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    Innocent mistaken for abuse 
Basic Trope: An innocent situation is mistaken for abusive.
  • Straight: Alice forgets that a door wasn't open and runs into it, getting visible bruises. Her partner Bob gets some accusing looks and Alice gets hints on breaking up with him, because 'I ran into the door' is one of the most basic Cut Himself Shaving excuses there is. In this case, it was actually true.
  • Exaggerated: Alice gets a papercut and when her friend Daniel sees her with a bandage on her finger, he immediately assumes that her partner, Bob, injured her in some way.
  • Downplayed: Alice's friends are suspicious at first, but they believe her when she says the injuries weren't caused by abuse and they don't cause drama by accusing Bob.
  • Justified:
    • Alice is in a Safe, Sane, and Consensual BDSM relationship with her dearly loved husband Bob, but Daniel fervently believes that Bondage Is Bad.
    • Alice is genuinely clumsy and used to hurting herself, but Daniel never sees her mistakes, thinking Bob has damaged her self-confidence making her believe she is clumsy.
    • Daniel hears Bob yell before hearing a loud thump and Alice crying out in pain, and thinks that he was shouting in anger before attacking her. In reality Bob was trying to tell Alice about the floor he just mopped, but Alice didn't hear him in time and tripped on it.
    • Daniel never liked Bob, and is assuming the worst of him.
    • Alice is embarrassed about how she was injured, so she acts nervous and evasive when Daniel asks her what happened, and Daniel assumes the worst because of this.
    • Daniel is paranoid.
    • Alice's friends are aware that Bob is impulsive and short-tempered, so it's only natural that whenever Alice comes up with an injury, they will assume Bob had something to do with it. Problem is, Alice is also clumsy and absent-minded, so she genuinely hurts herself at times.
  • Inverted: Type A is an inversion of Type B, and vice versa.
  • Subverted: Daniel decides to investigate Alice's situation, believing it to be abusive despite her repeated insistence that her husband is not abusing her. His assumptions turn out to be correct and Alice turns out to have a serious case of Stockholm Syndrome.
  • Double Subverted: But then it turns out that Alice purposefully made her husband out to be abusive with herself as a Love Martyr to achieve a goal..
  • Parodied: Bob gently pokes Alice in the arm. This results in Alice's friends starting the biggest drama ever and accusing Bob of being evil.
  • Zig Zagged: Alice walked into a door, but her friends all believe her husband did it to her. But Alice was lying, her husband did hit self defense, because it was Alice who attacked her husband. But all of his friends refuse to believe that he was abused by Alice.
  • Averted:
    • Everyone asks what happened to Alice or Bob when one of them gets injured or is arguing with the other instead of jumping to conclusions about what's going on. The closest they come to assuming that one of them is being abused is double-checking to make sure that he's not claiming that he Cut Himself Shaving (or she's not claiming she walked into a door) simply as a safety precaution.
    • Alice never gets injured.
  • Enforced: The writer wants to add some drama by causing a conflict between Alice's friends and Bob, but not at the expense of turning Bob into a Domestic Abuser.
  • Lampshaded: "Why does everyone think that just because I am hurt, it means I have an abusive husband?"
  • Invoked: Freda hates Bob, so she tells Alice's friends that he is abusive.
  • Exploited: Alice injures herself, knowing that Bob will get blamed for it; she hopes to get rid of him using this as evidence for jail's sentence.
  • Defied: Someone sees Alice walk into a door, and backs her up when she explains it to her friends.
  • Discussed: "We'll want to proceed carefully when we ask about Alice's bruises. It's very easy for non-professionals to mistake an accident for abuse, and vice-versa."
  • Conversed: "Huh, Alice is really bruised in this opening scene. The cause will always be the opposite of what the first person to interact with her thinks."
  • Implied: Although it's never revealed how Alice got injured, it would be very Out of Character for Bob to abuse Alice.
  • Played For Laughs: Every time Alice gets injured, no matter how minor it is, her friends immediately think that they're the result of physical abuse and come up with absurd theories as to exactly how she got them.
  • Played For Drama: This leads to a Feud Episode.

    Abuse mistaken for innocent 
Basic Trope: An actually abusive situation is brushed off as something that doesn't need worrying about.
  • Straight: Bob's wife Alice slaps him in the face and insults him for not cleaning the house, but when he tells his friend Charlie about it, he laughs it off and tells him that he deserved it for being lazy.
  • Exaggerated: Bob is hiding in a closet from Alice, who is chasing him with a knife threatening to kill him, and has already seriously hurt him, but when he calls 911 to ask for help, the operator laughs at him and calls him a sissy.
  • Downplayed: Alice shouts at Bob for not cleaning the house. When Charlie hears it, he gives the issue some consideration, but eventually comes to the conclusion that Alice wasn't being abusive at all.
  • Justified: Alice is The Chessmaster and is so skilled at making Bob's home life look okay that no one ever believes him when she tries to tell them of the abuse she suffers at his hands.
  • Inverted: Type B is an inversion of Type A, and vice versa.
  • Subverted: Alice slaps Bob in the face and insults him for not cleaning the houses. When he tells people about this, nobody seems to show worry, except Charlie who contacts the authorities.
  • Double Subverted: Who don't believe Bob, despite having Charlie to back him up.
  • Parodied: Bob is walking alongside Alice who punches him in the face every minute for no good reason. Alice's friends see this and comment about how Alice is such a sweet wife for being able to express her love for Bob so directly.
  • Zig Zagged: Bob claims Alice hit him, but he was just lying. It turns out that Bob walked into a door, but his friends all believe his wife did it to him. But Bob was actually telling the truth the first time and is now lying, his wife did hit self defense, because it was Bob who attacked his wife. But all of his friends refuse to believe that she was abused by Bob.
  • Averted:
    • Any claims of abuse are taken at face value and all steps are taken to ensure the victim's safety as well as come up with a plan for him or her to get out of the situation as soon as possible.
    • No abuse happens.
  • Enforced: It's a Lifetime Movie of the Week, and the writer wants to crank up the drama.
  • Lampshaded: "Why does everyone simply pass off the abusive situation I was in as something else?"
  • Invoked: Alice knows that Bob is seeking help for escaping from the emotional and financial abuse that she's subjecting her to, and does everything he can to make his actions look innocent so that no one believes her.
  • Exploited: Alice just keeps abusing Bob. After all, nobody is able to tell that she is being abused.
  • Defied: Bob collects proof through means of hidden camera, tape recorder, etc. of his abuse from Alice, and gives it to the authorities. Alice is imprisoned.
  • Discussed: "We'll want to proceed carefully when we ask about Bob's bruises. It's very easy for non-professionals to mistake an accident for abuse, and vice-versa."
  • Conversed: "Huh, Bob is really bruised in this opening scene. The cause will always be the opposite of what the first person to interact with him thinks."
  • Deconstructed: That fact that no one tries to help Bob shows that everyone is to shallow to consider the needs of the people around.
  • Reconstructed: It turns out that they're not shallow, they just genuinely thought Bob didn't need help out of naivete.
  • Played For Laughs: Black Comedy where Alice keeps abusing Bob in increasingly ridiculous and obvious ways, with paper-thin explanations, and yet everything comes off as accidental. This falls under Crosses the Line Twice.
  • Played For Drama: The abuse continues and Bob is Driven to Suicide or dies from the bruises.

This? No, I just tripped on my way to Abuse Mistake. Why would my husband want to hurt me?

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