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I'm hearing that its the 20th anniversary of the Trans Pride flag today? Does anyone know if that's true?

Edit: Pagetopper, I guess

Edited by AzurePaladin on Aug 20th 2019 at 2:37:53 PM

That's correct. It was first used by its creator, Monica Helms, at a pride parade in 1999.

So I'm dating a guy who's poly and I'm also poly but I've been interested in another for ages and he asked me out to dinner on Monday but I'm damn sure he's mono but like, honestly as much as I hate to admit it I'd go for this guy over the guy I'm dating rn but I don't wanna choose and anyway, I am DYING lmaooooo.

you should try talking to him about it. give him a copy of The Ethical Slut or something.

i would recommend against dating someone who's mono; there's bound to be friction. ive had friends who came to actively resent someone they once loved because they felt like their S.O. was restricting them too much and not letting them follow their heart.

Like, the problem is, and I don't want to use the L word just yet. But this guy is just, I've had my eyes on him since last year and there's just something really special about him and I just. Urgh. Like I really, really, really like him.

sorry, I just didn't have the words to explain that. A lot of times I wish I had just repressed or some shit because it seems like people don't care about AMAB enbies unless their some waify androgyne.

Edited by KeironCioran on Aug 31st 2019 at 1:27:28 AM

not that anything is wrong with being waify and androgynous. It just shouldn't be the base assumption for a non-binary person.

the whole thing where people aren't willing to acknowledge you as having a valid identity unless you fit their expectations is such bullshit. you are you, and as such you're the only one that gets a say. people need to realize that.

In your opinion, What has been the best Hollywood depiction of a gay couple?

I was gunna say Cecil and Carlos but that's not quite Hollywood, is it?

Despite the lack of obvious chemistry, Holt/Kevin. Though I'm not sure that counts as Hollywood either.

In another universe the answer to this is Hot Fuzz but Edgar Wright did us dirty by not making Nick and Danny gay

The main characters in But I’m A Cheerleader.

Fuck, I love that movie.

The tepid nature of their public relationship is part of what makes them perfect for each other.

@KeironCioran: Bold of you to assume cis people who say "Women and enbies" include trans women in the former group.

Edited by Bisected8 on Sep 1st 2019 at 12:52:34 PM

Is "women and enbies" just the new "women and femmes"?

Yeah, I failed to mention that most of the time they're latently transmisogynistic on top of being gender reductionists

Well, yes.

i usually say "women and feminine enbies" if i need to address female-identified people as a group.

i like the word "femmebies" but i dont want to just start using it without talking to anyone about whether it's ok and im not sure what the masculine equivalent would be. "mascbies" doesn't have the same energy.

Speaking of enbies, is there any good gender-neutral subsitute for "sir" or "miss" that I could use at work (such as "hello sir, may I put away that cart for you?") that won't get me odd looks?

I can't find one online. The only option seems to be avoiding using titles.

There’s Mx as a counterpart to Mr or Miss. pronounced like “Mix”.

you can avoid using titles and still be polite. if it bothers some dude that you didn't call him sir, that says more about him than about you.

But there's nothing for sir or m'am. I guess they're so seldom used that not much thought has been made into a neutral term.