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 76 drunkscriblerian, Sat, 16th Jun '12 8:27:16 PM from Castle Geekhaven Relationship Status: In season
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[up]I think we just froze hell, because I agree with you...for the same reasons even. My parents always split the chores like they split the bills.

And the "bumbling dad" stereotype has always annoyed the shit out of me as well.
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 77 Aondeug, Sat, 16th Jun '12 8:36:36 PM from  Our Dreams
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I sadly was not blessed with a good father. My father figures were instead my grandfather and the father of a friend of mine in high school. As well as certain teachers.

My dad himself is like the bumbling father if the bumbling father was a stalker with anger management issues.

The fact that this is pretty much the only view of dads (sans the overt "I AM BREAKING DOWN THE DOOR BECAUSE I CAN'T STAND THAT YOU HAVE ANOTHER MAN RARGRRRGFGH" moments of fear) is annoying though.
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Well it's encouraging. I believe it was a combination of a push by fathers to get men to do father stuff and be there for the family, and do family stuff and do housework, and so at the same time want to be recognised for this increase share of the work. The two should go hand in hand. Men do more of the housework, they get recognised for doing more of the housework.

Before I start... what is oppression olympics? I don't want to upset the OP by unnecessarily drifting into it. tongue

I would like to point this out:

  • Having higher standards for males in, say, physical activities.

This is not equal standards, and thus technically "sexist". Then one can counter by saying that males are better in physical activities so this is more fair. But what about...

  • Not having higher standards for females in... whatever they're supposedly better in.

If men are better at running around, lifting weights, and whatnot, and standards are adjusted to make males do better, then males are forced to work harder whether or not that's accurate. That's an undue burden. So what are women better at? Whatever it is, shouldn't the standards be adjusted for that, too?

I, for one, don't mind having so-called "gender roles" as long as both genders contribute fairly. But when a side cries for handicaps when disadvantaged, and then cries for equal standards when its advantage is handicapped away, you truly have a double standard.

That's why there shouldn't be a male-only draft. If there is a male draft for the military, there should be female draft for a certain X.
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Oppression Olympics: whining "but MY oppression is worse than YOUR oppression!", which almost always starts an argument with the OP about which one is worse which wastes everyone's time for no good reason.
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The bumbling dad is as far as I can see purely a comedy trope, compare "The pursuit of happiness" for a different portrayal. Or any father outside of comedy.
While I see it as annoying when it's present in a work, I don't see it as an overall problem. It's not like this is so pervasive that there is no work of fiction without it.
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Oppression Olympics: whining "but MY oppression is worse than YOUR oppression!", which almost always starts an argument with the OP about which one is worse which wastes everyone's time for no good reason.

Plus, it's generally kind of a dick move to invalidate/trivialise other people's experiences like that.
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 83 terlwyth, Mon, 18th Jun '12 1:16:06 PM from Berzerkeley, Kalifornien Relationship Status: Wishfully thinking
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Uh actually it is kinda pervasive now, unless you go back to the 1950's sitcoms.

Seriously there needs to be a balance between the absent-minded '50's mother and the Bumbling Dad, that's a good start
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The Cosby Show went out of its way to avert both tropes.

Although Claire still seems to be the more dominant partner in the marriage, but it can be argued that many marriages aren't completely equal.

edited 18th Jun '12 1:42:52 PM by KingZeal

 85 0dd 1, Mon, 18th Jun '12 2:48:41 PM from Nowhere Land
Just awesome like that
Seriously there needs to be a balance between the absent-minded '50's mother and the Bumbling Dad, that's a good start
How about an Adults Are Useless scenario?
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I think that the bumbling dad trope is just because it's easier to do politically correct than it is to make mothers look bad. You could argue that this is sexism itself but it's always been the case where the majority power holder was easier to ridicule because they can share the laugh without concern.

 87 Drunk Girlfriend, Mon, 18th Jun '12 4:34:20 PM from Castle Geekhaven
but it's always been the case where the majority power holder was easier to ridicule because they can share the laugh without concern.

That still doesn't make it okay. And as the article stated, it's moved on past television shows and movies, and it's started showing up as commercials depicting fathers neglecting their children in favor of watching sports. I don't see how sending the message that "fathers are completely clueless and will neglect/abuse your kids if you leave them alone with him" is funny.
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 88 terlwyth, Mon, 18th Jun '12 6:21:00 PM from Berzerkeley, Kalifornien Relationship Status: Wishfully thinking
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Oh no, not Adults Are Useless that's also too common, something more like lets say one episode or arc, the mother screws up, the next the Dad's the bumbler. And not the sociopathic option that Family Guy and their ilk feed on

So far the only sitcom that's managed to do both over the years is The Simpsons.

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 89 Master Inferno, Mon, 18th Jun '12 7:10:43 PM from Ideal City Relationship Status: Cast away
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Maybe have more subversions of the Bumbling Dad character type? Like, he seems lazy and inept but has Hidden Depths that often save the day?
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 90 Karalora, Mon, 18th Jun '12 8:23:05 PM from San Fernando Valley, CA Relationship Status: In another castle
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The Bumbling Dad cliche seems to me just another aspect of toxic masculinity. Being good with kids, or willing and able to do housework competently, is emasculating and men are trained to recoil from the very idea. They'd rather be seen as clueless idiots than as succeeding in a "womanly" role.
Bumbling dads are usually incompetent in the business live as well. I see it more as escapism from the pressure to be successful. How would being a good worker in a nuclear power plant be "emasculating"?
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 92 Heavy DDR, Mon, 18th Jun '12 9:54:29 PM from Central Texas
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 93 0dd 1, Mon, 18th Jun '12 10:45:30 PM from Nowhere Land
Just awesome like that
Being good with kids, or willing and able to do housework competently, is emasculating and men are trained to recoil from the very idea. They'd rather be seen as clueless idiots than as succeeding in a "womanly" role.
I thought that those traits were seen as something admirable in males these days, including by other males.

Besides, if these people are really as clueless as they are portrayed, one must wonder how the hell they survived in the time between moving out of their parents' place and getting hitched without starving or contracting all manner of infectious diseases.
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 94 Drunk Girlfriend, Mon, 18th Jun '12 11:08:15 PM from Castle Geekhaven
[up] Well, that's part of the stereotype too. I've seen a bunch of jokes about how men have to marry, because they're too stupid to live on their own.
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There are, however, amusingly statistics that show single men die earlier than married ones.

Why so serious?
And married women, earlier. Whatever that says about gender relations.

Wait...that means the only solution is for all men to become gay and make out for womens' amusement.

Oh my God, the Yaoi Fangirls were right all along!!

^^ Well darn, that messes up everything.

 99 Karalora, Wed, 20th Jun '12 11:41:51 AM from San Fernando Valley, CA Relationship Status: In another castle
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I remember hearing that. A similar trend shows for mental illness. As things currently stand, marriage is good for men but bad for women. Or maybe unmarried life is bad for men but good for women? Either way, something here needs to be rectified.

edited 20th Jun '12 11:42:39 AM by Karalora

 100 Barkey, Wed, 20th Jun '12 1:27:38 PM from Bunker 051 Relationship Status: [TOP SECRET]
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Hmm, I'd always heard that the life expectancy rates still said that out of an old married couple, the man will probably die first.

Just to make sure I understood correctly, it's not that married women lead shorter lives than married men, so much as that single women live longer than married women while married men live longer than single men?

As things currently stand, marriage is good for men but bad for women. Or maybe unmarried life is bad for men but good for women? Either way, something here needs to be rectified.

Kind of ironic too, considering the social pressure on women to marry, and the concept that getting married as a man is getting the ol' ball and chain, and losing your freedom.

Might be because women in general seem to put so much effort into those relationships. While things are changing and going closer to the middle, it wouldn't be far off to say that married women in western society still tend to pick up the larger role in parenting and housekeeping overall. Which combined with the fact that most women work now makes for a rather high tempo lifestyle, which creates stress, which lessens life expectancy. Just a theory though, could be wrong.

edited 20th Jun '12 1:30:01 PM by Barkey

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