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* In ''BuffyTheVampireSlayer'', Tara's family is like this. They abuse her emotionally [[spoiler:and lie to her to make her hate herself, fooling her to believe that she is less than human]]. When she breaks free and make a life of her own, they start threatening to move on to physical abuse, and would most likely have made good on their threats if it wasn't for almost the entire cast closing ranks around her and telling them that they would have to [[GoThroughMe go through them]] to get to her. [[MyFriendsAndZoidberg Except Spike.]]

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* In ''BuffyTheVampireSlayer'', Tara's family is like this. They abuse her emotionally [[spoiler:and lie to her to make her hate herself, fooling her to believe that she is less than human]]. When she breaks free and to make a life of her own, they start threatening to move on to physical abuse, and would most likely have made good on their threats if it wasn't for almost the entire cast closing ranks around her and telling them that they would have to [[GoThroughMe go through them]] to get to her. [[MyFriendsAndZoidberg Except Spike.]]
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* The movie ''NotWithoutMyDaughter'' (as well as the book it's based on) tells the story of a failed marriage and a custody battle as entirely a matter of Honor Related Abuse. The characters starts out as an American family, although the husband is of Iranian descent. They are happy with each other until they visit Iran, and the husband's relatives there can start putting much more pressure on him than they could long-distance. In his new-found role as protector of the family honor, he starts battering his wife and brainwashing his daughter. While the wife and daughter are victims of the husband-turned-monster, he is also clearly portrayed as a victim of his own (even by Iranian standards) ultra-conservative family.

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* The movie ''NotWithoutMyDaughter'' (as well as the book it's based on) tells the story of a failed marriage and a custody battle as entirely a matter of Honor Related Abuse. The characters starts start out as an American family, although the husband is of Iranian descent. They are happy with each other until they visit Iran, and the husband's relatives there can start putting much more pressure on him than they could long-distance. In his new-found role as protector of the family honor, he starts battering his wife and brainwashing his daughter. While the wife and daughter are victims of the husband-turned-monster, he is also clearly portrayed as a victim of his own (even by Iranian standards) ultra-conservative family.



* In ''Stoning of Soraya M.'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends her wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her [[spoiler:and even [[CompleteMonster force Soraya's father and children]] to participate in the stoning.]]

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* In ''Stoning of Soraya M.'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends her his wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her [[spoiler:and even [[CompleteMonster force Soraya's father and children]] to participate in the stoning.]]



** There is a similar story in ArthurConanDoyle's ''The White Company; a French peasant father and daughter tie themselves together and jump into the mill pond to drown after the girl attracts the lustful attentions of a nobleman.

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** There is a similar story in ArthurConanDoyle's ''The White Company; Company''; a French peasant father and daughter tie themselves together and jump into the mill pond to drown after the girl attracts the lustful attentions of a nobleman.



* The Swedish book "Mordet på Fadime" (The murder of Fadime) revolves about this, especially the case that made "honor killings" a well known concept in Sweden.

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* The Swedish book "Mordet på Fadime" (The murder of Fadime) revolves about around this, especially the case that made "honor killings" a well known concept in Sweden.
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** Also in Livy, Lucretia did this ''to herself'' when she was raped by the son of King Tarquin; this supposedly set off the revolution against the monarchy and the establishment of the Roman Republic.
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* In ''Stoning of Soraya M.'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends her wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against [[spoiler:and even [[CompleteMonster force Soraya's father and children]] to participate in the stoning.]]

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* In ''Stoning of Soraya M.'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends her wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her [[spoiler:and even [[CompleteMonster force Soraya's father and children]] to participate in the stoning.]]
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* The movie ''NotWithoutMyDaughter'' (as well as the book it's based on) tells the story of a failed marriage and a custody battle as entirely a matter of Honor Related Abuse. The characters starts out as a American family, although the husband is of Iranian descent. They are happy with each other until they visit Iran, and the husband's relatives there can start putting much more pressure on him than they could long-distance. In his new-found role as protector of the family honor, he starts battering his wife and brainwashing his daughter. While the wife and daughter are victims of the husband-turned-monster, he is also clearly portrayed as a victim of his own (even by Iranian standards) ultra-conservative family.
** Since the daughter has been given an Iranian citizenship (without the mother's consent), the mother can't even try to take her back to America without risking the death penalty. Eventually they manage to flee the country and return home to the USA.

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* The movie ''NotWithoutMyDaughter'' (as well as the book it's based on) tells the story of a failed marriage and a custody battle as entirely a matter of Honor Related Abuse. The characters starts out as a an American family, although the husband is of Iranian descent. They are happy with each other until they visit Iran, and the husband's relatives there can start putting much more pressure on him than they could long-distance. In his new-found role as protector of the family honor, he starts battering his wife and brainwashing his daughter. While the wife and daughter are victims of the husband-turned-monster, he is also clearly portrayed as a victim of his own (even by Iranian standards) ultra-conservative family.
** Since the daughter has been given an Iranian citizenship (without the mother's consent), the mother can't even try to take her back to America without risking the death penalty. Eventually Eventually, they manage to flee the country and return home to the USA.



* In ''Stoning of Soraya M.'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends her wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her and even [[spoiler:[[CompleteMonster force Soraya's father and children]] to participate in the stoning.]]

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* In ''Stoning of Soraya M.'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends her wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her and [[spoiler:and even [[spoiler:[[CompleteMonster [[CompleteMonster force Soraya's father and children]] to participate in the stoning.]]
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*** [[AbusiveParents Still not a fucking excuse for cruelly abusing Lily's son Harry out of spite.]]

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*** [[AbusiveParents Still not a fucking an excuse for cruelly abusing Lily's son Harry out of spite.]]
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** While the killing wasn't premeditated, the argument was still mostly about Macton's FantasticRacism against his brother-in-law.
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* A storyline on the soap opera PortCharles had a young Middle Eastern woman being terrorized by her brother. She had fled her country after being raped and her family responded by sending her brother to ''kill her'' in order to restore family honor. This being a soap opera, a well-meaning friend quickly married her to keep her from being deported back to her country as well as to pacify her family. Unfortunately, it didn't work--the brother continued stalking her and discovered that the marriage was fake (the man already had a girlfriend) and eventually did attempt to kill her, though he was unsuccessful.
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* In the movie ''CrossingOver'', a Middle Eastern man murders his sister and her lover, incensed at her refusal to end her affair with a man who is not only married, but Mexican.
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* In the film ''WhenWeLeave'', a young woman leaves her abusive husband in Turkey to return to her family in Germany. Although basically sympathetic to the abuse she has endured, they are ashamed of her for leaving her husband and supposedly bringing shame onto her family--their friends shun them and her younger sister's fiance nearly ends their relationship until the father offers the family a large sum of money. When the young woman flees the family apartment after realizing that they are planning to kidnap her son and send him back to his father, they shun her outright and her brother begins stalking and harassing her, culminating in him trying to stab her (after her younger brother can't bring himself to shoot her) [[spoiler: and accidentally killing her son, who she was holding in her arms at the time. Ironically, despite having no remorse about trying to kill his own sister, he is horrified at having killed his nephew]].
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* Subverted in ''{{Farscape}}'': up until the episode "Mental As Anything," D'Argo's DarkAndTroubledPast involved his wife, Lo'Laan, being murdered by her brother, Macton- apparently for [[FantasticRacism marrying a non-Sebacean.]] However, when D'Argo finally catches up with Macton, it turns out that the "honour-killing" was accidental: the two of them had been arguing, and Lo'Laan had drawn a knife on Macton- [[DamnYouMuscleMemory only for him to instinctively deflect it back on her.]] Macton's ''real'' crime was making it look as though D'Argo had done it in a fit of [[UnstoppableRage Hyper Rage]].
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* In ''Stoning of Soraya M.'', this is the excuse for the titular stoning; The husband wants to spend more time with his mistress and avoid the cost of a divorce, so he first sends her wife to do household chores for a male widow and then accuses her of adultery. They eventually bully the widower to falsely testify against her and even [[spoiler:[[CompleteMonster force Soraya's father and children]] to participate in the stoning.]]
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* In Gabriel Garcia Marquez's lesser-known novel ''Chronicle of a Death Foretold,'' Angela Vicario's husband turns her away and her mother beats her when they realize that [[DefiledForever she isn't a virgin.]]

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* In Gabriel Garcia Marquez's lesser-known novel ''Chronicle ''[[Literature/ChronicleOfADeathForetold Chronicle of a Death Foretold,'' Foretold]],'' Angela Vicario's husband turns her away and her mother beats her when they realize that [[DefiledForever she isn't a virgin.]]
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Happens ''far'' too often in RealLife, and let's leave it at that.

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Happens ''far'' too often in RealLife, RealLife. Let TheOtherWiki [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_killing provide Real Life facts]], and let's leave it at that.
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*** [[UnfortunateImplications Like 99% of Muslim men would do, according to Western media]].
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*** [[AbusiveParents Still not a fucking excuse for cruelly abusing Lily's son Harry out of spite.]]
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** It really doesn't help that the story is shown as pretty much a LifetimeMovieOfTheWeek, and accused openly of portraying [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Not_Without_My_Daughter#Controversy_and_criticism a deliberately false image of Iran]]. Considering that it shows Teheran as a borderline Third World city alongside lots of DidNotToTheResearch, and how brings up '''extremely'' ugly UnfortunateImplications of the "the only 'good' Muslims are those who act like Westerners, all the others are a CompleteMonster" kind...

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** It really doesn't help that the story is shown as pretty much a LifetimeMovieOfTheWeek, and accused openly of portraying [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Not_Without_My_Daughter#Controversy_and_criticism a deliberately false image of Iran]]. Considering that it shows Teheran as a borderline Third World city alongside lots of DidNotToTheResearch, DidNotDoTheResearch, and how brings up '''extremely'' '''horrifyingly''' ugly UnfortunateImplications of the "the only 'good' Muslims are those who act like Westerners, all the others are a CompleteMonster" kind...
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** Said images being her corpse in the bedroom of her home, her husband having slashed her throat and fled back to Afghanistan before the police could catch him, with his characterization of the episode making it clear that he won't lose a moment of sleep over having murdered his supposed love and his own child.
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* ''Flowers In The Attic'', the book and film. A widow with children tries to restore connections with her wealthy family, but she was estranged due to BrotherSisterIncest. After she takes enough punishment to satisfy their demands for penance, she abandons her imprisoned children to their continued abuse.
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** The original manuscript only had him killing her; in keeping with Shakespearean stage directions, it gave no specifics about how the act should be carried out, making this highly subjective.
** How about his son, Mutius? When Bassianus runs off with Lavinia after Titus promised her hand to Saturninus, the new emperor, the rest of his sons help them. When Mutius stands in his way, Titus cuts him down without a second thought.

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*** [[spoiler: Or maybe she grew apart from Lily after finding out that Lily [[WhatTheHellHero read her mail and publicly humiliated her about it.]]]]
* In Gabriel Garcia Marquez's lesser-known novel ''Chronicle of a Death Foretold,'' Angela Vicario's husband turns her away and her mother beats her when they realize that [[DefiledForever she isn't a virgin.]]
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Inaccurate opening line. Taking revenge on a character solely for "living their own life" would be... I actually don't know what that would be, but this isn't it.


The character is just living her own life. And then her family decides to get revenge on her for that. They figure that she has somehow stained the family's honor. Maybe she has a LoveInterest that [[ParentalMarriageVeto they don't approve of]] or that she refused an ArrangedMarriage. Maybe she's turned out to be [[HideYourLesbians homosexual]] or turned her back on their religion. Or maybe it's merely that she's living an independent life at all. Or, grossly enough, maybe she merely committed the [[SarcasmMode awful crime]] of [[DefiledForever getting raped]].

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The character is just living her own life. And then her A character's family decides to get revenge "revenge" on her for that. They because they figure that she has somehow stained the family's honor. Maybe she has a LoveInterest that [[ParentalMarriageVeto they don't approve of]] or that she refused an ArrangedMarriage. Maybe she's turned out to be [[HideYourLesbians homosexual]] or turned her back on their religion. Or maybe it's merely that she's living an independent life at all. Or, grossly enough, maybe she merely committed the [[SarcasmMode awful crime]] of [[DefiledForever getting raped]].
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**[[spoiler: Or it was just an excuse to hide and ignore her jealousy at not being a witch too.]]
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*** It appears we have an expert on the Iranian Legal system with us. Rather presumptuous don't you think.
*** We ''are'' talking about the court system that hangs teenage girls from cranes, stones women to death and buries gay men alive?

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*** ** It appears we have an expert on really doesn't help that the Iranian Legal system story is shown as pretty much a LifetimeMovieOfTheWeek, and accused openly of portraying [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Not_Without_My_Daughter#Controversy_and_criticism a deliberately false image of Iran]]. Considering that it shows Teheran as a borderline Third World city alongside lots of DidNotToTheResearch, and how brings up '''extremely'' ugly UnfortunateImplications of the "the only 'good' Muslims are those who act like Westerners, all the others are a CompleteMonster" kind...
-->'''RogerEbert''': [[http://rogerebert.suntimes.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/19910111/REVIEWS/101110303/1023 "Here is a perplexing and frustrating film, which works
with us. Rather presumptuous don't you think.
*** We ''are'' talking about
great skill to involve our emotions, while at the court system same time making moral and racial assertions that hangs teenage girls from cranes, stones women to death and buries gay men alive?
are deeply troubling..."]]
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** There is a similar story in ArthurConanDoyle's ''The White Company; a French peasant father and daughter tie themselves together and jump into the mill pond to drown after the girl attracts the lustful attentions of nobleman.

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** In Livy at least there is a strong implication that Virginius and Virginia herself regarded this as a MercyKilling saving her from a FateWorseThanDeath.
** There is a similar story in ArthurConanDoyle's ''The White Company; a French peasant father and daughter tie themselves together and jump into the mill pond to drown after the girl attracts the lustful attentions of nobleman.



* In HarryPotterAndTheDeathlyHallows it is revealed that [[spoiler:Petunia only disowned Lily as a sister after she entered Hogwarts and grew fond of snape. Petunia wasn't happy that her sister would have other friends, but mostly, it was because she saw witches as evil.]]

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* In HarryPotterAndTheDeathlyHallows it is revealed that [[spoiler:Petunia only disowned Lily as a sister after she entered Hogwarts and grew fond of snape.Snape. Petunia wasn't happy that her sister would have other friends, but mostly, it was because she saw witches as evil.]]
or maybe she thought Wizards and Witches were evil because they'd taken her sister from her?]]
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*** We ''are'' talking about the court system that hangs teenage girls from cranes, stones women to death and buries gay men alive?
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*** It appears we have an expert on the Iranian Legal system with us. Rather presumptuous don't you think.
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* In HarryPotterAndTheDeathlyHallows it is revealed that [[spoiler:Petunia only disowned Lily as a sister after she entered Hogwarts and grew fond of snape. Petunia wasn't happy that her sister would have other friends.]]

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* In HarryPotterAndTheDeathlyHallows it is revealed that [[spoiler:Petunia only disowned Lily as a sister after she entered Hogwarts and grew fond of snape. Petunia wasn't happy that her sister would have other friends.friends, but mostly, it was because she saw witches as evil.]]
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* In HarryPotterAndTheDeathlyHallows it is revealed that [[spoiler:Petunia only disowned Lily as a sister after she entered Hogwarts and grew fond of snape. Petunia wasn't happy that her sister would have other friends.]]

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