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Not quite, since there's no reason for Alice to know she's hurting Bob.
Dramatic Irony? Or is that too broad?
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I think it's specific enough to be a subtrope.
^^^ What's wrong with Innocently Insensitive? The trope does mention that when Alice is told she's hurting Bob, she'll apologize and change, but it doesn't specify that Alice has to find out she's hurting Bob for the trope to be in play.
^ And it also mentions "In the worst cases, they might not stop at one insult and even continue until someone forces them to stop, or the other person runs away crying."
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Because as far as I can tell it's about insulting statements about the other person, rather than statements about something else that hurts the person. For example, if Alice was picking on Bob for being single it'd be Innocently Insensitive.
^ That trope also counts "being mistaken for insulting".
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A sister trope to Oblivious Mockery and Oblivious Guilt Slinging where two characters are talking, one character's words secretly hurt the other but they don't let it show. Usually played for laughs.
For example, Bob is hopelessly in love with Alice, and Alice is so hopelessly ditzy she doesn't notice (or Bob knows they can't be together for some reason but he still hangs out with her, Alice has serious misandry issues and Bob is the only exception, etc.). Instead she sees Bob as her best friend and pours out her heart to him on multiple occasions, the audience seeing how much it hurts him to hear her talk of her boyfriends, along with phrases like "All Men Are Perverts, and sometimes it seems you're the only one who isn't interested in dating me", "I wish I could find a boyfriend as patient and understanding as you, but better-looking/rich/taller", etc. Conversely, Bob and Charlie are talking about Alice, both in love with her but only Charlie mentions it, and he's a much better prospect than Bob, so Bob says nothing but every word of Charlie's hurts him.
Doesn't have to be romantic, could be Bob talking about how he loathes group X and Alice is secretly part of that group, Alice is announcing her plans which put Bob's in jeopardy but he has to hide it, etc.
Edited by Chabal2