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* Tetsuo from ''Manga/{{Yuureitou}}'' is a trans man. It's revealed as a child his adopted mother was so against his masculine nature that she [[spoiler:[[OffingTheOffspring tried to kill him]].]] Even as an adult they got into arguments often [[spoiler:until he [[SelfMadeOrphan murdered]] her]].

* Takatsuki's mother in ''Manga/WanderingSon'' has three children: a son, a daughter, and the [[AmbiguousGenderIdentity ambiguously trans]] Takatsuki. She is disappointed as the oldest daughter is too disobedient and Takatsuki is too masculine. Takatsuki's mom buys them dresses and other feminine clothes however Takatsuki refuses to wear them.

* Hana Isuzu is the gunner aboard a Panzer IV tank in ''Anime/GirlsUndPanzer''. However, when her mother learns that Hana is taking tankery in school, she faints. Later, in the Isuzu home, Lady Isuzu demands that her daughter withdraw from tankery, and instead focus on the feminine art of flower arranging. When Hana refuses to abandon tankery, her mother expels Hana from the Isuzu home, although they reconcile later after Hana puts on a tankery-inspired flower arrangement display. It should be noted that tankery ''is'' a feminine pursuit in the series universe, but Hana's rather traditional mother doesn't think much of it.

* The ''VideoGame/HarvestMoon'' fanfic "His Blossoming Trail" gives Cam a backstory in which his love of gardening and the colour pink causes conflict between him and his father, who has very strict ideas about traditional gender roles. Cam is forbidden to have or do anything not stereotypically masculine on the grounds that it will "make him gay" and, when he joins his school's gardening club, he has to keep it secret from his parents. (Though his mother is supportive, she is unable to stand up to his father.) Only when Cam leaves home is he finally able to be who he truly is.

* In ''Film/MaVieEnRose'' Ludovic's parents bemoan their feminine, dress wearing, transgender child. Her father puts her on a football team in order to masculinize her but Ludovic can't play sports well and ends up bullied by her teammates.

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* In ''Film/{{Girlfight}}'', Diana's father Sandro pays for Tiny's boxing lessons in the hopes that he'll become a professional boxer, but Tiny would rather become an artist instead. Sandro is also less than thrilled when Diana takes up boxing herself.
* In ''Film/INowPronounceYouChuckAndLarry'', Larry, a firefighter who loves sports spends most of the movie trying, and failing, to get his AmbiguouslyGay ten year old son, Eric, interested in "manly pursuits" like sports, but Eric shows a strong affinity towards dance and Broadway musicals, to the dissapointment of Larry. Though by the end of the movie, Larry does start to accept his son for who he is.
* ''Film/ThreeGenerations'': The plot revolves around Ray's female relatives having difficulty accepting his transition. His grandmother Dolly takes it especially hard.
* ''Film/{{The Princess|2022}}'': The king is initially perturbed by his daughter the princess being taught how to fight without him knowing and her wish to become a knight rather than married off to a prince. After she rescues him and her mother from said prince though he sees the error of his ways, not only declaring that from here on princesses can choose their own path but making her his heir (whereas previously he'd lamented [[HeirClubForMen not having a son to succeed him]].
* ''Film/{{Prey|2022}}'': A mild case, but Aruka doesn't understand why her daughter Naru is so set on being a hunter, rather than stay a medicine woman like her. Naru just insists that it's her calling. She doesn't seem really opposed so much as worried about Naru because of her goal, which puts her in danger.

* ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire'':
** Samwell Tarly's father disowns him and sends him off to the Wall for being insufficiently manly.
** Lord Selwyn Tarth, [[ActionGirl Brienne]]'s father, tried to shoehorn her into a feminine gender role by arranging her marriage to someone who would force her to act like a proper woman. Brienne gave this someone a beating and some broken bones. Since then, Lord Selwyn seemed to accept his daughter as legitimately different.
** Ned and Catelyn Stark are a LighterAndSofter version this in regards to their younger daughter Arya, a HotBlooded {{Tomboy}}. Ned makes it clear that he expects her to be a proper wife and mother when she grows up, but for now, he keeps her on a pretty loose leash. He even indulges her in sword-fighting lessons but thinks it's only a hobby she'll eventually grow bored of. Catelyn is exasperated with Arya's behavior, but it's because she sincerely believes that a PrincessClassic is the greatest thing that a girl can aspire to be and wants what's best for her daughter. But Catelyn still adores Arya despite her disregard for the expectations society has for her.

* Jesse from ''Literature/BridgeToTerabithia'' is seen as odd by most in his 1970s town because he enjoys drawing, with only his friend Leslie and his [[HippieTeacher hippie music teacher]] supporting it. His parents both dislike his hobby and his mom [[MistakenForGay worries that he's gay]] because he only hangs out with a girl. The 2007 SettingUpdate film removed these elements due to ValuesDissonance.

* ''Literature/KrisLongknife'': Kris's mother Brenda Longknife actually tried to ''drug'' her into behaving like a "proper" girl, and didn't like her Great-Grandfather "Trouble" Tordon taking her out orbital skiff-racing and regaling her with war stories, which led Kris to join the Navy after university. Even in the first book, when Kris is awarded the Navy Cross for her actions during a hostage rescue, Brenda says something along the lines of "there, you've got your bauble, now it's time to come home, and wouldn't that medal look good with some gratuitous gemstones on it?" She ''finally'' seems to wise up after Kris goes on two more high risk missions and comes home from the second legally unable to talk about how she came by Earth's highest award for valor.
* ''Creator/JacquelineWilson'': Gemma's mother in ''Best Friends'' very much wishes that Gemma would be less of a tomboy and more of a girly-girl like her friend Alice. Tim in ''Cliffhanger'' and Alexander in ''The Dare Game'' have the opposite problems where their fathers would both prefer for them to be more sporty.
* Flagrantly subverted all over the works of Creator/JRRTolkien, which makes the moments when it isn't subverted stand out all the more. Elves don't really seem to do gender roles, with only one real "division of labor" rule: healers do not kill. Elf-friends among humans, in general, seem to roughly follow this line of thinking.
** ''Literature/TheSilmarillion'' has Morwen tell her ''seven'' year old son Túrin that he shouldn't cry for his baby sister Lalaith. Luckily this is the one piece of her advice that Túrin never takes to heart: he openly cries without shame on several other occasions.
** ''Literature/LordOfTheRings'' of course, has Denethor and Faramir. Denethor openly disowns his second son upon being informed of Boromir's death, in a particularly shocking monologue. While it is never outright stated, the source of Denethor's hatred seems to be Faramir's quieter and softer manner. He's a competent warrior, but doesn't like it and in Denethor's view [[ARealManIsAkiller this is unmanly]]. Denethor is also hypocritical, as he genuinely respects "Thorongil": whom it turns out is Aragorn, and the similarities between Aragorn and Faramir are actually a plot point. Meeting Faramir teaches Éowyn that there are decent men in the world besides her brother and Aragorn, so she doesn't need to uselessly pine for a very very taken (and as a result oblivious) man.
* ''Literature/OliverButtonIsASissy'': Oliver's father seems to be ashamed of the fact that the boy is InTouchWithHisFeminineSide, as he tells him that he shouldn't be a "sissy" and that he ought to play sports. In the end, though, he supports his son's decision to attend dancing school, and is genuinely proud of his performance at the talent show.
* In ''Literature/{{Sanctuary}}'', Holly's AbusiveParents enforced extremely strict gender roles on her and her brothers. Eventually she couldn't take it anymore, so she ran away and now lives in Casswell Park. She still goes to school, and she has friends who know about her living situation, so her parents could presumably track her down if they wanted, but they never do.

* Jamal from ''Series/{{Empire}}'' tried on his mother's clothes once as a child. His dad took him and beat him which is implied to have stopped him from being CampGay as an adult.

* Near the end of ''Series/WillAndGrace's'' original run, Will's father confesses that he wishes Will weren't gay and is troubled by his homosexuality. This causes a rift between them that lasts the rest of the father's life [[spoiler: which turns out to be a few days.]]
* ''Series/TheFosters'': Jude's previous foster father caught him in a dress and beat him up.
* In ''Series/Matador1978'', the no-nonsense businessman, Mads Skjern, sees his biological son, Daniel, as being too nervous, emotional and creative for his own good, and treats him with coldness and distance, and even outright emotional abusiveness at times. Mads even eventually declares that IHaveNoSon, when [[spoiler:it turns out Daniel is homosexual]]. Ironically, Mads greatly favors his adoptive daughter, Ellen, because she is a diligent student and, much like himself, has an ambitious, independent, and driven personality.
* The season 20 debut episode of ''Series/LawAndOrderSpecialVictimsUnit'' features a boy named Sam who can't bring himself to shoot a rabbit while hunting with his father and brother. In response, [[spoiler: the father forces Sam to wear one of his mother's dresses, calls him "Samantha" and finally rapes him. When the dad is acquitted of the rape charge Sam shoots up his school.]]

* ''Series/{{Friends}}'': Ross Geller has been both the child and the parent side of this trope. Several episodes have established that Jack Geller didn't approve of his son's nerdier interests and his owning a "clown kit" which was actually just a makeup kit. When Ross' own son picks out a Barbie to play with Ross spends the episode trying to persuade Ben to give up the doll and play with "boy" toys like Franchise/GIJoe or monster trucks. At the end of the episode Monica calls Ross out by reminding him that he used to play with dolls when they were kids.

* When [[OnlyKnownByTheirNickname Mool Byhung]] from ''Webcomic/WelcomeToRoom305'' came out as a trans man to his parents, his father beat him up. As an adult, he lives with his older brother, who was [[AbusiveParents abused growing up]].

* The titular character of the {{memetic|Mutation}} "Stare Dad" comic is exasperated by how terrified his son is of some wasps, even lamenting how wimpy his son is.

* Despite letting her UsefulNotes/{{trans|gender}}ition in ''Webcomic/VenusEnvy'', Zoe's mother is in denial. Her mother misgenders her and forces her to play soccer (on the girl's team) as a "masculine hobby".

* ''Webcomic/MoratoriumOnMyGender'': Hajime's parents insisted that their non-binary child conform to feminine gender roles. Their mother, in particular, bought them feminine clothing and berated them for speaking aggressively when they were in elementary school.

* ''WesternAnimation/PoundPuppies'': In "Cuddle Up Buttercup", the mom is sort of resigned to the fact that her daughter will take the ballet lessons and wear the tutus, but her tomboy tree-climbing and mud-puddle jumping will always ruin the pink tutus.
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* Spinelli's mother in ''WesternAnimation/{{Recess}}'' wishes she was more feminine.

* Dani from ''Webcomic/BetweenTheLines'' has abusive parents who beat her up. The beatings only became worse when her mom [[UsefulNotes/{{Transgender}} caught her in a dress]] when she picked her up from the hospital.

* The ''VideoGame/HarvestMoon'' fanfic "His Blossoming Trail" gives Cam a backstory in which his love of gardening and bright colours causes conflict between him and his father, who has very strict ideas about traditional gender roles. Cam is forbidden to have or do anything not stereotypically masculine on the grounds that it will "make him gay" and, when he joins his school's gardening club, he has to keep it secret from his parents. (Though his mother is supportive, she often caves in under pressure from his father.) Only when Cam leaves home is he finally able to be who he truly is.

* The ''VideoGame/HarvestMoon'' fanfic "His Blossoming Trail" gives Cam a backstory in which his love of gardening and bright colours cause conflict between him and his father, who has very strict ideas about traditional gender roles. Cam is forbidden to have or do anything not stereotypically masculine on the grounds that it will "make him gay" and, when he joins his school's gardening club, he has to keep it secret from his parents. (Though his mother is supportive, she often caves in under pressure from his father.) Only when Cam leaves home is he finally able to be who he truly is.

* The ''VideoGame/HarvestMoon'' fanfic "His Blossoming Trail" gives Cam a backstory in which his love of gardening and bright colours cause conflict between him and his father, who had very strict ideas about traditional gender roles. Cam is forbidden to have or do anything not stereotypically masculine on the grounds that it will "make him gay" and, when he joins his school's gardening club, he has to keep it secret from his parents. (Though his mother is supportive, she often caves in under pressure from his father.) Only when Cam leaves home is he finally able to be who he truly is.

* ''Film/ThePrincess'': The king is initially perturbed by his daughter the princess being taught how to fight without him knowing and her wish to become a knight rather than married off to a prince. After she rescues him and her mother from said prince though he sees the error of his ways, not only declaring that from here on princesses can choose their own path but making her his heir (whereas previously he'd lamented [[HeirClubForMen not having a son to succeed him]].

* Gris's father in ''WebComic/SomethingPositive'' is not happy that Gris is nonbinary, attracted to women, and into wrestling. (Although that last one might just be because he has a bad opinion of wrestling in general.) Gris points out the hypocrisy that, ever since he learned this, he's suddenly gone from banning them from having boys over to ''encouraging'' it.

* In ''Literature/DealingWithDragons'', Cimorene mentions that her parents are worried about her because she isn't princess-y enough, is too tall, and tried to learn swordfighting. She runs away to volunteer as dragon princess.

* In ''VisualNovel/UminekoWhenTheyCry'', Natsuhi often wishes that her daughter Jessica would act more feminine and ladylike, especially since she's next in line for the family headship after her father. While Jessica [[TomboyWithAGirlyStreak does have a girly and romantic side]], she's generally very feisty and outspoken.

* Jesse from ''Literature/BridgeToTerabithia'' is seen as odd by most in his 1970s town because he enjoys drawing, with only his friend Leslie and his [[HippieTeacher hippie music teacher]] supporting it. His parents both dislike his hobby and his mom [[MistakenForGay worries that he's gay]] because he only hangs out with a girl. The 2007 SettingUpdate film removed these elements due to SocietyMarchesOn.

* Subverted in ''Literature/TheNo1LadiesDetectiveAgency''. After Mma Ramotswe and Rra Maketoni adopt a boy and a girl, Maketoni tries to get the boy interested in his car-repair business, but on seeing the boy has no interest but the girl does, encourages her instead.

* In the French movie ''Me, Myself and Mum'', Guillaume's father wants his [[spoiler:supposedly]] homosexual son to play sports like his two brothers and is deeply disappointed in his feminine behavior.

Sometimes parents with a {{tomboy}}ish daughter or a [[InTouchWithHisFeminineSide feminine]] son will be upset at their child not conforming to gender roles. It's usually the parent of the same sex as the child that gets more agitated. They will often cry, "WhyCouldntYouBeDifferent"

* Gris's father in ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'' is not happy that Gris is nonbinary, attracted to women, and into wrestling. (Although that last one might just be because he has a bad opinion of wrestling in general.) Gris points out the hypocrisy that, ever since he learned this, he's suddenly gone from banning them from having boys over to ''encouraging'' it.

-->-- '''Paula Paxton''', ''Film/BendItLikeBeckham'' (who'd obviously never heard of an AmazonChaser).

-->-- '''Paula Paxton''', ''Film/BendItLikeBeckham''

* ''Manga/RanmaOneHalf'': Genma signed a contract to his wife promising to raise Ranma to be a "man among men" or they would both commit {{seppuku}}. And then Ranma gets a Jusenkyo curse that turns him into a girl. That aside, Genma is always berating Ranma for not being man enough, take it like a man, man up, etc., etc.
* Hana Isuzu is the gunner aboard a Panzer IV tank in ''Anime/GirlsUndPanzer''. However, when her mother learns that Hana is taking tankery in school, she faints. Later, in the Isuzu home, Lady Isuzu demands that her daughter withdraw from tankery, and instead focus on the feminine art of flower arranging. When Hana refuses to abandon tankery, her mother expels Hana from the Isuzu home, although they reconcile later after Hana puts on a tankery-inspired flower arrangement display. It should be noted that tankery ''is'' a feminine pursuit in the series universe(no, really), but Hana's rather traditional mother doesn't think much of it.

%%* Zigzagged in ''Manga/MizutamaHoneyBoy'', most characters avert this (notably Fuji Shiro's Mom), his Dad on the other hand...

* Abigail the mouse from ''WesternAnimation/OnceUponAForest'' is sitting high in a tree when her father calls for her. She climbs down quickly enough that she's able to surprise her father. He reminds her that it's almost time for school, and remarks that her teacher has gotten her to stop climbing trees. "Yes, daddy," Abigail chirps, content to leave her father's delusion intact.

* Hibari's father in ''Manga/StopHibariKun'' is furious that his 'only son' wants to [[{{Transgender}} live as a girl]] and date boys.

* Dani from ''Webcomic/BetweenTheLines'' has abusive parents who beat her up. The beatings only became worse when her mom [[{{Transgender}} caught her in a dress]] when she picked her up from the hospital.

* Despite letting her {{trans|gender}}ition in ''Webcomic/VenusEnvy'', Zoe's mother is in denial. Her mother misgenders her and forces her to play soccer (on the girl's team) as a "masculine hobby".
* ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'': Tedd's father finds it rather unsettling that Tedd recreationally uses the GenderBender properties of the TF Gun to spend time in female forms on occasion. As far as the father knows, it's just an odd pastime, but it causes TransTribulations with Tedd's realization that he's [[{{Transgender}} genderfluid]] and sometimes identifies as female.

* Lao and Poppy Beifong in ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' thought they had raised a delicate, demure flower of a daughter and cannot seem to accept that Toph is actually a [[TheLadette snarky, mouthy tomboy]] who enjoys fighting men twice her size. Their inability to see her as she truly is ends up being a factor in Toph becoming TheRunaway. By the end of ''ComicBook/AvatarTheLastAirbenderTheRift'', Lao Beifong has made a point to start appreciating Toph for who she is rather than what he envisioned/wanted her to be.

* Riot from ''WesternAnimation/{{Jem}}'' is not actually effeminate however his father loathes his interest in music. According to his dad, only "women and sissies" are musicians. His mother tried to support his natural talent though. As an adult, Riot joined the military like his father; however, in Germany, he split up and became a part of a rock band. When he came home, he was given a dishonorable discharge due to leaving the army without permission. His father disowned him and literally quoted IHaveNoSon.