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How long did it take you to figure that out?


Pagetopper, am I special?

edited 1st Dec '14 7:57:39 PM by JetWave

A few months...

I know that I need to look for a middle-ground, but I still seek a red oni for my blue. She doesn't have to be an energetic pixie, but I don't want a co-dependent relationship. I guess that my best hope would be to find someone who's moderately red, but that's also probably too great of an expectation. I guess that I want a "Brooding Boy, Gentle Girl" dynamic, or something similar.

edited 1st Dec '14 8:02:05 PM by SpaceWolf

Well the trope name was coined in explicit disapproval of the trope as being unrealistic and honestly kinda sexist bullshit. From our own page:

the term was coined in 2007 by film critic Nathan Rabin, who found it grating, as he believed it to be the result of Wish-Fulfillment from stir-crazy writers. He explicitly compared it to the Magical Negro, in that a Manic Pixie Dream Girl exists to help the protagonist achieve happiness without ever seeking any independent goals herself. Unfortunately, the term ended up being misused to describe simply quirky female characters, with many who are actually well-rounded being given this label. Rabin would later disown the term, because instead of creating awareness of the "lack of independent goals in female characters", the concept instead accidentally ended up suggesting that quirky and fun women automatically merited this trope.

I realize that, which is another reason why I've abandoned that idea. Now, I just want someone. It doesn't matter what she looks like, or how she acts; I just want a real relationship.

edited 1st Dec '14 8:12:29 PM by SpaceWolf

So you're asking, basically, can anybodyyyy

find yooouuuu

somebody tooooo

loooooooooove?

(Piano)

I'm single as ever.

And so am I.

I'm a horrible person.

I really do seethe with jealously when i see people in happy relationships or any kind of relationship really.

Matchmaker, matchmaker you know that I'm, still very young. Please. Take your time. Up to this minute I misunderstood...that I could get stuck, for good.

Do you use the ಠ_ಠ when you see them?

I do, but I did that back when I was in a relationship but we weren't together too

No kidding

@Nova: That's not healthy in the least, you're better off having a laugh at the ridiculous parts.

edited 2nd Dec '14 9:57:11 AM by terlwyth

It is a Shout-Out >>

But very relevant to the subject anyways

Fiddler, right? I remember some of the words from that song, but it's been forever since I last heard or saw it.

If I had a love life...

(yabba deeda yabba deeda yabba deeda dum)

All my life, I'd biddy-biddy-bum...

edited 2nd Dec '14 11:26:25 PM by SpaceWolf

Correct. It is Fiddler on the Roof

And you know. Though context is lost since in the story they are being forced into marriage, the message still stands. The relationship you could fall in could be really really shitty, as it could be really really good.

And extra romanticizing and expecting so much from one will just make the real one, when it comes...seem lackluster. Nothing. No one will ever live up to your fantasies. And this is not a bad thing.

edited 2nd Dec '14 10:09:54 AM by Aszur

Sometimes it ends being far better than the fantasies, the real f&^4er about it is keeping it that way .

So while that is applicable in the way you put it, it is also applicable to keeping them from going downhill even getting past it.

I don't know if my life can get better, even with a significant other.

It is true, it can also get to be better. I would argue it is better than in fantasy if the relationship does work.

You uh. Should prolly visit a doctor 'bout that buddy. See a psychologist or a psychiatrist. If I might put it crassly, and bear in mind I intend no ill will or offense in this statement, I imagine your fantasies, or your "dream girl" involves a lovely, smiling, beautiful significant other who smiles, laughs and does stuff with you, not only sex?

Instead of someone who is moping, complaining, depressed and defeatist to the point of being on the verge of tears?

Cuz' they want the same, you know. And they also want to avoid the same kind you would want to avoid.

I do see someone. It's just not working.

Also, from that, I'm getting, "No girl will ever want to date you, unless you're always happy."

I know this, but I just can't do it.

edited 2nd Dec '14 4:41:27 PM by SpaceWolf

Not true, Wolf. I realise I am one woman, but a good man who's unhappy is likely get more attention than a man who's happy but also quite the jerk. The former is more likely to be reliable, and more likely to appreciate simple things like hugging, the latter likely won't.

Oh, wait, you were serious? Because I can tell you from experience here...

Thank you, Rae.

I never said "You must be a Stepford Smiler".

I said being depressed and mopey all the time is just not a socially inviting facade.

edited 3rd Dec '14 7:16:10 AM by Aszur

That is true, though some idiots assume that their friends or potential love interests should be always happy when near themselves.

One can be incredibly depressed and mopey on the inside without publicly putting forth an outward image of it. I mean, this is kind of a space where it's assumed that it's okay to vent about those things. Obviously just because someone is going off about that stuff here it doesn't mean that's how they act in public when trying to meet people.