Asexuality in general

Stop posting the same shit as me!

If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan Chah

You're the one who called him a monster!

don't blame the messenger.

That's not really what I'd consider "pushy." Also, sexual minorities don't usually have their orientations correctly identified on sight, so I suppose I'm just personally willing to cut them a little more slack in this regard.

I think that's an oversimplification. Something doesn't need to be permanent in order to be real, and identifying as an asexual even when you do have doubts isn't necessarily a lie.

Personally, I hover somewhere between asexuality and heterosexuality, which, as a person who likes categories, definitions and classifications, is exceedingly irritating to me: I feel I experience too much sexual desire to count as the former, and too little to count as the latter, and so, both labels ring false. Should I then call myself heterosexual since I do find women aesthetically pleasant, and am capable of experiencing some modicum of arousal as a response to the female form? Or do I call myself asexual since, in practice, I reject all offers of sex due to not feeling sufficiently aroused to bother, and do not expect this to change in the foreseeable future?

I could claim to be either, and both statements could be construed as misleading, depending on the context.

I am a sexual minority myself and find it hideously irritating. But then I hate most people so whatever.

FUCKING. HATE.

Gay dude: Hi! I'm gay

Me: WHY THE FUCK DO I CARE

edited 21st May '11 6:13:34 PM by Aondeug

If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan Chah

The way you phrased makes it seem like you "do" care

STFU I AM THE MOST APATHETIC WOMAN EVER.

MOST.

EVER.

I am also the most apathetic man ever.

If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan Chah

Well then, only one thing I can say to that.

You keep Joshing Aon.

I know this might sound dismissive, but if your not into sex then your not into sex.

There isn't much more to say about it.

edited 21st May '11 7:03:26 PM by joeyjojo

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Asexuality: It's a thing.

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whooh?

Read my stories!

What about people with low sex drives then?

yeah... there an overlap isn't there.

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@Clocky: People with low sex drives still want sex sometimes.

"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian

Just wondering, do I go around announcing my sexuality often? I get the feeling that I do, even though I only recall doing that recently and in serious PM's about goings-on with my best friend. The latter is something I kinda try to avoid.

Other than that, the only people that I see mention it a lot are... um, three guys I know around the Just For Fun forums.

You're asexual?

Read my stories!

No, I guess it's more like I feel like I parade around my confusion about my sexuality: I'm either bi, gay, or what I wish I could be but doubt I am, asexu—hey, I'm doing it again, aren't I?

So you're Questioning?

"Had Mother Nature been a real parent, she would have been in jail for child abuse and murder." -Nick Bostrom

I wish there weren't so many conflicting terms about what asexuality is. Does it mean you have no libido? You have no desire for sex on a mental/emotion level? You have a libido but it's not directed at anybody? You have no libido and are incapable of finding people attractive?

Be not afraid...

...the hell do you consider rare?

Something I dislike : People going all "I wish I was asexual, because then I wouldn't have to be as distracted" not only because I get distracted fairly easily but because of how minor of a reason it is to lose such a thing, unless you didn't like sexual pleasure and lust enough in the first place to find it worth it.

If people learned from their mistakes, there wouldn't be this thing called bad habits.

Not unless you're Edmania with a different handle. I don't know of any "Enzeru".

I think it's a sufficiently useful categorical label as to render irrelevant questions about whether it's a legitimate "orientation" with enough scientific research behind it.

^^ I think it's better to be a person who doesn't have a sex drive, or doesn't have much of a sex drive, than to be a person who has a strong sex drive but never has sex. My impression is that Tropers tend not to get laid much, so . . .

edited 22nd May '11 12:17:26 AM by feotakahari

That's Feo . . . He's a disgusting, mysoginistic, paedophilic asshat who moonlights as a shitty writer—Something Awful

Well for those with extreme sex drives there's always prostitutes or prostitution itself as an option, no matter how much I wish there wasn't.

If people learned from their mistakes, there wouldn't be this thing called bad habits.

Phone sex works just fine. Masturbation without the glory of the phone did too before then. So eh.

If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan Chah

^^ Then you get into the issue of what does and doesn't qualify as exploitation (which causes Flame Wars even here.)

edited 22nd May '11 12:27:59 AM by feotakahari

That's Feo . . . He's a disgusting, mysoginistic, paedophilic asshat who moonlights as a shitty writer—Something Awful

Oh man, QFT. Being a person with a strong sex drive who used to not be able to find a mutual love interest and just isn't aroused by anyone they don't have feelings for was like, Mother Nature, you suck.

I used to wish I was asexual, as then I wouldn't keep desiring something I was never going to get to have.

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@Jeysie: Don't be a pessimist. You'll get it eventually.

"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian