Do you want kids?

im still a young pikachu. ill think about kids later

Oh man, this is just incredible.

Really, the first few videos I saw were interesting, but then I realized they have taken a picture of themselves/their children/whatever daily for years. Don't they have anything better to do than take a photo of the same person in roughly the same position every day?

Well I assume it takes about 1 or 2 minutes to get the picture done each day, so it's probably not a major drain on their time. They could perhaps keep a log of how long it took to take each picture, but I'm pretty sure it'd take more time to keep the log than it does to take the pictures.

I repeat. Don't these people have anything better to do?

Taking pictures isn't exactly a fun activity unless it's a candid shot during something else that actually is fun. These videos convey no personality or help to remind people of fun times. It just demonstrates the process of aging, aka what every single person in the world sees in the mirror for themselves every day.

edited 26th Oct '12 6:56:43 PM by Leradny

Some people fetishize recording their lives so much that they harm the actual enjoyment of those lives, or so it seems to me.

Hrrm. Yes, I forgot some people are a touch more narcissistic than others.

In other news, I've decided that if I ever want children, Halloween family costumes will be conditional. If it's a boy, I will be Talia al Ghul. If it's a girl, I will be Selina Kyle. Themes that only Batfans will get!

I thought the video was cool. And it's something tedious yes, but something the girl will probably appreciate as she ages.

I have people haggling me over having more children. I already have one. Even if it were medically sound for me to have more I don't want any. But somehow people keep thinking my boyfriend would want "one of his own".

I know people don't mean it, but I don't think people stop and realize just how ugly that phrase really is.

That is terrible. Children belong to both of their parents.

Edited. Parsed wrongly.

edited 3rd Nov '12 4:22:19 AM by Pyrite

I'm asexual, if I ever did, it would probably be an adoption, but I'm perfectly fine without for right now. I don't mind being around kids, but neither do I have any strong desire to be either.

I'm honestly not sure. On one hand, I'm not very good with kids. On the other, I want to seem my kids grow up.

Yes. Probably. Assuming I can earn money to get by and meet someone who I form a mutual love and respect for.

I want kids, but I can't have any of my own. Yay, adoption!

No.

I don't dislike children (although I do dislike babies), but I don't like them enough to want any of my own.

I'm not the most stable person, and probably lack the patience and temperament for raising children.

I don't want to pass on autism or mental illness.

And I just don't want to. There seems to be a feeling that you need a good reason to not want children, but the way I see it, I'm doing the world a favour. Having children is a major lifestyle choice and I'm not willing or prepared to make that commitment. There are too many kids without homes or families already.

I desperately want to have one someday. Not immediately, I'm not in a situation where I could properly care for a child, but someday...

Yup,...although I'm in no position for that now or anytime soon,and I'll probably adopt anyway since for one I'm no good with babies and two,romance just ain't working.

maybe someday. i have a lot of personal goals for my life, but i'd like to settle down one day, find a nice girl, get married, and have a family.

Yup. If nothing else, for my parents, especially mom's sake.

I Want Grandkids I'm guessing.

That's kind of you to want to adopt. But you can't 'just adopt' any more, especially if you're single. So you're not going to get out of having to look for love. Sorry.

Yes.

I just don't feel very close to finding the right person right now.

Yes, I've always wanted kids.

But I also always wanted to adopt a child too.

I've been reconsidering, mostly (well, totally) on account of I Want Grandkids.

Life is just not fair, man. My parents had two children. One of them was autistic, and very unlikely to breed. The other one was me, who doesn't want children. It's not fair on my Mum, who wants grandkids, and it's not fair on me for feeling like I have to oblige her when I don't like children very much and don't want a family.

She swears she would help me raise it. I believe her. I doubt I'd be a good mother, though. I could stand to just pop one out and give it to her to raise, but you don't do that.

Alma if you do not want kids, don't have them. That simple.

Its so easy for your mom to say how she will help because all she is focused on is how cute babies are and how fun grandchildren are. Grandkids are fun because you don't actually have to do any if the hard work.

Even if you get past the technical maintenance of a child (food, clothes, medicine, material), you still have to teach it, love it, and guild it through its mistakes and yours into adulthood.

That's not fair to you to invest in a lifelong commitment, especially as one as sensitive and severe as a child just because your mom wants a new pet. I know your mom doesn't mean to think of it that way but she can adopt a toddler or volunteer at a youth organization if she wants a grandkid.

Children aren't stupid. They figure out peoples attitudes fast. The problem is kids don't have the experience to understand what it us they're observing and feeling so they can internalize things in a harmful way.

You have wisdom that a lot of people in that situation don't in recognising that. Being your mother's unofficial surrogate is definitely not a good idea.