Don't You Dare Pity Me! in Fan Works.
Crossovers
- Code Prime: In the R2 chapter, "Valley of Kings and Titans", after the Black Wyverns have their Knightmares turned into Combiners thanks to the Enigma of Combination, Akito tells his older brother Shin about how deep down, he wants to die, because all he can see is darkness in the world, and wants to end it believing that it will end the world’s suffering, and outright says that he pities him. In response, Shin flies into a rage and charges at the combined Knightmare, Hercules, only for it to slice his Thanatos Knightmare in two.
- In Neither a Bird nor a Plane, it's Deku!, Bakugou sees Izuku's unwillingness to apply to U.A. as a sign that Izuku is looking down on him after their fateful childhood brawl, effectively demanding that he apply so they can settle the score. The truth of the matter is that Izuku is refusing to apply because he fears the possibility of repeating what happened that day.Bakugou: You think you're so special, don't you, Deku? You think that you can have a Quirk like yours, show me up one time, and then just get away with not having the balls to settle things?!
- In Of Quirks and Magic, this is Izuku's response after his hands are crippled and Dr. Strange claims to be Quirkless while performing all sorts of awesome feats in front of him. All the while, he's secretly begging Strange to show him more.Izuku: [bitter whispering] You don't have to lie, you know, You don't have to make stuff up just to try and make me feel better.
Strange: [frowning] Young man, I assure you-
Izuku: [crying and glaring daggers] How could you even say all of that with a straight face! You already know I'm Quirkless! My hands are shaking and ruined! I can't even eat on my own! And now you're telling me...you're telling me that you're Quirkless despite having so many abilities!? I don't want to hear any of that! I don't want to be told that a Quirkless loser like me can have that kind of power! I don't need you feeling sorry for me! [struggles to point accusingly at him] I. Don't. Need. Your. Pity! - Superwomen of Eva 2: Lone Heir of Krypton: In chapter 19 Asuka has just been Mind Raped, her career as pilot (which has defined her whole life since her mother's death and was all she had lived for) is pretty much over and her career as Supergirl might be gone too because she believes she is unworthy. When Rei and Shinji try to help her, she replies she does not want their pity.
- Blood Moon: Katara hates it when Sokka tries to comfort her when she and the other waterbenders finally return to the South Pole after years of imprisonment. Most likely because she's resentful of the fact that her big brother could grow up free and at home, surrounded by loved ones.
- Cagney Is a Carnation
by fuyuflowga, after the battle in which Cagney Carnation is defeated and his Soul Contract stolen, when Elder Kettle and the flower children arrive to patch him up, they ask him to come with them, but the damaged flower has reached the Despair Event Horizon by telling them that he is an irredeemable villain who has murdered Mugman; that his Soul Contract will be handed over to the Devil who will kill him; and that he doesn't deserve any sympathy at all, let alone deserve to live. Fortunately, it takes some coaxing from Elder Kettle (including the fact that Mugman is Back from the Dead and all better now) to snap the flower out of despair and bring him into recovery.
- In Sorrowful and Immaculate Hearts, Bruce Wayne is a low-key example, gently but firmly deflecting anyone who asks if he's okay. He never shouts at anyone, because getting worked up about it would be a sign that he wasn't okay, and he is okay. Of course, he's okay. He's a rich white single male, what reason could he possibly have for not being okay? Everything is fine.
- In the Coco fanfiction, Like a Gentle Refrain, Imelda hates being on the receiving end of any type of pity, such as the Condescending Compassion directed towards her in life due to her parents disowning her for choosing to marry Héctor and then him leaving.
- In Skyhold Academy, Bethany feels this way with regards to her potentially fatal illness. She's crushed when she thinks that her Love Interest is just humoring her feelings for him because he feels sorry for her. (He's not, but Poor Communication Kills.)
- Dear Journal: I'm Crazy: Downplayed, but Roger looked clearly hurt when he couldn't get a ruse out of Doug like he would before Doug started his prescription. Even after Doug apologized to Roger for pushing him down the stairs, he still brushes it off and states that Doug couldn't hurt him.
- Fire Emblem: Three Houses: Fifth Path: As shown in a flashback, Byleth's mother Sitri despised being treated like a delicate flower due to her condition.
- A variation in chapter 32 of Roommates: Memoirs of the Hairless Ape, when Mike is having serious fears about his mental health. Looking around at his equally troubled friends and neighbors, he finds that, rather than pitying him, their expressions are of understanding, and that's what hurts him the most: "They simply know. Perhaps they knew all along."
- In Ala These Daemons a runaway Harry growled that he wasn't "charity" when three Diagon Alley shopkeepers offered to let him stay with them — until they threw in a job offer.
- The Parselmouth of Gryffindor's Filch (who works so hard day and night to prove to himself he's better than wizards, Squib or not) doesn't react well when Hermione tries to get him to stop overworking himself and get some help from the House-Elves.
- Hinted at in canon, but The Peace Not Promised makes it clear that while Severus Snape does not have high self-esteem, he does have his pride. To the point where in the first timeline, he dealt with his poverty by accepting sponsorship from the Malfoys rather than the freely offered help of the Evans family. In the second timeline, he almost turns down Dumbledore's help on several occasions, such as kick-starting his alchemy training, until Dumbledore points out how it's an investment.
- The Rigel Black Chronicles: When Caelum Lestrange's Guild allowance won't quite cover the ingredients he needs for his research, Harry steps in to vouch for him and persuade the apothecary to extend him credit — making Caelum impotently furious at her. He doesn't have much alternative to accepting her help, though; his other option is asking his parents (who would give him the money but with far more condescending attitudes than mere compassion). In the end, he can't bring himself either to refuse or to be grateful and just storms out with his purchases.
- The Very Secret Diary: After she works out his backstory, Tom reviles the idea of Ginny feeling sorry for him, and mocks her compassion. Ginny retorts that no, actually, she doesn't feel sorry for him at all — after all, even his rough upbringing couldn't have possibly made him do what he's done.Ginny: I have been thinking. Harry is an orphan, and he is not horrible. And Prissy has everything she wants, and she is still nasty. So I do not know how much it counts. I cannot work out what is wrong with you.
[Stunned Silence for several lines.]
Tom: Get. Out.
- Prodigal Son: Invoked by Astrid word-for-word when Hiccup discovers the marriage contract she has with Snotlout.
- A Thing of Vikings: Dagur outright says this when Hiccup tries to express sympathy for him over the abuse Dagur faced from Savage. His self-loathing is so strong he doesn't feel like he deserves pity.
- In Tomorrow's Doom, Amaya can make quite a fuss about people treating her like a porcelain doll because of her epilepsy.
- In The Devil of UA, Izuku chastises everyone at the Entrance Exams for thinking that his blindness makes him helpless.
- In Nice Kaachan AU, after an amnesiac Katsuki learns of how brutal he was during his match against Ochako during the Sports Festival, he tries to apologize before she stops him. However, this is not out of pride but rather because Ochako respected Katsuki didn't hold back, and that it motivated her to become a stronger hero.
My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic
- Castling Cozy Glow: Cozy initially reacts this way when Rarity tries to comfort her while she's breaking down over the possibility of permanently losing her pegasus magic. But Rarity manages to ease Cozy into letting her guard down.Cozy Glow: "I don't need your sympathy! I'M COZY GLOW! I WILL GET BACK AT ALL OF YOU FOR THIS!"
- Codex Equus: Justified with Prince Healing Song. Being blind since infancy, Healing Song hates it when people patronize him and treat his disability as tantamount to being completely helpless, which he finds degrading. However, he does acknowledge that he needs help at times and feels grateful when help is genuinely offered. This served as the basis of an argument between him and Steel String later in life; after Healing Song was diagnosed with terminal cancer, Steel String coddled him by making sure he was always well-protected and well-provided. Healing Song eventually got fed up with this and confronted his bassist, and prodded him until Steel String broke down, confessing his guilt over his own inability to protect him from War Rock and his fear of losing his "little brother". This led to them reconciling, especially after Healing Song confessed his own fear of death.
- In Diaries of a Madman, this is one of the few things the protagonist, Navarone, cannot stand. He even leaves Equestria ahead of schedule just to avoid this from happening.
- In Equestria: A History Revealed, the Lemony Narrator often does this at times, before returning to her supremely arrogant appearance.
- Long Road to Friendship has Sunset Shimmer, as part of her defrosting from being an Alpha Bitch, refuse any help from the Humane Five, despite living in an abandoned factory with barely enough food and money to scrape by. Part of it is wanting to maintain a strong image of a jerk, and part of her feels like she deserves it. It's only around the twenty-fifth chapter of the fic that she starts letting the Humane Five help at all, and even then, it comes with a warning from Sunset that she is not to be treated like a "freeloader."
- In Why Am I Crying?, Scootaloo yells this to Miss Cheerilee when she talks about when Scootaloo's mother walked out on her and her father.Cheerilee: Many ponies knew about your mother leaving. I'm guessing they never spoke about it out of—
Scootaloo: Pity, right?! Well, I don't need your pity, or anypony's!
- In Jack O'Lantern, Sarada hates being pitied after she was tortured and blinded on a mission. She also tries to downplay the torture by insisting it was "short" — only a few hours long — compared to other shinobi's experiences.
- Toki in The Pride assumes Kurama/Naruto is patronizing her and allowed her to win their spar when she finally gets a clean hit on him. He responds by suddenly appearing in front of her and punching her in the stomach hard enough to make her collapse. While Toki's regaining her breath, he explains that he had to hold back for their spars to have any meaning and all her victory meant was that he can now hold back less.
- In Sakura's Glasses, Sasuke despises pity from the villagers following the death of his clan (hence preferring Naruto's brash attitude compared to others' sympathy). When he suspects that Sakura has become quiet and more helpful towards him because of the loss of his clan, he becomes infuriated, hating her almost as much as his brother.
- In Advice and Trust, Rei pities Ritsuko because she's Gendo's easily-controlled tool. Ritsuko is aware of it and hates being pitied by Rei.
- Evangelion 303:
- Asuka is a variant. She does not want to be pitied because she thinks that people is wasting their compassion on her.
- Shinji played it straighter when she was in a coma. He did not want to pity because he believed that nobody really meant it.
- Asuka is a variant. She does not want to be pitied because she thinks that people is wasting their compassion on her.
- Neon Genesis Evangelion: Genocide: During an argument, Asuka tells Shinji that she doesn't want his pity.Asuka: Let's get one thing straight, Third Child. The last thing I want — the absolutely last thing I want — is pity from the likes of you. Nothing she said, and nothing you said got me here. I'm here for myself.
- The One I Love Is...: In chapter 9 Asuka is cracking under pressure and going through a severe breakdown which her Mind Rape worsened. When Shinji tries to help her she tells several times she does not want to be pitied and she actually hates being pitied."Don't give me that look! The last thing I want is your pity, Third Children!"
- Anachronism: In a flashback to when he lost yet another battle against his rival, a crying Hop yells to Gloria that he doesn't want her pity.
- Guzma in Pokémon Reset Bloodlines has this issue when people look at him with worry.
- In Pokémon Strangled Red, Steven bluntly rejects anyone's words or gifts offered in consolation for the death of his Charizard, Miki.
- Cinderella And Prince Charming: Jaune always hated the pitying looks he got as a child because he was wracked by random pains from his bond with his soulmate. Jaune tells Cinder that no one seemed to care about what was happening to his soulmate, the one who was actually being tortured.
- Defied in A Boy, a Girl and a Dog: The Leithian Script, as befitting a story based on J. R. R. Tolkien's works. Edrahil didn't like being pitied by his colleague — after Edrahil let slip he considers himself a failure who ruined his relationship with his life's love-... but he accepted the Captain's mercy anyway, and that was the beginning of their friendship.Steward: I don't want your pity.
Captain: I know. I'm sorry.
Steward: Then since you will not rescind it, I must thank you for it.
- Tales of the Undiscovered Swords's Nikkō Ichimonji is actually a covert Blood Knight who wants to be treated like a genuine weapon capable of doing battle despite his shrine offering origin and gentle personality, so much so that when Tsurumaru and co. who have been pulling tricks against him express remorse over grievously injuring him, he goes Shinken Hissatsu.Nikkō: Do not pity meoriginal .
- FURTHERFELL: Napstablook has a serious case of imposter syndrome in Rethroned, as they're working three jobs at once and aren't very good at any of them. They refuse to be comforted about this, however, as they don't think they're worth worrying about.
