These guys are considered the model military officers. Most forms of media will typically portray the Officer and a Gentleman
as being a member of the upper-class
in whatever society he originates, and almost undoubtedly attended a Military Academy
. If this character is a British officer (or speaking with an English accent), you can often tell whether he is an officer and a gentleman because he will almost invariably speak with a received pronunciation (i.e., the Queen’s English).
Besides typically being a member of the upper crust, an officer and gentleman is personified by his behavior: No matter how savage the fighting, no matter how pitiless the combat, the officer almost never lets his base nature take over. He will remain polite, and even in the worst of situations will always retain his sense of propriety, often unfailingly displaying a Stiff Upper Lip
. If a more clever sort, he may also be possessed of an Upper-Class Wit
. After all, a gentleman is not a mere label, but a way of life.
For example, an officer and a gentleman will rarely if ever cuss
, and never knowingly in the presence of a lady. He will rarely drink to the point of inebriation, unless it is used for comedic purposes
or to tragically show how the war may be taking a toll on him
. He would never, ever take advantage of a lady
, and will be very protective of women, both of their persons and their sensibilities, even when it is not merited. Further, if you insult his honour, or worse, the honour of a lady he fancies, you may earn yourself a challenge
to a duel
, unless profuse apology is the next thing out of your mouth. Otherwise, expect a fair, gentlemanly duel
in which he will proceed to carve you into cutlets. However, he would not think of fighting dirty
, and most certainly Would Not Shoot a Civilian
on purpose. On the other hand, if he is evil, he might have some of his less honourable henchmen do the Dirty Business
for him. Further, whether good or bad, he will always keep his word. . .after all, he gave his word as a gentleman
. Characters typifying this trope often have the habit, for better or worse, of displaying Honour Before Reason
Do not misunderstand—this fellow can be just as deadly as any other warrior; often more so, because one aspect that is often used with this trope is the fact that the more experienced officers are typically very composed
and often have Nerves of Steel
, making them less likely to act irrationally or misstep. However, while his training and experience may have forged him into a very skilled fighter, he will rarely be a Combat Pragmatist
, and can often fall victim to more unsporting chaps.
When it comes to actual leadership ability, the Officer and a Gentleman
runs the gamut. If portrayed in a good light, the officer will be shown as being a Reasonable Authority Figure
, like The Brigadier
, and if he takes pains to look out for his soldier’s wellbeing, he is A Father to His Men
. In a really positive light, they may be shown to be great front-line leaders and warriors as well, playing the role of Colonel
or General Badass
. If they are being portrayed in a negative light, they will be the General Ripper
or The Neidermeyer
. If they are cruel and/or incompetent, they will most likely be portrayed as a General Failure
. While these more negative incarnations may be just as dedicated to politeness and etiquette as the good ones, their good behaviour is reserved for their superiors and people of proper social rank, rather than the rabble of men they lead. Further, the evil officer would not hesitate saying "We Have Reserves
." After all, the only ones whose lives are at risk are the commoner soldiers, and who cares about them
Remember, what separates this character from the Proud Warrior Race Guy
or the Warrior Poet
is not only the character’s devotion to honour, but to a set of "gentlemanly" principles, which include good manners and etiquette. Most representations of the officer and gentleman are most certainly Lawful Good
or at least Lawful Neutral
. If on the side of the antagonists, or the major antagonist himself, he will often be Lawful Evil
, and is often portrayed as an Anti-Villain
. Satirical versions of this trope are often represented as being Lawful Stupid
Compare with Knight Errant
and Knight in Shining Armor
. If during peacetime the Officer and a Gentleman
was an academic
, then he is a Gentleman and a Scholar
. If there's focus on the gentleman part then he follows the code of Old-School Chivalry
Not to be confused with the film, An Officer and a Gentleman
, the 1982 movie with Richard Gere and Deborah Winger.
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- Pip Bernadotte in Hellsing is a lot more cultured than most of the men in his squad. And he is the heroine's love interest.
- Sir Allen Schezar in the Vision of Escaflowne has this kind of quality, being a well-spoken, clean-shaved gentleman commanding a Ragtag Bunch of Misfits. He seems rather chauvinistic at times to his love interests (Princess Millerna and Hitomi), though this is somewhat explained through his tragic backstory because Allen is pretty screwed up after he failed to protect three women he very much cared for: his mother (dead), his younger sister Selena (kidnapped and tortured by Zaibach, to the point of her becoming someone else), and his first love Marlenne (married King Freyr, had Allen as her lover and the father of her kid Chid unbeknownst to Allen, died too). To top it all, he heavily blames his Disappeared Dad for abandoning their family... not knowing that Leon Schezar had died many years ago. To his credit, he gets better and is reunited with his sister.
- In Fullmetal Alchemist, Major Armstrong lives this trope, especially compared to the behavior of most of the other officers in the Amestrian Army, who range from sexist pigs, shameless flirts, Badass Briggs soldiers and pencil necked stiffs (with the occasional psychopath thrown into the mix).
- To a degree, Hiroshi Yagyuu and Yuushi Oshitari from The Prince of Tennis.
- 2nd Lt. Alice L. Malvin in Pumpkin Scissors has very definite ideas on what it means to be the daughter of one of "the thirteen noble families." The example she sets shames other less principled members of the privileged class, and impresses poor commoners outraged by the nobility's excesses.
- Major Kusanagi can be an Officer or a Lady. She can be very kind and blends in perfectly with high society but doesn't hold back her badassitude in combat.
- In Mobile Suit Gundam Wing, OZ, the special forces unit that overthrows the world government to change the destiny of the human species, strives for its leaders to be this—at least, when they're not being slaughtered by the Gundam pilots. Its unfailingly-cultured and chivalrous commander, Treize Khushrenada, is this in spades accordingly, even amid his scheming and plotting.
- Several characters in Strike Witches and its associated media. Heinrike Prinzessin zu Sayn-Wittgenstein being the most prominent example, Karlsland ace with noble Orussian heritage.
- Taki from Hyakujitsu No Bara
- Hans von Hammer, from the Enemy Ace comics from DC Comics, is the epitome of the trope.
- His most noteable aspect, apart from working for the other side, is not shooting down already damaged aircraft. A straight on duel, yes, plinking the defenseless, no.
- Making it Truth in Comic Books. In the early days of military aviation, fighter pilots had complex rules of chivalry which included "never shoot a cripple."
- Captain America has his own special ranking within the US military and is considered one of the most gentlemanly of all the heroes in the Marvel Universe. It's not uncommon for even the bad guys to look up to him.
- Rarity is this in Friends of a Solar Empire.
- Lampshaded by the Mass Effect fanfic, "An Officer and a Not-So-Gentle Woman".
- The protagonist Asher Walters becomes this in later chapters of The Chronicles of Utopia. Enlisted in Veluna's army, he is given officer training and becomes a battalion commander who looks after his men and followers a fairly strict code of conduct, though he is not afraid of using illusion and trickery to confuse and demoralize the enemy.
- The character of Lieutenant Phillip Holtack, and other British officer types described in, A.A. Pessimal's Slipping Between Worlds. Holtack is a fairly typical product of officer training in the recently modern British Army, a largely easy-going liberally-minded young man, content to leave most of the command and disciplinary stuff to a far more experienced platoon sergeant, considerate to his men and despairingly protective of the rogue and villain Fusilier "Head-Butt" Powell. Abruptly uprooted to a strange and foreign place, he has to work out quickly just how big a bastard he needs to be to survive, but he is still a good-mannered well-brought-up young man who, even without complete awareness of what lady Assassins and female Vampires are capable of, still treats them as a gentleman should... he has also been exposed to hostility and extreme opinions by his right-on feminist sister's associates, but still manages to treat even Greenham Common types with politeness and common respect.
- General Kozmotis Pitchiner is usually portrayed this way, which makes what he later becomes all the more tragic.
- Commodore Norrington of Pirates of the Caribbean fame started out this way, but went disappointingly south once he fell from royal favor, Death Equals Redemption notwithstanding.
- He did let his emotions get the best of him even in the first film. When Elizabeth asked him to go rescue Will from Barbossa, Norrington refused until she agreed to marry him. Then all his talk of duty and serving others went right out the window.
- Colonel Robert Gould Shaw from Glory. Also a Real Life example.
- Forbidden Planet: While his crew openly lusted after Altaira, Commander Adams was chastising her for her overt and provocative behavior. Granted, the only male she ever had contact with prior to the arrival of the C57D was her father, so her social skills in this area were decidedly undeveloped. And, of course, it was Commander Adams she ultimately fell in love with.
- Major West in 28 Days Later initially appears to be this sort of character — a civilized, erudite gentleman in contrast to his lewd, boisterous underlings. Then he agrees to let his men gang-rape the female civilians they've "rescued". And seems a wee bit fond of Jim, as well. And then, when Jim brutally slaughters all of his men, he abandons what little of his civilized side he has left and goes completely insane.
- The movie The Water Horse plays with this trope by initially presenting the captain as per the trope as an Oxbridge educated gentleman leading "common" soldiers, but then reveals him as a mild example of The Neidermeyer before allowing some redemption towards the end of the film.
- Captain Jack Aubrey in Master and Commander represents this trope to a T. Jack is still gentlemanly in the novels, but is far more complex. He often philanders (away from Mrs. Aubrey!), dislikes and goes to great lengths to avoid duels. Even though he is of far lesser "rank," his friend Dr. Maturin is much closer to this idea.
- Chard, Bromhead, and Bourne in Zulu.
- The Bollywood movie "Lakshya" (based on the Kargil War between India and Pakistan) has a sequence where Amitabh Bachchan orders his men to bury slain Pakistani soldiers in accordance to their religion. The soldiers protest, citing the defiling of Indian soldiers by the Pakistani army. His reply, translated roughly, is: "Even in war, we show some decency/dignity" ("हम युध मे भी एक शराफत रखते हैं।")
- Admiral Boom in Mary Poppins, if you sidestep the fact that he shoots cannons from the top of his roof with absolute punctuality.
- Captain Anson in Ice Cold in Alex not only recovers from Drowning My Sorrows as he flees Rommel's assault in a beaten-up ambulance, but also saves the life of a South African soldier who tagged along for the ride who's revealed to be a German spy.
- Captain Nicholls in War Horse is a typical example, even objecting to his superior's plan to attack an undefended German garrison with a surprise cavalry charge. Like a good officer, though, he follows orders. He doesn't have much of a Stiff Upper Lip, though, and the look of horror and desperation is evident on his face when he realizes that the Germans have set up machineguns in the treeline, which are mowing down the cavalry. He keeps charging, though.
- From The Avengers, the good Captain America qualifies. He's less uppercrust and more the ideal American Boy Next Door type; however, he makes up for that with his keen intelligence and artistic talent. He's unfailingly polite to every woman he meets - he shields Black Widow instead of himself or Hawkeye during battle, and he pretty much gets lip-raped by a random secretary because he can't figure out how to turn down her advances without being rude. He will do anything to help a friend, even go on what basically amounts to a suicide mission, alone. The only time we see him drinking heavily is when said friend dies later on - and even then, his hyperactive metabolism won't let him get drunk. He plays The Spock to Iron Man's The McCoy (and challenges Iron Man to a one-on-one fistfight, not over a woman, but because Tony's being the consummate douchebag we all know and love). And the only time we hear him swear is when he's vehemently ordering his love interest (who outranks him) to get the hell outta Dodge before she's shot down by anti-aircraft artillery. Damn.
- Commander James Bond, serving the Royal Navy before being recruited by MI6 as a double-O agent. He's seen in uniform in You Only Live Twice, The Spy Who Loved Me, and Tomorrow Never Dies.
- Discworld subverts this in Jingo in the form of Willikins, Vimes' butler-turned-sergeant. When addressing Vimes, Willikins is the picture of politeness - so far so good - but when talking to the men under his charge he turns into a bellowing, foul-mouthed authoritarian. Also played straight with Lord Rust, who is the negative, incompetent, "Blue Blood who is polite to equals and superiors only" variety, with lots of "honor" and not a lot of reason, utterly convinced that their enemy (who has spent the last several decades fighting a variety of enemies and getting really good at it) will "turn and flee the minute they taste cold steel"; he is described in Night Watch as following the "subtract the enemy's casualties from thine own, and if the number is positive, then it was a Glorious Victory" school of strategy.
- Sergeant Jackrum would tell you that as a sergeant, Wilikins is neither an officer or a gentleman. Sergeants are crafty bastards, and he would know.
- Lieutenant Blouse of Monstrous Regiment fame would fit this trope if it were any other kind of story—he's an officer, a gentleman, and honorable to a fault — but war is a very ugly thing that has no time for honor and chivalry.
- Faramir from The Lord of the Rings fits this trope perfectly. An officer and gentleman, he is extremely honorable (to the point he wouldn't lie even to an orc) and impeccably courteous (even toward his war prisoners).
- Any book by Lois McMaster Bujold is guaranteed to have one of these. All Barrayaran officers are expected to be, and sometimes they even are:
- Aral and Miles play this trope to a tee. Cordelia—as a captain in the Betan Expeditionary Force—is the female equivalent...as contrasted with Cordelia's prior tour in the Betan Astronomical Survey, where being captain was more like being Team Mom.
- Ista from Paladin Of Souls ends up with that guy's younger brother who behaves much more casual and considers himself second best at everything. Of course the older one was taken and undead.
- A young example (and lampshade) is Lieutenant Miles Vorkosigan in Cetaganda who early in the book reminds himself that he is "an officer and a nobleman."
- Miles' reliative Ivan also shows quite a few traits of this.
- Ivan—a soldier in the Barrayaran Imperial Service—employs some irony when asked, "Are you a hired killer?" He replies, "Well, in a ''sense''."
- The Chaste Hero Captain Avery in the book The Pyrates which is a Deconstructor Fleet of pirate movie cliches fits this description perfectly.
- Despite being a rabble-rousing populist, General Nortier of The Count of Monte Cristo provides a good example of a gentleman soldier behaving honorably to those of the same class, even if on opposing sides. In the backstory which lead to Dantes' imprisonment, Franz d'Epinay's father, a Royalist, was caught infiltrating the group of pro-Napoleon soldiers Nortier belonged to and seeing that d'Epinay was a fellow gentleman, Nortier allowed him to duel to the death instead of simply killing him outright.
- Several examples in War and Peace. Two prominent ones are the French captain Ramballe and Field Marshal Kutuzov. War isn't very personal; most prisoners throughout the book are treated relatively well, even equally.
- Capt. Laurence, of Temeraire. He was originally a British Navy captain—where such is apparently expected—before harnessing Temeraire, and is still more polished and formal than most of his crew and fellow officers, the Air Corps almost necessarily being much less formal. His own crew, out of admiration for him, started taking after his example. However, he is slowly starting to bend, especially concerning his lieutenant, Granby.
- Peter D'Alembord from Sharpe, a charming, elegant and well-educated gentleman (who only joined the army because he killed a man in a duel).
- Commander Mitth'raw'nuruodo, of the Star Wars Expanded Universe novel Outbound Flight, qualifies as one, if one given to somewhat underhanded tactics and a his own set of morals. However, later-set books have him as an Affably Imperial Cultured Warrior.
- The hares of the Long Patrol army in the Redwall series behave like this (even some of the ones who aren't actually in the Long Patrol). The Long Patrol itself didn't appear by name in the first few books, but grew in importance eventually taking centre stage in (naturally) The Long Patrol.
- Jane Austen's Persuasion plays this straight with Captain Wentworth.
- More famously subverted by Wickham in Pride and Prejudice.
- Played dead straight with Colonel Fitzwilliam and Colonel Forster.
- Quite a few characters from Starship Troopers.
- Sten mocks this trope with the incompetent Admiral van Doorman, who prides himself on spit-and-polish while sneering at Army-trained Sten. Yet Sten himself embodies this trope to a certain degree. His Combat Pragmatism is never really seen with regard to women, to the point that it's an Informed Attribute. Doubtless it's to preserve the sympathy of readers who have yet to reach the egalitarian attitudes of the future.
- The armies of Victorian Europe in the Flashman novels are full of officers who are jovial, charming, considerate of their men, and thoroughly chivalrous. Naturally our Fake Ultimate Hero protagonist despises every last one of them.
- The same author wrote semi-autobiographical short stories about his time as a subaltern in the Gordon highlanders, shortly after WW 2. The McAuslan series depicts Lieutenant Dand Mc Neill as a typical young gentleman Scottish officer: walking the thin line between managing a platoon of largely Glaswegian soldiers effectively, and doing so to the satisfaction of the Colonel, a much older gentleman officer one step away from retirement. Mc Neill is hailed by his men as a "fly man" - a cunning bastard who leads with style and essential decency.
- Commissar Ciaphas Cain (HERO OF THE IMPERIUM!) does his best to be seen as one.
- In Gene Stratton Porter's Michael O'Halloran, cited to counter the argument of a Royal Brat that gentlemen don't work.
If the world has any gentlemen it surely should be those born for generations of royal and titled blood, and reared from their cradles in every tradition of their rank. Europe is full of them, and many are superb men. I know a few. Now will you tell me where they are to-day? They are down in trenches six feet under ground, shivering in mud and water, half dead for sleep, food, and rest, trying to save the land of their birth, the homes they own, to protect the women and children they love. They are marching miles, being shot down in cavalry rushes, and blown up in boats they are manning, in their fight to save their countries.
- Rudyard Kipling's Gentlemen Rankers describes those who failed to be this trope.
- Kipling also poked fun at this trope, noting how useless most of that book-learnin', college degrees, and gentlemanly chivalry actually are on the battlefield.
Two thousand pounds of education
Drops to a ten-rupee jezail.
—"Arithmetic on the Frontier" (1886)
- Honor Harrington has its fair share.
- On the Manticoran side, the most prominent are probably Hamish Alexander and Michael Oversteegen.
- Oversteegen is particularly notable in that he has every known trait of a Manticoran Upper-Class Twit, belongs to the previously self-serving Conservative party, and seemingly got his first major command because his idiotic, cowardly, self-serving cousin was the Prime Minister. Yet he kicks a truly monumental amount of villainous backside while being a good, honorable, dedicated, responsible, brave, hardworking, and generally brilliant officer who believes in aristocratic responsibility as much as he does aristocratic privilege and has no patience for his incompetent relatives.
- Hamish Alexander is a completely straight example: Earl of White Haven, brilliant tactician, fleet commander, etc.
- The Havenite side has its share:
- Javier Giscard, Admiral and romantic partner of future President Eloise Pritchart.
- Warner Caslet, who sadly defects to the Manties after his sojourn with Honor on Hades.
- Thomas Theisman, the man who shot Oscar Saint-Just and arguably the most gentlemanly gentleman in the whole Republic, with a depth of patriotism and loyalty that is quite simply staggering.
- In Rome, Lucius Vorenus has ironclad impulse control (except when it comes to his infamous temper), which is amusing given that the generals of the army (Caesar and Anthony) are just as lewd as the enlisted men.
- Doctor Who: Brigadier Sir Alistair Gordon Lethbridge-Stewart, who appeared as a companion to the Second, Third and Fourth Doctor in the classic series (as well as all the other ones up to Eight in Big Finish).
- Star Trek: The Next Generation's Captain Jean-Luc Picard. Starfleet is a pretty genteel place (exceptions need apply only to the Engineering division, and occasionally Security), but Picard still stands out. Better manners than most of the diplomats we see; unflappable except around Borg and children; fences; rides horses; fond of classic literature...
- The writers were certainly well-aware of this tendency in his character, anyway; in the future timeline of All Good Things..., Picard is an Ambassador (or rather, a retired one). The same honor was previously given to Spock.
- Romulan officers often are this way, notably the one Kirk fought in Balance of Terror. They are rather Darker and Edgier then Starfleet officers but can be Worthy Opponent s.
- Major Edrington ("I am in fact the Earl of Edrington") in Horatio Hornblower "The Frogs and Lobsters" (also known as "The Wrong War")
- Both Sinclair and Sheridan from Babylon 5, in different ways.
- James Bellamy in Upstairs Downstairs is hinted to be this.
- Lt. Giles Vicary from Red Cap is the young-and-somewhat-naive variant.
- General Hank Landry of Stargate SG-1. Apart from being a fine general, he was also fond of quoting historical figures like Patton and Churchill.
- The ideal for Imperial Guard officers in Warhammer 40,000, penchant for shooting their own troops for cowardice notwithstanding. As in real life, most of them fall well short.
- Some Space Marine commanders fit this as well.
- The occasional Inquisitor falls under this trope.
- Commander Farsight of the Tau Empire also qualifies. There's a short story in the Farsight Enclaves supplement where he encounters a Space Marine apotechary retrieving the geneseed of the fallen Marines during the battle and lets him go, an act that won respect of the Chapter in question and contributed to the remarkably civil cessation of hostilities when the Imperium had to call off the Damocles Gulf crusade.
- Crimson Skies has Nathan Zachary; captain of the pirate airship Pandora and known throughout the Americas as the Gentleman Pirate.
- 7th Sea has too many to count.
- Captain Anderson and Paragon Commander Shepard in Mass Effect as well as several other, less prominent examples.
- The general portrayal of the heroic player character in any RPG, generally.
- Prominently so with the captain in the Neverwinter Nights 2 mod Dark Waters, who goes as far as cutting his own left hand off so that his nemesis won't do the same to one of his crew.
- In Sabres Of Infinity, one of your fellow officers, Elson, is highly educated, well-spoken, and generally friendly towards you, provided you abide by the war's rules of engagement.
- Tales of the Abyss has General Aslan Frings of the Malkuth Imperial Forces. The first time you meet him, he thanks you for disobeying orders in the name of trying to alert his troops of danger, and he's later shown going out of his way to treat captured enemy troops with respect...even before he falls in love with his Distaff Counterpart from Kimlasca, General Jozette Cecille.
- General Leo fits this, in Final Fantasy VI.
- In Paper Mario: The Thousand-Year Door there's General White, a retired Bob-omb general with a rather elegant moustache. Admiral Bobbery comes close too, though he's a little rougher.
- Captain Amelia of Treasure Planet fits this trope perfectly right down to the upperclass British accent and Stiff Upper Lip, blending it with sharp Gentleman Snarker wit, Lady of War badassery, and Ice Queen unattainability (eventually defrosted).
- Though a twenty-six-star General rather than a captain, "captain" Zapp Brannigan subverted this in Futurama with his incredibly lecherous (and cowardly, and irresponsible, and moronic...) behaviour.
- Skipper of Madagascar penguins (and in The Penguins of Madagascar) has some of these qualities. He is a lot more cultured than the rest of the commando penguins, generally courteous towards ladies, and also pulls off the craziest stunts.
- Case in point: "No little girl will shed a tear on my watch!" from "What Goes Around."
- Griff of Gargoyles, complete with British accent and derring-do. He helps the Royal Air Force battle those damn Nazis in the skies above London, later meets the goddamn King Arthur
- Surprisingly, Yosemite Sam of all people is able to pull this off during one cartoon where he is a Confederate officer who didn't get the message that the American Civil War ended decades ago. Though he relentlessly pursues Bugs Bunny, bent on keeping Yankees off of Confederate soil, when Bugs disguises himself as a woman, Sam is genteel and unfailingly polite to the "Scarlet Ma'am". This is also one of the few times where Sam isn't talking at his usual volume level.
- Near the end of Dastardly and Muttley in Their Flying Machines episode "Medal Muddle", Dick Dastardly was falling and had no medal to offer Muttley so, in order to convince the dog to save him, Dastardly invoked the trope and promised to help Muttley find his lost medals. Dastardly kept good on his promise.
- Brick from Total Drama is only a cadet, but considering he's the only one in the show with any military training he still counts. He has a strong No One Gets Left Behind philosophy, gives up his chance of winning a challenge to save the opposing team from a giant, mutant gopher and would be the Team Dad if his rival Jo didn't have near-full control of the team.
- Truth in Television: modern day officer corps are the direct descendants of knights. When warfare became a science instead of an art in the 15th century, most generals noticed that knights - professional soldiers who had trained for fighting, warfare, strategy and tactics - were far more valuable as officers and commanders of units composed of commoners, rather than privates in elite units.
- The tradition amongst European noble families is that the eldest son will inherit the estate and the younger sons will select career, either in military, clergy, academia or as civil servants. The name cadet for an officer trainee means "younger" in French - cadets were the younger sons of nobility.
- Sons of noble families are even today grossly over-represented in the military academies everywhere in the Western world. Except the United States, for obvious reasons.
- Real life subversion in conduct Robert Graves, the author of I, Claudius, describes doing during World War One. He describes an occasion when a German officer was sighted as being within sniping range, and declaring that it would be dishonorable to kill a fellow officer this way, Graves handed his gun to a lower class soldier and ordered him to make the kill.
- After the death of legendary German WW 1 Ace Oswald Boelcke (known for writing the first manual of air combat, still relevant today), the English sent a plane to drop a wreath mourning the loss.
- Just because there's a war on, it doesn't mean you have to be insensitive, dontcherknow.
- World War I had several of these moments, mainly because the war was mostly political and the soldiers were just fighting because they were obliged to.
- Henry Tandey, a British soldier, almost shot a wounded and fleeing German infantryman, but decided not to and just waved him on mercifully. Guess who the soldier was?
- It happened again with Boelcke's student, Mandred von Richthofen, aka the Red Baron. After he was shot down in combat, the Allies organised a full military funeral, and many soldiers placed wreaths on his grave inscribed with such phrases as "To Our Gallant and Worthy Foe".
- Truth in Television, again: Joshua Lawrence Chamberlain, a Union general at the American Civil War battle of Petersburg, received applause and a brief unofficial cease-fire from both sides for bravery. He later returned the favor at Appomattox when he ordered his troops to salute the surrendering Confederate troops as equals. The Confederate general who received the salute later called Chamberlain "one of the knightliest soldiers of the Federal Army."
- A lot of people seem to forget the General who accepted the salute was Robert E. Lee.
- Which is probably about the only way Chamberlain could have possibly topped his previous feats of talking 80 disgruntled deserters into joining his regiment and then using them to save the entire Union Army (with a bayonet charge!) less than 24 hours later at the battle of Gettysburg, earning himself a well-deserved Medal of Honor.
- And the kicker is that, in peacetime, he was a professor of rhetoric- basically a guy whose day job was studying and explaining Rousing Speeches.
- He was also wounded 6 times, but still made it home to become the governor of Maine.
- In the War Of 1812 the British navy was demoralized after losing several engagements against the newer and heavier American frigates. Captain Broke of HMS Shannon sent his accompanying frigates away, and then sent the following challenge to the USS Chesapeake, safely docked in Boston Harbor, captained by James Lawrence.
"As the Chesapeake appears now ready for sea, I request you will do me the favour to meet the Shannon with her, ship to ship, to try the fortune of our respective flags. The Shannon mounts twenty-four guns upon her broadside and one light boat-gun; 18 pounders upon her main deck, and 32-pounder carronades upon her quarter-deck and forecastle; and is manned with a complement of 300 men and boys, beside thirty seamen, boys, and passengers, who were taken out of recaptured vessels lately. I entreat you, sir, not to imagine that I am urged by mere personal vanity to the wish of meeting the Chesapeake, or that I depend only upon your personal ambition for your acceding to this invitation. We have both noble motives. You will feel it as a compliment if I say that the result of our meeting may be the most grateful service I can render to my country; and I doubt not that you, equally confident of success, will feel convinced that it is only by repeated triumphs in even combats that your little navy can now hope to console your country for the loss of that trade it can no longer protect. Favour me with a speedy reply. We are short of provisions and water, and cannot stay long here."
- The USS Chesapeake then left harbor and sailed for the Shannon, neither ship firing until they were at point-blank range. After the battle there were more than 200 killed and wounded, one of the bloodiest ship to ship battles of the age. Captain Broke was badly wounded and would never command another ship. The American Captain Lawrence was killed in action, and buried with full military honors by his enemies, with 6 Royal Navy officers as his pallbearers.
- Also General Robert E. Lee of the Confederacy, a cultured Southern gentleman who only commanded the Confederacy's army rather than the Union's because his home state of Virginia joined the Confederacy, and Lee believed in My State Right Or Wrong (at the time, most Southerners considered themselves citizens of their home states first and as Americans secondnote ).
- Peruvian admiral Miguel Grau. After sinking the Esmeralda battle boat in 1789, he immadiately wrote the Esmeralda captain's widow praising her dead husband's bravery and sent her the guy's personal effects.
- He also made sure to rescue and shelter the surviving crew of the very enemy ships he fought against and sank, in contrast with other admirals at the time who would take such opportunity to finish them off by shooting them.
- So well known he was as this, that his nickname, "El Caballero de los Mares" (The Knight of the Seas) was coined by his adversaries, the Chileans.
- Yet another example: Korvettenkapitän (Lieutenant Commander) Karl von Muller, during World War One as the commander of the commerce raider SMS Emden  He often risked his ship and crew in order to be polite and often released his prisoners aboard neutral or civilian ships. Still regarded as an example of a wonderful campaign and Knightly service.
- George Washington was known for his gentlemanly conduct both on and off the battlefield. After one battle during the Revolutionary War, the dog of British General William Howe wandered into the colonial camp. Washington had the dog returned with a friendly letter, and Howe wrote a glowing assessment of Washington's character in his journal.
- Major John Andre, the British spymaster who assisted Benedict Arnold's treason and was caught and hanged by the Americans, comported himself with such dignity that even his jailers were saddened by the necessity of his sentence. His only complaint was that he would have preferred to face a firing squad (as a soldier, rather than be hanged as a spy). When the time came, he blindfolded himself and put the noose around his own neck.
- "Conduct unbecoming an officer" is still a listed court-martial offence in the British armed forces, the "and a gentleman" part having been removed in letter but enduring in spirit.
- It's still an offense in the US military as well (and the "gentlemen" bit remains), usually tacked on to any other offense(s) an officer commits.
- Subverted by the Auxiliary Division of the RIC during the Irish War of Independence.Composed of veteran WW 1 officers they had a notorious reputation for their lack of discipline, drunkenness,for carrying out murderous atrocities and for burning Cork city center to the ground.They later wore burnt cork in their hats as a symbol.
- Gregorio del Pilar, one of the youngest generals in the Philippine Revolutionary forces, and one of the youngest commanders in the Philippine-American War. After a delaying action to cover Philippine leader Aguinaldo's retreat, the five-hour standoff resulted in Del Pilar's death due to a shot to the neck. Del Pilar's body was later despoiled and looted by the victorious American soldiers and his body lay unburied for days, exposed to the elements. An American officer, Lt. Dennis P. Quinlan, was disturbed by this treatment of what he deemed a Worthy Opponent and gave the body a traditional U.S. military burial. Upon del Pilar's tombstone, Quinlan inscribed, "An Officer and a Gentleman".
- Compared to many of his fellow generals, Erwin Rommel was the most chivalrous of the Wehrmacht Field Marshals. He repeatedly ignored orders to execute Jewish POWs and when he was placed in charge of building the Atlantic Wall, he demanded that the French workers be paid for their labour rather than be treated as slaves.
- Rommel is also known to have expressed objections when an SS advance party was sent to North Africa to "assess the Jewish problem" in Jewish ghettoes in North African cities then under Axis control. Rommel pointedly said that with shipping space so limited and problematical, he would have preferred an equivalent number of fighting soldiers, or their weight in petrol or ammo, rather than a bunch of useless mouths to feed and house out of his scarce resources. No more SS personnel were despatched to Africa. (Had he succeeded in capturing Palestine, however, there were plans to send extermination squads to the heartland of Judaism. Rommel's reputation as the "Good German" would then have been shot.)
- Also Wilhelm Bittrich.
- Many WWII German Luftwaffe officers were like this as well, including but not limited to: Adolf Galland, Walter Krupinski, Josef Priller, Johannes Steinhoff, and, last but not least, Erich Hartmann.
- James Stewart, or rather, Brigadier General James Stewart, often described by his costars as one of the nicest men in Hollywood. And a man who survived the disastrous Schweinfurt raid and many more bomber missions in World War II when he could have asked for, and easily received, a cushy job with the Air Force Motion Pictures Unit.
- Finland's very own Churchill, Field Marshal and later President Mannerheim. Being raised in a upper class family, serving in the Russian court and then as Supreme Commander in Finland's four wars did little to prevent him from being a true gentleman. He did however subvert it on occasions. His predecessor as president, Riso Ryti, gave a solemn personal pledge that he would not break the peace with Nazi Germany. Once Finland no longer required German help, Ryti resigned, and Mannerheim's government declared war on Germany; when the Nazis disbelievingly demanded to know why, Mannerheim (politely if snarkily) reminded the Germans that states are not bound by personal pledges of their leaders, however solemn.
- Mannerheim also had a great distaste for Hitler, even refusing to shake hands with him without gloves. To most other German officers (those who weren't Nazis) he was most polite.