"You just don't know writers. They'll use anything, anybody. They'll eat their own young."Muse Abuse occurs when artists exploit their real life and the people in it for the sake of their art, often to the serious detriment of the people around them and their relationships to other people in general. Related to The Muse, but more general—it's not just how the artist treats a particular other or others, but can spread through their entire life. Also, if really unlucky, they get alienated from themselves and their own experiences this way (see the example from Neil Gaiman in the "Quotes" section). May or may not involve serious breaking of confidences and trust, and always involves being at some emotional distance from Real Life, consciously or obliviously. Generally Muse Abuse works as an inversion of the Pygmalion Plot in relation to people around the artist: Real Life gets turned into art, not the other way round, and it does not end happily, primarily because the artist, in the Muse Abuse case, relates better to the statue than the live version of the Galatea, whom they may neglect or actively ill-treat. (Not that the Pygmalion Plot always ends happily either, of course.) The artist does not have to be any good at their art for this trope to apply, mind you: Muse Abuse is compatible with a lack of talent on the part of the person who sacrifices their real life and the people in it, as well as (potentially) their personal growth, for the sake of their art. (Obviously, people tend not to be any more mollified at discovering they've been exploited by the merely Giftedly Bad, or for the sake of a work So Bad, It's Horrible.) The trope accordingly tends to come in two main types: A) The (wannabe) artist is resorting to Muse Abuse due to lack of imagination and actual talent. For bonus points, the artist will also get frustrated and stuck if the Real Life people and situations they are exploiting fail to develop as hoped or take different directions than they had hoped. B) The artist is genuinely talented, but just for that reason, compelled to treat everything and everyone, often themselves included, as raw material for their art. Quite often, there will be some suggestion that this comes with the territory, and is necessary for the person to pursue their art, so there may be a side of Blessed with Suck or Cursed with Awesome. Of course, artists in category A often imagine they belong in Category B, and Muse Abuse as Take That to The Muse can occur in either of these categories - great artists are not above holding grudges. This trope is not uncommon as a self-critical claim on the part of Real Life artists (writers, filmmakers, songwriters, etc.), though it often tends to have a ring of It's All About Me and Wangst. By extension, it is also very common, especially on the part of the Author Avatar, in fictions, often by the same authors. Often (for extra irony) a source of True Art Is Angsty. May lead the artist (if self-aware) to Shoo the Dog, or Break His Heart to Save Him, at least if they want them to have a chance of a good life. Sometimes, of course, the would-be love object is Genre Savvy enough to spot them coming, put off by the potential for Muse Abuse, or just plain not interested. Or the artist, if unlucky in love, may turn to Muse Abuse of the unresponsive loved one, often with more or less subtle Take Thats and, not least, the implication that the "art" version of the loved one will be what people remember. For obvious reasons, this trope in general has potential to overlap with Writers Suck. And, of course, some genres (blogging, confessional literature, the Roman à Clef, satire, and, of course, Real Person Slash) have this basically built in. Compare Her Code Name Was "Mary Sue", Tuckerization, and The Svengali for a mentor version. Has nothing to do with the band.
— Philip Marlowe, The Singing Detective
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- Majin Tantei Nougami Neuro: Inverted. Singer Aya Asia killed off her best friends because her being happy prevented her from connecting to the loneliness that allowed her to sing so well. Unlike most of the other killers in the series, her killing intent never "possessed her" turning her into a monster. She was a human being who calmly chose to kill the people who loved her and that she loved back.
- Otomen: Juta Tachibana uses genderflipped versions of his friends Asuka and Ryo as characters in his manga, and tends to fret over how the real Asuka and Ryo's relationship isn't progressing, which is holding back his manga characters' relationship. To his credit, with time he grows to feel very guilty about it.
- Paranoia Agent: In the episode "Gossip", a woman finds herself unable to keep up with the local crowd of Gossipy Hens and their stories of Shonen Bat/Lil' Slugger. She comes home at the end of the episode to find Shonen Bat has attacked her husband. Rather than get help, she interrogates him for details.
- Lemon from Waiting in the Summer is this. Seriously, she films almost every development in the series, to the point you wonder when did she get there.
- Rohan Kishibe, a mangaka from Jojos Bizarre Adventure, is dedicated to his fans, and wants very badly to provide them with interesting material. To this end, he uses his stand, Heaven's Door, to turn large portions of interesting people into paper, on which is written their life stories. He then uses their experiences as raw material for his manga, occasionally to the point of ripping pages out of them entirely, leaving his victims anemic and wasting away.
- Animal Man: In the final arc of Grant Morrison's run on the series, Morrison talks about a pet cat who recently died, and how even in mourning, he realized how well it would illustrate his point for the series.
- The Eternal Smile: In Gran'pa Greenbax and the Eternal Smile, the eponymous character learns that he is actual the star of a reality-TV show (a thinly-veiled DuckTales parody), and was once a simple frog who, like all the other 'characters,' was enhanced with a personality chip. The creator of the chip and show, Elias McFadden, explains that Greenbax's personality is based on his own, and we see that at least three others, Greenbax's twin granddaughters and put-upon assistant Filbert, were likely based on people working on the show (McFadden's (adult) twin nieces and a put-upon employee named Norbert).
- Preacher: Amy tells Tulip about her failed relationship with an author who mined their pillow talk for information to use in creating his female characters. (His book also sucked, according to her, but that did not prevent it becoming a bestseller.)
"Never date writers, honey. Writers Suck."
- The Sandman: Both the artists in "Calliope", though this is more literal as they imprisoned and (sexually) abused the eponymous Greek muse. Muse Abuse is also a theme in some of Neil Gaiman's non-graphic fiction works, and he has also spoken about the Real Life version of this. Specifically (from The Sandman Companion):
"As for my take on Shakespeare, I'm basing a lot of it on what I personally find scary about being a storyteller. When something terrible is happening, 99 percent of you is feeling terrible, but 1 percent is standing off to the side - like a little cartoon devil on our shoulder - and saying, "I can use this. Let's see, I'm so upset that I'm actually crying. Are my eyes just tearing, or are they stinging? Yes, they're stinging, and I can feel the tears rolling down my cheeks. How do they feel? Hot. Good, what else?" That's the kind of disconnectedness I wanted to explore."
- Deconstructing Harry: One character is a writer who has ruined countless relationships by doing this. Notably, he fictionalized his cheating on his wife with her sister; the film begins with the fictional recreation of the incident, then the real woman coming to his apartment to shoot him for publishing it.
- Her Alibi: The author main character writes books about an embellished version of himself, and repeatedly narrates events as they happen at the same time, but embellishes everything about himself. Also, when his wife left him for a book critic, he wrote a book called Death of a Critic.
- How To Murder Your Wife: The main character is a comic strip artist who "never has a character do anything he wouldn't do himself." When he marries, his character marries, and his comic strip shifts from a superspy adventure to a situation comedy drawn from his own life. Sick of the drivel he's writing, he decides the comic strip character will murder his comic strip wife — and, of course, he has to at least simulate doing the same himself. His wife is less than pleased when she regains consciousness and realizes what he's done.
- Moulin Rouge!: Christian's Muse Abuse almost leads to the destruction of his and Satine's relationship. Because the musical he is writing is so obviously based on current events, it leads the Duke to realize that they are having an affair and intervene.
- Music and Lyrics: Sophie is a victim of a particularly cruel version of this, courtesy of the English Lit professor who had an affair with her without telling her he was engaged and then, when it went sour, proceeded to write a novel painting her as a talentless gold-digging whore who seduced an innocent writer not a million miles away from himself, ruining his life in the process. The book itself would be bad enough, but the fact that it became a New York Times bestseller and catapulted him to fame and wealth as a literary genius completely destroyed Sophie's confidence in herself and her ability to write. And then, to make matters worse, she learns they're making a movie of it as well. Laser-Guided Karma gets him in the end when the movie — which he wrote — bombs, ruining his reputation while she goes on to success as a songwriter.
- Gil, the writer protagonist of Midnight in Paris, unconsciously wrote himself and people he knows into his novel. The effect is an inversion of the norm: his beta-reader thinks it's unrealistic that the protagonist doesn't realise his fiance is having an affair with the pedantic pseudo-intellectual professor.
Gil: ...it's called denial.
- Taken to extremes in Cabin by the Lake, which centers around a horror movie writer who moonlights as a misogynistic Serial Killer. He kidnaps young women to keep them captive in a featureless room he built into his house, then drowns them in the nearby lake and props them up in an underground graveyard. All throughout he's asking them questions how they feel about their predicament to get more inspiration for the Slasher Movie he's writing.
- Dewey Cox and his first wife in Walk Hard were almost certainly doomed to heartbreak for other reasons, but it certainly did drive her nuts when she could see him working parts of their arguments into song lyrics while they were still arguing. He also wrote a ballad based on their relationship which, while it ostensibly paid lip service to her as "the perfect wife," also portrayed him as being far more sympathetic and contrite for his failings than he actually was, painting her by implication as a harsh, unforgiving bitch.
- Best works played (and indeed has been played as a sketch on German TV). Anyway. The famous composer to his charlady: "Please! Don't go! You can't quit! You are my muse!" "Your muse, Mr. Beethoven? This is...ridiculous! Ha Ha Ha Haaaa!"
- Audrey, Wait!: The story is about a girl whose ex-boyfriend becomes famous for writing a song about her dumping him.
- The Favourite Game: Invoked, complete with an in-universe Creator Breakdown when the lead character realizes what he's done to his muse.
- Haunted, by Chuck Palahniuk: The story is about a creative writing retreat wherein, instead of trying to come up with story ideas, the participants opt to torture each other so they can write a book... about their harrowing experience on the writers' retreat.
- High Fidelity, by Nick Hornby: The lead character and his record store colleagues crush on a woman singer-songwriter, discussing the hope that maybe if one of them got together with her, she'd write a song based on it.
- The Jane Austen Book Club: Allegra dumps Corinne after learning that not only did Corinne use the secrets Allegra told her during intimate moments as the basis for her latest stories, but she didn't even write them well enough to get published.
- Juliet, Naked, by Nick Hornby: The idea of The Muse is subverted, with the character getting really sick of the fanboys that hang around her house wanting to see the woman that inspired their favourite album of break-up songs.
- It's also revealed that Tucker had already moved on from his broken heart and no longer had any feelings for Julie by the time the album was released, and now regards both the album and their affair as part of the same Old Shame, mostly because he had to feign still having a broken heart while he promoted it, mostly because said pretence lead to him abandoning his girlfriend and his first child- leading him to avoid the music business for twenty years. Annie eventually points out that the album is practically the only aspect of the situation he shouldn't be ashamed of.
- My Name Is Asher Lev, by Chaim Potok: "Asher Lev paints good pictures and hurts the people he loves. Then be a great painter, Asher Lev; that will be the only justification for all the pain you will cause. But as a great painter I will cause pain again if I must. Then become a greater painter. But I will cause pain again. Then become a still greater painter. Master of the Universe, will I live this way all the rest of my life?"
- The Oval Portrait, by Edgar Allan Poe: An artist becomes obsessed with painting a perfect portrait of his new wife and fails to notice that her health is failing while she models for him. When he finishes the painting, he ecstatically declares it to be "life itself" then turns to look at his wife eager to share his triumph only to see that she died while he was finishing the portrait.
- Portraits Of His Children, by George R.R. Martin: The main character takes this to its absolute worst level, as explained in The Reveal. His daughter was brutally raped, and the rapist was never caught. When the main character found her, the phrase he used to comfort her was "Show me where it hurts," referring both to her physical and psychological trauma. A few months later, he published, and made a significant amount of money off of, a thriller called Show Me Where It Hurts, a fictional version of the rape story in which that line was reassigned to the rapist. The main character is utterly stunned when his daughter shows up in a rage, calling him a rapist because he'd "raped" her story for profit.
- The Sacrifice, by Julie Steven: An author believes his wife's health is connected to his work: as her health fails, he is more inspired and becomes ever more popular. Though he grapples with guilt over her suffering, the narrator notes that he wouldn't change anything if given the chance, ulimately too addicted to being critically acclaimed to give it up. Said narrator is actually his wife's muse, plotting to punish him for neglecting his wife despite how fully she devoted herself to him.
- Small World, by David Lodge: Discussed when two writers sleep together only after promising each other they wouldn't use the encounter as material in their writing.
- The Chimney-Sweeper's Boy, by Ruth Rendell: Novelist Gerald Candless, a Posthumous Character for most of the book, has spent his career plundering his private life for his fiction, much to the detriment of his marriage. As it turns out, his official biography is not what you would call accurate.
- Sherlock Holmes rather petulantly implies Watson has done this to him in "The Copper Beeches" by twisting and romanticizing the incidents into undignified adventure stories rather than dry scientific pamphlets. Holmes's claim is intended to be ridiculous and not meant to be taken seriously.
- From the Sherlock-narrated 'The Adventure of the Blanched Soldier': "I have often had occasion to point out to him how superficial are his own accounts and to accuse him of pandering to popular taste instead of confining himself rigidly to facts and figures. "Try it yourself, Holmes!" he has retorted, and I am compelled to admit that, having taken my pen in my hand, I do begin to realize that the matter must be presented in such a way as may interest the reader."
- In the John Updike novel Bech Is Back, the main character is a writer, and his wife complains that he is (unconsciously?) mining her for material.
Bea: —I've felt myself in your mind, being digested, becoming a character.
- Boy Meets World: Eric once dated a sweet folk singer girl, but soon broke up with her. Once he did so, she immediately went metal and wrote a song about how horrible he was which became a smash hit. She then set up a meeting with him, ostensibly to apologize, but he realized that she just wanted more angst to write songs about. He refused to play that game, - instead he got back together with her, prompting her to start writing Tastes Like Diabetes love songs about him and effectively ending her career.
- The eponymous mystery writer meets Kate Beckett, a sexy female police detective, and decides to write a series of novels about an eerily similar sexy female police detective. He even refers to Beckett, repeatedly, as his Muse. Unlike most examples of this trope, this is rarely considered to be a bad thing in-show, barring Beckett's frustration at the "slutty" nature of her fictional counterpart, Nikki Heat. This is helped by the fact that Castle is The Lancer to Beckett and the main story arc involves her crusade (to catch her mother's killer) rather than his.
- The 'Nikki Heat' novels, which have actually been published as real novels, play with this trope. Upon reading them with knowledge of the TV series, the characters are clearly drawn from and recognizably the people Castle interacts with (Nikki Heat is clearly drawn from Kate Beckett, Jameson Rook is Castle, Ochoa is Esposito, Raley is Ryan, etc), and many of the situations clearly drawn from the episodes of the series. However, while certain familiar references might pop up, the cases themselves are usually notably different or amalgams of the episodes rather than taken outright, and the characters also display several traits that distinguish them from the originals (Nikki Heat is more sexually active and promiscuous than Beckett, Rook is less perceptive and useful in solving the crimes than Castle, and so forth). Most notably, although Heat and Rook were together by the end of the first book, the "Will They or Won't They?" between Beckett and Castle was still going strong in the fourth season, by which point the third book was already out.
- ER: In one episode, someone leaves a manuscript of a steamy, melodramatic romance novel set in a hospital and featuring very thinly-veiled, exaggerated versions of Cook County General's staff, including a crippled female tyrant (Weaver), a badly-written Latina nurse (Chuny), a tall burly clerk (Jerry), and a charming Handsome Lech (Doug).
- One episode of Frasier sees a steamy romance novel become a bestseller which turns out to have been based on a story Frasier once told the author, in confidence, about his first time. Frasier's initially furious at not being at least acknowledged, but eventually realises he's actually angry about how the relationship ended.
- An episode of Full House has Stephanie deliberately manipulating DJ and Steve's relationship in order to get material for a story she's writing; when they find out, they start acting in exactly the opposite way Stephanie expects in order to make her stop.
- In an episode of Hey Dude!, Danny has a newspaper comic strip that is essentially all of his friends' quirks and character flaws Played for Laughs. It's a big hit, but he stops writing it when he realizes he's just mocking his friends for profit.
- Home and Away: The show seems to portray writers as having no original ideas, just copying things that happened to them. One classic example involved Angel entering a writing competition with a romance story, and basing it heavily on best friend Sarah's doomed romance with a Jerk With A Heart Of Jerk. She thought she'd changed enough details that no-one would know what her inspiration was. Everyone did, leading to a big falling out with Sarah.
- Home Improvement: In the Show Within a Show Tool Time, Tim Taylor occasionally jokes about his wife, which at least one time has gotten him into trouble with her (getting caught up in one-upping other guys about annoying habits of wives, while still on-air, will do that). But in another episode he says he's figured out a system; he saves all his wife jokes until she's already mad at him for something.
- On Just Shoot Me!, Maya dates the host of a children's puppet show, and later discovers that he's using his relationship as material for his show, painting her as a greedy harrigan and even suggesting a three-way with Nina.
- The L Word: Jenny's book fictionalises the events of season one of the show. Needless to say, a lot of her friends are not at all happy with their depictions. The movie ramps it up even further.
- An episode of Mad About You involves Jaime learning an ex-boyfriend has based a comic book supervillain on her, and confronting him.
- Malcolm in the Middle: In one episode, Dewey takes the home drama that was unfolding around Hal and Lois getting s king-sized bed and turns it into an opera.
- In the start of The Middle Man, the heroine's struggling artist boyfriend tells her that he doesn't have enough pain and angst in his life to make truly brilliant material, so he needs to obtain "heartbreak" by dumping her. She doesn't take this well.
- The Nanny: Fran meets a rock singer named Tasha, who has become so successful, she's become jaded and developed writers block and can't write the Angst-filled songs she's famous for. She becomes friends with Fran, and mines her misery for her songs. Unfortunately, hanging with a rock star improves Fran's mood, and since she's no longer miserable, Tasha dumps her for her friend Val.
- NCIS: Timothy McGee writes a series of mystery novels transparently based on his co-workers, under the pseudonym Thom E. Gemcity; he very loosely bases minor characters on people at the coffee shop where he does his writing. This comes back to haunt him when a Loony Fan starts killing these muses in ways which follow the plot of the latest novel.
- The Singing Detective: Discussed; the lead character thinks this comes with the territory if you're a writer. See also the Quotes section.
- Slings and Arrows: Anna dates a playwright and is upset when he more or less transcribes her dinner conversation about her hometown into his play.
- Star Trek: Voyager:
- In "Author, Author", the EMH makes a holonovel about a fictional ship stranded in the Delta Quadrant. It is best described as extreme Muse Abuse of Voyager's crew, so much so that the EMH has to rework the novel. The episode's main conflict is that the publisher won't allow the EMH to revise it, because holograms don't have rights. (The Federation decides that while he can't be classified as a person, he can be classified as an artist.)
- Notably averted in an earlier episode. While searching through the holodeck's database, Paris finds what appears to be a holonovel casting the Maquis members of the crew as mutineers. Despite this portrayal, even the "villains" happily play along. Ultimately, it's revealed it wasn't even meant to be art, but a training simulation made by Tuvok for security personnel when mutiny was considered a real danger before trust with the Maquis provisional crew was established. Then it turns out that one of their old enemies had rigged it to turn into a Death Trap for whoever used it.
- On Wizards of Waverly Place, when Alex is too lazy and irresponsible to help out Harper stage a street-corner puppet show to raise funds to help pay the rent when they are rooming together in an apartment post-graduation, the two have a falling out, and Harper's puppet show features a lazy, irresponsible character that even the little kids watching the show know is meant to be Alex. Alex also figures it out easily while watching, and starts her own show, magically shrinking Justin and Zeke to use as her "puppets".
- The Beautiful South's "Song For Whoever" is written from the point of view of someone who does this for profit.
- Bob Dylan and Leonard Cohen both use this theme (in Cohen's case, also in novels)
- Eminem's "Cleaning Out My Closet".
- Jim White lampshades this trope in action in his song Christmas Day, which describes a painful meeting between the narrator and an ex-lover: '...and I thought, damn, what good fiction I could mould from this terrible pain.'
- The Barenaked Ladies' song "Running Out Of Ink" is about a songwriter who starts writing songs about his friends and their secrets. He gets famous and is alienated by his friends, but has been driven to drink because of it. At the end of the song, he puts all of the songs he wrote in a plastic bag and throws them off a bridge, while contemplating jumping himself.
- Lou Reed's infamous Berlin album charts the destruction of his marriage and the self-destruction of his then wife through substance abuse, wife-beating, promiscuity, emotional cruelty and loss of their children to a suicide attempt on her part. note .
- Phil Collins was possibly rightly pilloried by Spitting Image for his tendency to write this sort of stuff every time a marriage broke up. the parody song I'm So Lonely is a skewering send-up of Collins' angst-ridden marriage breakup single Against All Odds
- Drake's habit of calling out his former flames, complete with first names, locations, and voicemail recordings, has started catching up to them (and increasingly him) as he becomes a superstar.
- The creator of For Better or for Worse based the Pattersons off her own family, and often used the medium passive-aggressively. For most of its run, she portrayed her husband as a idiotic, lecherous boor and the kids as selfish whiners who only existed to make their mother's life miserable. She frequently claimed events in the strip were based closely on real life... such as Michael and his pals peeking into a female classmate's bedroom while she undressed. The Inspirationally Disadvantaged Shannon was based off a relative. In the strip's final years, after divorcing her second husband, the strip took a turn for Wish Fulfillment, with the Pattersons almost all becoming Purity Sues and falling right into the careers and marriages Elly wanted for them... a none-too-subtle Take That at reality and her own children's refusal to do exactly what Mommy wanted.
- Several of Henrik Ibsen's plays, especially the late ones, with The Master Builder and When We Dead Awaken as standout examples. Sometimes, especially in the latter two cases, The Muse (typically a much younger girl, at least at the time of the Muse Abuse) gets her own back eventually.
- The Shape of Things, by Neil LaBute: This trope is combined with a Pygmalion Plot.
- Crossing over with Real Life, in the play Tru, Truman Capote reflects on being banished from Manhattan social circles after unflattering caricatures of various socialites appeared in Esquire: "How could they have spent all that time being friends with a writer and then be surprised I was taking notes?"
- Gabriel Knight 2: The title character's Blake Backlash novels are "loosely" based on local events and people he knows: a manuscript page found in Gabriel Knight 2: The Beast Within spoils the ending of Gabriel Knight: Sins of the Fathers.
- In Katawa Shoujo, this a big part of Rin's route. As she prepares for her art exhibit, she refuses to reply to Hisao's Love Confession, orders him not to visit, and shuts him out entirely. One of the biggest conflicts in this route is Hisao's struggle with Rin's incomprehensibility, and Rin's difficulties with expressing her feelings.
- DAR! A Super Girly Top Secret Comic Diary, by Erika Moen: This trope is covered in this comic.
- Sluggy Freelance: Zoe lands a spot on a radio talk-show - starting out as a comic-relief side-character, she ends up basically taking it over, by regaling the listeners with the outrageous (and completely accurate) stories of her friend's misadventures. Which fails to amuse the rest of the main characters, who are somewhat annoyed that she openly mocks them on the air, with only the flimsiest cover-names in place, and ends up basically kicking her out of the house.
- American Dad!: When Steve wrote a series of children's books with a character based on Roger, Roger was flattered until he found out how the character acts.
- Rocket Power: Sam makes a game that glorifies himself while adding his friends in the game, accentuating their negative traits and qualities. He does make his friends much less idiotic in the end though.
- The Simpsons:
- When Homer outed himself as muckraking blogger "Mr. X" his friends stopped talking to him since they figured it would all go on the blog.
- Bart's "Angry Dad" character was based on Homer's frequent angry outbursts. When Homer decided he didn't want to be an Internet buffoon, he repressed his rage, leading Bart to set up an elaborate booby trap in the backyard for the sake of inspiration.
- When Marge wrote a romance novel called The Harpooned Heart, she wrote in the main character Temperance's husband Captain Mordecai as an abusive, selfish slob like Homer, and her love interest Cyris is an all-around good guy based on Ned Flanders. Note that she originally wrote Mordecai as a caring, suave husband until Homer put on yet another display of lazy jerkassery.
- In the Family Guy episode "You Can't Do That On Television, Peter," Peter becomes a kid's TV show host. When Lois starts nagging him about neglecting his own family for the sake of the show, Peter creates a new character: An ugly Lois-styled hand puppet he calls "Saggy Naggy," which he uses to replicate her nagging to an outlandish degree. The child audience hate the puppet so much that they attack Lois in real life, thinking that she's Saggy Naggy.
- "I Almost Saw This Girl Get Killed," by David Sedaris: An essay where Sedaris recounts watching a potentially fatal accident at a fairground and that feeling of horror and fascination you get — while mentally rehearsing the story you'll tell people if provided with the right gory ending. Another couple of essays reflect how his family feels about using stories about their child and adult selves for material:
Details were carefully chosen, and the pace built gradually, punctuated by a series of well-timed pauses. "And then... and then...." She reached the inevitable conclusion, and, just as I started to laugh, she put her head against the steering wheel and fell apart. It wasn't the gentle flow of tears you might release when recalling an isolated action or event, but the violent explosion that comes when you realize that all such events are connected, forming an endless chain of guilt and suffering. I instinctively reached for the notebook I keep in my pocket, and she grabbed my hand to stop me. "If you ever," she said, "ever repeat that story, I will never talk to you again." [...] "Oh, come on," I said. "That story's really funny, and it's not like you're gonna do anything with it!" Your life; your privacy; your bottomless sorrow; it's not like you're gonna do anything with it. Is this the brother I always was, or the brother I have become?note
- Ibsen apparently explicitly invoked this in his Real Life as well as his plays.
- When Norwegian author Karl Ove Knausgård wrote his seven-volume work "My Struggle", he was rightfully accused of this, especially by his former wives and girlfriends, because he wrote of his own life in minute detail, sparing noone.
- Another Norwegian example occured in the early sixties, stating that this trope can be taken to destructive extremes. Author Agnar Mykle was forced to stop one of his publications, because his wife´s family intervened, taking legal action against him. The impact was so harsh on her (he had tried to use her tragic backstory as a theme in his novel), that she was Driven to Madness and later Driven to Suicide.
- See also the Neil Gaiman example, above. He also wrote a short story about his grandmother disappearing in supernatural circumstances that was apparently so close to the truth that people who knew the true version got confused as to what really happened.
- Howard Stern, according to himself, ruined his first marriage and a large number of his long-time friendships due to his mockery of them on his show.
- This woman named a doll after her daughter, Barbara. Then, she designed a boyfriend for said doll, naming him after Kenneth, Barbara's brother. Then, the kids grew up and she named some new dolls after her grandchildren: Stacy, Kelly, Tommy...If you haven't figured it out yet, you've been living in a cave for the last 50 years. While it is a little disturbing that she hooked up dolls based on her children, at least the dolls lack genitalia.
- A. A. Milne, in real life, had a difficult relationship with his son Christopher Robin, partly due to this.
- Supposedly, Christopher Robin as a grownup said his happiest moment at boarding school was when some of the other boys bought him a copy of "Christopher Robin is saying his prayers" on vinyl so he could smash it with a hammer.
- The real life Kitty Pryde now goes by a different name, as she got very tired of the Shadowcat fanboys.
- The documentary Marwencol is all about this trope. After suffering memory loss after an attack, Mark Hogancamp starts building a 1/6-scale World War II-era town in his yard and populating it with dolls representing himself, his friends, and even his attackers. He rehabilitates his physical wounds by manipulating the small dolls and props — and his mental ones by having the figures act out various battles and stories. When Mark begins documenting his miniature dramas with his camera, his photos are discovered and published by Esopus magazine and even shown in a New York art gallery.
- Back in 2006 and 2007, Christian Weston Chandler wrote about his then-"gal pal" Megan, portraying her as a Sailor Soldier head over heels in love with him. Megan wasn't pleased at his assumption that they were in a relationship. Fast-forward to November 2007, when Chris posts a porn drawing of himself having sex with Megan on Encyclopedia Dramatica. Megan sees it and is horrified; Chris defends the art by explaining the sex act to her, while missing the point that Megan was not horrified at the act depicted, but rather at the subject of the pic. He later claimed that what she was suffering was nothing compared to what he was going through at the hands of the trolls. She hasn't talked to him since.
- Paul Reiser reports that when fighting with his wife, he would sometimes get a distracted expression on his face, and she would say, "You're thinking of how to use this in Mad About You, aren't you?!"
- Heather Armstrong talks about how blogging got her fired, ruined her relationships, and pissed off her family in her About page (of course, then it made her rich and famous.).
- Similar things have happened to other bloggers. "Mommy-blogging" in general is criticized heavily for this reason, partly out of concern for the children's privacy and dignity when the mothers share very private moments online, and partly out of concern for the children's well-being when the mothers become rich and famous off carefully covered-up abuse and neglect. One small-time mommy-blogger with Munchausen-by-proxy actually murdered her son to get hits on her blog.
- Randy Milholland based the characters of Something*Positive on his own family and friends, and nominal protagonist Davan is himself from several years ago. As time passed, the characters developed differently but when Faye, Davan's mother died, his mother wasn't happy that people seemed relieved that she was all right.
- He also notes that one of the reasons he doesn't have Davan and Pee-Jee hook up is because "real Pee-Jee" doesn't like the idea. Conversely, the real versions of Jason and Aubrey aren't married, but they apparently didn't mind hooking up in the comic.
- Matt Groening originally based The Simpsons off of his own family, even naming the toon family after them (replacing his own name with "Bart"). Of course, before being animated, the characters underwent a few major changes and exaggerations into their current form. Abe shared the same name as Matt's grandfather, but it turns out that the choice to give him that name was a coincidence.