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* ''Manga/AyakashiTriangle'': Matsuri is Abrasive Submissive that gradually becomes aware, [[CovertPervert though not open]], about his sexual desires. He's rather overprotective of Suzu and quick to fight. But as he grows more emotionally open to and romantically-aware of Suzu, it's shown she decidedly takes the lead, and Matsuri isn't opposed--to the point Suzu abruptly French-kisses Matsuri and he only objects that it was ''too good''.

* ''Manga/NanaToKaoru'': Nana is an angry tsundere until she gets [[UsefulNotes/{{BDSM}} all tied up]].

* ''Machinima/FinalFantasyVIIMachinabridged'' puts this spin on Cid Highwind and Shera's relationship. Cid's just as verbally abusive toward Shera as he is in canon, but when they retire to their sex dungeon, [[BrainsAndBondage she]] pays him back [[{{Dominatrix}} with interest]]. Their sessions are portrayed as a way for Cid to [[CatharsisFactor vent his legitimate resentment]] towards Shera for her role in ruining his dream without becoming hurtful, and she's obviously enjoying herself too.

** ''VideoGame/FateExtra CCC'' provides a handy explanation: Precisely because she grew up [[OrphansOrdeal with no other choice]] than to be very independent and hard-working, and because she is normally ThePerfectionist, she secretly craves being able to just relinquish power and control and not having to be the one worrying about whether or not things will be alright for just a little bit when with a partner. Both she and the protagonist acknowledge that this does not affect her normal behavior at all and is not something she would ever allow to overtake her real, hard-ass self except for very brief moments.
*** Take into account that Extra's Rin is ''not'' the same character as the one from ''Fate/Stay Night''. They do have similar personalities, however, so maybe what applies to one also does to the other.

* Zapp Brannigan from ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'' is a comically-pathetic Forward Submissive. He's incredibly flirtatious with women in general and an AbhorrentAdmirer to Leela, but his specific turn-on are things like being spanked and having a restraint around his necked tightened while taken prisoner. Leela has implied he's a CasanovaWannabe exactly because he's a selfish, inept lover that expects his partner to do everything.

* A similar dynamic occurs with Rin Tohsaka (pictured above) in ''VisualNovel/FateStayNight'': throughout the route, she's an assertive {{Tsundere}} and TheTease, but in her sex scene she becomes uncharacteristically shy. Once it's over, however, she goes back to her original state, chewing Shirou out for having been too aggressive in bed! It's worth noting that, both in another route's [[spoiler: three-way scene with Saber]] and the scene in the sequel ''VisualNovel/FateHollowAtaraxia'', she acts more like she normally does. This implies that it has more to do with [[TheirFirstTime her inexperience]] and anxiety over being the focus of Shirou's attention (plus [[GagPenis Shirou's... uh... "girth"]]) than an inherent aspect of her personality.

Compare CasualKink, PowerfulPeopleAreSubs, PropertyOfLove, SafeSaneAndConsensual, SafeWord and AllWomenAreDomsAllMenAreSubs. Contrast NaughtyByNight.

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* The ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic'' adult fandom will frequently portray the tomboyish, aggressive, and competitive Rainbow Dash as a complete sub. If there is an explanation, it's usually that constantly "being awesome" is really stressful, so she unwinds by letting someone else take the reins (metaphorically ''or'' literally). For extra RuleOfFunny, this version of Dash is often paired with the ShrinkingViolet Fluttershy as her domme.

* ''Literature/NikkiHeat'': {{Implied}} with Nikki herself: she's a highly driven and competent police detective as well as a woman who takes krav maga lessons for exercise, but between her and journalist Jameson Rook, she's the first of the two to give the other their safe word. This is in stark contrast to the character she's partially based on, Kate Beckett from ''Series/{{Castle}}'', who is unambiguously a top.

* Simon in ''Webcomic/{{LeftoverSoup}}'' is an interesting subversion. He comes across as very assertive normally but is actually totally submissive. Tuesday is S&M day, where one or more of the others in the poly relationship he is part of satisfy his submissive nature and enjoyment of pain. And at the very end, they order him to be proactive, assertive, and dominant for the next six days.

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* ''Literature/NikkiHeat'': {{Implied}} with Nikki herself: she's a highly driven and competent police detective as well as a woman who takes krav maga lessons for exercise, but between her and journalist Jameson Rook, she's the first of the two to give the other their safe word. This is in start contrast to the character she's partially based on, Kate Beckett from ''Series/{{Castle}}'', who is unambiguously a top.

A character who is unusually aggressive and domineering in their relationships and/or romantic/sexual advances yet relinquishes all control the moment it comes to actually having sex with their loved one. This "aggression" falls under two broad categories, which can be overlap or sharply diverge.

* PlayedForLaughs in , with [[RetiredBadass ex-]]{{Yakuza}} Tatsu who intimidates everyone he meets [[CreepyGood without even trying]] treating his wife like an ''oyabun'' and fully devoting himself to pleasing her, to the point of needing to be stopped from corporally punishing himself after making a mistake.

* PlayedForLaughs in ''Manga/TheWayOfTheHousehusband'', with [[RetiredBadass ex-]]{{Yakuza}} Tatsu who intimidates everyone he meets [[CreepyGood without even trying]] treating his wife like an ''oyabun'' and fully devoting himself to pleasing her, to the point of needing to be stopped from corporally punishing himself after making a mistake.

* A similar dynamic occurs with Rin Tohsaka (pictured above) in ''VisualNovel/FateStayNight'': throughout the route, she's an assertive {{Tsundere}} and TheTease, but in her sex scene she becomes uncharacteristically shy. Once it's over, however, she goes back to her original state, chewing Shirou out for having been too aggressive in bed! It's worth noting that, both in another route's [[spoiler: three-way scene with Saber]] and the scene in the sequel ''VisualNovel/FateHollowAtaraxia'', she acts more like she normally does. This implies that it has more to do with [[TheirFirstTime her inexperience]] and anxiety over being the focus of Shirou's attention (plus [[GagPenis Shirou's... uh... "girth"]]) than CharacterDerailment.

* ''Manga/AyakashiTriangle'': Matsuri is rather overprotective of Suzu and quick to fight. But as he grows more emotionally open to and romantically-aware of Suzu, it's shown she decidedly takes the lead, and Matsuri isn't opposed--to the point Suzu abruptly French-kisses Matsuri and he only objects that it was ''too good''.

A character who is unusually aggressive and domineering in their relationships and particularly romantic/sexual advances yet relinquishes all control the moment it comes to actually having sex with their loved one.

This behavior is commonly displayed by "harsh" {{Tsundere}}s. Parallels can be drawn between this and a FauxActionGirl. Indeed, women in fiction end up on the receiving end of this trope much more often than men (cf. MenActWomenAre). Although in CourtlyLove the (lower status) man will invoke this trope as a way of proving his loyalty to the woman.

* ''Literature/MorgothsRing'', has as it's 4th Chapter the [[http://tolkiengateway.net/wiki/Athrabeth_Finrod_ah_Andreth Athrabeth Finrod ah Andreth]]. Andreth invokes this trope describing her youthful self because of her desire for Aegnor (which he shared, but was unable to return), and implies that this is how all human women are. Finrod was aware of this, as was Aegnor, and he explains that it is not considered acceptable by the Eldar to take advantage of people's desires in that manner. Adaneth has some serious trouble accepting this idea.

** ''VisualNovel/DanganronpaV3KillingHarmony'' introduces Ultimate Inventor Miu Iruma, the "golden girl genius" who constantly boasts about her accomplishments and appearance, barrages the other characters with insults, and who is perhaps the single most vulgar character in the entire series. However, despite this, [[PaperTiger her facade usually falls flat]] when others swear or insult her in return, causing her to show a meeker side, and she's shown to get off on things like being called a "cum dumpster" by [[TheGadfly Kokichi]]. Though notably, unlike most examples, there are still multiple implications Miu does genuinely enjoy being in positions of power, and her Love Hotel event has her end up taking charge.

* Kaguya from ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar'' can be a very controlling person, but she loves it whenever Shirogane shows assertiveness [[WhatBeautifulEyes and lists his harsh gaze as one of his most attractive features]]. Even [[GhostInTheMachine Kaguya (Ice)]] -who is basically BrutalHonesty personified- outright says that being kissed is way hotter than giving a kiss.

* [[MaouTheDemonKing Pecora]] in ''LightNovel/IveBeenKillingSlimesForThreeHundredYearsAndMaxedOutMyLevel'' is very aggressive about getting a CoolBigSis to dominate and boss her around. She's even miffed that Beelzebub refuses to comply with the idea of acting domineering towards her king, forcing Pecora to look elsewhere.

Note that Administrivia/TropesAreTools. This one can present an interesting dichotomy in a character to explore for drama and CharacterDevelopment. It only becomes off-putting when perpetrated in fanworks upon characters who you'd reasonably expect to [[BastardGirlfriend behave in bed the same way they do in canon]].

** Male Shepards get Ashley, an ActionGirl who tries to seduce him with poetry, and Jack, a psychotic sexually aggressive BastardGirlfriend. Both relinquish control during a romance. Tali on the other hand is the inverse, a ShrinkingViolet who pounces Shepard during their romance scene.