Romance

Excellent. May it be fun. :)

Good luck.

Well, some of my friends are saying they want to hook me up with someone. Wonder if anything will come up from it.

If they are your friends, and they know who you are, care for you and know what is good for you and wish you to be happy, I say go for it. If it doesn't work out, know that they had, and have, their best intentions.

Fuck. My friend is dating the girl I had a crush on who now hates me and my friend is talking to people I know behind my back about what happened between us. He's crossing a line and I don't know what to fucking do right now.

I just want to get this story off my chest. To give you some background, I'm a bored, horny bisexual teen in high school. in my senior year, there was this beautiful girl, kinda shy, didn't stick out from the crowd. how I met here was because of the fact my friend was in there and we like shitposts, I showed him a picture of shrek extra large on gamecube but distorted, she leans over and says she owns the game,and then we talk about game collecting and shit. I ask her for her email address and we then proceed to chat over google hangouts for a week. She liked horror movies, loved to read, watch anime and play video games. but whenever I would text her I would type this long paragraph about some nerd shit, and she would respond "ok" or "k" or "yeah". simple one word responses, which is fine. Then she texts me asking if I have a crush on her, I say yes, she says she doesn't love me. Ok we can still talk. Now, in that same history class there was this kid, constantly bullied girls, made edgy hitler jokes 24/7, obsessed with call of duty. just a little shitstain. he starts bullying this beautiful girl, I ask her if she needs help dealing with him, I dealt with him in high school which is an entire other story. She says she's fine, OK fine then. then a week later she started to date him. ok, due to the fact that I don't want to deal with this kid, I just stop talking to her. A year later I get a job, job is great, coworkers are great, I get to talk about zelda to a bunch of geeky guys/girls. it's great! a year later, everybody leaves besides me and one girl. everybody is replaced by rowdy dudebros. they screech about fortnite, sports, dubstep dumb shit like that. Constantly talk down to me and mock me because i'm only 17 and bi. I didn't quit because the store was horribly understocked. It's unbearable. Then the girl gets a job here, fuck. The only girl working there didn't know about my crush. she then makes me train the girl I have a crush on. feel a surge of emotions. tell my manager that I can't work with her because of my crush. the job has just gone from "awful" to "unbearable" next day I put in my two weeks, finally quit a month ago. getting my last check today.Can't find a decent bi/gay guy or straight/bi girl who actually suits my interest for the life of me. there's like, three gay/bi guys in my school and one of them is the bully and the other two are irritating. Just needed to rant about this shit. thanks for reading me whine about love/lust or whatever this is. thank you.

@Scarecrow That "friend" is not your friend. Don't hang out with that "friend", they are an obvious poison who does not care about your well being.

@Legend I'm sorry about what you went through. Just know that there are people who are in a similar situation that you were/are. I know that it hurts sometimes, and its alright/fine that you needed to vent. Everyone here is looking for love and we ask each other. Just know that you will find someone soon. Today? Maybe? Tomorrow? Maybe? A week, maybe. But just know that someone out there is looking for someone like you. People can be assholes, yes, but its fine that you left that environment. You will find someone and you'll find the world a little more brighter with that person in your life.

As of right now, I plan on talking to everyone involved and tell them my side of the story and how they're crossing a very serious line for me and I'm not going to take it. And my so called friend can fuck off, especially considering I went to him for help about my crush.

I hope everything gets better for you. It will feel bad and get dark but it'll hopefully be ok.

@marcen thank you. I hope you find love too. just kinda sucks sometimes y'know @scarecrow i'm sorry for what your going through too.

@Legend. Thanks. I just wish this didn't have to go this far. And I hope you'll be able to find love too.

@scarecrow I'm sorry for what you've been going through, you deserve better.

It pains me seeing that girl date someone besides me, but at the same time I'm happy she's happy and that the bully is finally out of my hair. Sometimes it feels like there's no one else out there, she was perfect, the only other person who's like that is a close friend I've had since kindergarten. she's like a sister to me. But i've been more outgoing lately. I hope you finally get someone. And I hope I do too.

@Legend. I'm in the same boat except that the guy she's dating isn't worth it at all. Even though we were friends, he crossed a line for me and I will make sure people know that. Also, when I went to him after the falling out I had with the girl, he trashed talked her and I defended her. So I don't even know why they're dating right now anyway.

@scarecrow me neither the bully was a massive dick to me in middle school, constantly talked down to me, spread a rumor that I was into him (I'm not) and constantly talked shit behind my back, but as long as she's happy, I gotta respect that. he seems to respect her (for the most part...) and she's happier than she's ever been. I still hate that guy, but at the same time I gotta respect her wishes.

Edited by Legend_Of_Snake369 on Dec 14th 2018 at 12:34:40 PM

Some advise from someone who has done this a bit, nobody is perfect, nobody is even the perfect fit for you, not to begin with.

You’re always taking a risk with a relationship, it’s always a gamble, because it’s not about an arbitrary score, it’s not about people’s levels, it’s about finding a partner to go onwards in life with.

You can’t determin if someone is going to be the right partner from the outside, you can’t even determin it quickly from the inside, it’s more often than not something you learn together.

Every potential partner is a roll of the dice, there is no person who can be recognised as perfect from the outset, instead you have to look for someone where you see things fit and you have a desire to see if even more things fit.

A big part of a great relationship is growing together, both growing better at being together but also growing just as people and as adults.

So try and shake yourselves from the idea that a person you have a crush on is perfect, they’re not, they may well be an opportunity worth exploring, but they’re not perfect, because one person dosn’t find the perfect match in another person, two people together grow to fit each other in an even more perfect way.

Edited by Silasw on Dec 15th 2018 at 9:45:28 AM

So I downloaded Tinder & Bumble today. I’m not expecting anything, but I have nothing to lose.

@silasw that's beutiful, thank you. I'm trying to expand for new horizons and look for a guy/girl who has a kind soul. Wish me luck

How is this thread going?

me and scarecrow started to message each other, hence why we never post here.

Nice.

A few months ago, I Facebook friended an old friend from high school and have been occasionally been messaging her ever since. The funny thing is that back in high school, she (or at least she claimed to have) had a crush on me, but I only saw her as a friend. After reconnecting with her after all these years, I'm...starting to feel differently now.

Thing is, I don't know the exact details, but her previous ex played her pretty badly and now she's become jaded and cynical about men. I'm concerned about how and when I should make a move without coming across as just another guy trying to use her.

On the other hand, I've noticed that if she's not online when I log in, she usually logs on to Facebook within a couple of minutes after I do. It's happening often enough to where it CAN'T be a coincidence, so I don't know, maybe she's waiting on me to message her. Not sure what to make of that.

My best^* not sure if that's still true because stufffriend (that I have always had a crush on), when we were at our closest, seemed to just happen to always be about to message each other at the same time because we were that in sync.

Edited by TParadox on Feb 16th 2019 at 10:42:01 AM

@Nexus Maybe she is avoiding you because she's probably trying to figure out what to say. She probably does have a crush on you but doesn't know how to say it. However, if it is because she doesn't think of you that way, and wants to avoid you, remember: It's not your fault. You will be find someone else who is in to you. Or maybe it's because she is keeping her distance from another relationship after what happened before. She may really really like you but she wants to take her time. Time will only tell.

@T Para Cool. Good for you. Friends or more, it's beautiful.

I’m still just hanging out here to give you folks advise if needed.

Huh, I kinda had thought this thread had died already .-. Then again I was kinda surprised about it temporarily dying in first place