A Man Is Not a Virgin
, yet there's always a first time for everything
. Some parents or mentors want to ensure their children's education is comprehensive, and some things are best left to professionals, so an older adult procures the services of a prostitute to give the child a practical demonstration of sexual intercourse. Might be performed by a Hooker with a Heart of Gold
Subtrope of Sex as Rite-of-Passage
, where a male virgin deliberately goes to a woman or girl (one he already knows or one sought out for the purpose) to "become a man".
Can be a feature of certain historical settings like The Wild West
, or confined to certain cultures or social classes.
- Relax is a followup to Welcome To The Brothel. Apparently, the protagonist has been taught well by the prostitute.
- Used to good effect in Welcome To The Brothel. The protagonist is a virgin working as a mercenary during a civil war. His squadmates discover that he's never been with a mare, so they take him to a brothel. He learns about sex from a Hooker with a Heart of Gold. Whether it is ultimately for better or for worse is left up to the reader.
- The Western movie Lightning Jack has a sequence, played for laughs, where Jack takes his teenaged offsider to a brothel and arranges for him to get hands-on sex ed.
- This seems to be why Billy Bob Thornton's character takes his adult son with him to visit a prostitute in Monsters Ball.
- The protagonist's father in An Officer and a Gentleman only seems to "date" prostitutes, and his idea of bonding with his son is to invoke this trope.
- The main character of Sweet Sweetback's Baadasssss Song works as a towel boy in a brothel and loses his virginity this way. The movie depicts this scene by casting Melvin van Peebles's 13-year-old son, Mario, as the young Sweetback and having him come close to undergoing this trope in Real Life.
- Played with in Porky's: the boys go to Porky's in order to do this for themselves but are thrown out of the place. Later as a prank the other guys make Peewee think that he's going to have sex but then the hooker "dies" and Peewee freaks out.
- In Mask, the protagonist Rocky Dennis suffers from a genetic defect that causes his face to be disfigured. He's concerned that he'll never get a girlfriend because no one will look past his face. His mother then goes out to hire a prostitute to make him feel better. It backfires since Rocky not only doesn't have sex with her, they just talk, but also took the gesture as a sign his mother thought no one would want to be with him unless they were being paid.
- The original European version of Malena has the young lead character experience this.
- The Sessions tells the real life story of Mark O'Brien (played by John Hawkes), a poet paralyzed from the neck down due to polio, who hired a sex therapist (Helen Hunt) to lose his virginity.
- In Fanboys, one of the nerds picks up an escort in Vegas who explains to him that the girl in the group has a crush on him.
- Subverted and then toyed with in The Cherokee Kid. When offered the chance after saving a rather hospitable prostitute's life, she offers herself to the titular main character... Only to be turned down for a share of the turkey which was also killed in the scuffle with the bad guy. Later on he can't aim a gun, definitely can't do quick-draw, he can't even wide a horse. This being a cowboy flick, mind. When it comes out he's never made love, one of the women in the troop of outlaws decides to "make a man" out of him; while she's not ACTUALLY a prostitute (at least not said to be one) she fulfills every other aspect of the trope, especially since afterwards he can shoot straight and ride well.
Manga and Anime
- The 80s TV series Bret Maverick mentioned this in a two-part episode called "Faith Hope and Charity": the townsfolk are setting up for massive retaliatory scam in the saloon's upstairs rooms, and the bartender waxes nostalgic over a certain bed, recalling that his father had hired a prostitute to show him how it's done. The wave of nostalgia renders the bartender useless for the task at hand as the scene is Played for Laughs.
- An episode of Law & Order has a man being prosecuted for his son's murders after he seemed to have done this (which left said son rather twisted). The twist was that it was his grandma who corrupted him and the father was powerless to stop his mother.
- Mentioned in Frasier; according to Bulldog, his first sexual experience was with a prostitute that his dad had hired for him. (He claims, "All I wanted was a bike.")
- On the HBO series Rome, Atia hires war-hero Titus Pullo to make her son Octavian (the future Emperor Augustus) into a man. Naturally, one of Pullo's efforts is to take young Octavian to a Roman whorehouse. (Note that he looks to be about twelve when this is going on.)
- Octavian is fifteen or sixteen, going by the relative ages of characters and historic actions that are occurring. (Actor Max Pirkis was in his late teens.) By Roman standards, he was about to legally become a man, and Atia wanted him to learn all the appropriate Roman male behaviors, including 'penetrating someone.'
- The Firefly episode "Jaynestown" dances back and forth between playing this straight and subverting it. Inara, the show's Hooker with a Heart of Gold, is hired by a rich snob to "make his son a man". The son has much more confidence afterwards, but this may have had as much to do with Inara's pep-talks before and after as with the actual sex.
- Happened at least once in Key West, involving Jennifer Tilly's character and a teen so nervous that when asked if he brought protection he tells her he's already wearing it. He was fully clothed at the time.
- The series Weeds has an uncle take his 12-year old nephew to a massage parlor so he can get his first "happy ending".
- In the third season of Damages, Leonard Winstone's father reminds him of the time he "broke him in" by taking him to a prostitute for his first time.
- Christian treats Matt to this in Nip/Tuck. It doesn't work so well....
- The 70s series James At 15 has James postpone a date with his girlfriend on his 16th birthday (in which he was expecting to go all the way) because his rich uncle has promised to give him "what every 16 year boy wants." James is expecting a car. He is very disappointed when the present turns out to be a hooker.
- In Veronica Mars, a boy meets a cute girl at a convention and has his first sexual experience with her. Later, it turns out she was hired by his friends.
- On Game of Thrones, Tyrion sends Joffrey two prostitutes as a nameday present, in the hopes that getting laid might calm him down a bit. It backfires spectacularly because Joffrey is only interested in making them torture each other.
- Happens occasionally in hentai manga/doujin.
- In the Family Guy episode "Fore Father", Chris takes up Quagmire as a father figure, and takes him to a strip club to help him become a man. Knowing Quagmire, this is nothing out of the blue.
- On The Cleveland Show, Junior hears Cleveland making fun of him for making an abstinence pledge and, on Ernie's advice, goes to the local whorehouse. Cleveland and Lester show up to stop him from going through with it. (What happens with Ernie isn't clear, but by the end he and a prostitute elope together.)
- Attempted by Cotton Hill, who in a flashback took a teenaged Hank and his friends to the then-seedy Hotel Arlen to buy them hookers. Hank of course runs out screaming. In the same episode, he attempted to do the same with Bobby, not realizing its not "that" kind of hotel anymore.