"She is in that nightdress again—the white one that she has long outgrown and that barely reaches her thighs. How I wish she wouldn’t walk around in that thing; how I wish her copper hair wasn’t so long and shiny; how I wish she didn’t have those eyes, that she wouldn’t just wander in uninvited."Sometimes a character really does want to just be friends with another; at least as far as conscious decisions go, but the sexual attraction and sexual thoughts persist. Maybe something about the friend, whether appearance or personality or whatever else, just seems sexy. Perhaps the character is so dirty-minded by their very nature that they just have sexual thoughts anyway. Whatever the case, the lust conflicts with the friendship, no matter how hard they try to conceal the former. Compare and contrast with I Don't Want to Ruin Our Friendship. The difference lies in the reaction of the character feeling the romantic/sexual feelings (and, in many cases, the former relationship between the two): if they're creeped out by their sudden attraction to the person they had always considered a brother/sister, it's this trope; if they're worried that admitting their feelings to someone with whom they've been Just Friends will cause drama or change a group dynamic, it's I Don't Want to Ruin Our Friendship. Compare Stupid Sexy Flanders, as it reflects on a similar conflict between the sexual thoughts one has and consciously thinking one shouldn't have such sexual thoughts. (And yes, this is snowcloned from it.) Compare and contrast Friends with Benefits, one solution to this problem if it's mutual. Truth in Television, of course. After all, it's considered normal to lust after someone you don't know, as opposed to a close friend (that you do know).
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Anime and Manga
- In Yuri series Sasameki Koto, Sumika Murasame is stuck being Just Friends with Lipstick Lesbian Ushio Kazama (not this trope), but as the story goes on, we find out that Ushio has fallen for Sumika at some point but is extremely uncomfortable being attracted to a close friend (this trope).
- From Touch: Tatsuya: "One day, we became aware that one of the three of us was a girl." Thus began the childhood friend romance love triangle. Oh, and a good deal of baseball too.
- In Infinite Stratos, this is VIRTUALLY Ichika's relationship with all the members of his Unwanted Harem: he has shown some interest in all of them, ranging from cuteness (Rin, Laura, Char), to fascination of beauty (Cecilia, Houki on certain instances) all the way to outright sexual curiosity (Houki, probably Char). However, he has not decided to choose from among them due to his circumstances. Unfortunately, the girls themselves seem to misinterpret his actions as that of being a very dense oaf.
- While Carol and Harry are pretty firm about being Just Friends in Child of the Storm, there are persistent mild shippy undertones to their friendship, and it's implied that while Harry's fairly new to the whole sexual attraction thing (he's thirteen when the story starts), he wouldn't mind if they got a Relationship Upgrade. As it is, however, he seems equally happy with being Just Friends, since Carol has about two actual guy friends who aren't trying to get in her pants and very few friends full stop.
- Billy Crystal's character in When Harry Met Sally... epitomizes this trope, and it plays a major part in the plot of the film itself.
- All Over Me is a Coming-of-Age Story where a young girl begins to realize that she's a lesbian, and has a crush on her longtime best friend that she's moved in with and wants to form a band with. Unfortunately said best friend is straight, and also dating a violently homophobic guy.
- A lesbian example of the trope occurs in Killswitch, the third book in the Cassandra Kresnov trilogy by Joel Shepherd. The titular android's bisexual best friend admits to having fallen in love with Cassandra, but the latter is straight and the friend doesn't want to affect their working and non-working relationships.
- This is part of the relationship between Harry Dresden and Molly Carpenter. He doesn't reciprocate her feelings towards him (and feels it would be creepy to do so, given that he's known Molly since she was a child), but still finds her attractive. Awkwardness ensues. Something similar exists between Harry and Karrin Murphy, as they have been close colleagues since the first book and gradually getting closer in other ways, while both are aware that the complications of a relationship would be dangerous for both of them.
- At the beginning of Dora Wilk Series, Dora tries to keep things friendly between her and Miron, but both have rather sexual thoughts of one another. The problem here is mostly that Dora, as a succubus expy, is used to people lusting after her because of her powers and thus thinks that her relationship wih Miron would be result of magic rather than actual attraction. They do get together in book 3.
- The Kharkanas Trilogy: The cousin version. Faror Hend struggles with her lustful feelings towards her younger cousin Spinnock Durav, who in turn thinks he can act freely around her as she is his cousin and thus in no danger of misunderstanding his smiles and flirty remarks. He is suitably squicked when she confronts him.
Live Action TV
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
- This was pretty much how Xander felt about Buffy after he got past being outright attracted to her and too inept to say so.
- Willow finally gets together with Xander. When they're both with other people.
- On NCIS: Los Angeles: It's a quick moment, but it's there. When Kensi is compelled to do a quick change in clothes in the middle of an undercover op, Callen's eyes widen. And he politely looks away.
- For a brief period Angel's feelings towards Cordelia are this, with him sort of horrified that he does feel something romantic for her when previously they were like family. By the time he gets over it there's other issues preventing them getting together… not that there weren't already.
- In Community, Jeff and Annie often fall into this territory. They're pretty much the Official Couple by this point, but the age difference and nature of the relationship so far has made them both feel somewhat squicky about the idea of hooking up, despite how much they both seem to want to hook up.
- All three of the male roommates on New Girl have had moments like this with their female roommate Jess. This is especially the case for Nick, who has some serious Unresolved Sexual Tension with her.
- In Doctor Who, the Eleventh Doctor and Clara have problems with this towards each other, due to some minor Unresolved Sexual Tension between both of them. (They both insist on only being friends, as much as they like each other.) The trope is more prominent on the Doctor's side and usually Played for Laughs, while Clara off-handedly mentions once (while alone) that she has to keep herself in check and not develop a crush on him. Later, though she's not attracted to the older-looking Twelfth Doctor, she still makes a cheeky compliment about his handsome looks and charismatic voice, much to his annoyance.
- In Little Busters!, if you choose to stay with the guys rather than go with the girls on their sleepover, they end up conversing about love and when Riki is evasive, Masato jokes that he has a crush on Kyousuke. If you choose to lie, Riki admits mentally that he does, but denies it because he doesn't want to ruin their friendship. Then when he asks Kyousuke who he likes, Kyousuke replies 'right now, Riki is my number one', causing Riki to blush heavily. However, he berates himself for thinking that way, stating that indecent thoughts like that are desecrating their friendship. Immediately afterwards Kyousuke asks him 'Wanna do it?' Referring, of course, to playing tabletop baseball.
Riki: Uooooh, what a misunderstanding I just had!! It's a desecration of our friendship… God of friendship, forgive me…
- In Morenatsu, it's revealed that Shin feels this way about you, which makes his self-conscious issues even more frustrating for him.
- In All New Issues, Todd and Robyn look like they're almost going to kiss, and then this trope kicks in.
- In Sunstone, Anne reading Lisa's bibliography of self-starring kinky erotica served as a good way to explore her interest in BDSM, but also, to Anne's annoyance, a good way to explore an interest in Lisa.
- Linda to Francine in American Dad! What makes this more tragic is Linda is unaware that Francine is bi and doesn't seem to consider lesbian affairs as cheating.
- Star vs. the Forces of Evil: Despite canonically having crushes on other people, both Star and Marco have each shown an awkward physical attraction to the other at some point. Perhaps inevitably, Star is revealed to have a complicated crush on Marco that even she isn't really aware of. And in season 3, just as Star is trying to get over Marco, Marco realizes he's got a crush on Star.