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If a male character is shown ''not'' jumping at the chance to have sex with a woman, he will be either gay or MistakenForGay (the latter scenario can be TruthInTelevision). This is also common in DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale; the idea that men can't be raped by women because men are always willing to have sex, with any woman, at any time. This is also one of reasons for the stigma against {{Asexuality}}, especially in men; since all men supposedly enjoy sex, not being interested in it "clearly" means there's something wrong with them.

Almost as unfortunately, some [[http://www.denisdutton.com/baumeister.htm studies]] suggest there is impressive amount of TruthInTelevision here: recent research using DNA analysis discovered that today’s human population is descended from twice as many women as men. ...For many men, there would be few chances to reproduce, so they had to be ready for every opportunity. If a man said “not today, I have a headache,” he might miss his only chance.

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* Issei from ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDxD'' is an interesting subversion. On the one hand, he constantly and loudly proclaims his eagerness to make out with any beautiful women, and has a well-deserved reputation as a pervert and ThePeepingTom. On the other hand, any time things actually look like they might go somewhere he either [[ObliviousToLove fails to notice girl tries to seduce him]], or someone interrupts them. [[spoiler:Revealed to be deconstruction, since being murdered by his girlfriend on their first date made him afraid of getting too intimate with girls.]]

* ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'' plays around with the trope when it comes the character of Kaji. While he is introduced as a flirtatious person and is frequently shown to hit on the women around him, later episodes sees his HiddenDepths gradually emerge, during which it becomes clear that this behavior is at least partly an ObfuscatingStupidity act he employs as a part of his DoubleAgent work. Some of the glimpses into the sexual bits of his relationship with Misato even implies that his sex drive might actually be quite a bit lower than hers; notably, in a flashback to when the two of them spent a week in bed together during their college days, Kaji is shown to be apprehensive about the situation and he even suggests that maybe they should take a break and get back to studying, while Misato is the one who insists they should just continue having sex instead.

* Discussed and averted in ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'' book ''Literature/ProvenGuilty''; Harry and Murph have one of several conversations about why they've never gotten together, and while Murph offers a FriendsWithBenefits situation, she's unwilling to commit to anything more serious. Harry, despite stating that he's pretty sure it's a legal requirement for a man to say yes to sex whenever it's on offer, he acknowledges that he couldn't keep the deeper and more serious emotions out of it, so they reluctantly decide that they should stay JustFriends.

* In ''Series/BoyMeetsWorld'', Cory feels ready to have sex, and is frustrated when Topanga decides to wait until marriage.

* In ''Series/DegrassiTheNextGeneration'', Peter doesn't pressure Darcy into having sex, but he clearly thinks he is ready, and is very eager to have sex with her.

** The first time Holly J attempted to have sex, Blue outright said "I won't have sex with you," but they did hardly know each other at the time. Blue was eager, but has a shred moral fiber to him.

** However, when its a guy she actually likes, she's worried about him 'really getting around', and doesn't want to be just another girl to him. Turns out he's just as worried she'll be 'just another girl' and run off to brag to her friends after kissing him.

* Inverted with painful hilarity in ''Series/{{Flight of the Conchords}}''. Bret meets a pretty girl, who pressures and bullies him into having sex before he's ready, lies about shipping out to Afghanistan the next day, avoids and ignores him afterwards, brags about him to her friends and leaves him with a reputation as a man-ho. On the other hand, played straight in the fact that Jermaine thinks that this is a wonderful setup and can't understand why Bret is so upset about it.

--> [[spoiler:'''Leonard:''' [[LampshadeHanging I'm starting to think there's a double standard here.]] ]]

* Averted with most of the non-villainous male characters in ''Series/WynonnaEarp'', probably due partly the show's explicit non-straw feminism and also for reasons of FemaleGaze. In contrast, the female characters (especially the titular heroine) are almost always happy and eager to have sex with their lovers, and very quick to proceed to kissing with people they barely know, so long as the guy (or gal) is attractive and not a douchebag.
** Jeremy is generally awkward and geeky, and clearly (and even somewhat fearfully) rejects Rosita when she's rather forcefully coming on to him. Though this probably was meant as a sign that he's [[AmbiguouslyGay gay]], since he also frequently makes comments about Doc and Dolls that imply he has a crush on them.
** Dolls is generally straight-laced and has no mentioned love-life for the first season (except one kiss with Wynonna at the end when she was dressed up to all nines at a party). In season 2, when a rule against co-worker dating becomes a non-issue, he starts persuing a relationship with Wynonna, but the first time they end up in bed, they're just cuddling / sleeping in underwear and he seems perfectly happy with that.[[note]] There are circumstances that explain this (they've just survived being trapped in a burning building the evening before and Wynonna is [[spoiler: heavily pregnant]]), but normally this would still result in some sort of sex-as-reward-for-rescue in most fiction.[[/note]]
** Even Doc, who is a self-admitted womanizer (though decidedly of the ChivalrousPervert variety, at least in the present) and who happily has casual, no-strings-attached sex with several women (including Wynonna) at the drop of a hat, is still perfectly capable of rejecting an eager Wynonna once he falls in love with her, sees her kissing Dolls, and his feelings make things [[IJustWantMyBelovedToBeHappy complicated]]. (Also, it's heavily implied that the reason Wynonna's [[spoiler: baby's father is in question]] is that Doc wasn't going to have sex with her that particular night when she was willing, emotionally in dire need of being touched, but also recently traumatized and much more drunk than usual - he just spent the evening threatening guys with a knife the moment she stopped being happy with their attentions and then wanted to driver her home safely. So she ditched him, went on to another bar and had sex with a random stranger instead.)
-->Wynonna: "I would never have kissed him if I didn't think that you were dead."
-->Doc: "Come now, Wynonna, we never lied to each other. You are free to kiss whoever you like."
-->Wynonna: *moves in for a kiss*
-->Doc: *pulls away* "As long as they want you to."
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* Subtly implied in the Souljahz song "True Love Waits". There are two verses, in which a female and a male protagonist, respectively, face attempts at seduction from their partners. In the female singer's verse, her would-be seducer uses far more lines than that of the male protagonist. This could imply two things. First, it takes a lot more for a man to talk a woman into bed than vice versa. Second, since both the male and female protagonist ultimately say no, the male protagonist's female seducer gives up more easily and willingly than the female protagonist's male seducer.

* PlayedForLaughs in "I Just Had Sex" by Music/TheLonelyIsland. The singers are very enthusiatic about any sexual encounter regardless of how uncomfortable and demeaning the circumstances are:

* [[https://youtu.be/flTDB1G3Hho Pervert by Descendants]] has a singer proudly singing about his desire of sexual intercourse and even referring to himself as pervert hence the song name (read the song's lyrics for yourself). This punk rock song is also featured in [[Radio/GTARadio the fictional radio station "Channel X"]] from the VideoGame ''VideoGame/GrandTheftAutoV''.

* A notable subversion in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins'' with Alistair. Despite appearing to be a seductive, charming gentleman and snarky ladies' man, when your character manages to make him fall for you, unlike other members of your group, he will not "put out" on the drop of a hat because he doesn't feel ready to lose his virginity yet and needs you to respect that he needs time.
** Further subverted in that when he eventually is ready and decides to go for it, he is noticeably nervous.
--> '''The Warden:''' Are you sweating?
--> '''Alistair:''' No! I-I mean, yes! I mean... I'm a little nervous, sure. Not that this is anything bad or frightening or... well... YES.
* Subverted in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeII'' by Fenris and straight up averted Sebastian. Fenris HatesBeingTouched due to the [[AcheyScars lyrium tattoos]] all over his body and his experiences as a former slave, so it takes a lot before he'll open up enough to become willing for intimacy with Hawke. Sebastian's religious devotion means that he's taken a vow of chastity and encourages a romanced Hawke to do the same.

* Both sexes tend to be reliably eager in ''Webcomic/MenageA3''; it's that sort of SexComedy. But it's notable that Gary's response to discovering that he's been tricked into giving Amber oral sex is "I AM TOTALLY OKAY WITH THIS SITUATION!!!" (Strip #495, September 3 2011, NSFW. Well, she was his favorite porn star...)

* ''Webcomic/UnderTheOakTree'': Maximillian's loving husband Riftan is almost constantly horny for her. He tries to hold himself back when he thinks she's not up for it, but doesn't realize that her childhood abuse has given her severe issues speaking up for herself. She can't bring herself to voice her desires when she is in the mood, so they occasionally suffer needless mutual frustration.

* Discussed and averted in ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'' book ''Proven Guilty''; Harry and Murph have one of several conversations about why they've never gotten together, and while Murph offers a FriendsWithBenefits situation, she's unwilling to commit to anything more serious. Harry, despite stating that he's pretty sure it's a legal requirement for a man to say yes to sex whenever it's on offer, he acknowledges that he couldn't keep the deeper and more serious emotions out of it, so they reluctantly decide that they should stay JustFriends.

* ''Literature/AubreyMaturin'': A lot of the sailors, Napoleonic-era sea travel being what it is. Maturin often comments that Jack is "pierced by his own sword" and simply has no idea how to turn down sex. Then there's [[UpToEleven Babbington]], who has a portion of his pay confiscated by Jack whenever they reach port so he can be convinced to spend it on anything other than whores, and has had so many venereal diseases it has stunted his growth.

* ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'' plays around with the trope when it comes the character of Kaji. While he is introduced as a flirtatious person and is frequently shown to hit on the women around him, later episode sees his HiddenDepths gradually emerge, during which it becomes clear that this behavior is at least partly an ObfuscatingStupidity act he employs as a part of his DoubleAgent work. Some of the glimpses into the sexual bits of his relationship with Misato even implies that his sex drive might actually be quite a bit lower than hers; notably, in a flashback to when the two of them spent a week in bed together during their college days, Kaji is shown to be apprehensive about the situation and he even suggests that maybe they should take a break and get back to studying, while Misato is the one who insists they should just continue having sex instead.

* [[https://youtu.be/flTDB1G3Hho Pervert by Descendants]] has a singer proudly singing about his desire of sexual intercourse and even referring to himself as pervert hence the song name (read the song's lyrics for yourself). This punk rock song is also featured in the fictional radio station "Channel X" from the VideoGame ''VideoGame/GrandTheftAutoV''.

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* Nyarko from ''LightNovel/HaiyoreNyarkoSan'' desperately wants this trope to happen and keeps trying to [[InvokedTrope invoke]] it by surprising her LoveInterest Mahiro in the bath or bed, hoping that he'll get into it and it'll turn into full-blown lovemaking. However, since Mahiro is a ChasteHero (and mildly put off by her being a ManicPixieDreamGirl ''and'' [[Franchise/CthulhuMythos Nyarlathotep the Crawling Chaos]]), it always just ends up with Nyarko suffering {{Slapstick}} violence.

* Subverted in ComicBook/MarvelStarWars and some other Franchise/StarWarsLegends comics featuring a young Luke Skywalker. Luke is popular with women to the point of being a ChickMagnet, but never initiates a kiss and in fact seems shocked whenever one is [[ForcefulKiss forced on him]]. The first time he encounters several Zeltrons who all want to sleep with him he's highly dismayed and only wants to get away; later in the series he's more comfortable around them but deftly deflects all offers and prefers to be by himself. When a fellow Rebel that he's friends with propositions him for some casual sex, he turns her down despite being in a spat with Leia.

* ''WebComic/EerieCuties'': Kade is the PG-13 version of this, as he's perfectly willing to make-out with any girl that [[http://www.eeriecuties.com/strips-ec/the_ground_was_fine shows him affection]], or [[http://www.eeriecuties.com/strips-ec/kiss_boys happens to catch his eye.]] As you'd expect, that also means [[YourCheatingHeart he's willing to cheat.]]

* Issei from ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDxD'' is an interesting subversion. On the one hand, he constantly and loudly proclaims his eagerness to make out with any beautiful women, and has a well-deserved reputation as a pervert and a PeepingTom. On the other hand, any time things actually look like they might go somewhere he either [[ObliviousToLove fails to notice girl tries to seduce him]], or someone interrupts them. [[spoiler:Revealed to be deconstruction, since being murdered by his girlfriend on their first date made him afraid of getting too intimate with girls.]]

* Lampshaded in the 1987 ''Franchise/{{Dragnet}}'' movie. The incredibly straight-laced Friday turns down a pretty woman, leading to this exchange

* Crosses into a borderline DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale in Creator/CoriFalls's "How James Got His Mojo Back". James makes a big deal of having Jessie's consent for lovemaking at all times, but the moment James changes his mind and doesn't feel like sex Jessie ''and Meowth'' act like he's lost his mind.

* ''Webcomic/StickyDillyBuns'' is a spin-off of ''Webcomic/MenageA3'', as discussed above, so the men are, again, mostly reliably eager. This means that Andy’s aversion of the trope makes him look downright freakish; his girlfriend Ruby, who starts out cynically assuming the worst of men but works round to the idea that she’d quite like to try sex, finds him confusing and frustrating. It turns out that he’s borderline {{asexual|ity}}, making him exaggerate his natural obliviousness, but fortunately they’re able to talk things through to a satisfactory conclusion.

Almost as unfortunately, some [[http://www.denisdutton.com/baumeister.htm studies]] suggest there is impressive amount of TruthInTelevision here: recent research using DNA analysis (discovered that) today’s human population is descended from twice as many women as men. ...For many men, there would be few chances to reproduce, so they had to be ready for every opportunity. If a man said “not today, I have a headache,” he might miss his only chance.

''[[JustForFun/TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs This is a highly dangerous trope that is too often used as an excuse for rape in Real Life - it is a horrible experience to go through, and all too often the victims are shamed into silence by their attackers. If this is you, you need not be afraid. There are people who]]'' '''''[[JustForFun/TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs can]]''''' ''[[JustForFun/TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs and]]'' '''''[[JustForFun/TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs will]]''''' ''[[JustForFun/TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs help you.]]''

AndNowYouKnow.

''Patient:''' I was afraid it was from all the masturbation!

* Subverted with Tsubasa in ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar''. Most of the time it's Kashiwagi that makes advances on him and he's been apprehensive about being intimate in more public places like the school festival or a park. The times when he does try to forward their relationship has been mostly chaste like asking the student council why he made her mad or trying to hold her hand. [[spoiler: Considering his [[ItRunsInTheFamily family]] [[TeenPregnancy history]], he might be [[GenreSavvy consciously trying]] to defy this trope.]]

* Subverted in ''[[Comicbook/RobinSeries Robin]]'' and ''Comicbook/RedRobin'' by Tim Drake. Despite having about five girlfriends over the course of the comics and being propositioned for sex thrice he always responds with LetsWaitAwhile being one of the very few {{Celibate Hero}}s in the DCU.

* The main character in ''Film/SexDrive'' is like this, to the point that when he finally[[spoiler:loses his virginity to his best friend/girlfriend]] he asks the aforementioned question [[spoiler:the second time he has sex with her.]]

%%* Please add more context explaining the use of the trope before un-commenting. Dimitri of ''Webcomic/SpaceTrawler'', at least when he isn't being a ManipulativeBastard for the side of good -- and sometimes he manages to combine the two, all with a large side-order of InterspeciesRomance.

* In ''Literature/DragonBones'', some men are this trope (Beckram, according to his brother Erdrick, has sex with everything that moves, which is a bit exaggerated, but not much), while some are not. When the protagonists travel with an attractive, but somewhat older woman (in her thirties, Ward, the oldest brother, is nineteen), she effortlessly seduces the two middle-aged men in the group, wins the affections of Ward's younger brother Tosten, and tries to seduce Ward. He's the only one who rejects her, and he's only able to do so because it wouldn't be wise to have sex while on guard duty at night. He later tells her that if not for the guard duty, he might have slept with her, but that it would have been wrong, as he doesn't really like casual sex. (There is also Oreg, who is also not so eager, but he's a bit of an exception, as he's Really700YearsOld, immortal, a magically bound slave, and suffers from PTSD. It's implied that he was sexually abused in the past. It would stretch suspense of disbelief if ''he'' was eager to have casual sex.)[[spoiler:Subverted in that it is later revealed that the seductress uses her magical powers to make men want sex with her - she suspects that Ward is too stubborn, so it doesn't work on him. It probably doesn't work on Oreg because he's a powerful mage and not quite human. Of course the two other men perhaps wouldn't have turned her down without magic, either, but it's never really explained.]]