"It measures gayness. With science.
The ability to determine a person's sexual orientation without being explicitly told — or rather, the ability to detect gay people who haven't outed themselves to you. (Gaydar presumably can detect straight people as well by process of elimination; but in media depictions, it generally isn't.) This may require anything from a casual glance, to hearing the target speak, to near constant observation.
Can be confounded by the presence of a Camp Straight
, but not always. Much depends on how much the gaydar depends on gay stereotypes
Can also rely heavily on an observer's common wisdom and intuition based on life experience, with good gaydar being measured by its probability of success, making this Truth in Television
. (Compare Transparent Closet
for gaydar's easiest detections.)
The term is a combination of the words
"gay" and "radar".
This trope can be very close to LGBT Fanbase
, especially where an observer likes what they see, is using Shipping Goggles
, or otherwise is practicing some form of wishful thinking. But just as often, Gaydar
can be perfectly sincere audience interpretation, whether or not there is also LGBT Fanbase
— use caution when calling Fan Yay on someone's Gaydar
See also: Flying Under the Gaydar
Examples in fiction:
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Anime & Manga
- Ryou from Strawberry Shake Sweet has a rather powerful one; she can instantly tell the sexuality of a woman with just a mere glance and can also apparently tell when a lesbian has officially come to terms with her sexuality.
- Y: The Last Man: Dr Mann mentions that an old colleague of Agent 355's reminds her of an ex. When Yorick asks "She reminds you of an ex-boyfriend?", Dr Mann points out that's not what she said. One Beat Panel later, Yorick expresses disbelief at how he's been travelling with her for a year without realising, and she mentions that they can add gaydar to the other common senses he seems to lack. Although that said, the whole Gendercide thing and its logical consequences would play hell with even the most finely-tuned gaydar.
Live Action Television
- Game of Thrones: Ser Jaime Lannister claims to have known that Lord Renly Baratheon was a "tulip" from the moment the boy first arrived at court.
- On Sherlock Sherlock is able to tell a man is gay just by being introduced to him, much to the dismay of his girlfriend. It helps that he left his number under one of Sherlock's petri dishes.
- Though in a nice twist, the man actually isn't gay, but was intentionally giving off subtle gay signals since he is Moriarty, Sherlock's nemesis and a genius like him.
- On The Office (American), Jim "helps" Dwight order a literal gaydar online so he can help Michael avoid embarrassing gay employees in the future. At the end of the episode, the fake gaydar (actually a metal detector) arrives and of course, identifies Dwight as gay (and his belt buckle as metal).
- A The Daily Show segment had Ed Helms invent one, detecting background levels of gayness via increasingly campy phrases. He said that since it worked as a radar for gayness, he'd call it a "Homometer."
- By the way, it's pronounced 'Hoe-MAW-me-ter'.
- A bit fuzzy on the details, but it is used to detect heterosexuality in one episode of MTV's Undressed. A woman in college is concerned that her boyfriend isn't sleeping with her, so she goes to a gay friend who, after asking her a few questions about her, decides that he is definitely straight.
- Mentioned in Friends. Chandler's gay coworker implies that this is how he knew Chandler wasn't gay.
Chandler: So- you can tell?
Lowell: Pretty much, most of the time. We have a kind of... radar.
- In a Season 7 episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Willow tells Kennedy she wishes that she had some sort of "lesbidar".
Kennedy You do know there's a much better word for that, right?
- In a Season 4 episode, Faith in Buffy's body could tell Willow and Tara were dating before anyone else did.
- Glee: Santana. This is how she figures Karofsky out.
Santana: I'm a closet lesbian and a judgemental bitch - which means one thing: I have awesome gaydar.
- Nate claims to have this in an early episode of Six Feet Under after effectively fixing his gay brother up on a date. David tells him not to say it again.
- There used to be a reality show Called Gay, Straight, or Taken? where single women would spend some time with three men and try to use their gaydar to figure out which one was gay, straight and single, or straight and taken.
- On the American Life On Mars, Annie has figured out that a man they're questioning is gay, listing several behavioral cues she'd noticed during questioning that Sam was oblivious to.
Sam: Women always have better gaydar.
Annie: "Gaydar." I like that.
- South of Nowhere: Spencer and Ashley are talking about a girl who may or may not have hitted on Spencer.
Ashley: You are so clueless sometimes. You know she is gay, right?
Spencer: What? She is not. You need to reboot your gaydar.
Ashley: Whatever. I just hope it is better than your breeder-meter.
Spencer: Why is it that every gay person are so sure that everyone else is gay?
Ashley: Oh, not everyone. Just the gay ones.
- On Smash, Ivy says Tom's gaydar is stupid when she tells him that her sports-loving friend Sam is gay.
Tom: Heís gay?!
Ivy: Where have you been?
Tom: Why didnít you tell me?
Ivy: Who knew your gaydar was so stupid?
Tom: My gaydar is not stupid. I do not have stupid gaydar. Ugh, I hate that word.
- A recurring sketch on Saturday Night Live is about Nicole, "The Girl with No Gaydar." She is always marvelling at a man's interior design sense or similar stereotypically gay interest while being oblivious to their gayness.
- Roll from Bob and George says she has this, but if this works or not depends on if you believe Mega Man X X and Zero are actually gay or just Heterosexual Life-Partners.
- Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal has the page picture showing how it can be used for actual emergency navigation.
- Referred by name in this Misfile strip. Kinda subverted as the 'gay' detected there is actually a boy turned into a girl.
- There's a literal gaydar in I Was Kidnapped By Lesbian Pirates From Outer Space!!! It's how the eponymous Space Pirates first detect the protagonist, when she's attracted to a female co-worker.
- Beth from Better Days claims to have an exceptional gaydar. It's an Informed Ability though, since there aren't any gay people in the comic, except for Flounce and he and Beth have no interaction.
- Saundra of Umlaut House once built one, it blew up when she tested it on Rick and gave an inconsistent reading when she tried it on Volair
- Denmark claims to get this after five beers in Scandinavia and the World. Sweden thinks he is just listing all the women he wants to see have lesbian sex.
- Marten's mother in Questionable Content isn't gay herself, but she's a very experienced Dominatrix. Her first, totally accurate, reaction on meeting Tai is "OH MY GOD I LOVE THE TINY BUTCH ONES."
- Spinnerette wishes her spider senses came with gaydar.
- Homestuck: Roxy claims to have one that is very oversensitive, as a counterpart to Jane who doesn't have one at all.
TG: my gaydar is like the exanct fuckin poposite of urs
TG: which is to say it is better than completety nonexistant
TG: mine is so sensitive it has been used to sweep the ocean floor for mythical sea monsters
TG: turns out
TG: all of those monsters are SO gay
- Ethan sets off everybody's gaydar despite being very Straight Gay (save for his interest in My Little Pony, which is less a function of being gay and more a function of being a toy nerd.)
- Sarah claims to have one of these, and is perfectly willing to spread rumors based on it.
- Alan of Sunstone was subjected to some measure of harassment in college due to him setting off a good number of people's mistuned gaydars.
- Bender in Futurama has actual gaydar. Whether it works or not is questionable.
- Stan from American Dad! also has one, but it didn't seem to work since it kept pointing at [straight] even when he was talking to a gay guy,
- Various studies indicate people really can identify the sexuality of men from just photos at a level greater than chance, even when things like facial hair, jewelry and hairstyle are controlled for.
- Though not completely related, there's the "transdar". It's mostly related to whether a person "passes" or not, or how they behave pre-transition.
- There's the suggestion that the greater exposure and acceptance of gay people in society increases the odds of a person correctly identifying someone who is gay because of the acceptance that gay people actually exist and don't all look like drag queens. People from a less open culture (or an older generation) are less likely recognize someone as being gay because it's hard to recognize something that you refuse to accept.
- 15 signs of a gay husband according to this Christwire article
- Note, however, that this article is based on highly stereotypical view of gays. That, and it's Christwire.