History Main / ImNotHereToMakeFriends

* While several contestants on ''Series/RupaulsDragRace'' have had this attitude, Season 4's Lashauwn Beyond was immortalized with the line, "I don't have to be your friend! This is not [=RuPaul's=] ''best friend'' race!" The irony is that while Lashauwn was a total SassyBlackWoman with the other contestants, she would instantly turn into a ShrinkingViolet in front of [=RuPaul=], and was the second queen eliminated despite her impressive design skills. The use of this trope on ''Drag Race'' is an extreme case of RealityShowGenreBlindness. Contestants often become friends on this show and go on to work together afterwards, and these collaborative efforts are always well-received by fans. And since sisterhood and community are important themes on ''Drag Race'', queens with an "In it to win it" attitude are received poorly by the other contestants as well as viewers, meaning such a queen is only shooting herself in the foot.

* While several contestants on ''Series/RuPaulsDragRace'' have had this attitude, Season 4's Lashauwn Beyond was immortalized with the line, "I don't have to be your friend! This is not [=RuPaul's=] ''best friend'' race!" The irony is that while Lashauwn was a total SassyBlackWoman with the other contestants, she would instantly turn into a ShrinkingViolet in front of [=RuPaul=], and was the second queen eliminated despite her impressive design skills. The use of this trope on ''Drag Race'' is an extreme case of RealityShowGenreBlindness. Contestants often become friends on this show and go on to work together afterwards, and these collaborative efforts are always well-received by fans. And since sisterhood and community are important themes on ''Drag Race'', queens with an "In it to win it" attitude are received poorly by the other contestants as well as viewers, meaning such a queen is only shooting herself in the foot.

Along with reminding people that [[ThisIsACompetition they're in a competition]], contestants on competitive {{reality show}}s also like to remind their fellow contestants that they did not come on the show to make friends (or further their acting career, but that's a different issue entirely). Well, that makes sense. When you're trying to win a large sum of money or the love of a D-list celebrity, it's not exactly a good idea to be all buddy-buddy with your competition—unless you plan on backstabbing them later—instead of focusing on your own performance.

* In My Hero Academia chapter 191, Shinsou Hitoshi also says this.

** It should be mentioned however, that if the PlayerCharacter acts in this manner, s/he will most likely not survive this game’s SuicideMission. That mission requires you to make friends with squad mates and earn their loyalty.

* Heather of ''WesternAnimation/TotalDramaIsland'' provides the second page quote.

* Spoken in the 1984 dramatisation of the cricket [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bodyline Bodyline]] controversy by [[EvilBrit Douglas Jardine]].

** The issue is also more complicated than it might appear on the surface: These people who are very serious in gaming competitions usually DO have friends. It's just that these friends were made outside of competitions, and they're not interested in adding any more people to their social circles.

* Subverted on the second season of ''TopChef: Just Desserts''. One person pointed out that even though they hadn't come her to make friends, it just sort of happens anyway.

An NPR segment (9/12/2009) on this trope shows that studios do [[ManipulativeEditing feed this line]] sometimes. The segment also shows that the person/people who actually use the line ''never win''—not surprisingly, as it tends to signpost them as arrogant douchebags who, unless they can really win the audience over, will be at risk of being voted off before long. Especially in a social game show, fellow contestants have to ''like'' you, or at least respect you as a WorthyOpponent if you want to actually get further. There is also an implication that the contestant thinks they can win the contest all by themselves... [[LonersAreFreaks and you know what people think of those kinds of folks.]] It's ultimately a redundant and self-destructive attitude since ''everyone'' on the show is there to win; there's nothing to gain in being a {{jerkass}} about it. It goes without saying that these characters are prone to {{Cat Fight}}s.

Along with reminding people that [[ThisIsACompetition they're in a competition]], contestants on competitive {{reality show}}s also like to remind their fellow contestants that they did not come on the show to make friends (or further their acting career. But that's a different issue entirely). Well, that makes sense. When you're trying to win a large sum of money or the love of a D-list celebrity, it's not exactly a good idea to be all buddy-buddy with your competition—unless you plan on backstabbing them later—instead of focusing on your own performance.

* While several contestants on ''Series/RuPaulsDragRace'' have had this attitude, Season 4's Lashauwn Beyond was immortalized with the line, "I'm not here to make best buddies, bitch! This is not [=RuPaul's=] ''best friend'' race!" The irony is that while Lashauwn was a total SassyBlackWoman with the other contestants, she would instantly turn into a ShrinkingViolet in front of [=RuPaul=], and was the second queen eliminated despite her impressive design skills. The use of this trope on ''Drag Race'' is an extreme case of RealityShowGenreBlindness. Contestants often become friends on this show and go on to work together afterwards, and these collaborative efforts are always well-received by fans. And since sisterhood and community are important themes on ''Drag Race'', queens with an "In it to win it" attitude are received poorly by the other contestants as well as viewers, meaning such a queen is only shooting herself in the foot.

** Ironically, Twilight even says that "the fate of Equestria does not rest on me making friends." Well, guess what? The MadGod Nightmare Moon can only be defeated with the Elements of Harmony...which are powered by friendship.

* ''{{Chainsawsuit}}'' shows the [[http://chainsawsuit.com/2010/06/25/i-did-come-here-to-make-friends/ wrong reality show]] to say this on.

* And in {{Sandbox}} areas... "I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to build." But this is often averted; since some Sandbox games like ''SecondLife'' happen to be all about the social aspect. Especially since if you're not there to make friends, good luck finding anyone to let you build on ''their'' land, server, area, whatever.

** {{TCG}}s. "I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to play cards." And in the case of competitive gambling (eg {{poker}}), it's "I'm not here to make friends - I'm here for money." Normally, Slot tournaments avert this, because a lot of the time they're just there to advertise the casino in question and the people who're there are pretty much there to have fun anyways.

* The premiere of the third season of ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'' introduces two new characters - Subcommnder T'Rul from the Romulan Empire and Michael Eddington of Starfleet Security. When Commander Sisko tries to make introductions to his senior staff, T'Rul cuts him off by stating that she already knows everyone's names and then states specifically "I'm not here to make friends." Eddington then turns around and says that he is there to make friends and introduces himself. [[spoiler: Since he turned out to be a spy for the Maquis resistance movement, making friends was actually part of his mission.]]

An NPR segment (9/12/2009) on this trope shows that studios do [[ManipulativeEditing feed this line]] sometimes. The segment also shows that the person/people who actually use the line ''never win''—not surprisingly, as it tends to signpost them as arrogant douchebags who, unless they can really win the audience over, will be at risk of being voted off before long. Especially in a social game show, fellow contestants have to ''like'' you, or at least respect you as a WorthyOpponent if you want to actually get further. There is also an implication that the contestant thinks they can win the contest all by themselves... [[LonersAreFreaks and you know what people think of those kinds of folks.]] It's ultimately a redundant and self-destructive attitude since ''everyone'' on the show is there to win; there's nothing to gain in being a {{jerkass}} about it. It goes without saying that these characters are prone to {{CatFight}}s.

** In the premiere of ''The Amazing Race 20'', yet another Rachel (of ''Series/BigBrother'' infamy) gives this line in her opening interview. The same Rachel proceeded to do what she did in ''BigBrother''...that is [[{{Wangst}} cry like a baby]], insult everyone's gameplay, express desire to quit ''nearly every single leg of the race'' because it's "Too hard", yell at Brendon for antagonizing her (The latter of which isn't as unjustifiable given Brendon's personality!), then wonder why [[WhatAnIdiot everybody else can't stand her]]. However, watching her on The Amazing Race 24 (not three years after) wherein she acts much ''much'' different - to the level where one wonders if she secretly hasn't been replaced with her sister - who did ''not'' pull this trope.