Asexuality in general

I disagree wholeheartedly. As much as it sucks to not have a partner, I rather enjoy having a sex drive, thank you very much.

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@Drunk Girlfriend

Well, I do have a GF now, but now there's the issue of her being (literally) on the other side of the planet. Cruel universe.

But the 15 years in between of not even getting so much as cuddles and kisses, gyah. Frustrating and annoying. Being asexual would have been so much easier.

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But there's the payoff at the end, really. Grass is always greener, etc.

"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian

Asexuality may be the easier option

But is it the option you really want?

I'm telling you. I don't care how long I might be alone. I am not giving up my sexuality for the world.

edited 22nd May '11 5:59:26 AM by Deathonabun

One of my few regrets about being born female is the inability to grow a handlebar mustache. -Landstander

How do you tell whether you're asexual or not anyway?

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I'm pragmatic by nature, so I'm all about the easy. If I was never going to use it, and having it is actually actively annoying to boot, what's the point, I figure.

edited 22nd May '11 6:10:36 AM by Jeysie

Apparently I am adorable, but my GF is my #1 Groupie. (Avatar by Dreki-K)

Honestly, asexual me is not a person I would particularly enjoy being.

Having to face that aspect of existence taught me much about myself and about life in general, and also gave me a big incentive to get out and socialize. If I consider prepubescent me, and I start thinking about how I would have grown up had I never met this sort of challenge... well, what we get is a rather unpleasant specimen of human being.

No offense meant to asexuals, of course — I'd guess that either they did not have the hang-ups I had as a kid to begin with, or that they found a different way to get over them.

edited 22nd May '11 6:12:49 AM by Carciofus

But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.

I'd think it'd be the other way around: it's a lot healthier to develop more excuses to socialize other than the sexy tiems.

Especially since the easiest way to meet people in general is to be doing fun things for the sake of doing them and happen to encounter other people doing the same fun things.

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I think it's real, but like Autism and Asberger's, there's a lot of people who, for whatever reason, pretend to be Asexual.

"Is fearr Gaeilge briste ná Béarla cliste."

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I might be asexual, but possibly not. I can't tell, and speculating out loud strikes me as something people might not want to hear. Cause then I'll get labeled as a "pretender" or something. Basically, you guys are making me uncomfortable.

I can honestly say that I've never wanted to have sex with anyone though.

I don't get the whole "pretender" thing.

If someone claims that he or she is asexual, or bisexual, or whatever, and they are not, why should this be of any concern to me?

edited 22nd May '11 7:32:24 AM by Carciofus

But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.

Well, I definitely know people who currently have no interest in sex and/or relationships.

But the hard part is telling whether someone's truly asexual, or if they just haven't found the right person yet. Some people just have very low sex drives or are inherently Single-Target Sexuality people and just need the right target.

Because then you get people who look at those pretender folks and think as a result that being anything other than straight is just a "lifestyle" or an easily-made choice that can be easily unmade again.

edited 22nd May '11 7:33:25 AM by Jeysie

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I don't really think about asexuality. It's just something that exists for me.

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It gets a tad bit irritating when someone claims to be something they're not just for the sake of being special. Because I've been the abnormal one out, and it sucks not fitting in.

"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian

It does suck, but I'm willing to give these people the benefit of the doubt. As a bisexual, I'm subject to a similar kind of scepticism, and it is certainly very annoying to put up with.

edited 22nd May '11 11:01:46 AM by Explodia

Eh, it's not like they are claiming that they are magical winged unicorns.

In itself, being asexual, or bisexual, or whatever does not make one person particularly interesting. I mean, why should most people even care about this hypothetical person's sexuality?

edited 22nd May '11 12:39:10 PM by Carciofus

But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.

I used to think I was asexual, but it turns out I have such a low sex drive that I get more lasting pleasure from slowly and delicately eating fried chicken.

I generally don't mind hearing about other peoples' sexuality and sex lives because it's something I don't feel any desire to experience first hand. At least by being a good, attentive listener I won't be completely ignorant.

edited 22nd May '11 2:39:18 PM by Bur

i. hear. a. sound.

Hmm... Chicken

Just how does one tell the different between be asexual and hyposexual anyway?

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Isn't arguing that being sexual is inherently better than being asexual... kind of like claiming the same thing about hetero and homosexuality? Or being female versus being male? It strikes me as a little rude.

Be not afraid...

@Loni Silly Loni, everyone knows that people who don't have a constant supply of sex or don't want it are social failures, thus making them inherently worse than other normal people!

edited 22nd May '11 5:26:06 PM by KCK

There's no justice in the world and there never was~

And on the corollary, anybody who has a sex drive or gets regular sex is entirely ruled by their emotions and therefore rash and impetuous!

"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian

@Drunk G And will be admired by millions!

There's no justice in the world and there never was~

@KCK: And scorned by millions!

"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian

And so at the end of the day we have learned that no matter what you are people will hate you. THE END.

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