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* Discussed in the Franchise/MarvelCinematicUniverse AU fic "[[https://archiveofourown.org/works/52237942/ Captain Carter And The Spider's Silk]]", where Peggy Carter (now Captain Britain in the present day) realises that she was turned on when 21-year-old Peter Parker tied her down with his webbing during a training session. While Peggy is initially concerned about what that says about her after she's spent so long fighting for her independence, Natasha helps Peggy recognise that she wouldn't be giving up her power in that scenario, as Peggy immediately recognises when questioned that Peter would always let her go if she asked him to do so after being webbed down.

* Discussed in the Franchise/MarvelCinematicUniverse AU fic "[[https://archiveofourown.org/works/52237942/ Captain Carter And The Spider's Silk]]", where Peggy Carter (now Captain Britain in the present day) realises that she was turned on when 21-year-old Peter Parker tied her down with his webbing. While Peggy is initially concerned about what that says about her after she's spent so long fighting for her independence, Natasha helps Peggy recognise that she wouldn't be giving up her power in that scenario, as Peggy immediately recognises when questioned that Peter would always let her go if she asked him to do so after being webbed down.

* In ''Slave Jade'', the female lead is a sexually submissive woman who starts dating a "dominant" psycho who kidnaps her and executes a miserable attempt at inducing StockholmSyndrome. Before they actually met, he seemed to have a very good understanding of consent and safety -- what she didn't know is that the bulk of his emails to her were reasonable ideas that he never thought in his own head, but merely copy/pasted from various sites. [[spoiler:In the end, she shoots him and escapes. He survives the bullet and ends up in jail for all he did to her, while her shooting him is ruled as self-defence. In the epilogue, she decides to find a new man to dominate her -- a man who isn't psycho, but really understand SSC.]]

It's okay for people to do pretty much anything to each other, as long as they are all into it, know what they are getting into, and the risk of permanent harm isn't unreasonably high. Right?

But how do we really know what's going on? A mutual game or abuse? Sometimes it can be hard to see the difference between the two.

* '''Safe''' means that the risks are known and minimized: That people know what they are getting into and handle it responsibly.
* '''Sane''' means that the individuals involved have self-control and will not betray their partners' trust.
* '''[[UsefulNotes/{{Consent}} Consensual]]''' means that everyone involved agrees without coercion, and also has a sufficiently high intellectual capacity so they understand the risks and consequences of their actions. (Legally speaking, everyone who has reached a certain age is expected to have reached such capacity, outside of those with cognitive disabilities.) [[SlippingAMickey Those who are drugged down with high doses of alcohol or similar]] [[QuestionableConsent may not be able to give meaningful consent]] [[WhatDidIDoLastNight because of the effects of those substances]] [[AlcoholInducedIdiocy on inhibitions and mental faculties]].

* This is the core philosophy of Mistress Matisse's and Creator/DanSavage's sex columns for The Seattle Stranger and Georgia Straight. Savage has specifically said in articles that the only things he considers completely unacceptable are {{rape|Is A Special Kind Of Evil}}, [[PaedoHunt pedophilia]], [[BestialityIsDepraved bestiality]], [[ILoveTheDead necrophilia]], and [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coprophilia coprophilia.]] He also tends to caution against cheating except in very extreme cases (for example, an abusive partner), though he is an advocate for ''[[MyGirlIsASlut consensual]]'' [[{{Polyamory}} non-monogamy]].

* The short independent VisualNovel ''Cute Demon Crashers!'' is all about this. HornyDevils have worked out that it's a lot easier to get fed if they approach people while they're awake and play nice, so they've taken to helping humans safely explore their sexuality. All of the game's H-scenes have a button for the PlayerCharacter to say "stop" at any point, which ends the sex and has their partner immediately start calming them down.

One notable subversion of this trope is pretending that UsefulNotes/{{Abuse}} or exploitation is [=BDSM=] (and thus implied to be SSC). One notable aversion/way of darkly playing it for laughs is to highlight the need for Safe and Sane by sarcastically pretending that consent is all that's needed — [[QuestionableConsent and use an example where someone naively or stupidly agrees to something that they obviously can't handle]]. It's been observed that an important distinction between abuse and [=BDSM=] is that a Dominant will immediately stop what they're doing with just one SafeWord, while an abuser doesn't care no matter how much anyone asks them to stop.

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* A core philosophy in ''Theatre/{{Hair}}'' — see the page quote.
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