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Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}} -- and that's not even mentioning the {{trigger}} factor for those who have actually had this crime happen to them. You don't want to alienate your readers.

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Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}} -- and that's not even mentioning the {{trigger}} trigger factor for those who have actually had this crime happen to them. You don't want to alienate your readers.
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7. '''The male body is ''not'' designed to carry or birth a fetus.''' There are some well-written MisterSeahorse stories out there. But if accuracy is what you're going for, leave this out. They are not equipped for it. ([[LifeOfBrian "Where's the fetus going to gestate?! Are you going to keep it in a box?!")]].

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7. '''The male body is ''not'' designed to carry or birth a fetus.''' There are some well-written MisterSeahorse stories out there. But if accuracy is even slightly what you're going for, leave this out. They are not equipped for it. ([[LifeOfBrian "Where's the fetus going to gestate?! Are you going to keep it in a box?!")]].




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!!'''Penetration Is Not Necessery'''

Gay sex doesn't have to include penetration, and in RealLife a lot of it isn't. As well as masturbating each other, and blowjobs, there is passionate making out, and toys, and as a good way to show an equal relationship there is also grinding (the partners are rubbing their penises together). Heck, you can have them fully clothed and it can still be genuinely for adults.

The point being, that nobody has to be face-down; it can be just as hot with a scene dedicated to them making out on the couch.
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If you\'re ignoring BL tropes completely, then it\'s not BL anymore.

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Barring a TenchiSolution, there are two main characters: the {{Seme}} and the {{Uke}}.
* '''The Seme''' is the active/penetrative partner, and frequently has a more dominant personality in general. He is usually taller and more masculine-looking.
* '''The Uke''' is the passive/receptive partner. He's usually shorter, and usually more of a {{Bishounen}} or even an outright DudeLooksLikeALady.

Note that you don't have to follow traditional dynamics. If you were to survey ''real'' gay couples, you would notice that very few do, in fact, follow this setup. Your characters can take turns "topping" and "bottoming" in the bedroom, and share a more-or-less equal partnership outside of it.

Even in "traditional" BL, you might have a dominant uke and a henpecked seme. Your uke can be the one that looks very tall and masculine, while your seme might be a {{Bishounen}}. They can be both uke-like, or both seme-like. See BoysLoveNotes for some common BL relationship types, or make up your own.
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Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}} -- and can even be {{trigger}}ing if you have a reader who has actually been raped in the past. You don't want to alienate your readers.

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Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}} -- and can that's not even be {{trigger}}ing if you mentioning the {{trigger}} factor for those who have a reader who has actually been raped in the past.had this crime happen to them. You don't want to alienate your readers.
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Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}}. You don't want to alienate your readers.

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Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}}.{{Squick}} -- and can even be {{trigger}}ing if you have a reader who has actually been raped in the past. You don't want to alienate your readers.
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Try to avoid {{Ukefication}}. It's been done to death. (It also carries UnfortunateImplications.) Again, don't feel like you have to be restricted to just one character type or behavior, just because it's [[FiddlerOnTheRoof Tradition!!!]] If you desire a more "traditional" uke, there's no need to turn him into a whining, sniveling mess. (Nor is there a need to turn your seme into a BastardBoyfriend.) Men and women are socialized to act and react differently to various situations, so try to make it clear that your uke ''is'' a man, and not a stereotypical schoolgirl with a penis. (Unless, of course, you deliberately want to write a character who doesn't respond in traditionally-masculine ways.)

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Try to avoid {{Ukefication}}.{{Wimpification}}. It's been done to death. (It also carries UnfortunateImplications.) Again, don't feel like you have to be restricted to just one character type or behavior, just because it's [[FiddlerOnTheRoof Tradition!!!]] If you desire a more "traditional" uke, there's no need to turn him into a whining, sniveling mess. (Nor is there a need to turn your seme into a BastardBoyfriend.) Men and women are socialized to act and react differently to various situations, so try to make it clear that your uke ''is'' a man, and not a stereotypical schoolgirl with a penis. (Unless, of course, you deliberately want to write a character who doesn't respond in traditionally-masculine ways.)
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it\'s how to write GOOD slash, not GENERIC


Barring a TenchiSolution, there are two main characters: the {{Seme}} and the {{Uke}}.
* '''The Seme''' is the active/penetrative partner, and frequently has a more dominant personality in general. He is usually taller and more masculine-looking.
* '''The Uke''' is the passive/receptive partner. He's usually shorter, and usually more of a {{Bishounen}} or even an outright DudeLooksLikeALady.

Note that you don't have to follow traditional dynamics. If you were to survey ''real'' gay couples, you would notice that very few do, in fact, follow this setup. Your characters can take turns "topping" and "bottoming" in the bedroom, and share a more-or-less equal partnership outside of it.

Even in "traditional" BL, you might have a dominant uke and a henpecked seme. Your uke can be the one that looks very tall and masculine, while your seme might be a {{Bishounen}}. They can be both uke-like, or both seme-like. See BoysLoveNotes for some common BL relationship types, or make up your own.
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'''BL is not {{Hentai}}''' Some new (Western) writers tend to take the "the uke is the girl" thing way too literally, and have him be the seme's sex-toy in a way similar to the way women are treated in hentai. In general, BL sex is about the uke, and the goal for many readers is to watch the uke get off. The seme's job is to do whatever is necessary to accomplish that (and he'll enjoy doing it, too). This applies to oral, handjobs, etc. just as much as anal; the seme should "service" the uke as much or more as the uke "services" him. (This is also the opposite of the stereotypical gay porn trope that the "top" is always and only insertive.)

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'''BL is not {{Hentai}}''' {{Hentai}}:''' Some new (Western) writers tend to take the "the uke is the girl" thing way too literally, and have him be the seme's sex-toy in a way similar to the way women are treated in hentai. In general, BL sex is about the uke, and the goal for many readers is to watch the uke get off. The seme's job is to do whatever is necessary to accomplish that (and he'll enjoy doing it, too). This applies to oral, handjobs, etc. just as much as anal; the seme should "service" the uke as much or more as the uke "services" him. (This is also the opposite of the stereotypical gay porn trope that the "top" is always and only insertive.)
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'''BL is not {{Hentai}}'' Some new (Western) writers tend to take the "the uke is the girl" thing way too literally, and have him be the seme's sex-toy in a way similar to the way women are treated in hentai. In general, BL sex is about the uke, and the goal for many readers is to watch the uke get off. The seme's job is to do whatever is necessary to accomplish that (and he'll enjoy doing it, too). This applies to oral, handjobs, etc. just as much as anal; the seme should "service" the uke as much or more as the uke "services" him. (This is also the opposite of the stereotypical gay porn trope that the "top" is always and only insertive.)

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'''BL is not {{Hentai}}'' {{Hentai}}''' Some new (Western) writers tend to take the "the uke is the girl" thing way too literally, and have him be the seme's sex-toy in a way similar to the way women are treated in hentai. In general, BL sex is about the uke, and the goal for many readers is to watch the uke get off. The seme's job is to do whatever is necessary to accomplish that (and he'll enjoy doing it, too). This applies to oral, handjobs, etc. just as much as anal; the seme should "service" the uke as much or more as the uke "services" him. (This is also the opposite of the stereotypical gay porn trope that the "top" is always and only insertive.)

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Semes give handjobs, not ukes. Also, cleaning up some overly-stereotypical stuff.


* '''The Seme''' is the one taking the dominant role, both in and out of the bedroom. He is usually taller and more masculine-looking.
* '''The Uke''' is the one taking the submissive role. He's usually shorter, and usually more of a {{Bishounen}} or even an outright DudeLooksLikeALady.

Note that you don't have to follow traditional dynamics. If you were to survey ''real'' gay couples, you would notice that very few do, in fact, follow this setup. Your characters can take turns "topping" and "bottoming" in the bedroom, and share a more-or-less equal partnership outside of it. You might have a dominant uke and a henpecked seme. Your uke can be the one that looks very tall and masculine, while your seme might be a {{Bishounen}}. They can be both uke-like, or both seme-like.

Try to avoid {{Ukefication}}. It's been done to death. (It also carries UnfortunateImplications.) Again, don't feel like you have to be restricted to just one character type or behavior, just because it's [[FiddlerOnTheRoof Tradition!!!]] If you desire a more "traditional" uke, there's no need to turn him into a whining, sniveling mess. (Nor is there a need to turn your seme into a BastardBoyfriend.) Men and women are socialized to act and react differently to various situations, so try to make it clear that your uke ''is'' a man, and not a stereotypical schoolgirl with a penis.

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* '''The Seme''' is the one taking the active/penetrative partner, and frequently has a more dominant role, both personality in and out of the bedroom.general. He is usually taller and more masculine-looking.
* '''The Uke''' is the one taking the submissive role.passive/receptive partner. He's usually shorter, and usually more of a {{Bishounen}} or even an outright DudeLooksLikeALady.

Note that you don't have to follow traditional dynamics. If you were to survey ''real'' gay couples, you would notice that very few do, in fact, follow this setup. Your characters can take turns "topping" and "bottoming" in the bedroom, and share a more-or-less equal partnership outside of it. You

Even in "traditional" BL, you
might have a dominant uke and a henpecked seme. Your uke can be the one that looks very tall and masculine, while your seme might be a {{Bishounen}}. They can be both uke-like, or both seme-like. \n\n See BoysLoveNotes for some common BL relationship types, or make up your own.

Try to avoid {{Ukefication}}. It's been done to death. (It also carries UnfortunateImplications.) Again, don't feel like you have to be restricted to just one character type or behavior, just because it's [[FiddlerOnTheRoof Tradition!!!]] If you desire a more "traditional" uke, there's no need to turn him into a whining, sniveling mess. (Nor is there a need to turn your seme into a BastardBoyfriend.) Men and women are socialized to act and react differently to various situations, so try to make it clear that your uke ''is'' a man, and not a stereotypical schoolgirl with a penis.
penis. (Unless, of course, you deliberately want to write a character who doesn't respond in traditionally-masculine ways.)



3. '''Lube is useful for more than just penetrative sex.''' Handjobs, in particular, benefit a lot from a couple dabs of slippery stuff. This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands or go too hard and chafe him! And that's not fun for any of the parties concerned.

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3. '''Lube is useful for more than just penetrative sex.''' Handjobs, in particular, benefit a lot from a couple dabs of slippery stuff. This is especially so if the seme uke is circumcised. Your uke The seme might have dry hands or go too hard and chafe him! And that's not fun for any of the parties concerned.



The whole origin of this is that the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorld where [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't,"]] the female reader is trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, ''"Oh, it wasn't ''me'' with [Insert Bishounen of Choice Here], it was [Insert Uke's Name Here]"''. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."

Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}}. You don't want to alienate your readers.

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The whole origin of this is that For some fans, the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorld where [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't,"]] the female reader is may be trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, ''"Oh, it wasn't ''me'' with [Insert Bishounen of Choice Here], it was [Insert Uke's Name Here]"''. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."

" (Of course, for other fangirls it's the fantasy of having the helpless little uke at your mercy, but the result comes out about the same for the reader.)

Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}}. You don't want to alienate your readers.
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'''BL is not {{Hentai}}'' Some new (Western) writers tend to take the "the uke is the girl" thing way too literally, and have him be the seme's sex-toy in a way similar to the way women are treated in hentai. In general, BL sex is about the uke, and the goal for many readers is to watch the uke get off. The seme's job is to do whatever is necessary to accomplish that (and he'll enjoy doing it, too). This applies to oral, handjobs, etc. just as much as anal; the seme should "service" the uke as much or more as the uke "services" him. (This is also the opposite of the stereotypical gay porn trope that the "top" is always and only insertive.)
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1. '''The anus is ''not'' self-lubricating.''' Vaginas self-lubricate. Anuses don't. Period. No ifs, ands, or [[IncrediblyLamePun butts]] about it. What little mucus earns that sphincter its place as a mucus membrane isn't enough for penetrative sex for the vast majority of people, and [[{Squick}} there shouldn't be any other slippery liquids involved]]. YouShouldKnowThisAlready, even if you ''are'' a virgin 13-year-old YaoiFangirl. (I won't tell your parents.) Have your characters use a good-quality water-based or silicone-based lubricant, or else your uke will be in far more pain than pleasure (and I don't think it would be much fun for the seme either).

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1. '''The anus is ''not'' self-lubricating.''' Vaginas self-lubricate. Anuses don't. Period. No ifs, ands, or [[IncrediblyLamePun butts]] about it. What little mucus earns that sphincter its place as a mucus membrane isn't enough for penetrative sex for the vast majority of people, and [[{Squick}} [[{{Squick}} there shouldn't be any other slippery liquids involved]]. YouShouldKnowThisAlready, even if you ''are'' a virgin 13-year-old YaoiFangirl. (I won't tell your parents.) Have your characters use a good-quality water-based or silicone-based lubricant, or else your uke will be in far more pain than pleasure (and I don't think it would be much fun for the seme either).

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1. '''The anus is ''not'' self-lubricating.''' Vaginas self-lubricate. Anuses don't. Period. No ifs, ands, or [[IncrediblyLamePun butts]] about it. YouShouldKnowThisAlready, even if you ''are'' a virgin 13-year-old YaoiFangirl. (I won't tell your parents.) Have your characters use a good-quality, water-based, or silicone-based lubricant, or else your uke will be in far more pain than pleasure (and I don't think it would be much fun for the seme either).

2. '''Your uke should not be giving a handjob to his seme (or vice versa) without lubrication.''' This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands or go too hard and chafe him! And that's not fun for any of the parties concerned. So again, lube is a must! Either mention it in the {{Lemon}} scene, or don't put in a lemon at all. Otherwise, you'll break the WillingSuspensionOfDisbelief.

3. '''The anus contains no hymen.''' OK, so you want to make it clear that your uke is [[VirginPower a pure, unspoiled virgin]]. That's all well and good, but this is ''not'' the way to do it. For one thing, there is no hymen there. (Going to the bathroom would be ''very'' unpleasant if there was!) Secondly, even if there was, the presence (or absence) of a hymen is ''not'' a reliable indicator of a virgin; some girls/women break it in ways other than sex, or are born without one, and some retain theirs even after having sex many times. (And there exists surgery to reconstruct one.) We attach far too much cultural significance to a thin membrane of skin that really means nothing, but that's a whole separate issue. If your uke ''does'' bleed (and it happens), it's not because of a hymen. Rather, it means your seme is going too fast and/or that there isn't enough lubrication. (And as anyone who has even so much has ''attempted'' anal sex will tell you, that situation is unpleasant for all concerned!)

4. '''The average penis is ''not'' a foot long.''' Try about half that. Of course, there are men who are larger than that, and smaller than that, but 5-6 inches long is the average. A sufficiently large GagPenis will cause serious injury.

5. '''There is no such thing as the ORingOrifice.''' Stretching too much will cause tearing and bleeding. If that's not FanDisservice, we don't know what is!

6. '''The male body is ''not'' designed to carry or birth a fetus.''' There are some well-written MisterSeahorse stories out there. But if accuracy is what you're going for, leave this out. They are not equipped for it. ([[LifeOfBrian "Where's the fetus going to gestate?! Are you going to keep it in a box?!")]].

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1. '''The anus is ''not'' self-lubricating.''' Vaginas self-lubricate. Anuses don't. Period. No ifs, ands, or [[IncrediblyLamePun butts]] about it. What little mucus earns that sphincter its place as a mucus membrane isn't enough for penetrative sex for the vast majority of people, and [[{Squick}} there shouldn't be any other slippery liquids involved]]. YouShouldKnowThisAlready, even if you ''are'' a virgin 13-year-old YaoiFangirl. (I won't tell your parents.) ) Have your characters use a good-quality, water-based, good-quality water-based or silicone-based lubricant, or else your uke will be in far more pain than pleasure (and I don't think it would be much fun for the seme either).

2. '''Your uke should not be giving a handjob to his seme (or vice versa) without lubrication.''' This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands or go too hard and chafe him! And that's not fun for any of the parties concerned. So again, lube is a must! Either mention it in the {{Lemon}} scene, or don't put in a lemon at all. Otherwise, you'll break the WillingSuspensionOfDisbelief.
either).

2. '''Very few things make good lube.''' Soap and most shampoos, for example, dries out sensitive membranes and can cause cracked skin; using it as a lubricant down there might result in both parties [[GroinAttack walking funny for a week]]. Sticky substances should be avoided, as should sugary or alcohol-containing substances. Actual lube's usually the safest option, and the easiest to sell to the audience.

3. '''Lube is useful for more than just penetrative sex.''' Handjobs, in particular, benefit a lot from a couple dabs of slippery stuff. This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands or go too hard and chafe him! And that's not fun for any of the parties concerned.

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'''The anus contains no hymen.''' OK, so you want to make it clear that your uke is [[VirginPower a pure, unspoiled virgin]]. That's all well and good, but this is ''not'' the way to do it. For one thing, there is no hymen there. (Going to the bathroom would be ''very'' unpleasant if there was!) Secondly, even if there was, the presence (or absence) of a hymen is ''not'' a reliable indicator of a virgin; some girls/women break it in ways other than sex, or are born without one, and some retain theirs even after having sex many times. (And there exists surgery to reconstruct one.) We attach far too much cultural significance to a thin membrane of skin that really means nothing, but that's a whole separate issue. If your uke ''does'' bleed (and it happens), it's not because of a hymen. Rather, it means your seme is going too fast and/or that there isn't enough lubrication. (And as anyone who has even so much has ''attempted'' anal sex will tell you, that situation is unpleasant for all concerned!)

4.5. '''The average penis is ''not'' a foot long.''' Try about half that. Of course, there are men who are larger than that, and smaller than that, but 5-6 inches long is the average. A Note that the prostate is typically less than three inches inside, and prostate message and the nerve clusters near the anus are usually the most stimulating parts for the 'bottom'. While some men do focus on how much they can take, a sufficiently large GagPenis will ''will'' cause serious injury.

5.6. '''There is no such thing as the ORingOrifice.''' Stretching too much will cause tearing and bleeding. If that's not FanDisservice, we don't know what is!

6.7. '''The male body is ''not'' designed to carry or birth a fetus.''' There are some well-written MisterSeahorse stories out there. But if accuracy is what you're going for, leave this out. They are not equipped for it. ([[LifeOfBrian "Where's the fetus going to gestate?! Are you going to keep it in a box?!")]].
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'''RapeIsLove:''' OK, you know how it goes: [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre, particularly judging by how often it shows up in {{Hentai}} in general. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.

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'''RapeIsLove:''' OK, you know how it goes: [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre, particularly judging by how often it shows up in {{Hentai}} in general.genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.
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OK, I've seen my share of [[CrackPairing crack pairings]]. People put on their ShippingGoggles, and sometimes they'll see a pairing you don't like. Or a pairing that you like but not as a couple. So it goes. Rather than having a FlameWar over whether it should be (let's say) [[GundamWing Heero x Duo, Heero x Relena, etc.]], why not just agree to disagree? Enjoy the fics for what they are: fiction. Focus on the quality of the story and writing, not the pairing. The {{Fandom}} will be a lot more peaceful, and thus more enjoyable, for all concerned.

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OK, I've seen my share of [[CrackPairing crack pairings]]. People put on their ShippingGoggles, and sometimes they'll see a pairing you don't like. Or a pairing that you like but not as a couple. So it goes. Rather than having a FlameWar over whether it should be (let's say) [[GundamWing Heero x Duo, Heero x Relena, etc.]], why not just agree to disagree? Enjoy the fics for what they are: fiction. Focus on the quality of the story and writing, not the pairing. The {{Fandom}} will be a lot more peaceful, and thus more enjoyable, for all concerned.concerned.
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The whole origin of this is that the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorld where [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't"]], the female reader is trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, ''"Oh, it wasn't ''me'' with [Insert Bishounen of Choice Here], it was [Insert Uke's Name Here]"''. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."

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The whole origin of this is that the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorld where [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't"]], don't,"]] the female reader is trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, ''"Oh, it wasn't ''me'' with [Insert Bishounen of Choice Here], it was [Insert Uke's Name Here]"''. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."
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RapeIsLove: OK, you know how it goes: [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre, particularly judging by how often it shows up in {{Hentai}} in general. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.

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RapeIsLove: '''RapeIsLove:''' OK, you know how it goes: [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre, particularly judging by how often it shows up in {{Hentai}} in general. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.



{{PWP}}: If it's well-written and tasteful, it can be good. But if it's poorly-written and crass, why bother with it? If you can't come up with even a slight semblance of plotline or relationship, at least put effort into your sex scene. Though the story will hold the audience's attention better if there's something besides sex for them to focus on--something that ultimately makes the sex even sexier.

Hurt/Comfort: It's been overused. (See also RapeIsTheNewDeadParents.) Why not try a relationship in which no one needs to be rescued? Or where the characters help each other learn and grow, but subtly (and not because of {{Angst}})? It may not be as dramatic, but if you do it right, it can be one big CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming.

FoeYay: At the risk of being an absolute {{Hypocrite}} (see below), I will say this: FoeYay isn't bad in the sense that it's "bad" to write or to like the characters. But ask yourself, [[FridgeLogic "How in the world would two characters who can't stand one another make a good couple?"]]

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{{PWP}}: '''{{PWP}}:''' If it's well-written and tasteful, it can be good. But if it's poorly-written and crass, why bother with it? If you can't come up with even a slight semblance of plotline or relationship, at least put effort into your sex scene. Though the story will hold the audience's attention better if there's something besides sex for them to focus on--something that ultimately makes the sex even sexier.

Hurt/Comfort: '''[[HurtComfortFic Hurt/Comfort]]:''' It's been overused. (See also RapeIsTheNewDeadParents.) Why not try a relationship in which no one needs to be rescued? Or where the characters help each other learn and grow, but subtly (and not because of {{Angst}})? It may not be as dramatic, but if you do it right, it can be one big CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming.

FoeYay: '''FoeYay:''' At the risk of being an absolute {{Hypocrite}} (see below), I will say this: FoeYay isn't bad in the sense that it's "bad" to write or to like the characters. But ask yourself, [[FridgeLogic "How in the world would two characters who can't stand one another make a good couple?"]]
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4. '''The average penis is ''not'' a foot long.''' Try about half that. Of course, there are men who are larger than that, and smaller than that, but 5-6" long is average. A sufficiently large GagPenis will cause serious injury.

5. '''There is no such thing as the ORingOrifice.''' Stretching too much will cause tearing and bleeding. If that's not FanDisservice, I don't know what is!

6. '''The male body is ''not'' designed to carry or birth a fetus.''' There are some well-written MisterSeahorse stories out there. But if accuracy is what you're going for, leave this out. They are not equipped for it ([[LifeOfBrian "Where's the fetus going to gestate?! Are you going to keep it in a box?!")]].

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4. '''The average penis is ''not'' a foot long.''' Try about half that. Of course, there are men who are larger than that, and smaller than that, but 5-6" 5-6 inches long is the average. A sufficiently large GagPenis will cause serious injury.

5. '''There is no such thing as the ORingOrifice.''' Stretching too much will cause tearing and bleeding. If that's not FanDisservice, I we don't know what is!

6. '''The male body is ''not'' designed to carry or birth a fetus.''' There are some well-written MisterSeahorse stories out there. But if accuracy is what you're going for, leave this out. They are not equipped for it it. ([[LifeOfBrian "Where's the fetus going to gestate?! Are you going to keep it in a box?!")]].



RapeIsLove: OK, you know how it goes: [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.

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RapeIsLove: OK, you know how it goes: [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre.genre, particularly judging by how often it shows up in {{Hentai}} in general. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.



Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex--and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}}. You don't want to alienate your readers.

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Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex--and sex -- and lets the seme know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}}. You don't want to alienate your readers.
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As you are no doubt very highly aware, there is ''[[RuleThirtyFour no]]'' [[RuleThirtyFour shortage of yaoi out there.]] Some of it is good, and some of it...well, not so much. This will hopefully help you avoid pitfalls, and write better yaoi, whether you're writing {{Fanfiction}}, or playing around with your own original characters. Please note that this article contains {{NSFW}} content.

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As you are no doubt very highly aware, there is ''[[RuleThirtyFour no]]'' [[RuleThirtyFour shortage of yaoi out there.]] Some of it is good, and some of it... well, not so much. This will hopefully help you avoid pitfalls, pitfalls and write better yaoi, whether you're writing {{Fanfiction}}, {{Fanfiction}} or playing around with your own original characters. Please note that this article contains {{NSFW}} content.



Barring a TenchiSolution, there are two main characters. The {{Seme}} and the {{Uke}}

* '''The Seme''' is the one taking the dominating role, both in and out of the bedroom. He is usually taller, and more masculine-looking.

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Barring a TenchiSolution, there are two main characters. The characters: the {{Seme}} and the {{Uke}}

{{Uke}}.

* '''The Seme''' is the one taking the dominating dominant role, both in and out of the bedroom. He is usually taller, taller and more masculine-looking.



Note that you don't have to follow traditional dynamics. If you were to survey ''real'' gay couples, you would notice that very few do, in fact, follow this setup. Your characters may take turns "topping" and "bottoming" in the bedroom, and share a more-or-less equal partnership outside of it. You might have a dominant uke and a henpecked seme. Your uke may be the one that looks very tall and masculine, while your seme might be a {{Bishounen}}. They may be both uke-like, or both seme-like.

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Note that you don't have to follow traditional dynamics. If you were to survey ''real'' gay couples, you would notice that very few do, in fact, follow this setup. Your characters may can take turns "topping" and "bottoming" in the bedroom, and share a more-or-less equal partnership outside of it. You might have a dominant uke and a henpecked seme. Your uke may can be the one that looks very tall and masculine, while your seme might be a {{Bishounen}}. They may can be both uke-like, or both seme-like.



1. '''The anus is ''not'' self-lubricating.''' Vaginas self-lubricate. Anuses don't. Period. No ifs, ands, or...[[IncrediblyLamePun butts]] about it. YouShouldKnowThisAlready, even if you ''are'' a virgin 13-year-old YaoiFangirl. (I won't tell your parents...) Have your characters use a good-quality, water-based, or silicone-based lubricant...or else your uke will be in far more pain than pleasure (and I don't think it would be much fun for the seme either.)

2. '''Your uke should not be giving a handjob to his seme (or vice versa) without lubrication.''' This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands or go too hard and chafe him! And that's not fun for any parties concerned. So again, lube is a must! Either mention it in the {{Lemon}} scene, or don't put in a lemon at all. Otherwise, you'll break the WillingSuspensionOfDisbelief.

3. '''The anus contains no hymen''' OK, so you want to make it clear that your uke is [[VirginPower a pure, unspoiled virgin]]. That's all well and good, but this is ''not'' the way to do it. For one thing, there is no hymen there. (Going to the bathroom would be ''very'' unpleasant if there was!) Secondly, even if there was, the presence (or absence) of a hymen is ''not'' a reliable indicator of a virgin; some girls/women break it in ways other than sex, or are born without one, and some retain theirs even after having sex many times. (And there exists surgery to reconstruct one.) We attach far too much cultural significance to a thin membrane of skin that really means nothing, but that's a whole separate issue. If your uke ''does'' bleed (and it happens), it's not because of a hymen. Rather, it means your seme is going too fast and/or that there isn't enough lubrication. (And as anyone who has even so much has ''attempted'' anal sex will tell you, that situation is unpleasant for all concerned!)

4. '''The average penis is ''not'' a foot long''' Try about half that. Of course, there are men who are larger than that, and smaller than that, but 5-6" long is average. A sufficiently large GagPenis will cause serious injury.

5. '''There is no such thing as the ORingOrifice''' Stretching too much will cause tearing and bleeding. If that's not FanDisservice, I don't know what is!

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1. '''The anus is ''not'' self-lubricating.''' Vaginas self-lubricate. Anuses don't. Period. No ifs, ands, or...or [[IncrediblyLamePun butts]] about it. YouShouldKnowThisAlready, even if you ''are'' a virgin 13-year-old YaoiFangirl. (I won't tell your parents...parents.) Have your characters use a good-quality, water-based, or silicone-based lubricant...lubricant, or else your uke will be in far more pain than pleasure (and I don't think it would be much fun for the seme either.)

either).

2. '''Your uke should not be giving a handjob to his seme (or vice versa) without lubrication.''' This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands or go too hard and chafe him! And that's not fun for any of the parties concerned. So again, lube is a must! Either mention it in the {{Lemon}} scene, or don't put in a lemon at all. Otherwise, you'll break the WillingSuspensionOfDisbelief.

3. '''The anus contains no hymen''' hymen.''' OK, so you want to make it clear that your uke is [[VirginPower a pure, unspoiled virgin]]. That's all well and good, but this is ''not'' the way to do it. For one thing, there is no hymen there. (Going to the bathroom would be ''very'' unpleasant if there was!) Secondly, even if there was, the presence (or absence) of a hymen is ''not'' a reliable indicator of a virgin; some girls/women break it in ways other than sex, or are born without one, and some retain theirs even after having sex many times. (And there exists surgery to reconstruct one.) We attach far too much cultural significance to a thin membrane of skin that really means nothing, but that's a whole separate issue. If your uke ''does'' bleed (and it happens), it's not because of a hymen. Rather, it means your seme is going too fast and/or that there isn't enough lubrication. (And as anyone who has even so much has ''attempted'' anal sex will tell you, that situation is unpleasant for all concerned!)

4. '''The average penis is ''not'' a foot long''' long.''' Try about half that. Of course, there are men who are larger than that, and smaller than that, but 5-6" long is average. A sufficiently large GagPenis will cause serious injury.

5. '''There is no such thing as the ORingOrifice''' ORingOrifice.''' Stretching too much will cause tearing and bleeding. If that's not FanDisservice, I don't know what is!



OK, you know how it goes [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.

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RapeIsLove: OK, you know how it goes goes: [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.



Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex...and lets the seme know. And a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but {{Squick}}. You don't want to alienate your readers.

{{PWP}}...if it's well-written and tasteful, it can be good. But if it's poorly-written and crass, why bother with it. If you can't come up with even a slight semblance of plotline or relationship, at least put effort into your sex scene. Though the story will hold the audience's attention better if there's something besides sex for them to focus on...something that ultimately makes the sex even sexier.

Hurt/Comfort: It's been overused. (See also RapeIsTheNewDeadParents). Why not try a relationship in which no one needs to be rescued? Or where the characters help each other learn and grow, but subtly (and not because of {{Angst}}) It may not be as dramatic, but if you do it right, it can be one big CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming.

FoeYay: At the risk of being an absolute {{Hypocrite}} (see below) I will say this. FoeYay isn't bad in the sense that it's "bad" to write or to like the characters. But ask yourself, [[FridgeLogic "How in the world would two characters who can't stand one another make a good couple?"]]

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Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex...and sex--and lets the seme know. And know that. It also involves a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but also frequently causes {{Squick}}. You don't want to alienate your readers.

{{PWP}}...if {{PWP}}: If it's well-written and tasteful, it can be good. But if it's poorly-written and crass, why bother with it. it? If you can't come up with even a slight semblance of plotline or relationship, at least put effort into your sex scene. Though the story will hold the audience's attention better if there's something besides sex for them to focus on...something on--something that ultimately makes the sex even sexier.

Hurt/Comfort: It's been overused. (See also RapeIsTheNewDeadParents). RapeIsTheNewDeadParents.) Why not try a relationship in which no one needs to be rescued? Or where the characters help each other learn and grow, but subtly (and not because of {{Angst}}) {{Angst}})? It may not be as dramatic, but if you do it right, it can be one big CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming.

FoeYay: At the risk of being an absolute {{Hypocrite}} (see below) below), I will say this. this: FoeYay isn't bad in the sense that it's "bad" to write or to like the characters. But ask yourself, [[FridgeLogic "How in the world would two characters who can't stand one another make a good couple?"]]



OK, I've seen my share of [[CrackPairing crack pairings]]. People put on their ShippingGoggles, and sometimes they'll see a pairing you don't like. Or a pairing that you like but not as a couple. So it goes. Rather than having a FlameWar over whether it should be (let's say) [[GundamWing Heero x Duo, Heero x Relena, etc.]] why not just agree to disagree? Enjoy the fics for what they are: fiction. Focus on the quality of the story and writing, not the pairing. The {{Fandom}} will be a lot more peaceful, and thus more enjoyable for all concerned.

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OK, I've seen my share of [[CrackPairing crack pairings]]. People put on their ShippingGoggles, and sometimes they'll see a pairing you don't like. Or a pairing that you like but not as a couple. So it goes. Rather than having a FlameWar over whether it should be (let's say) [[GundamWing Heero x Duo, Heero x Relena, etc.]] ]], why not just agree to disagree? Enjoy the fics for what they are: fiction. Focus on the quality of the story and writing, not the pairing. The {{Fandom}} will be a lot more peaceful, and thus more enjoyable enjoyable, for all concerned.
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As you are no doubt very highly aware, there is [[RuleThirtyFour ''no'' shortage of yaoi out there.]] Some of it is good, and some of it...well, not so much. This will hopefully help you avoid pitfalls, and write better yaoi, whether you're writing {{Fanfiction}}, or playing around with your own original characters. Please note that this article contains {{NSFW}} content.

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As you are no doubt very highly aware, there is ''[[RuleThirtyFour no]]'' [[RuleThirtyFour ''no'' shortage of yaoi out there.]] Some of it is good, and some of it...well, not so much. This will hopefully help you avoid pitfalls, and write better yaoi, whether you're writing {{Fanfiction}}, or playing around with your own original characters. Please note that this article contains {{NSFW}} content.
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* '''The Uke''' is the one taking the submissive role. He's usually shorter, and usually more of a {{Bishounen}} or even an outright DudeLooksLikeALady. (He also tends to be more of a {{Woobie}}...more on that later.)

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* '''The Uke''' is the one taking the submissive role. He's usually shorter, and usually more of a {{Bishounen}} or even an outright DudeLooksLikeALady. (He also tends to be more of a {{Woobie}}...more on that later.)\n



Try to avoid {{Ukefication}}. It's been done to death. (It also carries UnfortunateImplications.) Again, don't feel like you have to be restricted to just one character type or behavior, just because it's [[FiddlerOnTheRoof Tradition!!!]] If you desire a more "traditional" uke, there's no need to turn him into a whining, sniveling mess. (Nor is there a need to turn your seme into a BastardBoyfriend.) Men and women act and react differently to various situations, so try to make it clear that your uke ''is'' a man, and not a girl with a penis.

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Try to avoid {{Ukefication}}. It's been done to death. (It also carries UnfortunateImplications.) Again, don't feel like you have to be restricted to just one character type or behavior, just because it's [[FiddlerOnTheRoof Tradition!!!]] If you desire a more "traditional" uke, there's no need to turn him into a whining, sniveling mess. (Nor is there a need to turn your seme into a BastardBoyfriend.) Men and women are socialized to act and react differently to various situations, so try to make it clear that your uke ''is'' a man, and not a girl stereotypical schoolgirl with a penis.
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OK, you know how it goes [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] NoJustNo. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.

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OK, you know how it goes [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] NoJustNo.No. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the Rape Fantasy genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.
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The whole origin of this is that the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorld where [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't"]], the female reader is trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, ''"Oh, it wasn't me, it was [Insert Seme's Name Here]"''. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."

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The whole origin of this is that the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorld where [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't"]], the female reader is trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, ''"Oh, it wasn't me, ''me'' with [Insert Bishounen of Choice Here], it was [Insert Seme's Uke's Name Here]"''. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."
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'''The Characters'''

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'''The !!'''The Characters'''



'''The Seme''' is the one taking the dominating role, both in and out of the bedroom. He is usually taller, and more masculine-looking.

'''The Uke''' is the one taking the submissive role. He's usually shorter, and usually more of a {{Bishounen}} or even an outright DudeLooksLikeALady. (He also tends to be more of a {{Woobie}}...more on that later.)

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* '''The Seme''' is the one taking the dominating role, both in and out of the bedroom. He is usually taller, and more masculine-looking.

* '''The Uke''' is the one taking the submissive role. He's usually shorter, and usually more of a {{Bishounen}} or even an outright DudeLooksLikeALady. (He also tends to be more of a {{Woobie}}...more on that later.)



'''Oh, speaking of penises...'''

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penises... (Anatomy of Mansex)'''



'''A Lemon Is Not Necessary'''

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'''A !!'''A Lemon Is Not Necessary'''



'''Avoid Cliches Like The Plague'''

OK, you know how it goes [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No...just...no. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the RapeFantasy genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.

The whole origin of this is that the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorldWhere [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't"]], the female reader is trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, "Oh, it wasn't me, it was InsertNameHere. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."

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'''Avoid !!'''Avoid Cliches Like The Plague'''

OK, you know how it goes [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No...just...no.NoJustNo. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the RapeFantasy Rape Fantasy genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.

The whole origin of this is that the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorldWhere InAWorld where [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't"]], the female reader is trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, "Oh, ''"Oh, it wasn't me, it was InsertNameHere.[Insert Seme's Name Here]"''. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."



'''Be Respectful of Others' Pairings'''

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{{PWP}}...if it's well-written and tasteful, it can be good. But if it's poorly-written and crass, why bother with it. If you can't come up with even a slight semblance of plotline or relationship, at least put effort into your sex scene. Though the story will hold the audience's attention better if there's something besides sex for them to focus on...something that ultimately makes the sex even sexier.

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{{PWP}}...if it's well-written and tasteful, it can be good. But if it's poorly-written and crass, why bother with it. If you can't come up with even a slight semblance of plotline or relationship, at least put effort into your sex scene. Though the story will hold the audience's attention better if there's something besides sex for them to focus on...something that ultimately makes the sex even sexier.sexier.

Hurt/Comfort: It's been overused. (See also RapeIsTheNewDeadParents). Why not try a relationship in which no one needs to be rescued? Or where the characters help each other learn and grow, but subtly (and not because of {{Angst}}) It may not be as dramatic, but if you do it right, it can be one big CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming.

FoeYay: At the risk of being an absolute {{Hypocrite}} (see below) I will say this. FoeYay isn't bad in the sense that it's "bad" to write or to like the characters. But ask yourself, [[FridgeLogic "How in the world would two characters who can't stand one another make a good couple?"]]

'''Be Respectful of Others' Pairings'''

OK, I've seen my share of [[CrackPairing crack pairings]]. People put on their ShippingGoggles, and sometimes they'll see a pairing you don't like. Or a pairing that you like but not as a couple. So it goes. Rather than having a FlameWar over whether it should be (let's say) [[GundamWing Heero x Duo, Heero x Relena, etc.]] why not just agree to disagree? Enjoy the fics for what they are: fiction. Focus on the quality of the story and writing, not the pairing. The {{Fandom}} will be a lot more peaceful, and thus more enjoyable for all concerned.
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'''Avoid Cliches Like The Plague'''

OK, you know how it goes [[TheBigGuy BIG, HULKING]] {{Seme}} rapes [[TheIngenue sweet, innocent, virginal, little]] {{Uke}}, uke [[RapeIsLove falls in love with seme anyway.]] No...just...no. It's been done to death, and let's not even get into all the UnfortunateImplications. Yes, the very terms {{Seme}} and {{Uke}} connote a power dynamic. And, yes, Japan is big on the RapeFantasy genre. But that doesn't mean you have to FollowTheLeader and do it too.

The whole origin of this is that the {{Uke}} is an AudienceSurrogate. InAWorldWhere [[MyGirlIsNotASlut "good girls don't"]], the female reader is trying to wash her hands of the situation by saying, "Oh, it wasn't me, it was InsertNameHere. And even if it was, it's not like that person "wanted it."

Having sexual desires and urges does ''not'' make you a bad person, or a slut, or undesirable, or dirty, or anything else. (And that goes ''equally'' for both men and women, are we clear?) It means you're human. Since MostWritersAreHuman (and by extension most readers, too), there should be no need to polish that [[HolyHalo halo]]. Some of the ''hottest'' yaoi erotica involves an uke who desires sex...and lets the seme know. And a seme who treats his uke like a lover and not a victim. Furthermore, using rape to titillate is not only cliche, but {{Squick}}. You don't want to alienate your readers.

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3. '''The anus contains no hymen''' OK, so you want to make it clear that your uke is a pure, unspoiled virgin. That's all well and good, but this is ''not'' the way to do it. For one thing, there is no hymen there. (Going to the bathroom would be ''very'' unpleasant if there was!) Secondly, even if there was, the presence (or absence) of a hymen is ''not'' a reliable indicator of a virgin; some girls/women break it in ways other than sex, or are born without one, and some retain theirs even after having sex many times. We attach far too much cultural significance to a thin membrane of skin that really means nothing, but that's a whole separate issue. If your uke ''does'' bleed (and it happens), it's not because of a hymen. Rather, it means your seme is going too fast and/or that there isn't enough lubrication. (And as anyone who has even so much has ''attempted'' anal sex will tell you, that situation is unpleasant for all concerned!)

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3. '''The anus contains no hymen''' OK, so you want to make it clear that your uke is [[VirginPower a pure, unspoiled virgin.virgin]]. That's all well and good, but this is ''not'' the way to do it. For one thing, there is no hymen there. (Going to the bathroom would be ''very'' unpleasant if there was!) Secondly, even if there was, the presence (or absence) of a hymen is ''not'' a reliable indicator of a virgin; some girls/women break it in ways other than sex, or are born without one, and some retain theirs even after having sex many times. (And there exists surgery to reconstruct one.) We attach far too much cultural significance to a thin membrane of skin that really means nothing, but that's a whole separate issue. If your uke ''does'' bleed (and it happens), it's not because of a hymen. Rather, it means your seme is going too fast and/or that there isn't enough lubrication. (And as anyone who has even so much has ''attempted'' anal sex will tell you, that situation is unpleasant for all concerned!)




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'''A Lemon Is Not Necessary'''

Don't shoehorn a lemon in just for the sake of having one. Sure, you want to see hot HoYay action, but if it doesn't make sense with the plotline, you're not doing any favors by cramming one in anyway. Some of the best works out there focus on the ''relationship'' and the plotline more than sex.

If you can't write sex (too embarrassed, afraid of it falling into the wrong hands, not enough experience, trouble transposing the sex act into words, what have you) there's no need to feel embarrassed. You can use a SexyDiscretionShot; merely imply that your characters had sex. Sex is ''not'' the be-all and end-all of BoysLove. Or GirlsLove. Or het, for that matter. In fact, most readers would rather you fade to black or focus on someone/something else than suffer through badly written IKEAErotica.

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As you are no doubt very highly aware, there is [[RuleThirtyFour ''no'' shortage of yaoi out there.]] Some of it is good, and some of it...well, not so much. This will hopefully help you avoid pitfalls, and write better yaoi, whether you're writing {{Fanfiction}}, or playing around with your own original characters.

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As you are no doubt very highly aware, there is [[RuleThirtyFour ''no'' shortage of yaoi out there.]] Some of it is good, and some of it...well, not so much. This will hopefully help you avoid pitfalls, and write better yaoi, whether you're writing {{Fanfiction}}, or playing around with your own original characters.
characters. Please note that this article contains {{NSFW}} content.



2. '''Your uke should not be giving a handjob to his seme without lubrication.''' This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands and chafe him! And that's not fun for any parties concerned. So again, lube is a must! Either mention it in the {{Lemon}} scene, or don't mention it at all. Otherwise, you'll break the WillingSuspesionOfDisbelief.

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2. '''Your uke should not be giving a handjob to his seme (or vice versa) without lubrication.''' This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands or go too hard and chafe him! And that's not fun for any parties concerned. So again, lube is a must! Either mention it in the {{Lemon}} scene, or don't mention it put in a lemon at all. Otherwise, you'll break the WillingSuspesionOfDisbelief.WillingSuspensionOfDisbelief.




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6. '''The male body is ''not'' designed to carry or birth a fetus.''' There are some well-written MisterSeahorse stories out there. But if accuracy is what you're going for, leave this out. They are not equipped for it ([[LifeOfBrian "Where's the fetus going to gestate?! Are you going to keep it in a box?!")]].

OK, that should just about cover anatomy. If you want more info, look up male anatomy on TheOtherWiki, or check out anatomy books. If you need BrainBleach after that little discussion, feel free to go get it.

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Try to avoid {{Ukefication}}. It's been done to death. (It also carries UnfortunateImplications.) Again, don't feel like you have to be restricted to just one character type or behavior, just because it's [[FiddlerOnTheRoof Tradition!!!]] If you desire a more "traditional" uke, there's no need to turn him into a whining, sniveling mess. (Nor is there a need to turn your seme into a BastardBoyfriend.)

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Try to avoid {{Ukefication}}. It's been done to death. (It also carries UnfortunateImplications.) Again, don't feel like you have to be restricted to just one character type or behavior, just because it's [[FiddlerOnTheRoof Tradition!!!]] If you desire a more "traditional" uke, there's no need to turn him into a whining, sniveling mess. (Nor is there a need to turn your seme into a BastardBoyfriend.)
) Men and women act and react differently to various situations, so try to make it clear that your uke ''is'' a man, and not a girl with a penis.

'''Oh, speaking of penises...'''

Anatomy. Dear God, anatomy. It is one of the major pitfalls in yaoi. This is because a lot of it is HollywoodSex, IKEAErotica, shoehorned in just for the sake of having a {{Lemon}}, and/or written by virginal 13-year-old [[YaoiFangirl fangirls.]] So, without further ado...

1. '''The anus is ''not'' self-lubricating.''' Vaginas self-lubricate. Anuses don't. Period. No ifs, ands, or...[[IncrediblyLamePun butts]] about it. YouShouldKnowThisAlready, even if you ''are'' a virgin 13-year-old YaoiFangirl. (I won't tell your parents...) Have your characters use a good-quality, water-based, or silicone-based lubricant...or else your uke will be in far more pain than pleasure (and I don't think it would be much fun for the seme either.)

2. '''Your uke should not be giving a handjob to his seme without lubrication.''' This is especially so if the seme is circumcised. Your uke might have dry hands and chafe him! And that's not fun for any parties concerned. So again, lube is a must! Either mention it in the {{Lemon}} scene, or don't mention it at all. Otherwise, you'll break the WillingSuspesionOfDisbelief.

3. '''The anus contains no hymen''' OK, so you want to make it clear that your uke is a pure, unspoiled virgin. That's all well and good, but this is ''not'' the way to do it. For one thing, there is no hymen there. (Going to the bathroom would be ''very'' unpleasant if there was!) Secondly, even if there was, the presence (or absence) of a hymen is ''not'' a reliable indicator of a virgin; some girls/women break it in ways other than sex, or are born without one, and some retain theirs even after having sex many times. We attach far too much cultural significance to a thin membrane of skin that really means nothing, but that's a whole separate issue. If your uke ''does'' bleed (and it happens), it's not because of a hymen. Rather, it means your seme is going too fast and/or that there isn't enough lubrication. (And as anyone who has even so much has ''attempted'' anal sex will tell you, that situation is unpleasant for all concerned!)

4. '''The average penis is ''not'' a foot long''' Try about half that. Of course, there are men who are larger than that, and smaller than that, but 5-6" long is average. A sufficiently large GagPenis will cause serious injury.

5. '''There is no such thing as the ORingOrifice''' Stretching too much will cause tearing and bleeding. If that's not FanDisservice, I don't know what is!

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