoo on Jan 21st 2020 at 7:04:32 AM

Congrats on coming out.

I hope it goes well for you.

I came out as trans nearly a month ago but I dont know what to do next b/c its expensive...

I'm doing voice training myself (there's lots of free videos on YT, if you can't afford lessons).

I know I've got the range, so it's really a matter of being disciplined enough to do my exercises.

Probably sometime in the next few months, Nicky Case will publish a voice training tool maybe.

I misread Nicky Case as Nick Cave and for a second I was SO confused.

You may remember Nicky Case from the The Game series of flash games from the mid-2000s. Or you may not because that's about 15 years ago and a lot of you aren't much older than that.

Edited by TParadox on Jan 22nd 2020 at 7:50:56 AM

I don't know who she is at all, I just think its funny imagining Nick Cave, one of the most famous badass baritones of all time, giving advice on feminising your voice.

I'm starting to think I might be non-binary of some description. Like, it seems like every other month I feel female but after it passes I don't particularly care either way and I'm mentally disinclined to dwell on the previous questioning. That is, until the next questioning rolls around. If that makes any sense at all.

Is there a term that roughly means 'gender-apathetic'? Like, in most Discord rooms I'm in which let you set pronouns, I usually just have all of them to signal that I don't particularly mind what pronouns someone uses. I sometimes wonder if I purposely try to over-analyze my 'more female' periods so as to shoehorn myself into a more 'clear' binary identity because... I dunno, it's easier to explain to people? Shruggity-shrug.