Don Jon (formerly titled Don Jon's Addiction) is a 2013 Romantic Comedy starring Joseph Gordon-Levitt, who also wrote and directed the film. The film also stars Scarlett Johansson, Julianne Moore, Tony Danza, Glenne Headly, and Brie Larson.Jon Martello, Jr. (Gordon-Levitt) is a modern-day Don Juan who loves his body, his pad, his ride, his family, his church, his boys, his girls and, most especially, his porn. But soon he realizes his life is feeling rather empty, so he decides to try searching for a more meaningful relationship, while learning about himself in the process. And when he meets gorgeous Barbara (Johansson), his life gets turned upside down.
This film provides examples of:
All Take and No Give: Both Jon and Barbara are guilty of this in varying degrees. Jon gets better about it; Barbara doesn't.
Ambiguously Jewish: Barbara, who has the very Jewish-sounding surname of Sugarman and seems mystified at Jon's post-confession penance (though who wouldn't be, watching someone whisper a fitful Hail Mary while pumping iron?). (Scarlett Johansson, who plays her, is Jewish.)
Her character is shown wearing a small gold cross around her neck, making her unambiguously Gentile.
Blithe Spirit: Esther, though it turns out to be more of a cover for the pain of losing her husband and child the year before.
The Cameo: Anne Hathaway and Channing Tatum as characters in the romance film that Jon and Barbara go to see at the movies. Cuba Gooding, Jr. and Megan Good likewise appear as characters in yet another romantic movie that Jon and Barbara watch.
The Casanova: Jon is known for his ability to get ladies into bed, hence his nickname "Don Jon."
Barbara does this as well during her argument with Jon after she finds out he's been looking at porn.
Control Freak: Barbara. Once she and Jon start dating, she makes him go to night school so he can get an "actual" job (and even chooses the class he attends) and checks his web history (which is how she learns he looks at porn).
The bizarre scene where she refuses to let him pick up some Swiffer pads and clearly doesn't want him doing housework at all may count too.
Deconstruction: Of romantic comedies in general. Also, within the movie, Jon realizes that romantic movies distort women's expectations of what romantic relationships should be in a similar way to how porn distorts sex for men.
Double Entendre: Right before the Jizzed in My Pants moment explained below, Barbara tells Jon "I can't let you come inside yet." In other words, Barbara is telling him that, until they take their relationship to the next level, that's the furthest he's going to get.
Played for Drama with Jon losing his cool on the way to Sunday Church and Confessional. Most of the time, he just curses the other driver out, but after the breakup with Barbara, he walks up to and busts the window of a Prius. After making love with Esther, he sings along with a dance music song on the way to church.
Also Played for Drama with Jon's Sunday confessionals. He repeatedly confesses his indulgences in sex and pornography, and happily accepts his penance every time. Eventually, however, he confesses his more meaningful lovemaking with Esther and objects when the priest gives the usual penance.
The priest could have commented on Jon's confessing that he had lied before to him or another priest in earlier confessions; the fact that he just gives out the usual penance without commenting on that adds to Jon's dismay over this.
A visual Running Gag is the repeated shots of Jon strutting down the gym hallway towards the weight room. In the final such shot, he stops and instead goes into the basketball court.
Second Act Breakup: Barbara breaks up with Jon half-way through the movie over him lying about his porn addiction.
Jon also mentions this happening in all romantic movies.
Second Love: Jon's relationship with Esther seems to work out better than the first one.
So Was X: Barbara remarks that the difference between movies and porn is that movies get awards; Jon responds that porn movies get awards too.
Soft Glass: Jon smashing a car's safety glass with his fist.
Truth in Television: The idea of porn being an addiction and that being in a relationship doesn't necessarily curtail it.
The Unfair Sex: Subverted. At first, the movie follows the typical Second Act Breakup of a Rom Com, with the blame of the relationship failing falling on Jon. After reflecting on it with both his family and Esther, the conclusion is the relationship had to be a two-way street, and Barbara was too controlling and demeaning.