Romance

I'm 32 and I still can't lead in small talk. I also just don't want to engage in it with most people. It feels pointless. I know it's not about the things you're saying but the fact that you're saying them and how you're saying them, but that just means that I have no idea how to fill the content hole.

So, here I am again. There's a person I want to try asking out, but I don't know her age and a conversation I had with her made me realize that there's a possibility that she's too young for it to be right (I'm in my late twenties). What's the best way to bring up the subject (we're in contact trough a different forum)?

To be blunt, you could just ask her age.

After all, if she cares about you too, I'm pretty damn sure she wouldn't want you getting into legal trouble if you have a relationship.

You're probably right, this is just another permutation of me feeling like I need to choose every word perfectly.

So, I just fell super hard for this girl, and it turns out she's gay...Lol.

Sorry to hear that. :(

If I had a dollar for everytime that happened to me...oh man, it would make Jeff Bezos jealous.

It's alright. I'm a bit sad, but I just gained some really good friends out of that, so. :)

That’s a good way to look at it.

Hey, that happens to me too. Originally, I was after a girl who is now my best friends and tried to get with her...and found out she was a lesbian.

Meanwhile the girls I fell for were straight... or more commonly, out of my league.

I actually tend to fall more for other gay/bi/queer/whatevers girls but that's cuz so many of them have very good fashion and very attractive Vibes to me. Still doesn't work though, cuz I'm an awkward mess and also kind of stubborn.

Edited by mightymewtron on Apr 26th 2021 at 5:52:53 AM

Oddly enough, I have never really been in love. There was a girl in school whom I liked but I am pretty sure they were not really romantic.

I've been infatuated but I don't think it was ever love, though I was a dumb kid so I couldn't tell the difference. It's very rare I'd ever consider a crush to truly be love. I barely consider some relationships I see to truly be "love."

I'm almost wondering if maybe I'm just straight up on the aromantic spectrum but I think it's just a matter of social awkwardness, cuz I could maybe see myself with the right person but it's hard to imagine someone would gel with me and my specific quirks.

Long post incoming. You've been warned.

I have no idea what the difference is between romantic and platonic love. I've done multiple Google searches, but so many of them lead me to believe that the primary difference between the two is that romantic love involves a desire to have sex with the other person, which I know isn't completely right. I'm asexual, so I don't feel sexual attraction, but I know that asexual and aromantic are not one and the same, so romantic love doesn't have to involve sex. My mom agrees, but she also says that romantic love typically has a physical aspect (hand-holding, hugging, kissing, etc.).

I want to know because I think I might have some kind of feelings toward my friend, and I'm not sure if I like him as a close friend or if I have a bit of a crush. It's even harder because my parents sometimes like to tease me about him, and he's done and said some things that could be interpreted as hints. Or maybe I'm reading too much into those things. After all, just because someone says you look nice in your prom dress, or sleeps in the Minecraft bed right next to yours even when there are other beds, or changes their profile pic to a picture of the Christmas present you made for him, that doesn't necessarily mean he likes me like that, does it?

Ok. Long post over.

Well, I’m going to be a complete hypocrite by saying this, but the best thing to do is probably to talk to him about it. “I don’t know if I like you that way or not” may not be the most romantic thing to hear, but if it’s the truth then it’s the truth; and the two of you will be able to figure out where to go from there once it’s out.

Edited by Novis on Apr 28th 2021 at 5:32:15 AM

If things don't go the way you think, at least you can be friends. As long as your friend doesnt know what is going on but you dont want to scare them.

I can't tell if I'm actually ready to try dating again or I'm just lonely and bored.

Do not date if you are bored. It will not go well for the both of you if you do. Date when you are sure, not because you are lonely or bored. Everyone feels either way but dating while doing that will not be the best situation. It end in pain. Just be happy about who you are.

Edited by marcen12 on May 4th 2021 at 10:35:49 AM

There's a girl I like. She's cute. She's nice. We have the same interests. She's single. She's not a lesbian (Not That There's Anything Wrong with That). I'm not feeling too bad about the way I look. The stars are all aligned in my favor, and yet I STILL Cannot Spit It Out. Maybe it's just a gut instinct that I'm not ready for another relationship yet. Who knows, either way, I feel like a loser.

I asked her out.

She said yes.

Congratulations!

She makes me feel like I can fly, so high, elevation. She also shines in a world full of ugliness.

Edited by Risdio51 on Jul 15th 2021 at 7:55:43 AM

Been debating thinking of trying online dating again, though not sure how to lol. Asked a buddy to do me a favor and consult his female friends about how to construct a profile... sadly no actionable intel came of that beside the nonsense "be yourself" stuff.

Then again I wonder if I have time, between work and running three different TTRPG games.

I just had a very interesting idea.

Which is more romantic: wine or champagne?