History Main / WantedAGenderConformingChild

->''"When are you gonna realise you have a daughter with breasts, not a son? ... No boy's gonna go out with a girl who's got bigger muscles than him!"''

It's common for the dad to try to "man up" his son by putting him on a sports team or [[ManlyMenCanHunt taking him hunting]], while a mom will try to get her daughter to wear more dresses or take up "feminine" interests like [[FeminineWomenCanCook cooking]] or sewing. Any attempts to change their kids' behavior will usually fail spectacularly.

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* Takatsuki's mother in ''Manga/WanderingSon'' has a three children: a son, a daughter, and the [[AmbiguousGenderIdentity ambiguously trans]] Takatsuki. She is disappointed as the oldest daughter is too disobedient and Takatsuki is too masculine. Takatsuki's mom buys them dresses and other feminine clothes however Takatsuki refuses to wear them.

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* Queen Elinor from ''WesternAnimation/{{Brave}}'' wants her TomboyPrincess daughter Merida to be more feminine.

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* In ''Film/MaVieEnRose'' Ludovic's parents bemoan their feminine, dress wearing, transgender child. Her father puts her on a football team in order to masculinize her but Ludovic can't play sports well, and ends up bullied by her teammates.

* In the French movie ''Me, Myself and Mum'', Guillaume's father wants his [[spoiler:supposedly]] homosexual son to play sports like his two brothers and is deeply disappointed in his feminine behaviour.

** Ned and Catelyn Stark are a LighterAndSofter version this in regards to their younger daughter Arya, a HotBlooded {{Tomboy}}. Ned makes it clear that he expects her to be a proper wife and mother when she grows up, but for now he keeps her on a pretty loose leash. He even indulges her in sword-fighting lessons, but thinks it's only a hobby she'll eventually grow bored of. Catelyn is exasperated with Arya's behavior, but it's because she sincerely believes that a PrincessClassic is the greatest thing that a girl can aspire to be and wants what's best for her daughter. But Catelyn still adores Arya despite her disregard for the expectations society has for her.

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** Kurt's father (Burt) wants him to join the football team because he thinks that's the only way boys can be happy, and bribed him with a car to stop wearing form fitting sweaters that end at the knee -- Kurt still wears the sweaters (including when he tells the club how he got the car), and does enjoy football for all of the one game he plays. However, Burt is fine with Kurt being "one of the girls" occasionally, and does these things because he wanted Kurt to come out to him and so that Kurt would not act deliberately more feminine to provoke homophobes.

* In ''VideoGame/FireEmblemFates'', Leo finds his son [[WholesomeCrossdresser Forrest's]] habit of crossdressing to be distasteful, which causes a big fight between the two. Thankfully, Leo comes around by the end of Forrest's recruitment chapter thanks to his own HeelRealization and Forrest's refusal to roll over and apologize for who he is. The two get along much better after that.

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* Despite letting her {{trans|gender}}ition in ''Webcomic/VenusEnvy'', Zoe's mother is in-denial. Her mother misgenders her and forces her to play soccer (on the girl's team) as a "masculine hobby".

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* ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'': Tedd's father finds it rather unsettling that Tedd recreationally uses the SexShifter properties of the TF Gun to spend time in female forms on occasion. As far as he knows, it's just an odd pastime, but it verges on TransTribulations with Tedd's realization that he's [[{{Transgender}} genderfluid]] and sometimes identifies as female.

* Despite letting her {{trans|gender}}ition in ''Webcomic/VenusEnvy'', Zoe's parents are in-denial. Her mother misgenders her and forces her to play soccer (on the girl's team) as a "masculine hobby".

* In ''Series/Matador1978'', the no-nonsense businessman, Mads Skjern, sees his biological son, Daniel, as being too nervous, emotional and creative for his own good, and treats him with coldness and distance, and even outright emotional abusiveness at times. Mads even eventually declares that IHaveNoSon, when [[spoiler:it turns out Daniel is homosexual]]. Ironically, Mads greatly favors his adoptive daughter, Ellen, because she is a diligent student and, much like himself, has an ambitious and driven personality.

--> '''Father:''' What sport would you like to play?
--> '''Guillaume:''' ...Piano?

-->'''Father:''' [Other kids your age are interested in] fishing, video games. I'd be OK if you were into books and stuff instead.
-->'''Son:''' I read the Diane von Furstenbrg biography.
-->'''Father:''' I don't know who that is, and if you want to be a man someday you're gonna have to act like one.
-->''[Father and son discover the remains of the VictimOfTheWeek. Father ScreamsLikeALittleGirl. Son calmly blasts the exposed skull with his shotgun.]''

This is typically the cause of a BillyElliotPlot. Contrast YouGoGirl, where the parents are generally neutral to supportive. Can lead to TransTribulations for transgender/non-binary children. RaisedAsTheOppositeGender is an inversion that occurs when parents ''want'' their child to live as the opposite gender.

* Dani from ''Webcomic/BetweenTheLines'' has abusive parents who beat her up. The beatings only became worse when her mom [[{{transsexual}} caught her in a dress]] when she picked her up from the hospital.

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* Hibari's father in ''Manga/StopHibariKun'' is furious that his 'only son' wants to [[{{transsexual}} live as a girl]] and date boys.

** Ned and Catelyn Stark are a LighterAndSofter version this in regards to their younger daughter Arya, a HotBlooded {{Tomboy}}. Ned makes it clear that he expects her to be a proper wife and mother when she grows up, but for now he keeps her on a pretty loose leash. He even indulges her in sword-fighting lessons, but thinks its only a hobby she'll eventually grow bored of. Catelyn is exasperated with Arya's behavior, but its because she sincerely believes that a PrincessClassic is the greatest thing that a girl can aspire to be and wants what's best for her daughter. But Catelyn still adores Arya despite her disregard for the expectations society has for her.

* Briefly mentioned in a flashback of ''Manga/BokuraNoHentai''. Akane hated dresses and skirts as a toddler despite her mother's wishes.

* Jesse from ''Literature/BridgeToTerabithia'' is seen as odd by most in his 1970s town because he enjoys drawing, with only his friend Leslie and his [[HippieTeacher hippie music teacher]] supporting it. His parents both dislike his hobby and his mom [[MistakenForGay worries that he's gay]] because he only hangs out with a girl. The 2007 film removed these elements.

This is typically the cause of a BillyElliotPlot. Contrast YouGoGirl, where the parents are generally neutral to supportive. RaisedAsTheOppositeGender is an inversion that occurs when parents ''want'' their child to live as the opposite gender.

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* Spinelli's mother in ''WesternAnimation/{{Recess}}'' wishes she was more feminine.

* Unlike in the [[Franchise/ArchieComics comics]] where he is a supportive parent, Kevin's father in ''Series/{{Riverdale}}'' is homophobic and constantly complains that Kevin is a "sissy".

* In ''VideoGame/FireEmblemFates'', Leo finds his son [[WholesomeCrossdresser Forrest's]] habit of crossdressing to be distasteful, until Elise and Forrest himself get Leo to come around.

* Jesse from ''Literature/BridgeToTerabithia'' is seen as odd by most in his 1970s town because he enjoys drawing, with only his friend Leslie and his [[HippieTeacher hippie art teacher]] supporting it. His parents both dislike his hobby and his mom [[MistakenForGay worries that he's gay]] because he only hangs out with a girl. The 2007 film removed these elements.

* Queen Elinor from ''WesternAnimation/{{Brave}}'' wants Merida to be more feminine.

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* Rio from ''WesternAnimation/{{Jem}}'' is not actually effeminate however his father loathes his interest in music. According to his dad, only "women and sissies" are musicians. His mother tried to support his natural talent though. As an adult, Rio joined the military like his father; however, in Germany, he split up and became a part of a rock band. When he came home, he was given a dishonorable discharge due to leaving the army without permission. His father disowned him and literally quoted IHaveNoSon.

* ''Series/{{Bones}}'': In the ColdOpen of "The Carpals in the Coy-Wolves" a father and son are out hunting because the boy is interested in fashion design and ARealManIsAKiller.
-->'''Father:''' [Other kids your age are interested in] fishing, video games. I'd be OK if you were into books and stuff instead.
-->'''Son:''' I read the Diane von Furstenbrg biography.
-->'''Father:''' I don't know who that is, and if you want to be a man someday you're gonna have to act like one.
-->''[Father and son discover the remains of the VictimOfTheWeek. Father ScreamsLikeALittleGirl. Son calmly blasts the exposed skull with his shotgun.]''

Sometimes a parent with a {{tomboy}}ish daughter or a [[InTouchWithHisFeminineSide feminine]] son will be upset at their child not conforming to gender roles. It's usually the parent of the same sex as the child that gets the most agitated. They will often cry "WhyCouldntYouBeDifferent".

It's common for the dad to try to "man up" his son by putting him on a sports team or [[ManlyMenCanHunt taking him hunting]], while a mom will try to get their daughter to wear more dresses or take up "feminine" interests like [[FeminineWomenCanCook cooking]] or sewing. Any attempts to change their kids behavior will usually fail spectacularly.

This is typically the cause of a BillyElliotPlot. Contrast YouGoGirl (where the parents are generally neutral to supportive). RaisedAsTheOppositeGender is an inversion that occurs when a parent ''wants'' their child to live as the opposite gender.

* Dik Browne's ''ComicStrip/HagarTheHorrible'' has a son, Hamlet, and a daughter, Honi. Hamlet prefers to read books rather than wield weapons, while Honi can clobber any of her suitors easily. Poor Hagar is left wondering where he failed as a Viking father.

* In ''VideoGame/FireEmblemFates'' Leo finds his son [[WholesomeCrossdresser Forrest's]] habit of crossdressing to be distasteful, until Elise and Forrest himself get him to come around.

* When [[OnlyKnownByTheirNickname Mool Byhung]] from ''Webcomic/WelcomeToRoom305'' came out as a trans man to his parents, his father beat him up. As an adult he lives with his older brother, who was [[AbusiveParents abused growing up]].

* The titular character of the [[MemeticMutation memetic]] "Stare Dad" comic is exasperated by how terrified his son is of some wasps, even lamenting how wimpy his son is.
* Danny from ''Webcomic/TheBoyInPinkEarmuffs'' is CampGay and feminine. His father disagrees with his love of pink.

* In ''WesternAnimation/KingOfTheHill'' this is part of the reason why Hank is always saying "That boy ain't right" about Bobby.
* ''WesternAnimation/PoundPuppies:'' In "Cuddle Up Buttercup", the mom is sort of resigned to the fact that her daughter will take the ballet lessons and wear the tutus, but her tomboy tree-climbing and mud-puddle jumping will always ruin the pink tutus.
* Rio from ''WesternAnimation/{{Jem}}'' is not actually effeminate however his father loathes his interest in music. According to his dad only "women and sissies" are musicians. His mother tried to support his natural talent though. As an adult Rio joined the military like his father however in Germany he split up and became a part of a rock band. When he came home he was given a dishonorable discharge due to leaving the army without permission. His father disowned him and literally quoted IHaveNoSon.

* In ''Dealing With Dragons'' Cimorene mentions that her parents are worried about her because she isn't princess-y enough, is too tall, and tried to learn swordfighting. She runs away to volunteer as dragon princess.

* In ''Film/MaVieEnRose'' Ludovic's parents bemoan their feminine, dress wearing transgender child Her father puts her on a football team in order to masculinize her but Ludovic can't play sports well, and ends up bullied by her teammates.

* ''Series/{{Sense8}}'': Nomi's mother refuses to acknowledge that she's a transgender woman, and consistently calls her by her old male name.