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Dater Ape
Come on, Babe, it's your lucky day
Shut your mouth, we're gonna do it my way
C'mon, Baby, don't you be afraid
If it wasn't for Date Rape, I'd never get laid!
Sublime, of course.

This trope (which is sadly common in real life, reflected in fiction), is Exactly What It Says on the Tin. A woman, or more rarely a man, is out on a date with a person who seems nice and normal... until they force themselves on the victim, either by drugs or by violence. Though this is a dated definition: the proper term now is acquaintance rape, owing to the fact that there doesn't even have to be a date (or even a dating relationship) for it to happen - acquaintance rapes have happened as Brother-Sister Incest, between co-workers and roommates and similar, by delivery people or hired employees, by medical professionals while the victim was under anesthesia and in nontraditional relationship settings (e.g. a member of the Groupie Brigade of a band's singer is at a party and gets roofied and raped by the bassist; or a woman is meeting with a male sex worker and instead of having consensual sex with her, he rapes her) among others.

All that is required is that the victim knows the rapist in some way, and that trust (and possibly the setting and any alcohol or drugs given, not all cases even involve alcohol or drugs) enabled the rapist(s) to gain access to and control over the victim. While date rape is often cited as "gray rape" or "accidental rape," and some rare cases undoubtedly are, the great majority of acquaintance rapes are not those rare cases - they are planned events by serial rapists, who have simply learned how to use social engineering, alcohol, drugs, and threats as weapons instead of guns, knives, and fists.

See also Date Rape Averted for when a hero steps in. And you can possibly be that hero in real life - see here. Or sometimes a villain will even step in.

Do NOT confuse with Date CrÍpe.


Examples:

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     Film  

  • Happened to the protagonist of the first Trilogy of Terror segment.
  • This fuels the plot of the Left In Darkness movie, where the young girl Cecilia is given a cup with drugged beer and raped, however she dies shortly after her dose and wakes up in limbo. At one point in the movie she does manage to knock a cup of drugged beer away from her friend despite being in limbo.
  • In Basic Instinct, the first scene of Nick and Beth in her flat qualifies as this. He aggressively comes on to her, and she enjoys it at first. By the end he forces himself onto her, and she's clearly struggling against him. After they're done, she calls him out on that fact that he wasn't making love to her, and angrily tells him to leave.
  • Referenced by JD in Heathers: "Football season is over, Veronica. Kurt and Ram have nothing to offer the school but date rapes and AIDS jokes."

     Literature  

  • Swordspoint: In The Privilege of the Sword, Artemisia Fitz Levi goes to a somewhat disreputable ball with her fiance, they end up in a secluded corner, and before she knows what's happening enough to protest, he's taking her virginity. He doesn't seem to consider this rape at all, and blames her for the fact that it even happened.
  • The plot of Jodi Picoult's The Tenth Circle focuses on a fourteen-year-old girl who accuses her ex-boyfriend, a popular hockey player, of date-raping her at a party.
  • Not a "date" in the usual sense, but this happens to Jensen in Pillars of Creation, the seventh book in the Sword of Truth series. Her inner monologue makes it clear she isn't at all comfortable with what her suitor is doing, but she's unable to bring herself to stop him.

     Live Action TV  

  • A story arc about Paige on Degrassi revolved around this trope. She goes to a party, flirts with a boy, gets raped, and has to testify.
  • An episode of Beverly Hills 90210 revolved around the girls attending a seminar on the subject. Kelly matter-of-factly states it was a weekly occurrence in high school. The episode was important at the time because the term "date rape" had only recently been coined and attitudes toward sexual assault were changing.
  • Veronica Mars: Part of the backstory told in flashbacks. Veronica is roofied during a high school party end of her sophomore year and wakes up partially unclothed the next morning. She tries to report what happens and Sheriff Lamb calls her a slut and kicks her out of the station. Which explains why she hates him so much. At the end of season 1 she finds out she was drugged when Madison gave her a trip to the dentist. Duncan rescued her at first getting her to a safe room. Then he was drugged and put in the same room. Duncan in his state thought she had consented. Logan was the one that brought the drugs to the party. Then at the end of the 2nd seasons she find out that mass murderer Beaver had raped her that night. In season 3 she can't understand why Logan goes as far as he does to protect her as she investigates a serial rapist, who targets her but is scared off by Logan
  • A violent, rather than drugged, example would have happened in Heroes if Brody had succeeded in raping Claire before accidentally killing her. It is also very heavily implied that he is a serial date rapist, who covers himself by spreading rumors about how his victims are sluts.

     Manga and Anime  

  • A disturbingly large amount of hentai manga and dōjinshi plots. Often employs the "Not If They Enjoyed It" Rationalization.
  • An episode of Hell Girl dealt with a boy who learned that the girl he had a crush on was about to be roofied and raped by her boyfriend and another guy. The boy goes to Hell Girl to send the rapists to hell but is ultimately rejected and the girl is raped. It turns out the next day that the girl sent her boyfriend to hell afterwards, and the boy takes it upon himself to kill the other one.
  • Happened to Chizuru "Chizu" Honda in the Bokurano manga, when her boyfriend and teacher Hatagai led her to a love hotel room and had her gangraped by his friends. For worse, she was impregnated and he didn't care. No wonder Chizu SNAPPED afterwards.

     Music  

  • The Special A.K.A.'s (the second incarnation of The Specials) song "The Boiler", featuring vocals by Rhoda Dakar. It's quite disturbing.
  • Sublime's "Date Rape", a fast-paced and cheery song about a guy who practices date rape, gets arrested, and then suffers Prison Rape.
  • The PV for "Genkai Haretsu" by hide implies both this and that the victim is, afterward, kept in an induced coma by her rapist, who is the Villain Protagonist of the song. The "seems nice and normal" is played for great effect - the rapist character appears as a wealthy, respectable businessman.
  • Warren Zevon's "Excitable Boy" includes the verse "He took little Suzie to the Junior Prom/Then he raped her and killed her, then he took her home".
  • Brian McFadden's So Bad, It's Good song, "Just the Way You Are (Drunk at the Bar)", is pretty explicit about this. He sings about wanting to take a wasted girl home to "do some damage" and uses the phrase "take advantage". Moral Guardians (and everyone else for that matter) were pretty upset. Delta Goodrem dumped him soon after.
  • "Hearts and Crosses" by the janglepop band Heavenly. The song was distinctly Darker and Edgier than their previous material and was something of a Growing the Beard moment for them.
  • Local H does a variation on this trope in "Keep Your Girlfriend," which includes lyrics like "want to know how it feels when she gives in." (One assumes Scott Lucas is playing a character in this song.)
  • Earl Sweatshirt of OFWGKTA describes performing Date Rape (among many other atrocities) in his song "Earl".
    Earl: How the fuck I fit an ax in a satchel?/Slip capsules in her glass./She dizzy rascal./Party staff baffled./Asking: "Where'd her ass go?"/In my room, redefining the meaning of "black holes".
  • "No Means No" by Firefall.

     Web Original  

  • The Nostalgia Critic got roofied and raped on his prom night. Played for Laughs, obviously, but has he ever given us happy backstory?
  • On her in-character facebook, The Nostalgia Chick finally got a date with Todd in the Shadows. Most people would feel bad if their crush drank the night away and ignored them (which he did), but she was just excited about his judgment being blurred.


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