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Guess I'm a girl now. This should be interesting.

Care to elaborate?

Nothing happened here.

Edited by Keybreak on Mar 5th 2020 at 11:33:55 AM

I've known this for a bit now, but it turns out my girlfriend's ex is a woman. (I am not.)

@Bisected 8: I've identified as some shade of agender for a while now, but I am now comfortable saying that I explicitly lean female and not much at all male. So, I'm properly transfemme. Not 100% sure what I will ultimately do with that information, but I have ideas.

Fair enough. Rock on!

So lately I've been thinking I'm probably not transgender after all? I've been feeling a bit more comfortable just being a male but still get flare-ups of those kinds of feelings with less and less intensity and duration as time's gone on. I'm wondering if it might come roaring back at some point or I'll just get comfortable being me or if I'll just keep oscillating between wanting boobs and not really caring about that, which would probably make me some kind of genderfluid.

I mean, I still like the idea of having a feminine body more than not having one, so I'll probably still want HRT and stuff if it turns out that I'm actually fluid.

That definitely sounds like genderfluidity. For the record, there are fluid folks who wind up settling into a more cis-aligned identity, just as there are cis non-binary folks, for lack of a better nomenclature, and it's nothing to feel uncomfortable about. Identity is deeply personal, and how you choose to explore and express that is your own business.

Personally, I would say that I am genderfluid in the sense that I vacillate between feeling distinctly feminine and, well, not that, but that "not that" is not male exactly. Which is further complicated by how I relate to my own interest in other people, which was for a long time defined by my conception of myself as a queer, predominantly androphilic butch male-ish person of strictly dominant proclivities. And, I mean, aside from the male part and arguably the butch part, that's all still true, and that does put me in a curious place. But ultimately, that's to one side of how I see myself in terms of actual gender and presentation, which is distinctly un-masculine, and just being rid of all this beard and hairiness will be such a relief on so many levels...

So I changed tucking setups again. Not sure if it looks better or not.

Hello

Hi.

Don't mind me, just looking garbage af again.

Hey DBL! Long time no see. How ya been?

Time for me to come out a second time: I'm a lesbian. I realized that my only attractions to men were fleeting "damn, he hot"s, not to mention whenever I think of my future I always automatically think of myself being with a woman. There's other things too but those are some of the main reasons.

Anyway, 'sup my homosexuals? (And bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals, etc.)

It's going pretty gay.

S'alright, want to run around bit of an issue under the circumstances guess I can go out into the yard though.

I never cared for what I now know as the toxic elements of masculinity, but when I learned enough to actually try to take stock of my own gender identity, the answer I got was basically "sure, this is fine".

For a long time when I would ask myself if I could see myself with a man romantically, it didn't seem appealing, and then I read a story that made me realize that I would want different things from a man than from a woman. Pursuing, supporting, holding, being strong for a man like I want to do for a woman? Not interesting. Being pursued by, supported by, held by, and strengthened by a man? Mmmm, that's the good stuff.

And then I married a woman who's more traditional about gender stuff, whom I'm trying to teach that if you like an accessory, it's for a human, not for a man or a woman, and you're not disallowed from enjoying it because it's got rough edges and in muted colors.

But then I'm trying to break myself of that kind of stuff too, by experimenting with things like wearing pink and getting comfortable using a purse or wearing a bow.

Pink and bows are pretty dang great, not gonna lie.

So I'm trying to figure out if the fact no-one's called me out for not contouring before is a sign I haven't needed to, or I really should've been and everyone was humouring me over it.

It's not something anyone's demanded from me.

And it's more of a look than something that specifically helps.

@Custard And Pie Is there any chance you're homoromantic and bisexual?

After a lot of consideration, no. Seems like I'm full-blown lesbian.

Well, it's good you know now.

I saw a post that made me notice something: trans men are only in the news when they're pregnant or they're be discriminated against. I see videos like "Transgender Parents Who Conceived Two Sons Naturally" and they feel so sensationalized. What's the big deal? A lot of trans guys give birth.

Historically trans men have been erased/ignored, while trans women have been the subject of fear disgust.

One could cite any number of reasons why.

Youtube keeps on recommending me this video called "FtMtF Transition & Detransition Timeline" video so I decided to click. I ignored the comments because they're all about how "a lot" of trans men (and pretty much only trans men) detransition. Legit detransitioners are a thing that exists, but it's like 1/% of an already under 1% population.

On an unrelated but similar note, I can't figure out what to use instead of "opposite gender".

Edited by Pichu-kun on Apr 24th 2020 at 11:00:42 AM